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From: thb@unisoft.UUCP (Tim Bessie)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Opening lines and being ignored
Message-ID: <487@unisoft.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 29-Jun-85 22:55:16 EDT
Article-I.D.: unisoft.487
Posted: Sat Jun 29 22:55:16 1985
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Reply-To: thb@unisoft.UUCP (Tim Bessie)
Organization: UniSoft Systems, Berkeley
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     I was walking down the street today, and passed by two quite lovely
women playing folk-music on the sidewalk.  Now, I have a passion for
folk music, and play several instruments, and I thought it might be nice
to play along with them (I carry a pennywhistle around with me).  Also,
of course, since I would like to meet new people, foster possible
relationships of ALL kinds, I thought I would talk to them, find out
more about them.  So I said "hello" to them, asked some questions about
their music, talked about another musician who played there sometimes,
and said I'd like to listen to them, which I did.
     This all sounds perfectly fine.  But I wanted more out of the
situation... here were two beautiful women my age, interested in the kinds
of music I enjoy (folk and classical), seemingly friendly, and I thought,
well, wouldn't it be nice to get to know them better.  My attempts at this
were simply to try to get a conversation started... "How did you get
into folk music? ... You play very well... Do you perform anywhere in the
area..." etc.  Questions I WAS interested in the answers to.
     Yet, I got the feeling I was being ignored.  Certainly, they were
being friendly enough, but, if ever I stopped saying anything, they did
not carry the conversation any further.  I think, at times like these,
that a firm "Uh, we'd like to just play, please." or "I'd like to
talk with my friend here" are much easier (at least on ME) than being
friendly, and ignoring someone.  Much of the time, it's not concious.
Still, it does something, sometimes makes me sad.

     I'm not sending out a sob story here, but just want some feedback
on what other people out there see in these kind of unsatisfying specks
of social intercourse, those BLAH happenings that seem to hold so much
promise, and then leave you with that 'Oh, ok... oh well..." feeling.

					- Tim Bessie