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From: joyce@ihuxp.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Your a nice guy but...
Message-ID: <442@ihuxp.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 10-Jun-83 00:14:38 EDT
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Posted: Fri Jun 10 00:14:38 1983
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I may sound bitter but....

I have read my share of articles posted by men complaining about
the "Your a nice guy, but..." syndrome.  Dare I say I have heard
it all too many times myself.  (words change a little "Your a good
kid, but...) (at 23 and 5'8" I find it hard to consider myself a kid.)
It is not an easy comment to take, but sometimes the other route
is even harder.  I have tried to avoid using that line myself and
have gotten into spats that still haven't ended years later.
In my experience (maybe I go about things all wrong), by not
using a "line" I end up in conversations of "Why, what's wrong
with me" (nothing I'm just not comfortable in this situation/relationship)
"Why won't you give me a chance" (I have) "What can I do to change"
(I don't want to change my friends).

Does anyone out there have a "nice" honest way of ending a relationship
and staying friends?  I haven't found it yet and wouldn't mind advice.

Is there such a beast?

Tired of being a "kid".
Kathy Voigt	iwlc5!kav