Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site lasspvax.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!vax135!cornell!lasspvax!chu From: chu@lasspvax.UUCP (Clare Chu) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: SO's in the medical profession Message-ID: <469@lasspvax.UUCP> Date: Mon, 19-Aug-85 21:16:07 EDT Article-I.D.: lasspvax.469 Posted: Mon Aug 19 21:16:07 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 24-Aug-85 01:00:40 EDT Reply-To: chu@lasspvax.UUCP (Clare Chu) Organization: LASSP, Cornell University Lines: 37 Keywords: aargh! Summary: References: Perhaps this can be a starting point for new discussions? I don't know how many of you are in this situation, but it can get quite aggravating. My fiance is a third year medical student. Through the last three years I have been very patient and understanding, doing all the traveling to go see him and not bothering him when he has tests or is on call. In June he took the National Boards Part I. As it turns out he flunked it. About a month ago, he called me and desperately wanted me to go comfort him. Now he's studying for them again and still wants me to see him. However he says that if he flunks it again, he'll disappear from society--leave his parents and friends ( me included)... Now what am I supposed to do? There really is nothing that I can do except accept it. However he'll most likely pass them and in that case he wants me to think about marrying him. Is this a bit bizarre? He says the other medical students are just as hyper has he is. One girl fainted at the test, a friend passed out when he got his scores... Anyway I'm sort of in limbo, aren't I? What should I do? Maybe if I'm really self-actualized I'd just not worry about it. But it seems a catch-22. If I drop him now, he'll get depressed and then blame me if he flunks again. If he passes, he'll say that I didn't have faith in him. I would just rather stick with him, and that would be allright if he passes, but if he doesn't...I'll feel even more hurt because I would be the one who was dropped. The thing that makes this so tough is that we get along great and really care for each other and that his leaving has nothing to do with me...(boo hoo hoo) :-( this is not a joke...it's for real any suggestions will be appreciated -Clare p.s. I really liked San Diego when I was there...so why did I end up with a Puerto Rican from the Bronx?