Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site oliveb.UUCP Path: utzoo!decvax!decwrl!Glacier!oliveb!toml From: toml@oliveb.UUCP (Tom Long) Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Re: Otherwise Engaged Message-ID: <633@oliveb.UUCP> Date: Tue, 12-Nov-85 16:00:54 EST Article-I.D.: oliveb.633 Posted: Tue Nov 12 16:00:54 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 14-Nov-85 03:13:17 EST References: <632@oliveb.UUCP> <570@tymix.UUCP> Distribution: na Organization: Olivetti ATC; Cupertino, Ca Lines: 24 [] I posted the original article on "Otherwise Engaged", by Srully Blotnick. I have often heard it said, "Behind every successful man stands a woman". I believe that this must at least in general be true. Among the benefits of a happy marriage is that the man carries a certain amount of flexibility and good-naturedness and level-headedness to work with him. I think one can sum up the experiences reported in the book by applying the same phrase in the opposite direction: "Behind every successful woman stands a man". The women in the study who (when confronted with conflicts between career and marriage) chose to sacrifice their career progress in favor of the marriage were more successful in their *careers* in the long run, and on average. I expect there must have been some who should have made the choices in favor of careers and didn't, but I don't recall reading about them. It seems likely that the same thing will be true for men (they're in his next book). Tom Long