Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 (Tek) 9/28/84 based on 9/17/84; site azure.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!mtuxo!mtunh!mtung!mtunf!ariel!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!teklds!azure!chrisa From: chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Just how far can friendship go? Message-ID: <317@azure.UUCP> Date: Mon, 1-Jul-85 02:52:02 EDT Article-I.D.: azure.317 Posted: Mon Jul 1 02:52:02 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 4-Jul-85 00:42:22 EDT Reply-To: chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen) Distribution: net Organization: Tektronix, Beaverton OR Lines: 29 Summary: Recently I posted a query to this newsgroup asking just where the drawing line between friendship and SOship lies. The main purpose behind this was to determine just how far some people would consider taking a friendship (ie one that remains purely platonic). Mainly I'm concerned with the physical aspects of a relationship. That is, just how physical can friends be before they can no longer be considered just friends? I'll give an example to show what I mean. In college this past year, I got to know a female student who hung out at the campus radio station like I did. She already had a boyfriend, so any sort of SOship was understandably ruled out. However, we carried on much like we were SOs. That is, we hugged quite often. We played (for lack of a better term) snugglebunnies on the coach. But we never did 'The Act' as Ann Landers refers to it. About the most we ever did was just shy of kissing (on the lips). The point I would like to make about this is this: We never did anything serious, and at this time I had no other SO in my life, yet my RDA of physical and emotional comfort was fulfilled because of my relationship to this girl, *despite* the fact that we never, ever did anything that others might consider sexually fulfilling. Now I just want to know why I can't seem to have this kind of relationship with others of the opposite sex? Furthermore, I suspect that a few friends of this variety would equal the gratification that can come from an SOship. Any comments? Chris Andersen (aka "The Stranger")