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From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: friendship vs. SOship
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Date: Wed, 3-Jul-85 17:16:55 EDT
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Posted: Wed Jul  3 17:16:55 1985
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In article  chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen) writes:
>>>	Where does a friendship end and an SOship begin?

In article <510@unc.UUCP> fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) writes:
>>	With the beginning of sexual behavior.  That's why "SO" ought to stand
>>	for "Sex Object."  Since people don't like to be thought of as objects,
>>	perhaps we should change it to "SS" for "Sex Subject."

In article  chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen) writes:
>	Okay, then what is sexual behaviour?
>	Does a hug count as sexual behaviour?
>	How about a kiss?  Holding hands?  Snuggling?

There are no absolute standards here, it depends on what culture
or subculture you are in.  For instance, in France, platonic friends
do all of the above.  And in some subcultures of Californica,
casual friends have sex, as well.

The term "SO" is usually used by monogamous or nearly monogamous people.
Assuming you fit that category, simply list your behaviors according to
increasing intimacy.  As you go down the list, you'll eventually reach
behaviors that you do not do with most of your friends.  When you get
to one that you rarely do with more than one person in any given week,
well that's where to draw the line.

	Frank Silbermann