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From: regard@ttidcc.UUCP (Adrienne Regard)
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Subject: marriage = commitment
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Date: Thu, 27-Jun-85 16:30:40 EDT
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>>I just think that commitment is the keyword here, but it does not
>>necessarily have to be towards marriage.

>        Nice sentiment, Colin, but marriage IS commitment and the MOST
>        commitment IS marriage.
>                                           Rick Merrill
>
Check that.  Marriage is A commitment.  One of a number of possiblities.
It amazes me that many people (like maybe one in the past 20 I have dis-
cussed my situation with) see only _one_ outcome of an ongoing SO rela-
tionship.

Marriage is also a legal contract with rights and priviledges that are
defined state by state. Marriage also carries a certain amount of social
debris that a couple may not welcome.  It may bear religious connotations
to which the couple does not subscribe.

On a personal level, I heartily disagree with your statement that the most
commitment is marriage, but then, I don't know you, and I'm not about to
get married to you, so it doesn't matter much to me.  But, a word of advice,
do talk it over when/if you decide to get married, since she may not see
it in quite the same light.

Adrienne Regard