Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site peora.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!umcp-cs!gymble!lll-crg!dual!qantel!hplabs!pesnta!phri!timeinc!vax135!petsd!peora!jer From: jer@peora.UUCP (J. Eric Roskos) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Puppy-dog-ism Message-ID: <1199@peora.UUCP> Date: Sun, 30-Jun-85 00:16:09 EDT Article-I.D.: peora.1199 Posted: Sun Jun 30 00:16:09 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 15-Jul-85 02:44:47 EDT References: <2175@ut-sally.UUCP> <372@philabs.UUCP> Organization: Perkin-Elmer SDC, Orlando, Fl. Lines: 23 > In the two serious relationships that I've had, both of the > MTOS's warned me of this pedestal effect. In my first relationship > I didn't take heed, but in the second I was fully aware of the possible > problem. Maslow in one of his journals writes a truly inspiring essay on this subject. He concludes that such a person sees his or her SO in "glowing colors" because he or she sees the person in their full potential, what they could be if they achieved full humanness. Unfortunately, Maslow in his journals often wrote in a very unscientific, sometimes plainly vulgar manner, and thus goes on to discuss (pardon me) the fact that "the godess shits," and that this nevertheless was something perceived as beautiful by this person, because in fact it was truly a fundamental part of her nature; and thus that perhaps, his perception of her was more true than that of someone who did not see her in this way. Thus, Maslow would argue that the more defensive position was, in a sense, a somewhat pathological one. -- Shyy-Anzr: J. Eric Roskos UUCP: ..!{decvax,ucbvax,ihnp4}!vax135!petsd!peora!jer US Mail: MS 795; Perkin-Elmer SDC; 2486 Sand Lake Road, Orlando, FL 32809-7642