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From: ecn-pa:scott@pur-ee.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: what Martha said
Message-ID: <940@ecn-pa.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 18-Jun-83 22:26:40 EDT
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Posted: Sat Jun 18 22:26:40 1983
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Martha made an interesting point regarding getting to know people
and their little habits. I have had much difficulty in finding
someone that had (what I considered) enough in common with me to hook
up with. Usually I would settle for something "close", but would
unavoidably soon become frustrated with the relationship because
of incompatibility. I think that this is the root of problems
of many new relationships. Time isn't taken to be friends and
to get to know one another. Instead, physical and emotional
needs that are desperately calling out are satisfied - on many
levels. Then one day you wake up one morning and feel that
it is an effort to be with that person because you really don't
like them. Sure, they're attractive, intelligent, caring, etc.,
but YOU JUST DON'T LIKE THEM! Why? That's stupid, you tell
yourself. They have this and this and that about them that is
terrific. --Yet they don't think much like you do or like the
same things. She's not athletic enough, or he's not emotional
enough... The IT is missing. I say IT is the aspect of
compatibility. The thing that could let you be IN LOVE with
some plain Jane as opposed to LOVING your current Glamour-Puss.
There is a difference between being "in love" and just "loving"
someone. Both are very special. One makes all the difference.
Take the time to get to know someone. You will become friends
at least (or enemies?) and perhaps lovers on top of that. What
a combination!  Don't make my mistake and give 'em all you got
too soon so that they will be impressed and not reject you.
Let them discover, as time goes on, the qualities you have and
vice-versa.

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