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From: hxe@rayssd.UUCP (Heather Emanuel)
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Subject: Re: Re: Nominally single????
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Date: Tue, 1-Oct-85 13:52:10 EDT
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> > > 	Single:  unmarried (currently unmarried, I suppose, as the term
> > > divorcee is now archaic)
> > > 
> > > 	nominally Single:  unmarried but enjoying a close relationship with
> > > an SO (possibly living together but with at least two abodes)
> > >                Hunter Scales
> > 
> > 	Oh my - well, I'm enjoying a close relationship with an SO, but we 
> > only see each other about twice a week, spend only about one night a
> > week together, and we are free to date other people although we very
> > rarely do. So where does that place me? Does having an SO make me
> > nominally Single?

Oh, please.  Are we all *looking* for an argument?  It seems obvious
to me, and I think perhaps to the rest of the people who didn't post
because it was obvious to them also, that the terms are practically
self explanatory.

Single: Really single; i.e., 'available' if you were to ask them out
	on a date.  Perhaps dating one or more people, but not involved
	in an exclusive relationship.

Nominally Single: Look in the dictionary and then figure it out.
		  "Single In Name Only."

In this society, the term "single" means unmarried.  That obviously
does not include the myriad kinds of exclusive relationships enjoyed
by members of said society.  Thus someone on this net (lost now in the
confusion) mentioned in the context of a rather interesting article
that some people are single and some people are "nominally single,"
i.e., single in name only.  If someone is truly single, they are
available for dates (although possibly not with [the general] you)
without offending anyone else or breaking some sort of commitment.
If they are nominally single, they are unmarried, but involved in
a relationship that involves some sort of commitment not to be
'available' for dates with others.

Now, was that so hard?

		No smileys here,

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--Heather Emanuel {allegra, decvax!brunix, linus, raybed2} rayssd!hxe
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