Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version Tektronix Network News Daemon (B 2.10.2 based); site tektronix.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!ucbvax!decvax!tektronix!moiram From: moiram@tektronix.UUCP (Moira Mallison ) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: friendship vs. SOship Message-ID: <5483@tektronix.UUCP> Date: Tue, 9-Jul-85 13:56:42 EDT Article-I.D.: tektroni.5483 Posted: Tue Jul 9 13:56:42 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 11-Jul-85 20:26:06 EDT References: <306@azure.UUCP> <2735@cornell.UUCP> <309@azure.UUCP> <2384@sun.uucp> <1029@trwatf.UUCP> Reply-To: moiram@tektronix.UUCP (Moira Mallison ) Distribution: net Organization: Tektronix, Beaverton OR Lines: 31 (* can I post this without firing off another discussion about loving vs. being in love? probably not...ah, well *) >> Sunny >> >> Is your love for one person diminished because you also love another? >> Is your love for one person diminished by having or not having sex with them? >> > Lord Frith > >Love? Who said anything about Love? One can have a friendship and a VERY >intimate relationship including sex without (at least what I see as) Love. > >There is a BIG difference between friendship and relationship though. Is it significant that Sunny wrote "love" and you wrote "Love"? What feelings do you have for friends and others you are intimately involved with if they are not loving feelings. Seems to me even more difficult to draw a line between "affection" and "love" than friendship and SOship (or do you think it is the same question?). I also have difficulty using "relationship" as a significant descriptor. To be in relationship with another is to relate to them; this definition includes a whole spectrum of behaviors. Stewart Emery has written that any relationship that lasts as long as three months cannot "end"; it has affected your life. It simply changes form. This seems descriptive of my experiences. Moira Mallison tektronix!moiram