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From: amc@whuts.UUCP (Andy Cohill)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Long Distance Relationships
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Date: Mon, 23-Sep-85 07:19:46 EDT
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> Would anyone out their like to share their experiences with moving to be
> near an s.o. . I've somehow found myself in an ldr with a man that lives
> about 300 miles away. The relationship has been difficult, but also very
> satisfying.  

Well, this is just an opinion (picture me dissolving in gales of
laughter as I type that), but unless you have been discussing
marriage, I would advise against it. It sounds like you are just
leaving school. Go out and discover what life is like *by yourself*,
for a year or two, before hooking up with someone else.

Why do I mention marriage? That old nemesis, commitment. You are
going to move all that way, and take a big risk with your career
without a commitment? If you really do want to be near him, do not
move in with him. Get your own place in town, so that if things
break up you don't find yourself on the street with no place to
live. As an aside, if things do go bad, if you have your own place,
it will make the break-up process much easier.

I don't mean to sound depressing. I've just been there, that's all.
Best of luck....

Andy Cohill
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