Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site pucc-h Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!lll-crg!dual!qantel!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!CS-Mordred!Pucc-H:aeq From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: seminar on "Preparing for Marriage" Message-ID: <2176@pucc-h> Date: Tue, 6-Aug-85 10:23:46 EDT Article-I.D.: pucc-h.2176 Posted: Tue Aug 6 10:23:46 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 11-Aug-85 07:20:21 EDT Organization: Purdue University Computing Center Lines: 42 A while back, my pastor and his wife, Roger and Lana Callahan, did a seminar on "Preparing for Marriage". Part of this I don't have the material from, since it was specifically for those who were approaching marriage (and thus I was not included). But I do have the material from the part which was open to anyone. I think it offers some useful insights and things to think about when people are thinking (at whatever degree of seriousness) about marrying. (And yes, I did obtain Roger's permission to post all this stuff, though it isn't copyrighted.) Note that this was written from a Christian's perspective; but most of the material in here is not at all specific to Christianity or any "religious" belief, just to the way humans operate. I am dividing the posting into six parts (corresponding to the six sides of the three sheets of paper they handed out). I will post them as followups to this article. They will include (they may not be posted, or arrive at your site, in this order): -- Starters: This was originally for use as conversation starters in the group environment of the seminar. However, the questions can be useful for an individual. -- Expectations: This asks you to focus on your expectations about marriage and where they came from. -- Questions: This list of 45 questions hits on a lot of topics that it would be wise to discuss before marrying. -- Quotations: Quotes from authors ranging from Thoreau to Woody Allen about love, sex, and marriage. -- Feelings: How to get in touch with your feelings so you can share them (obviously useful in other relationships as well as marriage). -- Matching: Match common accusations to what you're really feeling (useful for defusing arguments). -- -- Jeff Sargent {decvax|harpo|ihnp4|inuxc|ucbvax}!pur-ee!pucc-h!aeq The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. (James 5:16) The prayer of a not-so-righteous man availeth sometimes.... (Rich McDaniel)