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From: jer@peora.UUCP (J. Eric Roskos)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: re sex problem
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Date: Fri, 23-Aug-85 09:09:09 EDT
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Posted: Fri Aug 23 09:09:09 1985
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>         I know that I posted something about this before, but I'm
> intrigued. Is the general concensus out there that living alone is
> unnatural, or at the very least, not preferable?

In answering this, I'm not sure if by not "living alone" etc. you are
referring to living with other people (e.g., a group of college students
sharing a house), or living with someone of the opposite sex (or more
generally, with a family) on a long-term, permanent basis.

It's been my experience that living alone is much less stressful than
living with other people; and that in fact, it gives a much less of a sense
of loneliness.  In particular, when I was a graduate student I shared a
house with 4 other people.  Eventually 2 of these (who were undergraduates)
graduated and moved out, and the 1 remaining one often spent the night at
his office or with his SO.  I found that this situation tended to produce a
significant sense of loneliness, since when people are always around, you
are more conscious of when they are temporarily away. (This was, however,
exacerbated substantially by other factors, e.g., that this house was in a
very high-crime area, and often had strange people skulking outside in the
shadows... some of whom eventually broke in, which was when I moved.)

When I subsequently moved to my own apartment, I felt much less lonely, and
much more healthy; since it was then possible to visit people, as before,
but I also felt much more motivated to go out and look for people, rather
than relying on the companionship of fellow-residents.  As such, I tend to
feel that living alone is probably more healthy for someone who does not have
the security of guaranteed companionship (which married people, people with
children, etc. have).

On the other hand, my XSO insists that she could never live alone; that
sharing a house with other people is what she wants to do always.  Thus
again I think this is a matter of the person's personality; but count my
vote in favor of living alone.  This opinion isn't meant preclude living
with one other person, or a family, in a "married" situation.  As I have
gotten older that has gotten much more appealing.  I think this is true in
general; isn't there something in the daily comics about that at present?
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