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From: hachiya@uiucuxc.CSO.UIUC.EDU
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: RE: catching up (being attached)
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Date: Fri, 8-Nov-85 10:36:00 EST
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Posted: Fri Nov  8 10:36:00 1985
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Nf-From: uiucuxc.CSO.UIUC.EDU!hachiya    Nov  8 09:36:00 1985


>Talking about my past is no ones business but my own. It is also irrelevant
>to the situation at hand. I don't want to hear about the hardships of being 
>single(:-)) and people's EX-whoevers. Dullsville. Talk about today and the 
>future.

>Talking about my present status as being attached is awfully presumptious
>and I would find it somewhat rude. Only someone with an oversized ego
>would be so insulting. Nice way to lose a friend or potential friend. 
>How would you feel if you start a conversation with a "hello" and back 
>comes a "sorry, I'm attached".

  I agree completely.  I hate conversations where the only thing people
  talk about is their current lover.  And to me, it still sounds
  obvious just to slip it into the conversation ("my SO and I...")

>If you're interested and unattached, whats wrong with taking the 
>initiative to ask someone out? The world is not going to end if they
>say they're attached or something similar. The other person will
>probably be flattered in any case and not come back with a rude putdown.
>Why must we play games and beat around the bush? To save face so we
>can pretend we were non-committal? Funny.

>Robert
 
  Yes, just ask them out.  Just don't get your hopes up and you won't
  be disappointed.  But you'll never know until you try and to me,
  the risk of rejection is worth the potential payoff.

  Donna