Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site cornell.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!whuxlm!whuxl!houxm!vax135!cornell!nax From: nax@cornell.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Are you involved with anyone? Message-ID: <133@cornell.UUCP> Date: Sat, 26-Oct-85 11:28:17 EST Article-I.D.: cornell.133 Posted: Sat Oct 26 11:28:17 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 27-Oct-85 07:34:53 EST Sender: nax@cornell.UUCP Organization: Cornell Univ. CS Dept. Lines: 21 From: nax (Nax-Paul) cffres@uvaee.UUCP (Chuck Ferrara) asks: > I have found about prospective SO's being attached the hard way more than > once and it can be painful. What I have learned is that I can't count on > being told and it's a very akward thing to ask somebody, directly. > I ask mutual friends when that option exists, but sometimes it doesn't. > I like to find out early and the passive approach isn't always reliable. > Does anyone have suggestions? I ask, directly, when we first meet, along with asking all those other common questions: what do you do, how long have you been here, etc... I don't think of it as an akward question, since I'm asking long before the thought "O ye gods, let this sweetie be unattached" has entered my mind, and if she says she's attached I ask about her SO, and if she isn't, we can share some laughs about our Xs. I don't think I've ever put anyone off by being direct, and its really just an honest question. canti, Nax '