Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version Tektronix Network News Daemon (B 2.10.2 based); site tektronix.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!ucbvax!decvax!tektronix!moiram From: moiram@tektronix.UUCP (Moira Mallison ) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Just how far can friendship go? Message-ID: <5475@tektronix.UUCP> Date: Mon, 8-Jul-85 12:16:19 EDT Article-I.D.: tektroni.5475 Posted: Mon Jul 8 12:16:19 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 11-Jul-85 00:26:44 EDT References: <317@azure.UUCP> <2910@cornell.UUCP> Reply-To: moiram@tektronix.UUCP (Moira Mallison ) Distribution: net Organization: Tektronix, Beaverton OR Lines: 21 In article <2910@cornell.UUCP> rance@cornell.UUCP (W. Rance Cleaveland) writes: > I'll certainly agree with you that the kind of relationship you describe is > extremely edifying and satisfying. It's such a relief to be freed from > the onus of wondering whether you're living up to her sexual expectations > or wondering why she isn't (or is :-)). Just another plug, I suppose, > for being friends first (where by friends I mean friends with no sexual > expectations). While I agree with you in theory, I've realized it doesn't necessarily always work out that way in practice (if only because there seems to be an implication of an inherent passage of time). I've experienced the freedom you speak of after just a few hours with one person; on the other hand, it was missing after a few months of non-sexual friendship with another. The difference is the open honest communication I enjoy with the first person compared to a situation where that didn't exist in the least. Moira Mallison tektronix!moiram