Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site sunybcs.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!rochester!rocksvax!sunybcs!ugdomino From: ugdomino@sunybcs.UUCP (Michael Domino) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Re: Re: marriage = commitment Message-ID: <2070@sunybcs.UUCP> Date: Tue, 13-Aug-85 14:17:31 EDT Article-I.D.: sunybcs.2070 Posted: Tue Aug 13 14:17:31 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 15-Aug-85 00:42:52 EDT References: <1044@ames.UUCP> <165@plx.UUCP> <203@steinmetz.UUCP> <3039@nsc.UUCP> Reply-To: ugdomino@gort.UUCP (Michael Domino) Organization: SUNY/Buffalo Computer Science Lines: 56 Keywords: urp, ignorance Summary: keep your name, ladies In article <3039@nsc.UUCP> chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuq Von Rospach) writes: > >Society throws a lot of subtle pressures on a married couple that set any >balance out of line. Women lose their last name, which is a traditional >implication of ownership. Even if the woman keeps her own name, many >segments of society still make that assumption. It may not seem like a big >deal to you, but then you've never gotten mail addressed to 'Mrs. John >Smith'. Very subtle, but it is there. And waiters STILL insist on giving >the check to the man, right? All these little subtleties add up over time... > This business of women taking their husband's name is really a little silly. A few cases in point: --My wife keeps getting notices from this university that assume that since I am a student she is my MOTHER. This drives her up a wall. Repeated requests to the parties responsible for it do no good. ("We can't change that, it's in the computer!") Even telephone calls from fund raisers assume this. --When she was hospitalized for a tonsilectomy, even though the in- surance is in her name and through her job, I GOT THE BILL. It took weeks to straighten that one out. --The mortgage has both our names on it but all correspondence from banks and lawyers comes to me. This is a great joke because while I'm in school SHE PAYS THE MORTGAGE. I could go on, but you get the idea. Thank the Lord she had her own credit established before we got married, but wait that reminds me of another one: --When she changed her last name to mine, her full name became exactly the same as another completely unrelated person in the city. Shortly after we were married, we applied for a personal loan, and were as- tonished when we were turned down for no apparent reason. After several unproductive visits to our local TRW office, we finally discovered that this unknown person's credit record had been MERGED with my wife's ("Golly, the computer must have made a mistake!!") Don't ask me why they didn't compare SS numbers. They couldn't say. This unknown person had defaulted on a $17,000 loan for a Winnebago and had disappeared. (With the Winnebago!) The bank holding the loan was ready to come after us for payment! The moral, female readers, is to put an end to this quaint custom and MAINTAIN YOUR OWN IDENTITY. My wife had a perfectly good name before she ever met me, and when we find a spare week for all the paperwork she will get it back!! -- Michael Domino SUNY/Buffalo Computer Science uucp:[bbncca,decvax,dual,rocksanne,watmath]!sunybcs!ugdomino csnet:ugdomino@buffalo