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From: ganpaty@ut-ngp.UTEXAS (S.Ganapathy)
Newsgroups: net.women,net.nlang.india
Subject: Re: Parents & Arranged Marriages
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Date: Mon, 24-Jun-85 17:31:45 EDT
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From: sunil@ut-ngp.UTEXAS (Sunil Trivedi) <1857@ut-ngp.UTEXAS>
>    ... If she
>    wanted to pursue an even higher education, the liberal setting may
>    okay it, but like the conservative setting, it would have some res-
>    ervations.  Excessive education may 'price' the girl out of most of
>    the marriage market.  This situation (excessive education) would
>    make the parents scramble for marriage partners for their daughter.
>    The chances for these girls to find a 'perfect' match (one which is
>    in favor of the girl) is almost nil.  They will be pushed on to the
>    first Tom-Dick-or-Harry who shows any interest and many times there
>    will be great incentives to have a guy take their girl (like bigger
>    dowries, expensive 'gifts').  This of course may make the parents of
>    the girl take a tremendous financial hit. Knowing the girl is limited
>    to knowing her 'Opportunity Costs for Marriage'. Consider how a class
>    of 'Bounty Hunters' who look for these 'deals' could easily exist.
>    In North America (USA & Canada), how many know of Indian colleagues
>    who have gone to India to get an Indian doctor as a wife?  :-)

>    As one can see, education is always a plus for the guy, while for the
>    girl, education can be a minus.  Is this why many 'highly-educated'
>    girls marry non-Indians?

      This is supposed  to be a possible explanation to the questions
      thrown up by the above message from Sunil.
	I don't think that the above scenario applies to a Asian
	Indian setup here. The views expressed in the above letter
	seem obsolete and prepostorous to me.  I think with 
	education for both gender the only reason why arranged
	marriages still seem to holdout is the reason that in spite
	of education the psyche is still the same as back home since
	a major portion of the formative years have been spent in India
	under a different enviornment.  Hence concepts such as dating
	take a while to take root.  But neverthless love marriages would
	be on the rise hopefully for the good of the parties involved.
	One possible explanation why highly educated (Indian) girls
	marry non-Indians is the dating population that reaches the
	girl. Since more than 90% of dating requests come from non-
	Indians the (Indian) girls have less of a choice of getting
	to know Indian men. So for the above reasons an educated
	(Indian) girl is a self-sustaining,self-supporting entity  
	and hence is not a burden (financial) to any one.
			
						S.Ganpaty
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