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From: wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: scars - permanent hurt
Message-ID: <529@rti-sel.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 5-Nov-85 11:54:21 EST
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Posted: Tue Nov  5 11:54:21 1985
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In article <1065@mit-vax.UUCP> oaf@mit-vax.UUCP (Oded Feingold) writes:

>    I  have  "permanent  hurt" over unkind things I did in the past, and
>though I don't enjoy it I feel it's due  me.   The  recipients  of  such
>unpleasantnesses  have  mainly forgiven or forgotten them, ...
>I try to consider how I might hurt  others  by
>word  and  action, and avoid same.  ...
>I suspect that age brings the wisdom  (or  memory)  to
>recognize when you've done something unkind, and the guts to (try to) do
>something about it before the chance slips away.

We humans all hurt each other from time to time due to callousness,
selfishness, ignorance, etc. As you've pointed out, we can learn from
these experiences and try to do better in the future. That seems to me
to be what life is all about: hey, I may not be perfect but I hope I'm
not as insensitive tomorrow as I am today. And if others can forgive
me my mistakes I can learn from them, resolve to TRY to do better in
the future, and forgive myself. I'm just as human and fallible as
anyone else. Regretting my bad actions for the rest of my life and
suffering as a result would be unproductive and certainly would do
nothing for those I've sinned against.

                                 -- Cheers, Bill Ingogly