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From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann)
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Subject: Re: "The Invisible Partners"
Message-ID: <129@unc.unc.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 11-Aug-85 16:35:09 EDT
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Posted: Sun Aug 11 16:35:09 1985
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Reply-To: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann)
Organization: CS Dept, U. of N. Carolina, Chapel Hill
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Summary: 

In article <2602@sun.uucp> sunny@sun.uucp (Ms. Sunny Kirsten) writes:
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>Will you let yourself be defined by your culture?  or will you be a self-
>defined, self motivated, self actualized individual, and enact the behavior
>which you feel is appropriate for you as an individual, and then accept the
>same from those around you, and together constitute a culture?

The self-defined, self-motivated, self-actualized self-image is an illusion.
Even non-conformists fulfil culturally defined roles. The question to ask
yourself is which of society's roles is best for you, taking into consideration
your ability to play the role, and whether you get from it what you want.

>The feminine and masculine gender roles *are* entirely relative to the culture
>in which they are defined.  In some cultures a given behavior is classified as
>feminine, in another culture it is classified as masculine, and in yet another
>culture, it is not classified as either.

So when you leave one culture and join another, it may be advantageous
to change your behavior.

	Frank Silbermann