Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/26/83; site ihuxp.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!cca!decvax!harpo!floyd!vax135!ariel!houti!hogpc!houxm!ihnp4!ihuxp!joyce From: joyce@ihuxp.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Your a nice guy but... Message-ID: <442@ihuxp.UUCP> Date: Fri, 10-Jun-83 00:14:38 EDT Article-I.D.: ihuxp.442 Posted: Fri Jun 10 00:14:38 1983 Date-Received: Sat, 11-Jun-83 09:14:26 EDT References: brunix.3168, <902@uwvax.UUCP> Organization: BTL Naperville, Il. Lines: 22 I may sound bitter but.... I have read my share of articles posted by men complaining about the "Your a nice guy, but..." syndrome. Dare I say I have heard it all too many times myself. (words change a little "Your a good kid, but...) (at 23 and 5'8" I find it hard to consider myself a kid.) It is not an easy comment to take, but sometimes the other route is even harder. I have tried to avoid using that line myself and have gotten into spats that still haven't ended years later. In my experience (maybe I go about things all wrong), by not using a "line" I end up in conversations of "Why, what's wrong with me" (nothing I'm just not comfortable in this situation/relationship) "Why won't you give me a chance" (I have) "What can I do to change" (I don't want to change my friends). Does anyone out there have a "nice" honest way of ending a relationship and staying friends? I haven't found it yet and wouldn't mind advice. Is there such a beast? Tired of being a "kid". Kathy Voigt iwlc5!kav