Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!floyd!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!microsof!decvax!wivax!linus!genrad!noah From: noah@genrad.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: nice guys & what to do when you find a MOTOS Message-ID: <3084@genrad.UUCP> Date: Tue, 3-May-83 17:30:08 EDT Article-I.D.: genrad.3084 Posted: Tue May 3 17:30:08 1983 Date-Received: Mon, 6-Jun-83 20:27:15 EDT Lines: 29 I've been watching the discussion of "nice guys finish last", and my experiences seem to indicate that this is true most of the time. For a long time I was what you would call a really nice guy, that is truly concerned about other peoples feelings and would avoid hurting anyone. Let me tell you that being nice didn't work. Not only did I get hurt alot myself, most women had little interest. Lately, I have tried being less nice (but not crude or rude) and it does produces more results. Being less nice also increases the woman's perception of your self-confidence, the single most important quality women look for in men (all of my investigation of what women like lead me to this conclusion). Women want excitement in their men, and want to be treated like someone very special. They want to be romanced, and they want men to pursue them. Men, on the other hand, have difficulty understanding what women want, because men want different things. Men want love and affection, sex, and fun & excitement. Now I know someone is going to ask: "Since you know so much about women, are you happy with your women?". Well, no. Underneath I'm still too nice and detest having to be uncaring. It takes a long time to change oneself. For those of you who are interested here are my pointers for attracting female partners for relationships: 1. Give her compliments. Don't over do it, but do tell her she looks nice (women spend a lot of time and energy to look nice. They want their efforts to be appreciated), tell her what you like about her (her eyes, face, her personality, handwriting, etc. Don't restrict your compliments to her body -- she wants you to be interested in HER), and tell her that you feel comfortable around her. Don't lie, (she can perceive your truthfulness from your body language and your eyes) but do let her know sh