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From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Just how far can friendship go?
Message-ID: <1690@reed.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 15-Jul-85 16:54:23 EDT
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In article <979@sdcsvax.UUCP> dbw@sdcsvax.UUCP (David Wollner) writes:

>Why is it that most people on this net seem to discuss only
>physical relations (NOT sexual relations) with the opposite sex.
>So far I have only noticed one person who will dare to hug both
>men and women.  Thanks Snoopy, I knew there were reasonable people
>in this world.  It's true that a physical relation with someone
>who you can never be sexually interested in will not lead to
>SOship, but it can be rewarding, and fulfill some of those RDA's.

    Ok - this makes two. Of course I hug both men and women. All the
time. Of course socially it doesn't raise as many eyebrows when I hug my
friend Dorothy (or any of my other female friends) as when I hug one of
my male friends. I don't get any more fulfillment from hugging my male
friends because there is some possibility that I could be sexually
interested in them just because I am heterosexual. Hugging different
people is more or less fulfilling depending on how close I am to that
person. My best friend happens to be male and since I am emotionally
very close to him, I like it a lot when we hug. As far as being sexually
interested in the people that you are hugging, I've hugged some of my
friends, both men and women, who I knew were sexually interested in me,
but whom I wasn't interested in. Does this bother me? - No, although I
prefer it if they don't make a pass at me. That can make things uneasy.

>I have sent hugs over the net to people,
>so if you need it, consider yourself hugged.  

   Thanks. Same to you. 

   Enjoy --

    elizabeth g. purtell

    (Lady Godiva)