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From: mokhtar@ubc-vision.UUCP
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Subject: Re: Rape (The nature of Reality)
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Date: Sun, 27-Oct-85 18:21:01 EST
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Subject: Re: Re: Rape (The nature of reality)

> HOW DO YOU TELL who are the "good" men that you can trust?  Are they
> the "...boyfriend, husband, brother, uncle, father, teacher, priest"?

> It is sad that Ellen feels that way, it is also sad that the many are
> damned with the few.  But, what is the alternative to suspicion?
> -- 
> Charlie Sorsby

The solution is NOT to mistrust everyone because that would lead to a highly
paranoid society. You probaby know that you can not base your trust on words
or actions which are typically expected of "good" men because the not-so-good
men could say or do the same things in order to gain your trust (and take
advantage of it later on). 
The best measure you usually have is to simply listen to the overall impression
of them that you form over time. There is always something behind words and
actions of people. If you listen hard enough, it will come through. But before
you can hear, you have to quite down the noise inside you.
   
   Farzin Mokhtarian
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"The biggest secret of all is that there are no secrets at all."