Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site mtfmb.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!mtuxo!mtfmb!dak2 From: dak2@mtfmb.UUCP (D.KALL) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Living Alone: Reflections Message-ID: <416@mtfmb.UUCP> Date: Thu, 3-Oct-85 20:28:53 EDT Article-I.D.: mtfmb.416 Posted: Thu Oct 3 20:28:53 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 4-Oct-85 06:45:25 EDT Organization: AT&T Information Systems, Holmdel NJ Lines: 43 Since my last posting, which was a bit of an ego-involved reflex arc to other postings I read, I have had additional thoughts. I had two conversations that contributed insight into aspects of living alone that I had not originally considered. One conversation made it clear to me that there is a very harmful self-inflicting live-aloneness. The other conversation surprised me with the point that live-withness has a similar subpopulation but in the opposite direction. I change my original position to include that yes, there is an abnormal (read harmful) live-aloneness. This is the live-aloneness that exists in isolation of the world. This is a live-aloneness that churns upon itself in hatred and jealousy of live-withness. This is a live-aloneness that wades in lonliness because it attracts and rejects other individuals in the same proposition. It is a sad and cyclic existence. I change my original position to include the addition that the same abnormal (read harmful) existence can occur in live-withness. This is a live-withness that sculpts the world to include only two people. It is a live-withness that is jealous of others sharing their pacifier. It is a fan-dance where complete togetherness is a thin disguise for an unsatisfied and endless expanse of lonliness. It is a consuming passion. It is a sad and cyclic existence. These changes do not alter my original argument, but augment it. I still hold that it is possible (and is practiced) to live alone, normally, peacefully, without lonliness, with aloneness, and to enjoy such a life. It is also possible (and is practiced) to live with another, and enjoy a very similar life. More on the supportive similarities in these lifestyles in the next reflection. for now, in motion darren I do disclaim. All of the above opinions are solely my own.