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From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Just how far can friendship go?
Message-ID: <1673@reed.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 10-Jul-85 20:13:53 EDT
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Posted: Wed Jul 10 20:13:53 1985
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In article <336@azure.UUCP> chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen) writes:

>Second, by asking for this I'm not denying what I want.  I don't want sex at
>the expense of physical pleasure.  Sex is 'OK' but physical friendship is
>fantastic!  And please note that physical friendship does not mean sex.  
>It means being able to relate to each other on a physical level as well as
>a mental and spiritual level.

    First of all I agree with the first two sentences. 
    I also agree with the last two sentences. 
    Its the middle one that poses the problem.
    I've certainly had sexual relationships with some people that were
anything but fantastic. They weren't even "OK". But that doesn't mean
that sex in general is just "OK". It depends entirely on the person. Of
course just because you have a good physical friendship with a person
doesn't mean that you ought to sleep together, (I'd never get any sleep
if I did that), but I don't think that sex is going to be too good if
you can't also have a friendly physical relationship with the person.
I've known people who slept together on a regular basis but never
touched outside of the bedroom. It doesn't work too well. On the other
hand, I've felt much much closer to some people when we were sleeping
together than when we weren't. I think that it a truly fantastic
experience, better than cuddling or holding hands etc. if done with the
right person.

    elizabeth g. purtell

     (Lady Godiva)