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From: cffres@uvaee.UUCP (Chuck Ferrara)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Re: Nominally single???? A voice from the past.
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Date: Mon, 21-Oct-85 12:14:36 EDT
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In article <1226@vax1.fluke.UUCP> tron@fluke.UUCP (Peter Barbee) writes:
>>
>>So I guess my question, after all this long-winded nonsense, is
>>this: at what point would *you* like to be told that a new
>>acquaintance is 'unavailable'?
>
>I expect the presence of an SO would become known through normal conversation
>at a fairly early time.  One of the things that I normally talk about with a 
>new acquaintance is what we spend our leisure time doing.  It seems normal to
>me to mention some of the people I do these things with.  At some point a
>phrase such as "my girlfriend and I" or "my lover and I" is bound to come very
>naturally.  

Sometimes such phrases do come out naturally, but sometimes they don't.
I have found about prospective SO's being attached the hard way more than
once and it can be painful. What I have learned is that I can't count on
being told and it's a very akward thing to ask somebody, directly.
I ask mutual friends when that option exists, but sometimes it doesn't.
I like to find out early and the passive approach isn't always reliable.
Does anyone have suggestions?

			Chuck F.