Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 exptools; site ihlpg.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxn!ihnp4!ihlpg!jeand From: jeand@ihlpg.UUCP (AMBAR) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Just how far can friendship go? Message-ID: <752@ihlpg.UUCP> Date: Wed, 3-Jul-85 15:51:05 EDT Article-I.D.: ihlpg.752 Posted: Wed Jul 3 15:51:05 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 4-Jul-85 05:40:11 EDT References: <317@azure.UUCP> Distribution: net Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories Lines: 35 > > Mainly I'm concerned with the physical aspects of a relationship. That is, > just how physical can friends be before they can no longer be considered > just friends? I think this would have a lot to do with the cultures of the two people in question, as well as just what the 'physicality' (ech, anyone have a better term?) means to each. I've lived in Miami for the past four years. The heavy influx of Cuban immigrants there has definitely transformed it into a more "Latin" culture. I share this culture (I am Puerto Rican.) However, I spent the majority of my "formative years" in Ohio. Now for the point (aren't you GLAD? ;-)) I see the Latin culture as being far more physical among (hug and kiss greetings are normal among friends of either/both sexes). The midwestern- American culture is a lot more reserved. Were I to hug a Miami friend of mine in greeting, it would be perfectly normal behavior for our friendship, and not at all a come-on. Were I to do the same with an equally close friend in Ohio, we would get, at best, strange looks. So much for analysis of culture. Now, if two individuals are both particularly physical in their expressions of friendship, they may hug, caress, hold, and so on, and not care what ANYONE else thinks (which is nice.) "Somehow I think I've confused the issue." -- AMBAR {the known universe}!ihnp4!ihlpg!jeand "You shouldn't let people drive you crazy when you know it's within walking distance."