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From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Pooh @ the Utility Muffin Research Kitchen)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: More women than men
Message-ID: <2370@ut-sally.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 16-Jul-85 22:46:26 EDT
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Posted: Tue Jul 16 22:46:26 1985
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> 
> In article  jeand@ihlpg.UUCP (AMBAR) writes:
> >Sez who?  I won't.  Well, let me elaborate.  If I and my SO agree that
> >we can both date others, then we do.  If we agree that we won't, we
> >don't.  What's sauce for the gander, etc.
> 
> That's exactly what I mean.  You both may agree not to date others.
> However, this will not stop other men from *asking* you out.
> Even without dating anybody else, you can get a good idea
> of who else you could have if your current relationship ended,
> just by noticing which men you turn down.
> 

Again, Frank, I have to disagree.  Word gets around *FAST*,
even in a new community, whether you're dating someone or not.
Especially in small communities (like the net :-), once
you are pegged as "seeing" someone in an other-than-platonic
fashion, you are labeled as TAKEN, and only the boldest
(or the ones who don't keep their ears to the ground) will
risk asking you out.  And your email volume drops significantly. . .

In some cases, it can be really hard to figure out whether
someone is just not interested in you, or if s/he simply
counts you as unavailable, so why bother?

And some people out there may be seeing it as unkind of
you to imply that women are on a constant lookout for
a better bargain.  When I commit myself to someone, I
don't look at other men I meet and think, "Let's see, which
of these men could I start up with if I dump Herbie?"

Ordinarily I like your ideas, Frank, but this one is
treading a little too much on thin ice for me.

Cheers,
Pooh

pooh@purdue-ecn-cb.ARPA        pur-ee!pooh

It's best not to be TOO moral;
you cheat yourself out of too much life.