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Subject: Re: Generic nice guys, generic jerks
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Date: Sat, 4-Jun-83 23:43:34 EDT
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Posted: Sat Jun  4 23:43:34 1983
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	Since some people object to the phrase {nice guy}, please
	replace it with {emotionally mature, open-minded person}.
	After all, that's what we all (hopefully) strive to be, and
	what we look for in others.  Likewise, replace the term jerk
	with {emotionally immature, close-minded person}.

curly brackets mine.

may i offer a counterview.  i believe you are confusing niceness
with maturity-- not the thing to do, since the two are not the same,
nor even mutually exclusive.  an avocado can be nice yet immature,
children can be wonderful yet not ready for emotionally satisfying
{adult} relationships.  and no one will deny that avocados can be
both mature and rotten at the same time.

what i think you mean to say is that {jerk}ivity is subjective, as
is maturity, ( people don't all squeeze avocados equally hard).  a
stronger statement might be made. People having large amounts of
ooomph  ( i avoid the freudian term) associated with their egos
tend to seek out others mirroring their own self-image that they
may indulge in friendship/love/worship with them they love best.
this is not as counter-productive as it might seem; for verily,
one must be a bull to fully appreciate a cow.

don't take me too seriously-- i was hit on the head with the complete 
works of a very profilic comedian at a very tender ( headed) age.

	Steve O'Course