Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site abnji.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxj!mhuxh!mhuxv!abnji!nyssa From: nyssa@abnji.UUCP (nyssa of traken) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Your SO's friends and you Message-ID: <810@abnji.UUCP> Date: Sat, 17-Aug-85 16:07:59 EDT Article-I.D.: abnji.810 Posted: Sat Aug 17 16:07:59 1985 Date-Received: Tue, 20-Aug-85 05:44:38 EDT References: <467@moncol.UUCP> Organization: Terminus Hospital, Incorporated Lines: 49 > Just recently, another netter and I were exchanging e-mail about our >recent breakups with our respective SO's. Although the cases were very >different, they did have one thing in common- a dominant friend (or friends) >of the SO who contributed directly to the breakup. I am the other bloke. The breakup with my XSO was precipitated by another person. (From what I've been able to conclude; I have no evidence except that of my own experience.) My X and my nemesis became friends after we met through working together (volunteer) at conventions at something I wasn't trained to do. (My X has a broadcasting license, and interviewed the guests.) The nature of that work requires some security, in order to protect the privacy of the guests. Through my nemesis's urging, I was excluded from that knowledge, as well, even though I had frequently shown myself as quite trustworthy. Alas, my X began to expand this secretiveness to all aspects with which she dealt with my nemesis, as this covered much of the basis of our friendship, I soon was getting nothing by way of confidence from her. The blow-up occurred just over a month ago. I planned to take my X to con in New Orleans so that we could enjoy one together. Shortly after making all the arrangements, my X told me that my nemesis would be going as well. As it turns out, in New Orleans my X left at 9AM the first day and spent much of the first day with my nemesis. By then, I was furious, when I finally saw her in the lobby at 7PM, I told her that if she was going to spend all her time with my nemesis, perhaps she should move out of the room. Our voices were not civil. (I have never been that angry before in my life.) I haven't heard much of anything from her since. The basic problem here was one where her friend appeared to undermine my X's trust of me. Why she did that, I don't know. I've since discovered that my nemesis is in the process of undermining another local fan group, it would appear to me that she is out for power. The one time the three of us were in the same building, the two of them played a little childish game to try to hurt me. It failed. Any other coments? -- James C. Armstrong, Jnr. {ihnp4,cbosgd,akgua}!abnji!nyssa "If she doesn't scream, the wedding can take place!" Doctor "Don't I have a say in the matter?" female companion "Be quiet" Doctor Which companion, what story?