Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site ut-sally.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!gatech!ut-sally!pooh From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Pooh @ the Utility Muffin Research Kitchen) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: More women than men Message-ID: <2315@ut-sally.UUCP> Date: Wed, 10-Jul-85 09:58:00 EDT Article-I.D.: ut-sally.2315 Posted: Wed Jul 10 09:58:00 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 15-Jul-85 07:05:34 EDT References: <210@cuuxa.UUCP><462@unc.UUCP> Organization: U. Texas CS Dept., Austin, Texas Lines: 45 > In article <5464@tektronix.UUCP> moiram@tektronix.UUCP (Moira Mallison ) writes: > > > >Essentially, as we get older, there are FEWER men "available" for partnering > >for a variety of sociological and biological reasons. More female babies > >were born, a higher childhood mortality rate for males, and a shorter life > >expectancy for males in general are cited as the major biological reasons > >(and they call US the weaker sex?). The sociological reasons have to do > >with girl-children being socialized to "marry up", combined with women > >(particularly we baby-boomers) doing well in our own right, > >making "up" even higher, and therefore, decreasing further the number of > >"available men". > > It bothers me that women complain about the lack of "available men" when, > in fact, part of the problem is their own desire to "marry up". Though > I can't really blame women for marrying up if they have the opportunity > (everyone is a bit of an opportunist at least) I find it difficult to > stomach men being blamed when a woman can't find someone to "marry up" to. > Sure, it's not the woman's fault that she was socialized to want that, > but if it becomes a problem, why blame the men for not being good enough? > I don't get that Moira said anything about "marrying up" socially. Personally, I have nearly always dated men from two to ten years older than myself because I find I have more in common with them. And it is true that as time goes on, the number of (available) men in that category decreases. If I did in fact misinterpret your words, Moira, forgive me! If I were to "marry up" *professionally* (not necessarily socially), it would be because I want to marry someone I can respect, who I feel can do things that I can't. So what's wrong with this? My own personal taste is such that I admire good hacking more than good baseball playing. Cheers, Pooh pooh@purdue-ecn-cb.ARPA pur-ee!pooh And do you feel scared? (I do) But I won't stop and falter. . .