Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83 based; site hound.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!lll-crg!dual!qantel!ihnp4!houxm!hound!ganns From: ganns@hound.UUCP (R.GANNS) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: re a sex problem Message-ID: <1289@hound.UUCP> Date: Thu, 8-Aug-85 08:29:06 EDT Article-I.D.: hound.1289 Posted: Thu Aug 8 08:29:06 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 12-Aug-85 05:21:19 EDT Organization: AT&T Bell Labs, Holmdel NJ Lines: 20 I have lived through similar situations too. I believe that the only real solution to this kind of problem is simply to have an adult-to-adult conversation with the individual(s) involved-- assuming that this is possible. For me, there is nothing worse than having my sleep frequently disturbed; it has far-reaching effects on the quality of my life, and I would make this point to anyone who is making regular ruckuses. Perhaps you could offer to trade rooms with them, so that they would be downstairs. Maybe they could make love earlier, when you're not trying to sleep, or maybe they could just do it elsewhere. I think that, unless they are exhibitionists, they will probably cooperate with you; maybe they don't realize how noisy they are. If all civil approaches fail, then see if other people nearby are also bothered, and maybe more pressure from others nearby will help solve the problem. If all else fails, call the landlord, or just move somewhere else. Whatever you do, don't put it off--these kinds of problems are best dealt with in the early stages; if allowed to continue, the offending parties will come to assume that they have a "right" to do what they're doing, and it will just be harder to approach rationally and calmly.