Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site sdcsvax.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!mtuxo!mtunh!mtung!mtunf!ariel!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!hplabs!sdcrdcf!sdcsvax!dbw From: dbw@sdcsvax.UUCP (Dave Wollner) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Just how far can friendship go? Message-ID: <979@sdcsvax.UUCP> Date: Thu, 11-Jul-85 15:31:09 EDT Article-I.D.: sdcsvax.979 Posted: Thu Jul 11 15:31:09 1985 Date-Received: Wed, 17-Jul-85 07:29:26 EDT References: <317@azure.UUCP> <800@vax2.fluke.UUCP> <1371@hammer.UUCP> <1671@reed.UUCP> Reply-To: dbw@sdcsvax.UUCP (David Wollner) Distribution: net Organization: EECS Dept. U.C. San Diego Lines: 34 Summary: In case you really need to be reminded of this discussion, it regards hugs and physical affection. I don't like including three pages of reiteration at the beginning of articles. Why is it that most people on this net seem to discuss only physical relations (NOT sexual relations) with the opposite sex. So far I have only noticed one person who will dare to hug both men and women. Thanks Snoopy, I knew there were reasonable people in this world. It's true that a physical relation with someone who you can never be sexually interested in will not lead to SOship, but it can be rewarding, and fulfill some of those RDA's. Are most people looking solely for a sexual relation, and so rule out anyone who might not fit? This would lend credence to the argument that the two of you are denying yourselves something you really want. I have decided for myself that I would rather have a few extra physical relations in order to get my daily requirement of affection. From the physical relations, there are a couple of possibilities of sexual relations, but somehow it doesn't seem so urgent to push it into that realm. I also agree that the beginning of SOship is when the two of you decide on it. Sex is just an act and not a consummation. It has no meaning in and of itself. The interpretations that we give to sex cause all the trouble. I vote in favor of a hug party, but given the wide dispersal of netters, I don't think it would work. I have sent hugs over the net to people, so if you need it, consider yourself hugged. If it's not enough then look over at the person at the terminal next to you. If they are also reading this article, give them a hug. You'll both feel better for it. - dbw