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From: tim@unisoft.UUCP (Tim Bessie)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: What net.singles is for
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Date: Tue, 13-Aug-85 19:34:28 EDT
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Posted: Tue Aug 13 19:34:28 1985
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In article <556@leadsv.UUCP> mfe@leadsv.UUCP (Mark Ellson) writes:
>
>I find that I must agree with Chuqui regarding the state of affairs in
>net.singles today.  I strongly believe that everyone should be entitled to
>their own opinions and beliefs, but I am offended by people who attempt to
>convince another person to change their beliefs by ridiculing those beliefs.
>
>Chuqui's description of net.singles is:
>> 					 a place where people could get
>> together and discuss the practical realities of being a person in today's
>> world. It was a support center for people going through difficult times. It
>> was a place for friends to get together and try to make life just a bit
>> more tolerable in a callous world.
>
>This is the kind of place that is both pleasant and thought provoking to
>visit.  Unfortunately, net.singles seems to be temporarily diverted from
>this concept.  I hope that the group as a whole can sit back, take a deep
>breath, and start again without the proselytizing and one-ups-manship that
>I have seen recently.

I agree, and I would really like to see some of the people who have been
carrying on many of these futile arguments (on color analysis, control
of emotions, etc.) say exactly WHY they feel it is so damn important
to state, restate, clarify, reclarify, defend, yell, scream, ... ad infinitum
these subjects which, when you get down to it, can only take a certain
amount of discussion before most people concede, "Oh well, I guess it
depends on the individual."

It seems to me that the subjects that get the most traffic in this
group are ones that must, by their very nature, end up with this kind of
concession.  I for one would learn a lot more about PEOPLE (which is why
I read this group) if people would post their own experiences instead of
going on for pages and pages about the theoretical implications of their
personal philosophies.  It is much more interesting to hear about something
that happened in someone's life -- and how it affected the way they think --
than to hear someone say "I think it is more useful to think THIS way,"
or "People are like THIS," or "I think you are wrong when you say that,
BECAUSE..."  This doesn't get us anywhere, it isn't fun to read (I usually
skip over 'em when I see 'em), and I don't learn anything new
from them.

Since this article is starting to stray into that realm which I am
saying we need less of (though I'm trying to look at net.singles from the
outside-in, in this case), I'll write no more on it.  Please consider.

					- Tim


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