Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site rtech.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!lll-crg!dual!unisoft!mtxinu!rtech!jeff From: jeff@rtech.UUCP (Jeff Lichtman) Newsgroups: net.kids Subject: Re: My first baby Message-ID: <584@rtech.UUCP> Date: Fri, 2-Aug-85 01:30:59 EDT Article-I.D.: rtech.584 Posted: Fri Aug 2 01:30:59 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 11-Aug-85 05:06:54 EDT References: <3484@cornell.UUCP> Organization: Relational Technology, Alameda CA Lines: 25 > > Also, if I marry the baby's father, he'll have the right to tell me what > to do and how to bring up my child. On the other hand, if I don't marry him, > he'll be under no legal obligation to help out, but also won't be able to tell > me how to do things. I believe that the father has a legal obligation to support the child even if you're not married. It's his child too, you know. It may be hard to get him to live up to this, but the obligation is there, nonetheless. Someone please correct me if I'm wrong on this. Probably the best thing to do is talk to the father, and see how he feels about helping out with child support. If he's a decent person, he'll do what he can. If he refuses, then you *really* know you don't want to marry him. Also, why do you assume that marrying him will give him the right to tell you what to do? A marriage should be a partnership. This means that, when you have to make a decision that effects both of you, you discuss it and come to a mutual agreement. That is my view of marriage. -- Jeff Lichtman at rtech (Relational Technology, Inc.) aka Swazoo Koolak {amdahl, sun}!rtech!jeff {ucbvax, decvax}!mtxinu!rtech!jeff