Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site uvaee.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!gamma!epsilon!zeta!sabre!petrus!bellcore!decvax!ittatc!dcdwest!sdcsvax!sdcc3!sdcc6!ncr-sd!ncrcae!ncsu!uvacs!uvaee!cffres From: cffres@uvaee.UUCP (Chuck Ferrara) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Re: Nominally single???? A voice from the past. Message-ID: <473@uvaee.UUCP> Date: Mon, 21-Oct-85 12:14:36 EDT Article-I.D.: uvaee.473 Posted: Mon Oct 21 12:14:36 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 26-Oct-85 04:46:02 EDT References: <285@whuts.UUCP> <533@oakhill.UUCP> <286@whuts.UUCP> Reply-To: cffres@uvaee.UUCP (Chuck Ferrara) Organization: EE Dept., U of Virginia, Charlottesville Lines: 22 In article <1226@vax1.fluke.UUCP> tron@fluke.UUCP (Peter Barbee) writes: >> >>So I guess my question, after all this long-winded nonsense, is >>this: at what point would *you* like to be told that a new >>acquaintance is 'unavailable'? > >I expect the presence of an SO would become known through normal conversation >at a fairly early time. One of the things that I normally talk about with a >new acquaintance is what we spend our leisure time doing. It seems normal to >me to mention some of the people I do these things with. At some point a >phrase such as "my girlfriend and I" or "my lover and I" is bound to come very >naturally. Sometimes such phrases do come out naturally, but sometimes they don't. I have found about prospective SO's being attached the hard way more than once and it can be painful. What I have learned is that I can't count on being told and it's a very akward thing to ask somebody, directly. I ask mutual friends when that option exists, but sometimes it doesn't. I like to find out early and the passive approach isn't always reliable. Does anyone have suggestions? Chuck F.