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From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: More women than men
Message-ID: <565@unc.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 9-Jul-85 12:07:45 EDT
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Posted: Tue Jul  9 12:07:45 1985
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Reply-To: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann)
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Frank Silbermann:
>>	When I worked in NYC, I'd sometimes hit the singles bars
>>with my friends after work.  At these places, the men at ususally
>>outnumbered the women by about seven to one.  This was also the
>>story at the singles" parties I attended.  Perhaps women have such
>>a difficult time meeting men because they WON'T GO OUT!

Dana S. Nau:
>WHAAAT?????  Not going to singles bars is a damned sight different
>from "not going out"!
>Since I have a girlfriend, I'm currently "not looking", but if I were,
>a singles bar is about the last place I'd go to.  I'm involved in a
>number of activities that I like to do for their own sake.  But
>interestingly enough, these activities have considerably better
>boy-to-girl ratios than seven-to-one!

Quite right.  But I ALSO mentioned singles parties, sponsored by
groups like "Young Singles of (your town)".  I also took classes
(such as acting/improvisation) and attended various hobby clubs
(such as Toastmasters Club).  The ratio at these other activities
was not as bad as 7/1, but women WERE a distinct minority even here.
Women SHOULD be a MAJORITY at these places, if the "manshortage theory"
were true.

Frank Silbermann:
>>	We men can't meet them if they spend most of their spare time
>>sitting at home with girlfriends talking about draperies and stuff.

Dana S. Nau:
>That sounds sexist to me.  Most women I know are pretty career-oriented,
>and are not particularly likely to "spend most of their spare time
>sitting at home with girlfriends talking about draperies and stuff".

It is sexist, and often true.

	Frank Silbermann