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From: rap@oliven.UUCP (Robert A. Pease)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Re: Just how far can friendship go?
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Date: Mon, 15-Jul-85 02:56:39 EDT
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>> In college this past year, I got to know a female student who hung out at the
>> campus radio station like I did.
>> . . . we hugged quite often.  We played (for lack of a better term)
>> snugglebunnies on the coach.
>> . . .  About the most we ever did was just shy of kissing (on the lips).     
>
>> Now I just want to know why I can't seem
>> to have this kind of relationship with others of the opposite sex?  
>
>> Chris Andersen (aka "The Stranger")
> 
> Mainly because most people can't do all that without turning on,
> and at that point they want to finish what they've started.

BINGO!!  Thats the exact problem that I  have  right  now.  I  have  a
friend  who  moved  in  with  me three months ago.  We have known each
other for many years and have always  been  touching.  Its  also  been
just  short  of  sex.  This  seems to be just fine for her, but I have
gotten rather attached to her and find that I do have sexual  feelings
for her.

I know that we have some kind of committment,  because  we  have  been
talking  about  moving  lately  and she tells me that she'll move just
about anywhere in the world with me.

Sometimes I feel like she would be receptive and sometimes I feel like
she wouldn't, but I know that if I tried to make a sexual relationship
out of what we have I could ruin a GREAT friendship.

So, yeah, we touch and have back and foot rub sessions and hug and  do
lots  of  things  together,  but I've gotten to the point where I want
more and right now I feel frusterated.
-- 

					Robert A. Pease
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