Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site gatech.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!cca!decvax!harpo!eagle!mhuxt!mhuxi!mhuxa!houxm!ihnp4!we13!otuxa!ll1!sb1!sb6!emory!gatech!spaf From: spaf@gatech.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Nice Guys Message-ID: <179@gatech.UUCP> Date: Sat, 4-Jun-83 15:56:05 EDT Article-I.D.: gatech.179 Posted: Sat Jun 4 15:56:05 1983 Date-Received: Mon, 6-Jun-83 22:22:46 EDT Organization: Georgia Tech, School of ICS Lines: 28 I've been told I'm a "nice guy." Unfortunately, some of the things that make me that "nice" also end up making me feel pretty bad. I happen to be attracted to intelligent, forceful women with a sense of humor and imagination. (I also like nice legs, but I'm flexible.) Anyhow, when I get involved with someone I encourage her to be all she wants to be -- I encourage grad school or reaching for that better job, I am willing to take second place to studies and meetings. Of course, I expect the same in return. The problem is, those intelligent, forceful women end up fearing that staying too close to me will hinder their plans. No real reasons for that, just "a feeling." And, being a "nice guy" means you respect their feelings. So they move out of my life. Do I become less "nice" or do I lower my standards? I'm really not interested in either, thank you. Any other "nice guys" out there with this kind of problem? Gene Spafford Spaf at GATech (CS Net) Spaf.GATech at UDel-Relay (ARPA) School of ICS ...!allegra!gatech!spaf (uucp) Georgia Tech ...!duke!mcnc!msdc!gatech!spaf Atlanta, GA 30332 -- "The soapbox of Gene Spafford"