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From: bobn@bmcg.UUCP (Bob Nebert)
Newsgroups: net.philosophy
Subject: Re: marriage = commitment
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Date: Thu, 11-Jul-85 15:20:48 EDT
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> 
> I've heard a lot of talk about how getting married can ruin things.  I'm not 
> sure I understand this (I have never been married).  What's the big difference
> between being married and living together.  I lived with a guy for 1.5 years
> and at some points I think it would have been easier if we had been married,
> although neither of us was ready for that.
> 
> 
>> If you are just living with someone there is a underlying knowledge that
>> either one can just leave so each person tries a little bit more to make
>> it work. After they get married a sense of routineness sets in and small
>> quirks that went unoticed before become irratents and a downward cycle
>> develops.
>>
>> This is not standard procedure for every marriage of course, but my 
>> explanation. I have known couples who never should have gotten married.
>>
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