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Subject: Re: Is it attempted Murder?
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Date: 30 Sep 89 19:42:54 GMT
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Hi Jay.  Just a couple of thoughts on your post.  I had an acquaintance
that turned into a friend, that turned into a sex partner, about two
years ago.  He was a generally nice guy, and occasionally exhibited
some unstable behaviour (who doesn't??).
 
One night, after a perfectly fun and safe bout of knock-down-drag-out
sex, he told me he had something to tell me.  His tearful story was
that he was HIV+ (although healthy).  I admired him for his self-
disclosure, and told him it was OK, 'cause everything we've done was
minimally risky at best.  He seemed appreciative of my response.
 
I usually sleep in the raw, and upon waking the next morning, had
this wierd feeling like maybe I had been boinked during the night.
(anally penetrated)   I knew he had a digit in my rectum when he was
going down on me the night before, so I just passed it off to that.
 
About a week ago, a mutual friend told me that this guy had died (horribly)
of AIDS complications (wasting) at U of G'town hospital in DC, way
back in July of '89.

Now... I am a member of a cohort study that tests my blood for HIV
antibody every six months, and they continually come back negative.
However after being told of my friends plight, I have this unnerving
thought that keeps haunting me....
 
Was it REALLY his finger?  Or did he do something unsafe that he shouldn't?
 
Just a thought for your response about everybody taking responsibility
for their own situation.  I suppose I could have worn a chastity belt
while I slept... right?  Or completely avoided having sex with him
until I had physical proof of his antibody status... right?  Or sent
him home after playtime... right?
 
I guess time will be the teller of the real story....

-- 
Steve Giammarco
AIDS Resource Center
Dallas TX 75219
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