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From: dowding@bigburd.UUCP (John Dowding)
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Subject: Re: The Value of Chutzpa
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Date: Tue, 20-Aug-85 11:26:03 EDT
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In article <107@unc.unc.UUCP> fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) writes:
>Chris Andersen:
>>>>	Frankly, if a women dismisses a guy JUST because he can't say "hello"
>>>>	without stuttering a little (a condition resulting from several years
>>>>	of being a "wimp"), then perhaps the women isn't even worth the try.
>
>Jane Caputo:
>>	I think it's a little strong to say she "isn't worth the try."
>>	But it's very realistic for someone like Chris, whose appeal is
>>	likely to be his sensitivity and warmth, to eliminate this woman.
>>	There's not likely to be much interest on either side.  
>
>But this woman is NOT rejecting Chris' sensitivity and warmth.
>She's rejecting his stuttering, his passivity and his inhibition.
>This woman might well LOVE to meet a man with sensitivity and warmth,
>provided it came wrapped differently.  Does Chris consider his stuttering
>to be an integral part of his personality?  Did he choose to stutter
>on philosophical or aesthetic grounds, or is it merely an accident
>of his upbringing?
>
>Jane Caputo:
>>	If you want "somebody special", then the best thing you can do is learn
>>	to telegraph what you really are.  Make sure your public image matches
>>	your private one as closely as possible, and give the right woman
>>	a chance to find you while you're looking for her.  
>
>I agree.  That's why Chris would do well to strengthen his public image.
>Somehow I don't believe that stuttering awkwardness accurately reflects
>Chris's true, inner self.  Or does it?
>
>	Frank Silbermann

I cant speak for Chris, but I also stutter, and I would say that it is a
very important part of who I am.  It is as important to understanding me as
any else.  If you are interested in my "true, inner self", and you ignore
the fact that I stutter, than you are missing something.  

It is impossible to tell from a distance which attributes of a person are
superficial, and which are not.  We certainly cant tell from a net
discussion.

John Dowding