Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site peora.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!vax135!petsd!peora!jer From: jer@peora.UUCP (J. Eric Roskos) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: re sex problem Message-ID: <1518@peora.UUCP> Date: Fri, 23-Aug-85 09:09:09 EDT Article-I.D.: peora.1518 Posted: Fri Aug 23 09:09:09 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 25-Aug-85 05:46:11 EDT References: <1296@hound.UUCP> <5290001@acf4.UUCP> <140@unc.unc.UUCP> <256@gymble.UUCP> <1828@reed.UUCP> Organization: Perkin-Elmer SDC, Orlando, Fl. Lines: 43 > I know that I posted something about this before, but I'm > intrigued. Is the general concensus out there that living alone is > unnatural, or at the very least, not preferable? In answering this, I'm not sure if by not "living alone" etc. you are referring to living with other people (e.g., a group of college students sharing a house), or living with someone of the opposite sex (or more generally, with a family) on a long-term, permanent basis. It's been my experience that living alone is much less stressful than living with other people; and that in fact, it gives a much less of a sense of loneliness. In particular, when I was a graduate student I shared a house with 4 other people. Eventually 2 of these (who were undergraduates) graduated and moved out, and the 1 remaining one often spent the night at his office or with his SO. I found that this situation tended to produce a significant sense of loneliness, since when people are always around, you are more conscious of when they are temporarily away. (This was, however, exacerbated substantially by other factors, e.g., that this house was in a very high-crime area, and often had strange people skulking outside in the shadows... some of whom eventually broke in, which was when I moved.) When I subsequently moved to my own apartment, I felt much less lonely, and much more healthy; since it was then possible to visit people, as before, but I also felt much more motivated to go out and look for people, rather than relying on the companionship of fellow-residents. As such, I tend to feel that living alone is probably more healthy for someone who does not have the security of guaranteed companionship (which married people, people with children, etc. have). On the other hand, my XSO insists that she could never live alone; that sharing a house with other people is what she wants to do always. Thus again I think this is a matter of the person's personality; but count my vote in favor of living alone. This opinion isn't meant preclude living with one other person, or a family, in a "married" situation. As I have gotten older that has gotten much more appealing. I think this is true in general; isn't there something in the daily comics about that at present? -- Shyy-Anzr: J. Eric Roskos UUCP: ..!{decvax,ucbvax,ihnp4}!vax135!petsd!peora!jer US Mail: MS 795; Perkin-Elmer SDC; 2486 Sand Lake Road, Orlando, FL 32809-7642 "Zbba Cvr!"