Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!genrad!mit-eddi!mrose From: mrose@mit-eddi.UUCP (Martha Rose) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Nice Guys - (nf) Message-ID: <250@mit-eddi.UUCP> Date: Fri, 17-Jun-83 13:43:00 EDT Article-I.D.: mit-eddi.250 Posted: Fri Jun 17 13:43:00 1983 Date-Received: Fri, 17-Jun-83 20:22:14 EDT References: uiucdcs.2212 Lines: 15 Usually people starting out in a relationship aren't exposed to each others' habits and lifestyles for a while. When they start spending more & more time together, details of life, attitudes, friends, & values start becoming apparent. These signals may be consciously or unconsciously recognized by either person, and are somehow internally evaluated and a decision made. Sometimes people consciously decide, such as "It's obviousl to me that our lifestyles/goals/attitudes are so different that it would cause constant disagreement, or continual 'your way or mine' choices". But more often, people just "lose interest"-- they know somewhere inside, that the mysterious, elusive "IT" isn't there. Or such is my (albeit limited) understanding of the process. Martha