Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site reed.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!reed!purtell From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: What Women want Message-ID: <1801@reed.UUCP> Date: Wed, 14-Aug-85 14:54:13 EDT Article-I.D.: reed.1801 Posted: Wed Aug 14 14:54:13 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 18-Aug-85 04:44:33 EDT References: <3592@decwrl.UUCP> Reply-To: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) Organization: Reed College, Portland, Oregon Lines: 38 Summary: In article <3592@decwrl.UUCP> jackson@curium.DEC (Seth Jackson) writes: > > [I wrote:] >> To an extent I'll agree with this. But you seem to think that you >>know what women want more than we do, and I don't buy that at all. > >I'm sorry that I gave you that impression. I'm not trying to say that >I know what women want better than women do. I'm just saying that women >(and men, too) often think that they want something and insist that they >want something, but their actions indicate otherwise. Ok. Sorry if I flamed a bit too much. I think I possibly did get carried away a bit. Forgive me - it's been a bad week. And I agree, a lot of people do do that. But rest assured - there are those of us who do want what we say we want, at least most of the time. >I agree with the person who wrote that my article should really have >been called "What People Want". The only reason I picked on women in >particular are 1) Being a heterosexual man, what women want is a topic >of particular interest to me; and 2) Women seem to be a lot more vocal >than men about not being treated the way they want by the opposite sex. >This second point becomes a source of frustration to men like me who >try to please their women by giving them what they ask for, only to have >it backfire. I can see where one would get tired of hearing people complain about how they were being treated when one is doing one's best. People are funny. I think that a big part of the problem is that sometimes (often) people want two things that conflict. I have that problem sometimes. One moment one of the desires is stronger, then later on the other one is. I'm learning to recognise this and to think things out before I say that I want either one. But I still make rash decisions sometimes. cheers - elizabeth g. purtell (Lady Godiva)