Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site bigburd.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!rochester!cmu-cs-pt!cadre!psuvax1!burdvax!bigburd!kew From: kew@bigburd.UUCP (Karen Wieckert) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: What women want Message-ID: <2047@bigburd.UUCP> Date: Thu, 22-Aug-85 10:28:02 EDT Article-I.D.: bigburd.2047 Posted: Thu Aug 22 10:28:02 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 25-Aug-85 10:58:00 EDT References: <3498@decwrl.UUCP> <509@h-sc1.UUCP> <784@lll-crg.ARPA> Reply-To: kew@bigburd.UUCP (Karen Wieckert) Organization: sdc Lines: 30 In article <784@lll-crg.ARPA> simpson@lll-crg.UUCP (Rea simpson) writes: >In article <509@h-sc1.UUCP> desjardins@h-sc1.UUCP (marie desjardins) writes: >>.. women always think they want nice men, but for >>some reason, they are attracted to not-so-nice men at first. >>At some point, though, almost every woman gets really sick >>of these shitheads and then (hopefully) she can meet a nice >>guy and get on with her life. >Any idea why the above is true? I tend to agree with the statements ( they >apply to me too ) but I have no idea why this happens. >From my experience, part of it stems from the stereotypes of the perfect woman and perfect man which are drummed into our heads from an early age. I am not a model of the perfect woman which was or is now prevalent; I'm not sure who is. But I did think it would help to be involved with a model of the perfect man. You know, the "tall, dark and handsome" or the "strong, silent" or the "great provider" or whatever. So I went out with some real losers, jerks, weirdos, creeps, etc, passing over the gems or rejecting them because I wanted the "model man" to raise me on the "model woman" scale. It takes some time and maturity to figure out who you are, what's neat about youself, what's not so neat, how you don't live up to some ridiculous models of perfection and why that's okay, etc. Maybe after some number of these personal "revelations", the losers, jerks, weirdos, creeps, etc. are passed over for the "diamonds in the rough". (Enough cliches for y'all :-)) ka:ren