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From: wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Nominally Single??? (scars)
Message-ID: <532@rti-sel.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 6-Nov-85 11:25:45 EST
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Posted: Wed Nov  6 11:25:45 1985
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In article <6109@utzoo.UUCP> nonh@utzoo.UUCP (Chris Robertson) writes:

>Bill, there *are* permanent hurts, in the sense that every time one
>thinks of event X, it hurts -- but one thinks about them less and less
>frequently as time goes on, ...

That's not the way it works for me. My father died in 1972, for
example; for some years it hurt to remember the events of that night
and relive them. Bad memories can have amazing lasting power. However,
I can now remember and talk about the night my father died with
absolutely no hurt or pain at all; it's something in my past that I've
gotten beyond. I remember my father with fondness and I remember the
night he ceased to be with us. Time has a way of eventually distancing
me from my painful memories, whether they are memories of the death of
a loved one or of the loss of a cherished relationship. Like Wm.
Wordsworth's emotions recollected in tranquillity, I suppose. I don't
really think I'm all that different from other people, either; we
couldn't function as organisms if every hurt we experienced came back
to us full strength every time we remembered them.

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I dreamed I had to take a test
In a Dairy Queen                           -- Cheers, Bill Ingogly
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