Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!sdcsvax!sdccsu3!ee163em From: ee163em@sdccsu3.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Generic nice guys, generic jerks Message-ID: <722@sdccsu3.UUCP> Date: Sat, 4-Jun-83 23:43:34 EDT Article-I.D.: sdccsu3.722 Posted: Sat Jun 4 23:43:34 1983 Date-Received: Mon, 6-Jun-83 22:34:11 EDT References: sdccsu3.721 Lines: 29 Since some people object to the phrase {nice guy}, please replace it with {emotionally mature, open-minded person}. After all, that's what we all (hopefully) strive to be, and what we look for in others. Likewise, replace the term jerk with {emotionally immature, close-minded person}. curly brackets mine. may i offer a counterview. i believe you are confusing niceness with maturity-- not the thing to do, since the two are not the same, nor even mutually exclusive. an avocado can be nice yet immature, children can be wonderful yet not ready for emotionally satisfying {adult} relationships. and no one will deny that avocados can be both mature and rotten at the same time. what i think you mean to say is that {jerk}ivity is subjective, as is maturity, ( people don't all squeeze avocados equally hard). a stronger statement might be made. People having large amounts of ooomph ( i avoid the freudian term) associated with their egos tend to seek out others mirroring their own self-image that they may indulge in friendship/love/worship with them they love best. this is not as counter-productive as it might seem; for verily, one must be a bull to fully appreciate a cow. don't take me too seriously-- i was hit on the head with the complete works of a very profilic comedian at a very tender ( headed) age. Steve O'Course