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From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: What women want
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Date: Thu, 22-Aug-85 17:42:37 EDT
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Posted: Thu Aug 22 17:42:37 1985
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Reply-To: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Organization: Reed College, Portland, Oregon
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Summary: 

In article <1506@peora.UUCP> jer@peora.UUCP (J. Eric Roskos) writes:

>I've observed that
>many college students (male and female) tend to date people who make the
>most impression on their friends.  Why they do this varies.  
>[...]
>I note, incidentally, that this is almost always almost entirely a function
>of the age of the person involved, rather than other factors such as
>experience with a diversity of people, etc.  Women who date "older" men,
>for example, I have observed to also have this tendency, eventhough they
>often consider themselves more "sophisticated" in some sense.  
>[...]
>You can add your own examples to balance it out.]

	Ok - Here's some views from the other side. Speaking as a college
student who dates older men, (anywhere between five and twenty years
older than I at the moment) I can say with all honesty that I don't do
it to impress my friends or to feel sophisticated. The men that I date
are very nice, and if I do go out with someone who isn't so nice (first
impressions can be wrong) I don't go out with him again. The reason that
I do go out with older men is that *for the most part* (and yes, there
are exceptions) I find older men more mature, more knowledgeable, and
more interesting than men my age. There are men my age that I find
interesting, and there are older men whom I find immature and/or
uninteresting (sadly, the latter is more often true than the former.)
but it's a good general statement, from my experience.

I have on occasion (twice to be exact) dated men who really weren't very 
nice. The reasons were a combination of feeling somewhat depressed and 
insecure at the time, and feeling sorry for the men. I think that it was 
a lot more the second one than the first. It's very tough to break up with 
someone when they threaten to kill themselves if you do, even if they are 
being quite mean to you. Incidentally - both of these people were very
close to my age. (Just as proof that I didn't continue dating them to
impress my friends.)

	cheers -

	elizabeth g. purtell

	(Lady Godiva)