Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!genrad!decvax!harpo!seismo!rlgvax!meri From: meri@rlgvax.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: The BEST Relationships Message-ID: <687@rlgvax.UUCP> Date: Wed, 22-Jun-83 13:49:09 EDT Article-I.D.: rlgvax.687 Posted: Wed Jun 22 13:49:09 1983 Date-Received: Wed, 22-Jun-83 23:27:13 EDT Lines: 27 RE: The BEST Relationships I think the BEST Relationships are those based on separateness/ independence and real individuality along with being able to make a personal commitment. These are the foremost things that are instrumental in establishing a firm foundation for a long term (and satisfying) relationship. It is important to be "self-satisfied" (i.e. independent - assuming responsibility for ones own financial security, physical health, and emotional wellness). If you're an emotional "reck" how in the **** do you expect to give emotional support to another? And after establishing a unique individual identity (apart from others) then and only then can you be "free" to love another without burdening the time spent together with strong dependency needs. Then you can spend "quality time" together. TRUST and ACCEPTANCE of the others separateness is also important in developing a healthy "interdependence relationship". And add good communication (being able to assert YOURself and YOUR needs as well as really listening to the other) are some of the ingredients that make up a mutually satisfying/rewarding/exciting and hopefully long term relationship. Independently yours, meri RLG Corp [seismo, mcnc, we13, allegra]!rlgvax!meri