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From: rafferty@cmu-cs-edu1.ARPA (Colin Rafferty)
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Subject: Re: Parents & Arranged Marriages
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Date: Sun, 23-Jun-85 20:21:03 EDT
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[Sunil Trivedi]
>   Reasons why a guy would take a girl poorer than himself include:
> 	1) girl is very doscile and can be 'molded' easily to fit into
> 	   guy's family.
> 	2) girl is very good-looking (everyone wants to have attractive
> 	   children and grand-children).

How about: "3) Girl is witty, fun to be with, and he is in love with her."
Oh no, that can't be right, love doesn't count in marriages.
 
>   Reasons why a girl would take a guy poorer than herself include:
> 	1) girl is 'priced out' of the marriage market.  This includes
> 	   widows and divorcees.
> 	2) guy is well-educated and/or lives abroads.

Ditto with this.

>   As noted by Prentiss Riddle (riddle@ut-sally), a marriage is actually
>   a marriage of families so when I mention 'Reasons why a ...', I am
>   also referring to their families.

Does that mean that if someone wanted to get married, his/her parents saying
no would mean he/she won't?  That seems a little odd to me.  When I get
married, it will be because I love that girl, not because she came from my
income bracket, or my parents like her.  I'm sorry, it's my life, not theirs.

As for the idea of marrying only from a different social class: we will both
be in the same boat after we get married.

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            Colin Rafferty { Math Department, Carnegie-Mellon University }

"I may not agree with your ideas, but I will defend to the death your right
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