Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version nyu B notes v1.5 12/10/84; site csd2.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!gamma!epsilon!zeta!sabre!bellcore!decvax!genrad!mit-eddie!think!harvard!seismo!cmcl2!csd2!dimitrov From: dimitrov@csd2.UUCP (Isaac Dimitrovsky) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Aggressiveness, Women, Logic Message-ID: <3850019@csd2.UUCP> Date: Mon, 15-Jul-85 21:35:00 EDT Article-I.D.: csd2.3850019 Posted: Mon Jul 15 21:35:00 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 18-Jul-85 07:38:56 EDT Organization: New York University Lines: 36 [] > Hmmm, I suppose this is true, but I have generally found that men PREFER to > be the one making the moves. It just so happens that I am a somewhat > aggressive female, and many of the men I know and/or have pursued find me > intimidating. (I have been told about this directly by close male friends.) > I know a lot of men claim to want women to make the first move, but in > practice I find it disturbs many of them. (Of course, some of them think > it's wonderful!) I have difficulty following the logic (constructive or classical :-)) in this note. Running this through a simple filter would produce: [note to avoid mistaken impression - this is not true of me at all] Hmmm, I suppose this is true, but I have generally found that women PREFER to be the one making the moves. It just so happens that I am a somewhat aggressive male, and many of the women I know and/or have pursued find me intimidating. (I have been told about this directly by close female friends.) I know a lot of women claim to want men to make the first move, but in practice I find it disturbs many of them. (Of course, some of them think it's wonderful!) What both of these paragraphs boil down to is that when you are aggressive, you take a chance on being rejected, whether you're male or female. We see immediately that there's nothing wrong with a woman rejecting the advances made by a man she doesn't like. It should be just as obvious that if a male says he'd like women to be aggressive more often, this doesn't mean he will or should accept all the advances made by women. I guess for singles, heaven and hell could be combined. You never get rejected, but you're not allowed to reject anyone yourself :-). Isaac Dimitrovsky allegra!cmcl2!csd2!dimitrov (l in cmcl2 is letter l not number 1) 251 Mercer Street, New York NY 10012 Just because it's a preconceived notion doesn't mean it's wrong!