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From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Pooh @ Communist Martyrs High)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Long Distance Relationships
Message-ID: <2935@ut-sally.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 20-Sep-85 11:15:07 EDT
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Posted: Fri Sep 20 11:15:07 1985
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In article <162@unirot.UUCP> liz@unirot.UUCP (Mamaliz ) writes:

I have both moved for an LDR and had an LDR move for me (iare thinking of
doing it, that you be very clear on what you are accomplishing by it.
If you do it only to create the *chance* that it will work, then you
won't be disappointed--you will have been successful at that.
Don't set it up so that it will be a total failure if you
don't get married.

Also, put down your own roots, make your own friends.  Don't
just transplant yourself onto him/her; this creates a strain on
the relationship that doesn't need to be there.  If things don't work
out, you will still feel like a person in your own right. 

There is nothing wrong with moving to be near someone if it is that
important to you to find out if things would work out.  Sometimes
it's the only way to find out.  You have to take risks!

I've never regretted any move I've made.

Cheers,
Pooh  (now in New Joisey)

Old Address:  pur-ee!pooh
New address:  topaz!unipress!pooh

Every day I write the book. . .