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Subject: Re: Mr., Ms., Miss, and Mrs. - (nf)
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	Oh come now.  Calling people by their first name has nothing to do
	with encouraging rudeness or inconsiderate behavior.  Unless, of
	course, you define children calling adults by their first name as
	impolite, in which case you have a tautology, but are missing the
	point.


	Well, I disagree, at least to a point.  Using a title when addressing
a person is an indication (sometimes) or respect.  Calling an adult, espeially
a relative or close friend of the family ``Uncle Bob'' or ``Mr. Turner''
instead of ``Bob'' or ``Bill'' is a sigh of respect.  The short amount of
effort that is expended in that extra word DOES indicate, and maybe even train,
respect.

	Of course, as with everything else, the people involved are more
important than the rules.  If Uncle Bob doesn't want to be called Uncle;
if Grandma Porter LIKES her granddaughter to call her Alice, if Bill Turner
wants to be called Will or Mr. T, then I think that they should be extended
the privilege -- especially where a young child is involved.  That is in
itself a form of respect.  But, please, the slightly more defferential
form to begin with.  Social precosiousness[1] is not always a good thing.

					Mark Terribile

[1]	This word feels awkward to the fingers, the lips, and the mind.
	Is there a better expression? -mat