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From: noah@genrad.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: nice guys & what to do when you find a MOTOS
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Date: Tue, 3-May-83 17:30:08 EDT
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Posted: Tue May  3 17:30:08 1983
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I've been watching the discussion of "nice guys finish last", and my 
experiences seem to indicate that this is true most of the time.  For a long
time I was what you would call a really nice guy, that is truly concerned about
other peoples feelings and would avoid hurting anyone.  Let me tell you that
being nice didn't work.  Not only did I get hurt alot myself, most women
had little interest.  Lately, I have tried being less nice (but not crude or
rude) and it does produces more results.  Being less nice also increases
the woman's perception of your self-confidence, the single most important
quality women look for in men (all of my investigation of what women like
lead me to this conclusion).  Women want excitement in their men, and want to
be treated like someone very special.  They want to be romanced, and they
want men to pursue them.  Men, on the other hand, have difficulty understanding
what women want, because men want different things.  Men want love and
affection, sex, and fun & excitement.

Now I know someone is going to ask: "Since you know so much about women, are
you happy with your women?".  Well, no.  Underneath I'm still too nice and
detest having to be uncaring.  It takes a long time to change oneself.

For those of you who are interested here are my pointers for attracting
female partners for relationships:

1.	Give her compliments.  Don't over do it, but do tell her she looks
	nice (women spend a lot of time and energy to look nice.  They want
	their efforts to be appreciated), tell her what you like about her
	(her eyes, face, her personality, handwriting, etc.  Don't restrict
	your compliments to her body -- she wants you to be interested in
	HER), and tell her that you feel comfortable around her.  Don't lie,
	(she can perceive your truthfulness from your body language and your
	eyes) but do let her know sh