Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site bmcg.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!mtuxo!mtunh!mtung!mtunf!ariel!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!hplabs!sdcrdcf!sdcsvax!bmcg!bobn From: bobn@bmcg.UUCP (Bob Nebert) Newsgroups: net.philosophy Subject: Re: marriage = commitment Message-ID: <1737@bmcg.UUCP> Date: Thu, 11-Jul-85 15:20:48 EDT Article-I.D.: bmcg.1737 Posted: Thu Jul 11 15:20:48 1985 Date-Received: Wed, 17-Jul-85 07:23:03 EDT References: <508@ttidcc.UUCP> <485@oliveb.UUCP> <684@lll-crg.ARPA> Organization: Burroughs Corp. ASG, San Diego, CA. Lines: 18 > > I've heard a lot of talk about how getting married can ruin things. I'm not > sure I understand this (I have never been married). What's the big difference > between being married and living together. I lived with a guy for 1.5 years > and at some points I think it would have been easier if we had been married, > although neither of us was ready for that. > > >> If you are just living with someone there is a underlying knowledge that >> either one can just leave so each person tries a little bit more to make >> it work. After they get married a sense of routineness sets in and small >> quirks that went unoticed before become irratents and a downward cycle >> develops. >> >> This is not standard procedure for every marriage of course, but my >> explanation. I have known couples who never should have gotten married. >> *** REPLACE THIS LINE WITH YOUR MESSAGE ***