Path: utzoo!utgpu!attcan!uunet!ginosko!usc!ucla-cs!marco@ozdaltx.UUCP From: marco@ozdaltx.UUCP (marco) Newsgroups: sci.med.aids Subject: Re: Is it attempted Murder? Message-ID: <27601@shemp.CS.UCLA.EDU> Date: 30 Sep 89 19:42:54 GMT References: <27434@shemp.CS.UCLA.EDU> <27585@shemp.CS.UCLA.EDU> Sender: news@CS.UCLA.EDU Organization: OZ BBS - Dallas, TX Lines: 40 Approved: aids@cs.ucla.edu Archive-number: 1277 Hi Jay. Just a couple of thoughts on your post. I had an acquaintance that turned into a friend, that turned into a sex partner, about two years ago. He was a generally nice guy, and occasionally exhibited some unstable behaviour (who doesn't??). One night, after a perfectly fun and safe bout of knock-down-drag-out sex, he told me he had something to tell me. His tearful story was that he was HIV+ (although healthy). I admired him for his self- disclosure, and told him it was OK, 'cause everything we've done was minimally risky at best. He seemed appreciative of my response. I usually sleep in the raw, and upon waking the next morning, had this wierd feeling like maybe I had been boinked during the night. (anally penetrated) I knew he had a digit in my rectum when he was going down on me the night before, so I just passed it off to that. About a week ago, a mutual friend told me that this guy had died (horribly) of AIDS complications (wasting) at U of G'town hospital in DC, way back in July of '89. Now... I am a member of a cohort study that tests my blood for HIV antibody every six months, and they continually come back negative. However after being told of my friends plight, I have this unnerving thought that keeps haunting me.... Was it REALLY his finger? Or did he do something unsafe that he shouldn't? Just a thought for your response about everybody taking responsibility for their own situation. I suppose I could have worn a chastity belt while I slept... right? Or completely avoided having sex with him until I had physical proof of his antibody status... right? Or sent him home after playtime... right? I guess time will be the teller of the real story.... -- Steve Giammarco AIDS Resource Center Dallas TX 75219 {ames,rutgers,texsun,smu}!attctc!ozdaltx!marco