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From: jer@peora.UUCP (J. Eric Roskos)
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Subject: Re: Puppy-dog-ism
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Date: Sun, 30-Jun-85 00:16:09 EDT
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>         In the two serious relationships that I've had, both of the
> MTOS's warned me of this pedestal effect.  In my first relationship
> I didn't take heed, but in the second I was fully aware of the possible
> problem.

Maslow in one of his journals writes a truly inspiring essay on this
subject.  He concludes that such a person sees his or her SO in "glowing
colors" because he or she sees the person in their full potential, what
they could be if they achieved full humanness.  Unfortunately, Maslow in
his journals often wrote in a very unscientific, sometimes plainly vulgar
manner, and thus goes on to discuss (pardon me) the fact that "the godess
shits," and that this nevertheless was something perceived as beautiful by
this person, because in fact it was truly a fundamental part of her nature;
and thus that perhaps, his perception of her was more true than that of
someone who did not see her in this way.

Thus, Maslow would argue that the more defensive position was, in a sense,
a somewhat pathological one.
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