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From: seifert@hammer.UUCP (Snoopy)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Question of the hour. (good :-))
Message-ID: <1428@hammer.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 6-Aug-85 12:24:33 EDT
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Posted: Tue Aug  6 12:24:33 1985
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Reply-To: seifert@hammer.UUCP (Snoopy)
Organization: The Daisy Hill Puppy Farm
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Snoopy:
>>I prefer to ask (and be asked) in private, rather than in
>>public.  Seems like there's less chance for embarrasment/
>>hurt feelings in private.
>>
>>There *is* the problem of trying to get time with them alone.
>>Especially if they are popular.  

Phil Ngai:
>Don't you people have telephones? Besides, you might discover she has
>a very nice roommate...

Good suggestion, but not always workable.  Phones require phone
numbers, which are not always available.  Asking for a phone
number in public is almost as dangerous as asking for a date in
public, unless you can figure out some non-date reason for asking for
it.  (Yes I know about phone books and directory assistance)  Then
there's the problem of identifying yourself in such a way that she
(or he) remembers you in a favorable light.  If it takes ten minutes
to explain who you are, or if you have to say something like "I'm
the klutz who hit the ball into the net on game point" it's rather
unlikely that you're going to get the date.  Also, it's easier
to say no over the phone than in person.  Strangely enough,
e-mail proposals for dates get accepted much more often than
phone proposals, despite being even *less* personal, and dispite
not having even met in many cases.  Hmmm, maybe *because* we
haven't met!  :-)

Snoopy
tektronix!hammer!seifert

Operator, could you help me place this call?
You see the number on the matchbook is old and faded.
She's living in LA,
with my best old ex-friend, Gray.

				Jim Croce