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From: jeff@rtech.UUCP (Jeff Lichtman)
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: Re: My first baby
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Date: Fri, 2-Aug-85 01:30:59 EDT
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Posted: Fri Aug  2 01:30:59 1985
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>     Also, if I marry the baby's father, he'll have the right to tell me what
> to do and how to bring up my child.  On the other hand, if I don't marry him,
> he'll be under no legal obligation to help out, but also won't be able to tell
> me how to do things.

I believe that the father has a legal obligation to support the child even if
you're not married.  It's his child too, you know.  It may be hard to get him
to live up to this, but the obligation is there, nonetheless.  Someone please
correct me if I'm wrong on this.

Probably the best thing to do is talk to the father, and see how he feels about
helping out with child support.  If he's a decent person, he'll do what he can.
If he refuses, then you *really* know you don't want to marry him.

Also, why do you assume that marrying him will give him the right to tell you
what to do?  A marriage should be a partnership.  This means that, when you
have to make a decision that effects both of you, you discuss it and come to
a mutual agreement.  That is my view of marriage.
-- 
Jeff Lichtman at rtech (Relational Technology, Inc.)
aka Swazoo Koolak

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