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From: dak2@mtfmb.UUCP (D.KALL)
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Subject: Living Alone: Reflections
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Date: Thu, 3-Oct-85 20:28:53 EDT
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Posted: Thu Oct  3 20:28:53 1985
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Since my last posting, which was a bit of an ego-involved reflex arc
to other postings I read, I have had additional thoughts.

I had two conversations that contributed insight into aspects of
living alone that I had not originally considered.  One conversation 
made it clear to me that there is a very harmful self-inflicting 
live-aloneness.  The other conversation surprised me with the point that
live-withness has a similar subpopulation but in the opposite direction.

I change my original position to include that yes, there is an abnormal
(read harmful) live-aloneness.  This is the live-aloneness that exists in
isolation of the world.  This is a live-aloneness that churns upon itself
in hatred and jealousy of live-withness.  This is a live-aloneness that
wades in lonliness because it attracts and rejects other individuals in
the same proposition.  It is a sad and cyclic existence.

I change my original position to include the addition that the same abnormal
(read harmful) existence can occur in live-withness.  This is a live-withness
that sculpts the world to include only two people.  It is a live-withness
that is jealous of others sharing their pacifier.  It is a fan-dance where
complete togetherness is a thin disguise for an unsatisfied and endless
expanse of lonliness.  It is a consuming passion.  It is a sad and cyclic 
existence.

These changes do not alter my original argument, but augment it. 
I still hold that it is possible (and is practiced) to live alone,
normally, peacefully, without lonliness, with aloneness, and to 
enjoy such a life.

It is also possible (and is practiced) to live with another, and enjoy
a very similar life.

More on the supportive similarities in these lifestyles in the next 
reflection.

for now, in motion
darren




I do disclaim.  All of the above opinions are solely my own.