Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site tove.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!mtuxo!mtunh!mtung!mtunf!ariel!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!hplabs!pesnta!greipa!decwrl!decvax!genrad!panda!talcott!harvard!seismo!umcp-cs!tove!dsn From: dsn@tove.UUCP (Dana S. Nau) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Recent topics (i.e. XSO's & friendship, "married up", etc.) Message-ID: <272@tove.UUCP> Date: Thu, 11-Jul-85 16:33:13 EDT Article-I.D.: tove.272 Posted: Thu Jul 11 16:33:13 1985 Date-Received: Wed, 17-Jul-85 07:36:41 EDT References: <225@cuuxa.UUCP> Reply-To: dsn@tove.UUCP (Dana S. Nau) Distribution: net Organization: U of Maryland, Laboratory for Parallel Computation, C.P., MD Lines: 26 In article <225@cuuxa.UUCP> frye@cuuxa.UUCP (frye) writes: > ... As to whether I would want to continue >being friends with an ex-SO, I'd have to say no. I don't want >to keep up a relationship for a number of seasons but, the >most important one would have to be something like this: if >we break up for what ever reason, we'll probably both heal up >enough to eventually find someone new to go out with. If we >see each other we are likely to "crowd" each others new SO's >and make them uncomfortable. ... I think different people react in different ways. Staying friends with ex-SO's hasn't worked for me very often--but that has been due more to unresolved feelings about each other rather than problems with "crowding" new SO's. My current girlfriend has remained friends with most of her ex-SO's. One time it worked out wonderfully well. There was a woman with whom I had been romantically involved for about a year, and we had been close friends for about a year before that. When we broke up, we both wanted to remain friends. We did so. She got involved with someone else, but she and I still occasionally got together, and sometimes the three of us got together. When they got married, I went to their wedding. -- Dana S. Nau, Computer Science Dept., U. of Maryland, College Park, MD 20742 ARPA: dsn@maryland CSNet: dsn@umcp-cs UUCP: {seismo,allegra,brl-bmd}!umcp-cs!dsn Phone: (301) 454-7932