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From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent)
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Subject: Re: seminar on "Preparing for Marriage": Questions
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Date: Tue, 6-Aug-85 10:26:23 EDT
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QUESTIONS TO DISCUSS BEFORE YOU MARRY

 1. Have you talked about what you expect out of marriage?
 2. Do you both share the same religious beliefs?
 3. Are there any skeletons in your closet?
 4. What do you see as distinctive of a Christian marriage?
 5. What do you both know about your temperaments?
 6. Why do you want to get married?
 7. Do you like each other?
 8. What irritates you most in your partner's conduct?
 9. Are you satisfied with your partner's manners?
10. Do you treat others better than your family members?
11. How do you feel about your mother and father?
12. How do you like your prospective in-laws?
13. Do you both have a sense of humor?
14. Are you easily offended?
15. What is your attitude about the wife working outside the home?
16. Do you believe anyone should help you financially?
17. What is your plan for budgeting?
18. Are you going to share your incomes?
19. Who will balance the checkbook?
20. Have you discussed giving to worthy causes?
21. What is your attitude toward debt?
22. Where do you wish to live?
23. Do you know the difference between sex and love?
24. What will you do when you discover one partner is more highly sexed than
    the other?
25. What will you do if you discover your partner is romantically interested
    in another person?
26. Do you plan on having children?
27. What is your feeling about birth control?
28. Are you flexible?
29. Do you share the same interests?
30. What is your attitude toward household chores?
31. Do you wish to grow old with this changing person?
32. How do you handle your partner's success or failure?
33. How will you react to each other's contradictions?
34. Do you believe in careful, sensitive listening?
35. Do you believe in talking over matters and sharing in decision-making
    for the family?
36. What is your language style?
37. Do you believe in counselors to help you solve personal problems?
38. What are your personal and family goals?
39. When did you have a physical checkup?  What were the results?
40. Where do you plan to go to church?
41. How will you treat religious differences between you?
42. Are you willing to let God change your partner?
43. How do you understand the husband's leadership in the family?
44. Do you see each other as equal before God?
45. Do your parents and friends favor this marriage?

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-- Jeff Sargent
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