Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site SCIRTP.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!mcnc!rti-sel!SCIRTP!todd From: todd@SCIRTP.UUCP (Todd Jones) Newsgroups: net.kids Subject: Re: Pajamas needed? Message-ID: <194@SCIRTP.UUCP> Date: Fri, 28-Jun-85 14:17:13 EDT Article-I.D.: SCIRTP.194 Posted: Fri Jun 28 14:17:13 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 30-Jun-85 03:30:22 EDT References: <1201@utcsri.UUCP> Distribution: net Organization: SCI Systems, Research Triangle Park, NC Lines: 56 > Hi all, > My wife and I are about to have our first baby and want the worlds (?) > opinion on this topic. We've gotten used to sleeping without anything on > (i.e. nude). Is this acceptable with kids? We plan to wear things to > wander about the house, but I understand kids will come into their parent's > room uninvited. Also, I read that kids get embarrassed by seeing parents > nude. > > > Brad Myers Living in the south, and being stingy with air conditioning, My wife and I often sleep nude. Being the parents of a one year old and a four year old, we often allow them to sleep with us from, say 5:30 a.m. on, rather than have them scream us awake. My experience has shown me a couple of interesting things: Parental fears of rolling over while sleeping and smothering their kids are so ingrained that, even while sleeping, parents avoid excessive movement. This tendency is so extreme that parents gradually move to the farthest edges of the bed while junior gets to spread out. Result: junior gets a marvelous rest while mom and dad feel like they've travelled cross country in the back seat of a compact car. Junior, on the other hand, thinks nothing of thrashing about in mom and dad's bed to achieve maximum comfort. During this thrashing, junior's feet inevitably find dad's "tender aone" and cause dad to rudely awaken. Dad soon learns to sleep on his side when junior is in bed, to avoid gonad-battering. The issue of mom and dad being naked is, to our four year old, rather silly, but he doesn't find it embarassing. He defines the nudity by the nudist: mom and dad are fine in the nude, but other people naked are unnacceptable. He feels fine in the nude, if mom and dad are the only observers, otherwise he gets severly embarassed. I guess he is learning about privacy and exercising his rights to privacy. My experience indicates it's fine to let your kids sleep with you, even if you sleep nude. But, I finally put my foot down when I realized my sleep was getting severely compromised. Now our kids get in bed with us from 5:30 to 6:30 a.m. and we wake up together. This way we have familial closeness and the kids still learn to sleep by themselves. Remember however, as a parent you are no longer entitled to normal sleep habits for several years :-). ||||| || || [ O-O ] Todd Jones \ ^ / {decvax,akgua}!mcnc!rti-sel!scirtp!todd | _ | |___|