Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site unc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!mcnc!unc!fsks From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: intelligence/a different view/NO SOCIO BIO STUFF/promise Message-ID: <518@unc.UUCP> Date: Sun, 30-Jun-85 19:17:13 EDT Article-I.D.: unc.518 Posted: Sun Jun 30 19:17:13 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 5-Jul-85 06:27:04 EDT References: <877@mtgzz.UUCP>Reply-To: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Organization: CS Dept., U. of N. Carolina at Chapel Hill Lines: 24 Summary: >>/* dls@mtgzz.UUCP (d.l.skran) / 3:56 am Jun 30, 1985 */ >>2)Play the game/be realistic. This is going to sound like I've sold >>out, but I think it's true. Whatever women say, they are still >>dominated by some fairly traditional images. They want muscular, >>sexy men who speak in soft sensuous tones and ply their every whim. In article mms1646@acf4.UUCP (Michael M. Sykora) writes: >I'd be careful with this one. If you take it too far then women won't be >going out with YOU, but rather with someone else, i.e., you'll no longer >be yourself if you play the game too well. What's wrong with extending your range of behaviors? Suppose that I am selfish, cold and inconsiderate. Should I not try to become more friendly, warm and considerate, on the grounds that I would no no longer be acting like "myself"? Nonsense! No matter what I do, I cannot stop being myself. What I CAN do is choose to cultivate repressed and undeveloped aspects of my personality. By the way, in her book, "The Truth About What Women Want in Men," Susan Eno (I think that's her name) says that women want a man who is hard, tough, competitive and macho in PUBLIC, but sensitive and vulnerable in PRIVATE. Frank Silbermann