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From: chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Just how far can friendship go?
Message-ID: <317@azure.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 1-Jul-85 02:52:02 EDT
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Posted: Mon Jul  1 02:52:02 1985
Date-Received: Thu, 4-Jul-85 00:42:22 EDT
Reply-To: chrisa@azure.UUCP (Chris Andersen)
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Summary: 


Recently I posted a query to this newsgroup asking just where the drawing
line between friendship and SOship lies.  The main purpose behind this was
to determine just how far some people would consider taking a friendship
(ie one that remains purely platonic).

Mainly I'm concerned with the physical aspects of a relationship.  That is,
just how physical can friends be before they can no longer be considered 
just friends?  I'll give an example to show what I mean.

In college this past year, I got to know a female student who hung out at the
campus radio station like I did.  She already had a boyfriend, so any sort of
SOship was understandably ruled out.  However, we carried on much like we were
SOs.  That is, we hugged quite often.  We played (for lack of a better term)
snugglebunnies on the coach.  But we never did 'The Act' as Ann Landers refers
to it.  About the most we ever did was just shy of kissing (on the lips).      

The point I would like to make about this is this:  We never did anything 
serious, and at this time I had no other SO in my life, yet my RDA of 
physical and emotional comfort was fulfilled because of my relationship
to this girl, *despite* the fact that we never, ever did anything that others
might consider sexually fulfilling.  Now I just want to know why I can't seem
to have this kind of relationship with others of the opposite sex?  Furthermore,
I suspect that a few friends of this variety would equal the gratification
that can come from an SOship.

Any comments?

Chris Andersen (aka "The Stranger")