Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site oliveb.UUCP Path: utzoo!decvax!decwrl!Glacier!oliveb!toml From: toml@oliveb.UUCP (Tom Long) Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Otherwise Engaged Message-ID: <632@oliveb.UUCP> Date: Mon, 11-Nov-85 10:36:16 EST Article-I.D.: oliveb.632 Posted: Mon Nov 11 10:36:16 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 14-Nov-85 01:38:34 EST Distribution: na Organization: Olivetti ATC; Cupertino, Ca Lines: 23 [] I have just finished reading "Otherwise Engaged: the private lives of successful career women" by Srully Blotnick. This book reports the results of a 25-year study of the lives of over 2000 women. It touches on a lot of topics which have been debated in net.women. The assertions made in the book are based on evidence, not just opinion, and many of them run counter to the general tenor of postings to this newsgroup. A primary assertion is that when there is a conflict between marriage and career, those women who favor their marriage will do better in the long run that those women who favor their career. Women who sacrifice marriage for a career tend to be seen by those around them (men and women) as driven, brittle, and moody. Another assertion is that women who identify men as the enemy are making a serious error. They redirect anger with the attitudes of blue-collar men at the white-collar men who they work with and live with. This anger has a negative effect on careers and marriages. Do you women find that the findings in this book match your observations and experiences? Tom Long