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From: steven@luke.UUCP (Steven List)
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: Re: Pajamas needed?
Message-ID: <257@luke.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 29-Jun-85 19:24:35 EDT
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Posted: Sat Jun 29 19:24:35 1985
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In article <711@ihlpg.UUCP> sed408@ihlpg.UUCP (s. dugan) writes:
>> We've gotten used to sleeping without anything on
>> (i.e. nude).  Is this acceptable with kids?
>> Brad Myers
>As for having your kids
>see you naked, I think many people have various opinions on this subject
>ranging from ABSOLUTELY NEVER, FROM BIRTH TO DEATH.  Others (myself included)
>tend to be a little more reasonable.  Some think that it's not bad for kids to
>see the parent of the same sex, but probably shouldn't see the parent of the
>opposite sex.  THat's the way it was in my home when I was growing up.  I
>guess I've carried that on with my daughter.  
>Sarah E. Dugan

Isn't it wonderful that, no matter what your question, someone out here
has an opinion to suit you?  For myself (and my wife) nudity has never
been a problem.  Our children (Sarah/4 and Matthew/2) have seen both of us
naked from (their) birth.  When Sarah was small she took baths with her
mother.  When she got a little older, she started taking showers with
me.

We've both agreed that Sarah will be the one to determine when
things change.  When she gets uncomfortable or awkward, we'll change.
The same is true of Matthew.  He has taken showers and/or baths with
each of us.  We tend to wander around nude (except when we have company)
without any concern.

My feeling is that if no special emphasis is placed on nudity or its
relationship to sexuality, our children will grow without any biases.
They will have the freedom to form their own rules and feelings, without
pressure from us.  They certainly have no qualms about running around
naked themselves (first thing in the door - SHAZAM - nudidity!).

As for them coming in during...  When Sarah was small, she would
frequently end up in our bed in the early morning.  We found that if we
didn't make a big deal of it ("Turn your eyes, sweetheart, Mommy and
Daddy want to scratch each others' backs."), she would just fall asleep
even WITH all the activity.  When Matthew was born, Sarah was too old to
permit us the same freedom.

All in all, you have to do what feels comfortable to YOU.  Your child
will, of course, be influenced.  But if you are uncomfortable it doesn't
matter what you do, your child will be affected by your discomfort.
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