Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 exptools; site ihlts.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!ihnp4!ihlts!rainbow From: rainbow@ihlts.UUCP (Robert) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: RE3: being attached Message-ID: <681@ihlts.UUCP> Date: Wed, 13-Nov-85 01:31:44 EST Article-I.D.: ihlts.681 Posted: Wed Nov 13 01:31:44 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 14-Nov-85 00:42:32 EST Distribution: net Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories Lines: 34 >If a guy talked for a long time WITHOUT mentioning his wife/SO, >I'd either wonder if they lived in the same state or suspect that he >was actively trying to cover up his status. And I suppose if I neglect to mention my job, you assume I don't have one And I suppose if I neglect to mention my parents, you assume they are criminals And I suppose if I neglect to mention my hobby, you assume its raping women And I suppose if I neglect to mention where I live, you assume its a slum Come now, this is bordering on an extreme state of paranoia. Any assumptions you make are at your own risk. No one is obligated to dump their entire life story upon people they meet. That would be silly. I can just see it now. Two people meet and each one goes through a prepared ten minute speech covering their complete backgound. Cute. It just might work. Cuts through all the red tape real quick. Anyway, its an ice breaker to ask people you meet about their job, parents, hobbies, home, etc. A good way to keep the conversation going. Why do away with all that? I'm sure those questions are used all the time without a second thought. The key point to all this is, why should it be taboo to ask about someone's SO? I see no difference. Since when do people neglect to ask others about information they would like to know? It doesn't make sense to quietly wait and hope the other person discusses the topic of your interest on their own initiative. I know I don't have a prepared checklist that I have to cover every time I meet someone new out of fear that they might make some sort of drastic character judgment. Let's see now, have I covered job, family, home, hobbies, etc? Oops. Forgot to mention my SO. Better work that into the conversation too. I think I'd develop a complex with that attitude. Robert