Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.3 4.3bsd-beta 6/6/85; site unirot.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!ihnp4!qantel!hplabs!pesnta!amd!vecpyr!lll-lcc!lll-crg!gymble!umcp-cs!seismo!caip!topaz!unirot!pooh From: pooh@unirot.UUCP (Pooh) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: re: Catching up (being attached) Message-ID: <184@unirot.UUCP> Date: Thu, 7-Nov-85 17:42:55 EST Article-I.D.: unirot.184 Posted: Thu Nov 7 17:42:55 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 11-Nov-85 06:11:04 EST Organization: The Soup Kitchen, Piscataway NJ Lines: 35 Keywords: antagonism Gimme a break, rainbow. As Will said, people tend to mention someone they're involved with, especially if their SO is a big part of their life. If a guy talked for a long time WITHOUT mentioning his wife, I'd either wonder if they lived in the same state or suspect that he was actively trying to cover up his status. There's nothing insulting about mentioning an SO--unless, of course, you take it to mean that an attached person is saying that s/he doesn't want to have anything to do with you. I don't take it that way. Do you? And many people I've met like to talk about their current relationships. They have a problem that they would like to talk over with someone who has experienced it too, or they want to share a good memory--again, it's sharing a big part of their life with a friend. If someone wants to talk about a relationship with me, I'm certainly not offended. People also like to talk (sometimes) about past relationships. Analyzing them often helps you learn from them--it's called Learning From Experience So You Don't Make the Same Mistake Twice. It is part of the healing process to talk about a past relationship that still hurts--and denying this seems incredibly insensitive to me. Let's do away with this macho-Bird-Dog-ism and get back to communicating like people, not "chasing girls." (And Andy, if you agree with him one more time, I'll--I'll sprinkle refined sugar on your breakfast cereal! If it's one thing I can't stand, it's an emotional Rambo for a housemate.) Cheers, Pooh topaz!unipress!pooh topaz!unirot!pooh "And yet, still, when corn meets tragedy face to face, we have politics."