Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site oddjob.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!ihnp4!gargoyle!oddjob!matt From: matt@oddjob.UUCP (Matt Crawford) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: catching up Message-ID: <1038@oddjob.UUCP> Date: Wed, 6-Nov-85 22:23:48 EST Article-I.D.: oddjob.1038 Posted: Wed Nov 6 22:23:48 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 8-Nov-85 21:53:01 EST References: <177@unirot.UUCP> Reply-To: matt@oddjob.UUCP (Matt Crawford) Organization: U. Chicago, Astronomy & Astrophysics Lines: 31 pooh@unirot.UUCP (Pooh @ The Soup Kitchen) writes: >Re: Being Attached > >I also find that if someone is Significantly Attached, he will generally >let me know one way or the other--either by starting a sentence with, >"My wife/girlfriend/lover/woman and I . . ." >. . . On the other hand, >men who *aren't* attached and want to make sure I know it will talk >about how tough it is being single (:-), or talk about their EX-whoever Gee, I don't bring up the subject of X's much, and certainly not on a first meeting, but I can see where an adroitly-delivered remark about "my most recent ex-{boy|girl}friend ..."(*) could be used as a token of encouragement. If I meet someone and am interested in them, and if there is no attachment in evidence, then I assume there isn't one, while listening for hints that there is. If there turns out to be someone already, then acknowledging that information may put the person at their ease somewhat. How can one get across a message of availability without being too crass about it? I once used some of that nouveau-macho after-shave stuff, thinking that would either send a signal or at least remind me to keep in a receptive state of mind, but half an hour later I spilled gasoline on my shoe. It's been one of those days, all this year. _____________________________________________________ Matt University crawford@anl-mcs.arpa Crawford of Chicago ihnp4!oddjob!matt (*) I have never heard a non-net person use the term "S. O.".