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From: wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: re sex problem
Message-ID: <372@rti-sel.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 23-Aug-85 11:27:57 EDT
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Posted: Fri Aug 23 11:27:57 1985
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Reply-To: wfi@rti-sel.UUCP (William Ingogly)
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In article <1828@reed.UUCP> purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) writes:

>      ... Does anyone think this is "unnatural"? I mean, does
>anyone out there think that it is really abnormal to not want to get
>married, or live with anyone ever? 

Of course there are people out there who believe this. There are also
people out there who believe there are invisible aliens in their bones 
telling them what to do. :-)

>                                 ...why does society seem to view
>someone who has never married/lived with someone as being possibly, "not
>emotionally well" or at the very least, deprived? Most of the people
>that I know want to get married someday. ...

Try talking to a few dedicated single people over 35. Not one of my
friends (or family, for that matter) would EVER think of questioning
why anyone chose to remain single. Most 20 year olds I know "want to
get married someday." They may change their tune after 50% of their
friends and family have gone through ugly divorces (my brother's on
his third marriage, for example).

The consensus you see on the 'healthiness' of marriage and living with
other people is restricted, I suspect, to the younger net.singles
crowd. I consider anyone who'd question another person's motives or
mental health on the basis of a lifestyle decision like this a nosy
anachronism who has a head problem. Or perhaps a young person who just
doesn't know any better. :-)

I, too, like people, but at the age of 38 I've had it with roommate
hassles. My life's half over. I've earned a right to my privacy and to
a private space I don't have to share with anyone else.

                           -- Cheers, Bill Ingogly