Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site reed.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!reed!purtell From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: What women want Message-ID: <1830@reed.UUCP> Date: Thu, 22-Aug-85 17:42:37 EDT Article-I.D.: reed.1830 Posted: Thu Aug 22 17:42:37 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 25-Aug-85 04:55:45 EDT References: <3498@decwrl.UUCP> <509@h-sc1.UUCP> <784@lll-crg.ARPA> <254@gymble.UUCP> <1506@peora.UUCP> Reply-To: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) Organization: Reed College, Portland, Oregon Lines: 42 Summary: In article <1506@peora.UUCP> jer@peora.UUCP (J. Eric Roskos) writes: >I've observed that >many college students (male and female) tend to date people who make the >most impression on their friends. Why they do this varies. >[...] >I note, incidentally, that this is almost always almost entirely a function >of the age of the person involved, rather than other factors such as >experience with a diversity of people, etc. Women who date "older" men, >for example, I have observed to also have this tendency, eventhough they >often consider themselves more "sophisticated" in some sense. >[...] >You can add your own examples to balance it out.] Ok - Here's some views from the other side. Speaking as a college student who dates older men, (anywhere between five and twenty years older than I at the moment) I can say with all honesty that I don't do it to impress my friends or to feel sophisticated. The men that I date are very nice, and if I do go out with someone who isn't so nice (first impressions can be wrong) I don't go out with him again. The reason that I do go out with older men is that *for the most part* (and yes, there are exceptions) I find older men more mature, more knowledgeable, and more interesting than men my age. There are men my age that I find interesting, and there are older men whom I find immature and/or uninteresting (sadly, the latter is more often true than the former.) but it's a good general statement, from my experience. I have on occasion (twice to be exact) dated men who really weren't very nice. The reasons were a combination of feeling somewhat depressed and insecure at the time, and feeling sorry for the men. I think that it was a lot more the second one than the first. It's very tough to break up with someone when they threaten to kill themselves if you do, even if they are being quite mean to you. Incidentally - both of these people were very close to my age. (Just as proof that I didn't continue dating them to impress my friends.) cheers - elizabeth g. purtell (Lady Godiva)