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From: paveleck@ihlpl.UUCP (Bob Paveleck)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Aggressiveness
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Date: Fri, 12-Jul-85 14:08:08 EDT
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Posted: Fri Jul 12 14:08:08 1985
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Here's my 2 cents on the question of how men feel about women who are
"aggressive" (depending on how you choose to define that term).

If you take initiating activities, making calls, etc. as "aggressive"
behavior in women, then I'm 100% for it.  I know that many women
already feel comfortable doing these things, but there are still a
significant number of women (at least in my experiences) who don't
(because of shyness, fear of being thought of as "easy" or just
blind adherence to the old social norms they were raised with).
I happen to think that this kind of "aggressive" behavior would be
beneficial for men as well as women, as it just makes for better
communication among people.  Although I can accept the fact that
a woman might be uncomfortable "making the first move", I'm saddened
that such a woman would still be afraid to be "aggressive" even
after she had known the man for a while (i. e., either dated him
a few times or was otherwise friendly with him).  I figure that
since I consider women to be equal in every way to men, their
fear of initiating activities or otherwise contributing to the
planning of a date (their fear of behaving "aggressively") is
both irrational and unnecessary.

Bob Paveleck
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