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From: jha@uiucdcs.Uiuc.ARPA
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Subject: Re: reply to william loftus
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Date: Fri, 5-Jul-85 14:41:00 EDT
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>
>At an young
>age a person cannot be expected to make rational decisions, particularly
>when the person is in a lust. 
	
	So who can make rational decisions, senile grandparents?
	When a young person makes a decision, s/he accepts the
	risks and pays for wrong decisions. When old people
	make the decision, they don't even live long enough
	to see how it turned out. The young person has to pay
	for their mistakes.

>
>In Indian families, decisions are made jointly as a family
>Children are taught to respect their elders
>and to take advantage of their knowledge. This is how they are trained
>to face difficult times in life. It is due to this training that they
>survive their marital problems which are bound to happen in every one's
>life.
>Dependence on experience of this kind is far better than independence
>of inexperience that my experienced collegue is preaching for.
	
	You just proved the point that Indian parents raise their
	children to be dependent.

>
>Is this independence the reason why divorce rate is high in U.S. and
>is it the dependence that is keeping people married for their life?
	
	You bet. It is the dependence that is keeping unhappily married
	people from standing up and saying, "I want a divorce". They are
	incapable of making a decision individually, and an old-fashioned
	family would never approve of a divorce. So they are stuck,
	kidding themselves with the idea that marriages are made in
	heaven.

>I would prefer the dependence if that helps me keep my sanity.......
	
	Be my guest, as long as you don't try to take my independence
	away to help me keep my sanity.


Manoj K. Jha
University of Illinois