Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site ames.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!oliveb!hplabs!ames!barry From: barry@ames.UUCP (Kenn Barry) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Nominally Single??? (scars) Message-ID: <1221@ames.UUCP> Date: Fri, 25-Oct-85 01:05:58 EST Article-I.D.: ames.1221 Posted: Fri Oct 25 01:05:58 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 27-Oct-85 10:34:58 EST References: <1071@trwrdc.UUCP> <490@rti-sel.UUCP> Organization: NASA-Ames Research Center, Mtn. View, CA Lines: 30 From Bill Ingogly (rti-sel!wfi): > In article <1071@trwrdc.UUCP> frith@trwatf.UUCP (Lord Frith) writes: >>Each person and >>relationship is unique. Once finished.... that relationship is ended >>forever. When something this precious is lost it should come as no >>surprise that there is an extended period of morning or even scars that >>cannot be forgotten. > >When the mourning period starts interfering with the rest of your >life, you've got a problem. Period. Scars that cannot be forgotten are >going to affect the way you relate to other people, the way you view >life, and the way you perform your everyday tasks. This is a problem. >Saying a scar can't be forgotten is surrendering your life to despair >and/or pain. That's abdicating responsibility for your actions. I wonder if using a strong word like "scar" doesn't distort the situation a little. That we should learn from our mistakes is a commonplace. That not all lessons are pleasant is equally obvious. I have learned from romances that did not end happily, and some of the lessons were painful ones, but I value the insights I've gained the more for being hard-won. I wouldn't call these "scars". I understand Bill Ingogly is talking about something more extreme, but I am not sure the other side is, and this may be exaggerating the amount of real disagreement that exists. - From the Crow's Nest - Kenn Barry NASA-Ames Research Center Moffett Field, CA ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ELECTRIC AVENUE: {ihnp4,vortex,dual,nsc,hao,hplabs}!ames!barry