Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!genrad!decvax!harpo!floyd!vax135!ariel!hou5f!hou5a!hou5d!hogpc!houxm!hocda!spanky!burl!we13!ihnp4!ixn5c!inuxc!pur-ee!ecn-pa:scott [pur-ee!swc] From: ecn-pa:scott@pur-ee.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: what Martha said Message-ID: <940@ecn-pa.UUCP> Date: Sat, 18-Jun-83 22:26:40 EDT Article-I.D.: ecn-pa.940 Posted: Sat Jun 18 22:26:40 1983 Date-Received: Wed, 22-Jun-83 00:13:50 EDT Lines: 29 Martha made an interesting point regarding getting to know people and their little habits. I have had much difficulty in finding someone that had (what I considered) enough in common with me to hook up with. Usually I would settle for something "close", but would unavoidably soon become frustrated with the relationship because of incompatibility. I think that this is the root of problems of many new relationships. Time isn't taken to be friends and to get to know one another. Instead, physical and emotional needs that are desperately calling out are satisfied - on many levels. Then one day you wake up one morning and feel that it is an effort to be with that person because you really don't like them. Sure, they're attractive, intelligent, caring, etc., but YOU JUST DON'T LIKE THEM! Why? That's stupid, you tell yourself. They have this and this and that about them that is terrific. --Yet they don't think much like you do or like the same things. She's not athletic enough, or he's not emotional enough... The IT is missing. I say IT is the aspect of compatibility. The thing that could let you be IN LOVE with some plain Jane as opposed to LOVING your current Glamour-Puss. There is a difference between being "in love" and just "loving" someone. Both are very special. One makes all the difference. Take the time to get to know someone. You will become friends at least (or enemies?) and perhaps lovers on top of that. What a combination! Don't make my mistake and give 'em all you got too soon so that they will be impressed and not reject you. Let them discover, as time goes on, the qualities you have and vice-versa. Still Looking...