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From: stone@masscomp.UUCP (Jonathan Stone)
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Subject: Re: Bisexuality anyone?
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Date: Mon, 19-Aug-85 18:08:23 EDT
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Posted: Mon Aug 19 18:08:23 1985
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Reply-To: stone@masscomp.UUCP (Jonathan Stone)
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Summary: 

Indeed yes, there are a number of married bisexuals out there.  I know of
quite a few, and am one myself (as is my wife).  Until now, I have been
one of the read-onlies referred to, primarily due to the prejudice
described in the previous article.  Much as those with both black and white
ancestry have in past places of racial hatred been termed "black"
as they were perceived to be "tainted", so too have I been seen as a 
"faggot" by homophobes.  Yet, I've also been perceived as straight
(and worse) by a great many gays and lesbians.   Surely, you must 
all be aware of examples of this strange brand of hatred.
	Even the previous article contained what I consider to be mis-
conceptions.  I don't see myself as "missing out" on anything, else I
would never have chosen monogamy (after entering into a life-long
monogamous heterosexual relationship, "marriage" seemed useful from a
legal point of view.  The associated philosophy is a different issue.)
I feel no more of a loss for having made a commitment to my wife on the
grounds that she is not a male, than I do that she is not a blond.
Despite the perceptions of some, I am not hiding from anything.  I have
simply fallen in love with a women, and I know full well that had she
been born male (or I female) the only difference (presuming our
personalties unchanged) would have been in the perceptions of others.
	I could easily blather on for pages, but while I might feel
somewhat purged, I am uncertain as to whether any would be interested.
I will close with a comment on language and such.
	My mother told me that regardless of my beliefs, since I was
born and raised a Jew I would be perceived by others as a Jew.   She
was referring of course to circumstances of prejudice, but since
bigotry still flurishes I feel her point to be well taken.  I call
myself a Jew because I identify with the culture in which I was raised
even though I do not share many of the beliefs which I consider
fundamental to Jewdaism.  Similarly, though my sex life is heterosexual
I percieve myself as gay.  By the way, I would be legitamately
interested in any arguments as to why I should not (there is no
"chip-on-the-shoulder" here, I'm looking for opinions and ideas.)