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From: jer@peora.UUCP (J. Eric Roskos)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social
Subject: Re: Salemanship
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Date: Tue, 2-Jul-85 11:31:57 EDT
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> Besides, what about the problem of _INITIATING_ a relationship,
> i.e. getting that first date?  I will agree that coldly manipulative
> people do not do so well in relationships over the long haul, but
> they often do well at starting relationships.

Frank, I will agree with you for a change!  This has always seemed a sad
thing for me; that having known many male-type people very well, and a
reasonable number of female-type people fairly well, I have observed many
times that reasonably intelligent female-type people still get easily
"taken in" by the male-type people with the cleverest "sales pitches,"
eventhough often those were the ones I (personally) thought were the less-
desirable people (due to their tendency to distort things in a way intended
to look the best).  (And have also observed that in the long run many times
things did not work out all that well, for that reason.)

However, maybe this is just the old "what does he/she see in her/him"
question.  I must confess that I have an extreme dislike for people who
don't tell me the truth about things, and this is largely why I perceived
the above-mentioned people as "less desirable".  At the same time I have
seen that many people seem to exist in a frame of reference in which this
distortion-of-reality is expected, even desirable, and although this is
a frame of reference I don't understand, perhaps it is no less reasonable
than mine...

Just part of the infinite human variability, I guess.
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