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From: cly@cbdkc1.UUCP (Carl Yaffey)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Long-distance relationships
Message-ID: <1105@cbdkc1.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 20-Aug-85 14:50:36 EDT
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Posted: Tue Aug 20 14:50:36 1985
Date-Received: Sat, 24-Aug-85 00:28:35 EDT
Reply-To: cly@cbdkc1.UUCP (Carl Yaffey)
Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories, Columbus
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I have tried long-distance relationships (LDR) in the past
with little success and much pain. I have now found a way to make
them work for me. It's mostly the way I look at it. I used
to think of an LDR as a relationship with all of the same
potential as a local relationship. That led to disaster since
it was NOT easy to have the closeness and communication needed.
I always got disappointed. Now, I look at an LDR as limited
and act and think accordingly. An LDR can be fun, exciting, adventurous,
pleasing, rewarding, etc., etc. It is also possible that one can 
turn into a local relationship (as has been proven on the net!),
but I don't expect it any longer. I explain where I'm at before getting
into an LDR, and only do so with like-minded females. I am currently in 
several such LDRs and am VERY happy these days! By the way, none of 
them has been via the net. They are all as a result of attending a camp for
single people that I go twice a year. 
This way of looking at LDRs may not be comfortable for everybody. It's largly
a product of my wanting a lot of space and freedom in general.
This kind of LDR fits nicely with that for me.

-- 
Carl Yaffey at AT&T Bell Laboratories Columbus, Ohio 
614-860-3399 cbosgd!cbdkc1!cly