Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site unc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!mcnc!unc!fsks From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: friendship vs. SOship Message-ID: <534@unc.UUCP> Date: Wed, 3-Jul-85 17:16:55 EDT Article-I.D.: unc.534 Posted: Wed Jul 3 17:16:55 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 5-Jul-85 06:36:48 EDT References:<510@unc.UUCP> Reply-To: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Distribution: net Organization: CS Dept., U. of N. Carolina at Chapel Hill Lines: 26 Summary: In article chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen) writes: >>> Where does a friendship end and an SOship begin? In article <510@unc.UUCP> fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) writes: >> With the beginning of sexual behavior. That's why "SO" ought to stand >> for "Sex Object." Since people don't like to be thought of as objects, >> perhaps we should change it to "SS" for "Sex Subject." In article chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen) writes: > Okay, then what is sexual behaviour? > Does a hug count as sexual behaviour? > How about a kiss? Holding hands? Snuggling? There are no absolute standards here, it depends on what culture or subculture you are in. For instance, in France, platonic friends do all of the above. And in some subcultures of Californica, casual friends have sex, as well. The term "SO" is usually used by monogamous or nearly monogamous people. Assuming you fit that category, simply list your behaviors according to increasing intimacy. As you go down the list, you'll eventually reach behaviors that you do not do with most of your friends. When you get to one that you rarely do with more than one person in any given week, well that's where to draw the line. Frank Silbermann