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From: rap@oliveb.UUCP (Robert A. Pease)
Newsgroups: net.philosophy,net.religion,net.singles
Subject: Re: marriage = commitment
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Date: Wed, 3-Jul-85 11:38:08 EDT
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> 
> Marriage is also a legal contract with rights and priviledges that are
> defined state by state. Marriage also carries a certain amount of social
> debris that a couple may not welcome.  It may bear religious connotations
> to which the couple does not subscribe.
> 
> Adrienne Regard

Good point.  I know of a couple who decided not to get married, but to
just  live together.  They had children who kept getting hassled about
their last name.  It seems that the  school  board  decided  that  the
children couldn't use their father's last name because he didn't marry
their mother.  Well, to try and make things easier for their children,
they   finally   got  married.   That  was  the  end  of  a  beautiful
relationship.  The fights started and they basicly fell apart.

The story has a happy ending, though.  They got  divorced.  Then  they
began  living  together.  And  they  got  along.  And the school board
couldn't say a damn thing about the kids' last name.

Ok, the whole point to this story (and its a true one)  is  that  some
people  can  be  committed to each other without having to get married
and they know when they are  better  off.  DON'T  FORCE  SOMETHING  ON
SOMEONE THAT THEY FEEL IS NOT RIGHT.
-- 
					Robert A. Pease
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