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From: moiram@tektronix.UUCP (Moira Mallison )
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: friendship vs. SOship
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Date: Tue, 9-Jul-85 13:56:42 EDT
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(* can I post this without firing off another discussion about loving vs.
being in love?  probably not...ah, well *)

>> Sunny
>>
>> Is your love for one person diminished because you also love another?
>> Is your love for one person diminished by having or not having sex with them?
>>
>  Lord Frith
>
>Love?  Who said anything about Love?  One can have a friendship and a VERY
>intimate relationship including sex without (at least what I see as) Love.
>
>There is a BIG difference between friendship and relationship though.

Is it significant that Sunny wrote "love" and you wrote "Love"?

What feelings do you have for friends and others you are intimately 
involved with if they are not loving feelings.  Seems to me even 
more difficult to draw a line between "affection" and "love" than
friendship and SOship (or do you think it is the same question?).

I also have difficulty using "relationship" as a significant
descriptor.  To be in relationship with another is to relate to them;
this definition includes a whole spectrum of behaviors.  Stewart
Emery has written that any relationship that lasts as long as 
three months cannot "end"; it has affected your life.  It
simply changes form.  This seems descriptive of my experiences.

Moira Mallison
tektronix!moiram