Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site ttidcc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!mtuxo!mtunh!mtung!mtunf!ariel!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!hplabs!pesnta!greipa!decwrl!decvax!genrad!mit-eddie!think!harvard!seismo!cmcl2!philabs!ttidca!ttidcc!hollombe From: hollombe@ttidcc.UUCP (The Polymath) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Just how far can friendship go? Message-ID: <536@ttidcc.UUCP> Date: Thu, 11-Jul-85 16:31:08 EDT Article-I.D.: ttidcc.536 Posted: Thu Jul 11 16:31:08 1985 Date-Received: Wed, 17-Jul-85 07:37:29 EDT References: <317@azure.UUCP> <800@vax2.fluke.UUCP> Reply-To: hollombe@ttidcc.UUCP (The Polymath) Distribution: net Organization: The Cat Factory Lines: 32 In article <800@vax2.fluke.UUCP> cassidy@fluke.UUCP (Rion Cassidy) writes: >First, I'm a little new to the net.singles group (possibly just naive) and >am really not sure what 'SO' (as in SOship) stands for. Could someone please >clarify the term? I think its meaning through context is pretty obvious. By now I'm sure Rion has been told that SO = Significant Other more times than enough. The underlying question of much of the current discussion seems to center on what _is_ a Significant Other. The most common definitions implicitly put forth seem to define SO as someone with whom one is both romanticaly and sexually inolved. I would like to offer a different perspective. From a psychological view SO is a technical term with a specific definition. It refers to _anyone_ who has an immediate, significant influence on a person's life. Examples include parents, friends, relatives, siblings, teachers, etc., etc. Note that the relationship need not include any romantic or sexual aspects. Anyone the person cares about _for any reason_ is an SO. From the above perspective the question of where friendship ends and SOship begins is meaningless. A friend _is_ an SO, by definition. The real question then becomes one of how much romantic/sexual involvement a friendship can stand or whether it's possible to be friends with a sexual partner. All of these conditions are subcategories of SOship. --- -_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_-_- The Polymath (aka: Jerry Hollombe) Citicorp TTI Common Sense is what tells you that a ten 3100 Ocean Park Blvd. pound weight falls ten times as fast as a Santa Monica, CA 90405 one pound weight. (213) 450-9111, ext. 2483 {philabs,randvax,trwrb,vortex}!ttidca!ttidcc!hollombe