Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!micomvax!micomz!softech From: softech@micomz.UUCP (Richard Blouin) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: The best relationships Message-ID: <171@micomz.UUCP> Date: Mon, 20-Jun-83 11:41:37 EDT Article-I.D.: micomz.171 Posted: Mon Jun 20 11:41:37 1983 Date-Received: Tue, 21-Jun-83 10:26:01 EDT References: rlgvax.677 Lines: 15 I think the best relationships (ie the ones that are the most satisfying and that last the longest) must involve some kind of commitment. Being commited doesn't mean being possessive, however. So the opposition between "openness" and "commitment" doesn't hold. On the contrary, I think respect for the other's ideas and goals, as well as a continued effort to let the other free to choose his way are essential for a good relationship. If the other's way doesn't agree with yours, then you have a problem. But its solution is not to try to change the other or to sacrifice yourself for the sake of the relationship. Learning to live with incompatibilities and to accept the other as he really is can be very enriching for yourself and for the relationship. That's what commitment is all about. Richard Blouin !philabs!micomvax!micomz!softech