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From: rainbow@ihlts.UUCP (Robert)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: RE3: being attached
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Date: Wed, 13-Nov-85 01:31:44 EST
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Posted: Wed Nov 13 01:31:44 1985
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>If a guy talked for a long time WITHOUT mentioning his wife/SO,
>I'd either wonder if they lived in the same state or suspect that he
>was actively trying to cover up his status.  

And I suppose if I neglect to mention my job, you assume I don't have one
And I suppose if I neglect to mention my parents, you assume they are criminals
And I suppose if I neglect to mention my hobby, you assume its raping women
And I suppose if I neglect to mention where I live, you assume its a slum

Come now, this is bordering on an extreme state of paranoia. Any assumptions
you make are at your own risk. No one is obligated to dump their entire life
story upon people they meet. That would be silly. I can just see it now.
Two people meet and each one goes through a prepared ten minute speech
covering their complete backgound. Cute. It just might work. Cuts through
all the red tape real quick.

Anyway, its an ice breaker to ask people you meet about their
job, parents, hobbies, home, etc. A good way to keep the 
conversation going. Why do away with all that? I'm sure those
questions are used all the time without a second thought.
The key point to all this is, why should it be taboo
to ask about someone's SO? I see no difference.

Since when do people neglect to ask others about information they would
like to know? It doesn't make sense to quietly wait and hope the 
other person discusses the topic of your interest on their own initiative. 
I know I don't have a prepared checklist that I have to cover every time I 
meet someone new out of fear that they might make some sort of drastic 
character judgment. Let's see now, have I covered job, family, home, 
hobbies, etc? Oops. Forgot to mention my SO. Better work that into the 
conversation too. I think I'd develop a complex with that attitude.

Robert