Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site rti-sel.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!ihnp4!houxm!whuxl!whuxlm!akgua!mcnc!rti-sel!wfi From: wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Nominally Single??? (scars) Message-ID: <532@rti-sel.UUCP> Date: Wed, 6-Nov-85 11:25:45 EST Article-I.D.: rti-sel.532 Posted: Wed Nov 6 11:25:45 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 8-Nov-85 22:09:20 EST References: <6109@utzoo.UUCP> Reply-To: wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly) Organization: Research Triangle Institute, NC Lines: 25 In article <6109@utzoo.UUCP> nonh@utzoo.UUCP (Chris Robertson) writes: >Bill, there *are* permanent hurts, in the sense that every time one >thinks of event X, it hurts -- but one thinks about them less and less >frequently as time goes on, ... That's not the way it works for me. My father died in 1972, for example; for some years it hurt to remember the events of that night and relive them. Bad memories can have amazing lasting power. However, I can now remember and talk about the night my father died with absolutely no hurt or pain at all; it's something in my past that I've gotten beyond. I remember my father with fondness and I remember the night he ceased to be with us. Time has a way of eventually distancing me from my painful memories, whether they are memories of the death of a loved one or of the loss of a cherished relationship. Like Wm. Wordsworth's emotions recollected in tranquillity, I suppose. I don't really think I'm all that different from other people, either; we couldn't function as organisms if every hurt we experienced came back to us full strength every time we remembered them. ================================ I dreamed I had to take a test In a Dairy Queen -- Cheers, Bill Ingogly On another planet (L. Anderson) ================================