Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site unc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!ucbvax!decvax!mcnc!unc!fsks From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: More women than men Message-ID: <589@unc.UUCP> Date: Sat, 13-Jul-85 01:23:02 EDT Article-I.D.: unc.589 Posted: Sat Jul 13 01:23:02 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 14-Jul-85 08:26:11 EDT References:Reply-To: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Organization: CS Dept., U. of N. Carolina at Chapel Hill Lines: 34 In article swc@cbscc.UUCP (Scott W. Collins) writes: >I think Ross was stating that in general women, the ones being >sought after (despite the degree of liberation we have now), have >the option of several men whereas men may have few women to choose from. >[...] >My stand is: women may have an easier time of getting a man interested >in them then a man does with a woman, but women are burdened with a >variety of things (dating roles, society's roles, etc.) that men are >virtually free from. Some say the scale is then even.. I say it is >still tipped in favor of men, so: no room for complaints! This is not at all true. Generally, a few more attractive women get the bulk of the attention, while the rest of the women are more or less ignored. If it is true that women sever the relationship more often than men, it is because of the traditionally passive role women play in courting. Men make the offers, and women accept or reject them. A woman may continue to receive and reject new offers while she is committed to an exclusive relationship. The man in an exclusive relationship, on the other hand, may not extend offers to other women without risk of destroying the relationship he has. Also, since the man extended the offer in the first place, he may feel guilty if he later withdraws it. It may be easier to simply act like a bum until the woman gets fed up, and tosses him out. But once the relationship is over, the man and woman have equal opportunities. That is, no relationship may develop without MUTUAL agreement. A woman may flirt with any man she chooses, but that doesn't mean any will follow up and ask her out. Likewise, a man may ask out any woman he chooses. That doesn't mean any of them will accept. Frank Silbermann