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From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: What Women want
Message-ID: <1801@reed.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 14-Aug-85 14:54:13 EDT
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Posted: Wed Aug 14 14:54:13 1985
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Reply-To: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Organization: Reed College, Portland, Oregon
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Summary: 

In article <3592@decwrl.UUCP> jackson@curium.DEC (Seth Jackson) writes:
>
>  [I wrote:]
>>   To an extent I'll agree with this. But you seem to think that you
>>know what women want more than we do, and I don't buy that at all. 
>
>I'm sorry that I gave you that impression. I'm not trying to say that
>I know what women want better than women do. I'm just saying that women
>(and men, too) often think that they want something and insist that they
>want something, but their actions indicate otherwise. 

     Ok. Sorry if I flamed a bit too much. I think I possibly did get
carried away a bit. Forgive me - it's been a bad week. And I agree, a
lot of people do do that. But rest assured - there are those of us who
do want what we say we want, at least most of the time.

>I agree with the person who wrote that my article should really have
>been called "What People Want". The only reason I picked on women in
>particular are 1) Being a heterosexual man, what women want is a topic
>of particular interest to me; and 2) Women seem to be a lot more vocal 
>than men about not being treated the way they want by the opposite sex. 
>This second point becomes a source of frustration to men like me who 
>try to please their women by giving them what they ask for, only to have
>it backfire.

    I can see where one would get tired of hearing people complain about
how they were being treated when one is doing one's best. People are
funny. I think that a big part of the problem is that sometimes (often)
people want two things that conflict. I have that problem sometimes. One
moment one of the desires is stronger, then later on the other one is.
I'm learning to recognise this and to think things out before I say that
I want either one. But I still make rash decisions sometimes. 

     cheers -

    elizabeth g. purtell

     (Lady Godiva)