Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 exptools; site ihlts.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!ihnp4!ihlts!rainbow From: rainbow@ihlts.UUCP (Robert) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: RE: catching up (being attached) Message-ID: <677@ihlts.UUCP> Date: Mon, 4-Nov-85 21:10:03 EST Article-I.D.: ihlts.677 Posted: Mon Nov 4 21:10:03 1985 Date-Received: Tue, 5-Nov-85 09:15:25 EST Distribution: net Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories Lines: 35 >I also find that if someone is Significantly Attached, he will generally >let me know one way or the other--either by starting a sentence with, >"My wife/girlfriend/lover/woman and I . . ." or, more directly, by >talking about the relationship he's involved with. On the other hand, >men who *aren't* attached and want to make sure I know it will talk >about how tough it is being single(:-)), or talk about their EX-whoever. Hmmm. Never once have I considered talking about my past or present status. Talking about my past is no ones business but my own. It is also irrelevant to the situation at hand. I don't want to hear about the hardships of being single(:-)) and people's EX-whoevers. Dullsville. Talk about today and the future. Talking about my present status as being attached is awfully presumptious and I would find it somewhat rude. Only someone with an oversized ego would be so insulting. Nice way to lose a friend or potential friend. How would you feel if you start a conversation with a "hello" and back comes a "sorry, I'm attached". Talking about my present status as being unattached is quite tacky. Cowardly to say the least. I would be embarrassed to sound so meek and passive. Would you actually say to someone "by the way, I would be agreeable to you asking me out." I couldn't. I wouldn't take someone up on it either. Or, "hey, wink, I'm unattached you know." If you're interested and unattached, whats wrong with taking the initiative to ask someone out? The world is not going to end if they say they're attached or something similar. The other person will probably be flattered in any case and not come back with a rude putdown. Why must we play games and beat around the bush? To save face so we can pretend we were non-committal? Funny. Robert