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From: dbw@sdcsvax.UUCP (Dave Wollner)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Just how far can friendship go?
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Date: Thu, 11-Jul-85 15:31:09 EDT
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Summary: 

In case you really need to be reminded of this discussion, it regards
hugs and physical affection.  I don't like including three pages of
reiteration at the beginning of articles.

Why is it that most people on this net seem to discuss only
physical relations (NOT sexual relations) with the opposite sex.
So far I have only noticed one person who will dare to hug both
men and women.  Thanks Snoopy, I knew there were reasonable people
in this world.  It's true that a physical relation with someone
who you can never be sexually interested in will not lead to
SOship, but it can be rewarding, and fulfill some of those RDA's.

Are most people looking solely for a sexual relation, and so rule
out anyone who might not fit?  This would lend credence to the argument
that the two of you are denying yourselves something you really want.
I have decided for myself that I would rather have a few extra physical
relations in order to get my daily requirement of affection.  From the
physical relations, there are a couple of possibilities of sexual
relations, but somehow it doesn't seem so urgent to push it into that
realm.

I also agree that the beginning of SOship is when the two of you
decide on it.  Sex is just an act and not a consummation.  It has
no meaning in and of itself.  The interpretations that we give to
sex cause all the trouble.

I vote in favor of a hug party, but given the wide dispersal of netters,
I don't think it would work.  I have sent hugs over the net to people,
so if you need it, consider yourself hugged.  If it's not enough
then look over at the person at the terminal next to you.  If they are
also reading this article, give them a hug.  You'll both feel better
for it.

	- dbw