Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site reed.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!reed!purtell From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: re sex problem Message-ID: <1837@reed.UUCP> Date: Sun, 25-Aug-85 02:44:50 EDT Article-I.D.: reed.1837 Posted: Sun Aug 25 02:44:50 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 26-Aug-85 01:42:22 EDT References: <1296@hound.UUCP> <5290001@acf4.UUCP> <140@unc.unc.UUCP> <256@gymble.UUCP> <1828@reed.UUCP> <766@houxa.UUCP> Reply-To: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) Organization: Reed College, Portland, Oregon Lines: 44 Summary: In article <766@houxa.UUCP> pmbs@houxa.UUCP (P.BILODEAU) writes: > [I, Lady Godiva, wrote:] ><< I, on the other hand, would be ><< most happy living alone all the time. Now, sleeping alone all the time ><< is a different story... ><< > How is it that you are able to have a SO around so that > you will not be sleeping alone, yet not have to give up > your living alone? This question assumes that the person > that you would be sleeping with is a long time relationship and > probably would qualify to be a live-in. First of all, there is a big step from having an SO to living with someone. I will probably have a few exclusive relationships in my life, but living together is a whole different thing. Second - he doesn't necessarily have to be my SO (exclusive or otherwise) for me to sleep with him. > Don'tcha think that > after a while he'll get tired of the 'go home in the morning' > routine and maybe get the feeling of being used if he doesn't > get to share in the rest of your life? Whoa. First of all, the "going home in the morning routine" would be mutual. In other words - I would probably be leaving his place just as often as he would leave mine. Second - I make it perfectly clear to the people that I date that I need the freedom to date and sleep with other people. And if I began a relationship where that wasn't the case, I would make it very clear from the beginning that I had no intention of making this permament. And I certainly wouldn't only be sharing my body with him. We would go out, and share our thoughts and feelings with each other. Otherwise there wouldn't be a relationship to begin with. But that doesn't mean that I would have to let him share all of my life. And I never expect more from the other person in the relationship than I give. But I can't give something that I really don't want to give. cheers - elizabeth g. purtell (Lady Godiva) "I practice a lot when I'm alone."