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From: rdm2@nvuxr.UUCP (R McBurnett)
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: Re: bed wetting
Message-ID: <117@nvuxr.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 22-Aug-85 14:29:02 EDT
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Posted: Thu Aug 22 14:29:02 1985
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>From: cim1@pyuxv.UUCP (G. Bogatko)
>My daughter has outgrown diapers, and is now into "big-girl panties"...
>...  She asks for help going to the toilet, which we provide whenever
>she asks.  She still wets the bed none-the-less.
>...  After a few nights of changing sheets, daddy turned into
>a raging beast with threats of going back to diapers, and just a lot of 
>commotion.  This worked.  
>Is there some middle of the road method to get it across to kids that
>bed-wetting is not a fun thing to do?

Being a Daddy who tried the "raging beast" routine (with absolutly no success)
I found that what worked best for me was:
	a)pointing out that waking up in the middle of the night was lousy
	  for everyone
	b)noting that Stephen's favorite pajamas got wet everytime he peed in
	  them and
	c)encouraging him to "try" to pee before going to bed. (this lessened
	  the frequency of wet beds but did not eliminate them. He almost
	  always could pee.)
We found that reinforcing the "wake up ...go to the bathroom and pee" idea
just before bed also helped.  

It is no good to try to reason with a sleepy child, especially when you are
angry about changing a bed.

One other thing we tried (my mom's idea) was to tell a story (a-la "No More
Diapers" by J. Brooks) that described *everyones* feelings before, during,
and after.  This had a limited effect but may have worked.

Stephen is now 4 and I only have to change his sheets ~1 or 2 times a week.

-Roe