Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site ttidcc.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!ttidca!ttidcc!regard From: regard@ttidcc.UUCP (Adrienne Regard) Newsgroups: net.kids Subject: siblings witnessing delivery Message-ID: <640@ttidcc.UUCP> Date: Tue, 6-Aug-85 16:32:47 EDT Article-I.D.: ttidcc.640 Posted: Tue Aug 6 16:32:47 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 8-Aug-85 00:13:04 EDT Organization: TTI, Santa Monica, CA. Lines: 30 Re the discussion Steven started about siblings at birth of siblings: Some of us are just plain selfish, and I for one am willing to admit it. Being at the birth of her sibling may be a wonderful experience for my seven year old, and may answer scads of questions for her BUT -- I am not going to undertake to "behave well" at the second birth in order not to frighten her, and I haven't hours of time to do preparation with her so that I can behave as I want at the time. Similarly, I have no desire to have video or still pictures taken. Actually, I have little desire to have the father present because there isn't much he can do to help me get the job done besides worry, which is unnecessary (and would bug me). I've agreed to his presence with the caveat that if he begins to interfere with MY way of delivering, out he goes. (He's a good guy. I'm sure it will work out fine). He may be the father, but he's not the active party and some jobs ya just gotta do your own way. Some people work well as a part of a team, some are just too individualistic to take coaching. Anyhow, re the kid's presence, there are plenty of things that would be good for my daughter -- sailing, horsebackriding, piano lessons and gym come to mind. Some I can do now, some I can't do/afford/etc., now. Childbirth experience is something that would cost ME more than it would benefit HER (yep, my judgement call, and I could easily be wrong. It ain't easy being a parent). One opinion, which I am sure is not shared by all. No flames necessary, now my disclaimer is in place.