Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site ubc-vision.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxn!ihnp4!alberta!ubc-vision!mokhtar From: mokhtar@ubc-vision.UUCP Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Re: Rape (The nature of Reality) Message-ID: <1073@ubc-vision.UUCP> Date: Sun, 27-Oct-85 18:21:01 EST Article-I.D.: ubc-visi.1073 Posted: Sun Oct 27 18:21:01 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 28-Oct-85 04:14:52 EST Sender: mokhtar@ubc-visi.UUCP Organization: UBC Computational Vision Lab, Vancouver, B.C., Canada Lines: 25 Subject: Re: Re: Rape (The nature of reality) > HOW DO YOU TELL who are the "good" men that you can trust? Are they > the "...boyfriend, husband, brother, uncle, father, teacher, priest"? > It is sad that Ellen feels that way, it is also sad that the many are > damned with the few. But, what is the alternative to suspicion? > -- > Charlie Sorsby The solution is NOT to mistrust everyone because that would lead to a highly paranoid society. You probaby know that you can not base your trust on words or actions which are typically expected of "good" men because the not-so-good men could say or do the same things in order to gain your trust (and take advantage of it later on). The best measure you usually have is to simply listen to the overall impression of them that you form over time. There is always something behind words and actions of people. If you listen hard enough, it will come through. But before you can hear, you have to quite down the noise inside you. Farzin Mokhtarian ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ "The biggest secret of all is that there are no secrets at all."