Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site unc.unc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!mcnc!unc!fsks From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: What women want Message-ID: <146@unc.unc.UUCP> Date: Wed, 14-Aug-85 12:14:14 EDT Article-I.D.: unc.146 Posted: Wed Aug 14 12:14:14 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 17-Aug-85 16:12:56 EDT References: <3498@decwrl.UUCP> <509@h-sc1.UUCP> <784@lll-crg.ARPA> Reply-To: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Organization: CS Dept, U. of N. Carolina, Chapel Hill Lines: 50 Summary: marie desjardins park: >> From what I have observed in myself and many others, >>women always think they want nice men, but for some reason, >>they are attracted to not-so-nice men at first. >> >> At some point, though, almost every woman gets really sick >>of these shitheads and then (hopefully) she can meet a nice >>guy and get on with her life. >> >> It's just that if a nice guy meets a woman before she's >>hit this point, it's probably hopeless. Rea simpson: >Any idea why the above is true? I tend to agree with the statements >(they apply to me too) but I have no idea why this happens. I have one hypothesis: Many women really want a man who is both nice and extremely sexy. It takes time to read a person's character, but his sex appeal can be read in a flash. Since women will quickly try to snap up such a man, these types are rarely available (especially to women who are not equally well rounded). This means that most of the AVAILABLE men you meet will be either sexy or nice, but not both (you wouldn't likely consider a man who was neither). Nevertheless, for quite a while, you persist in seeking a man who has it all. To speed your search, you immediately screen out those men who are not sexy (after all, if he's not sexy, then how could he be both sexy and nice?). What's left is a bunch of sexy rats. If you're lucky, there may be a gem somewhere in the batch, but it will take a lot of sorting through to find him. What makes this especially heartbreaking, is that cruel and selfish traits take so long to surface. Because it's in his self-interest to win your love, the rat will pretend to be a nice guy -- for a while. Eventually, you give up your search for the perfect man and settle for some old friend who doesn't excite you that much, but whom you know you can trust. But he doesn't have a chance until you give up your quest to "have it all". One way for a nice men to short-circuit this dilemma is to stop trying to rely niceness alone and learn to project some sex appeal. This will be good for the women, since there will be more sexy-AND-nice men to go around. Frank Silbermann