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From: lewak@sdcsvax.UUCP (George Lewak)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Needing Relationships
Message-ID: <1167@sdcsvax.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 28-Oct-85 15:45:05 EST
Article-I.D.: sdcsvax.1167
Posted: Mon Oct 28 15:45:05 1985
Date-Received: Thu, 31-Oct-85 23:27:11 EST
References: <682@hou2g.UUCP>
Reply-To: lewak@sdcsvax.UUCP (George lewak)
Organization: EECS Dept. U.C. San Diego
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Summary: 

In article <682@hou2g.UUCP> scott@hou2g.UUCP (Colonel'K) writes:
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>I just had a thought.  I would agree with Snoopy and Victor that
>we "need" (romantic) relationships.  However, Bill is also right
>in a sense.  
>
>My hypothesis is that we ALL need such relationships.  However,
>each of us differs in the degree to which we have that need--this 
>degree may be correlated with the length, number, and success of
>relationships an individual has had.  This is what I think Victor
>was trying to say, and if so I agree.
>
>This being the case, I find it not unreasonable to assume that
>there are two ends to the spectrum--those who can't survive for 
>more that a few weeks, and those who go nearly a lifetime without 
>"needing" a relationship (perhaps Bill's case).

	I basically agree with Scott, and I'm glad he posted this
	because it allowed me to be clear on what was being said.
	Basically, me and Bill, or Snoopy and Bill, or whoever
	and whoever might never have been really disagreeing; they
	may have just been speaking a different language.

	The language I was speaking was this: one cannot go a
	WHOLE LIFETIME without relationships (sexual or otherwise;
	use your own definition).  I think Bill may have been
	arguing against "I want a relationship and I need it
	NOW" as healthy, whereas I was arguing that "a normal, healthy
	individual, may find that it is necessary to have a
	relationship at some time or another and at frequent
	enough intervals for him to feel his life has been
	fulfilled."  For me, I find I start feeling lonely
	after 22 years or less with no sexual relationships,
	and have never experienced the event of not having
	any non-sexual relationship at all (but I would
	I would get lonely within a week or so).


				Victor Romano

				(I'm Victor, not George)

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blue skies from pain
can you tell a green field
from a cold steel rail
a smile from a vail
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