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From: regard@ttidcc.UUCP (Adrienne Regard)
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: siblings witnessing delivery
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Date: Tue, 6-Aug-85 16:32:47 EDT
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Posted: Tue Aug  6 16:32:47 1985
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Re the discussion Steven started about siblings at birth of siblings:

Some of us are just plain selfish, and I for one am willing to admit it.
Being at the birth of her sibling may be a wonderful experience for my
seven year old, and may answer scads of questions for her BUT --

I am not going to undertake to "behave well" at the second birth in order
not to frighten her, and I haven't hours of time to do preparation with
her so that I can behave as I want at the time.  Similarly, I have no
desire to have video or still pictures taken.  Actually, I have little
desire to have the father present because there isn't much he can do to
help me get the job done besides worry, which is unnecessary (and would bug
me).  I've agreed to his presence with the caveat that if he begins to
interfere with MY way of delivering, out he goes. (He's a good guy.  I'm
sure it will work out fine).  He may be the father, but he's not the active
party and some jobs ya just gotta do your own way.

Some people work well as a part of a team, some are just too individualistic
to take coaching.

Anyhow, re the kid's presence, there are plenty of things that would be
good for my daughter -- sailing, horsebackriding, piano lessons and gym
come to mind.  Some I can do now, some I can't do/afford/etc., now.
Childbirth experience is something that would cost ME more than it would
benefit HER (yep, my judgement call, and I could easily be wrong.  It
ain't easy being a parent).

One opinion, which I am sure is not shared by all.  No flames necessary,
now my disclaimer is in place.