Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP
Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site reed.UUCP
Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!reed!purtell
From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: re sex problem
Message-ID: <1837@reed.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 25-Aug-85 02:44:50 EDT
Article-I.D.: reed.1837
Posted: Sun Aug 25 02:44:50 1985
Date-Received: Mon, 26-Aug-85 01:42:22 EDT
References: <1296@hound.UUCP> <5290001@acf4.UUCP> <140@unc.unc.UUCP> <256@gymble.UUCP> <1828@reed.UUCP> <766@houxa.UUCP>
Reply-To: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Organization: Reed College, Portland, Oregon
Lines: 44
Summary: 

In article <766@houxa.UUCP> pmbs@houxa.UUCP (P.BILODEAU) writes:
>
[I, Lady Godiva, wrote:]
><< I, on the other hand, would be
><< most happy living alone all the time. Now, sleeping alone all the time
><< is a different story...
><<
>	  How is it that you are able to have a SO around so that
>	  you will not be sleeping alone, yet not have to give up
>	  your living alone?  This question assumes that the person
>	  that you would be sleeping with is a long time relationship and
>	  probably would qualify to be a live-in. 
	
	First of all, there is a big step from having an SO to living with
someone. I will probably have a few exclusive relationships in my life,
but living together is a whole different thing. Second - he doesn't
necessarily have to be my SO (exclusive or otherwise) for me to sleep
with him.

>      Don'tcha think that 
>	  after a while he'll get tired of the 'go home in the morning'
>	  routine and maybe get the feeling of being used if he doesn't
>	  get to share in the rest of your life?  

	Whoa. First of all, the "going home in the morning routine" would be
mutual. In other words - I would probably be leaving his place just as
often as he would leave mine. Second - I make it perfectly clear to the
people that I date that I need the freedom to date and sleep with other
people. And if I began a relationship where that wasn't the case, I
would make it very clear from the beginning that I had no intention of
making this permament. And I certainly wouldn't only be sharing my body
with him. We would go out, and share our thoughts and feelings with each
other. Otherwise there wouldn't be a relationship to begin with. But
that doesn't mean that I would have to let him share all of my life. And
I never expect more from the other person in the relationship than I
give. But I can't give something that I really don't want to give.

	cheers -

	elizabeth g. purtell

	(Lady Godiva)

"I practice a lot when I'm alone."