Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site sdcsvax.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!decvax!ittatc!dcdwest!sdcsvax!lewak From: lewak@sdcsvax.UUCP (George Lewak) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Needing Relationships Message-ID: <1167@sdcsvax.UUCP> Date: Mon, 28-Oct-85 15:45:05 EST Article-I.D.: sdcsvax.1167 Posted: Mon Oct 28 15:45:05 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 31-Oct-85 23:27:11 EST References: <682@hou2g.UUCP> Reply-To: lewak@sdcsvax.UUCP (George lewak) Organization: EECS Dept. U.C. San Diego Lines: 51 Summary: In article <682@hou2g.UUCP> scott@hou2g.UUCP (Colonel'K) writes: > > >I just had a thought. I would agree with Snoopy and Victor that >we "need" (romantic) relationships. However, Bill is also right >in a sense. > >My hypothesis is that we ALL need such relationships. However, >each of us differs in the degree to which we have that need--this >degree may be correlated with the length, number, and success of >relationships an individual has had. This is what I think Victor >was trying to say, and if so I agree. > >This being the case, I find it not unreasonable to assume that >there are two ends to the spectrum--those who can't survive for >more that a few weeks, and those who go nearly a lifetime without >"needing" a relationship (perhaps Bill's case). I basically agree with Scott, and I'm glad he posted this because it allowed me to be clear on what was being said. Basically, me and Bill, or Snoopy and Bill, or whoever and whoever might never have been really disagreeing; they may have just been speaking a different language. The language I was speaking was this: one cannot go a WHOLE LIFETIME without relationships (sexual or otherwise; use your own definition). I think Bill may have been arguing against "I want a relationship and I need it NOW" as healthy, whereas I was arguing that "a normal, healthy individual, may find that it is necessary to have a relationship at some time or another and at frequent enough intervals for him to feel his life has been fulfilled." For me, I find I start feeling lonely after 22 years or less with no sexual relationships, and have never experienced the event of not having any non-sexual relationship at all (but I would I would get lonely within a week or so). Victor Romano (I'm Victor, not George) -------------------------------------- So you think you can tell heaven from hell blue skies from pain can you tell a green field from a cold steel rail a smile from a vail do you think you can tell -The Screaming Abdabs