Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site pucc-h Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!lll-crg!dual!qantel!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!CS-Mordred!Pucc-H:aeq From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: seminar on "Preparing for Marriage": Expectations Message-ID: <2181@pucc-h> Date: Tue, 6-Aug-85 10:26:01 EDT Article-I.D.: pucc-h.2181 Posted: Tue Aug 6 10:26:01 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 11-Aug-85 07:21:14 EDT References: <2176@pucc-h> Organization: Purdue University Computing Center Lines: 53 EXPECTATIONS ARE THE SINGLE GREATEST ASSET OR LIABILITY ANY OF US BRING TO MARRIAGE. ACTIVITY TWO: YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF A PERSON On a 3x5 card describe the type person you expect in order to fulfill the vision of marriage you have. Be specific enough to list at least three qualities you would look for. (If married or engaged, remember back to what your expectations were beforehand.) ACTIVITY THREE: WHERE DO YOUR EXPECTATIONS COME FROM? A. Cultural conditioning plays an important part. B. Our own parents are a conditioning factor in our marriage expectations. C. Other married couples we encountered in our childhood are factors. D. For Christians, the Church can be a shaping factor of expectation. Spend a few minutes reflecting on the three questions below. Then share with your group of three people. Take about three minutes per person for your answers. 1. As you look back to the three traits you wrote on the card, where did they originate? Fairy tales? T.V.? Movies? Parents? Church? Other? 2. How did your parents shape your expectations for marriage? Was it a relationship you want to copy or has it made you afraid of marriage? Was it fun or boring? Calm or stormy? Constructive or destructive? 3. Can you think of a couple(s) who seemed to model an acceptable marriage for you? What was their main strength? What style of life/marriage did they have? WRAP-UP STATEMENTS "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect." (Romans 12:2) "We cannot get to the Promised Land without going through some desert on the way." "Most friendships and marriages go through a continuing cycle of major and minor phases of the classic three stages of love: DREAM, DISAPPOINTMENT, DISCOVERY." -- -- Jeff Sargent {decvax|harpo|ihnp4|inuxc|ucbvax}!pur-ee!pucc-h!aeq The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. (James 5:16) The prayer of a not-so-righteous man availeth sometimes.... (Rich McDaniel)