Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site steinmetz.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!mcnc!ncsu!uvacs!edison!steinmetz!hammond From: hammond@steinmetz.UUCP (Steve Hammond) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: staying friends after a breakup Message-ID: <149@steinmetz.UUCP> Date: Mon, 1-Jul-85 10:47:33 EDT Article-I.D.: steinmet.149 Posted: Mon Jul 1 10:47:33 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 5-Jul-85 06:34:24 EDT References: <2014@bigburd.UUCP> <90600002@hpcnoa.UUCP> Organization: GE CRD, Schenectady, NY Lines: 30 > > On a related subject, I have always been amazed at how > people throw away friends when they break up a relationship. It > just doesn't make sense to me - you've invested a lot of time and > effort (not to mention money and heartache!) into getting to know > that person really well, and letting them know you really well, > yet if you decide to terminate the intimacy for whatever reason > you become blood enemies. What a waste. > I recently (like a couple of weeks ago) went through a heart-felt breakup. I still love her, too much to become just friends. The type of feelings that I have make it an awkward friendship. In the same way that she felt that she could not continue to be my lover, I don't think that I can be *just* her friend. I don't know how to act, and "act" would be what I would be doing. Perhaps it is too soon to think clearly. Where does one draw the line? Can/should we still hold hands? Is a hug ok as a greeting? These things were so natural to me. I still want that. It is not fair to either of "us" to deny that. I certainly don't hate her or have any regrets about the time we spent together. I just have grown to feel stronger than she has. I would dearly love to be her friend because we a extremely compatible. I only *hope* that I can. Time will tell. Steve Hammond (GE corporate R&D center) hammond@ge.arpa edison!steinmetz!hammond