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From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Pooh @ the Utility Muffin Research Kitchen)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: More women than men
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Date: Wed, 10-Jul-85 09:58:00 EDT
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Posted: Wed Jul 10 09:58:00 1985
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> In article <5464@tektronix.UUCP> moiram@tektronix.UUCP (Moira Mallison ) writes:
> >
> >Essentially, as we get older, there are FEWER men "available" for partnering
> >for a variety of sociological and biological reasons.  More female babies
> >were born, a higher childhood mortality rate for males, and a shorter life
> >expectancy for males in general are cited as the major biological reasons
> >(and they call US the weaker sex?).  The sociological reasons have to do
> >with girl-children being socialized to "marry up", combined with women
> >(particularly we baby-boomers) doing well in our own right, 
> >making "up" even higher, and therefore, decreasing further the number of
> >"available men".
> 
> It bothers me that women complain about the lack of "available men" when,
> in fact, part of the problem is their own desire to "marry up".  Though
> I can't really blame women for marrying up if they have the opportunity
> (everyone is a bit of an opportunist at least) I find it difficult to
> stomach men being blamed when a woman can't find someone to "marry up" to.
> Sure, it's not the woman's fault that she was socialized to want that,
> but if it becomes a problem, why blame the men for not being good enough?
> 

I don't get that Moira said anything about "marrying up"
socially.  Personally, I have nearly always dated men
from two to ten years older than myself because I find
I have more in common with them.  And it is true that
as time goes on, the number of (available)
men in that category decreases.

If I did in fact misinterpret your words, Moira,
forgive me!

If I were to "marry up" *professionally* (not necessarily
socially), it would be because I want to marry someone I
can respect, who I feel can do things that I can't.
So what's wrong with this?  My own personal taste is
such that I admire good hacking more than good baseball
playing.

Cheers,
Pooh

pooh@purdue-ecn-cb.ARPA    pur-ee!pooh

And do you feel scared? (I do)
But I won't stop and falter. . .