Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site watmath.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!jamcmullan From: jamcmullan@watmath.UUCP (Judy McMullan) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Saumya Debray's questions Message-ID: <5313@watmath.UUCP> Date: Thu, 26-May-83 11:27:30 EDT Article-I.D.: watmath.5313 Posted: Thu May 26 11:27:30 1983 Date-Received: Fri, 27-May-83 00:11:42 EDT Organization: U of Waterloo, Ontario Lines: 37 he was going to kill me when I dumped him after a couple of weeks. That one was not worth the terror. * Have you ever thought of a relationship as a "hassle"? Were the rewards worth the "hassle"? I have never thought of a relationship that way. If I started to, I would get out of it. * If you find you and your partner growing at different rates, what would you do about it? Would you feel the relationship worth salvaging? "Growing at different rates"... That's never happened to me. If the person is immature, I find out quickly. If they are more mature (I would never admit it, I would say they are too "serious" or "staid"), I find out fast, too. The relationship doesn't last. How about growing in different directions?? I then try to get involved in his world & get him into mine. If we are too far apart to have enough common meeting ground, I guess I would look elsewhere. The tone of the questions makes me think the questionner does not really throw himself into a relationship and enjoy the other person. It would never occur to me to call a sexual relationship a "hassle". Perhaps he has just had one or two bad experiences. If every man I met was like "the turd", I would give up on men pretty fast... --Judy McMullan ..!{decvax|allegra|hcr|utzoo}!watmath!jamcmullan