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From: cs1@oddjob.UUCP (Cheryl Stewart)
Newsgroups: net.women,net.politics,net.social
Subject: Re: Discrimination against women and statistics
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Date: Sat, 29-Jun-85 22:46:47 EDT
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Posted: Sat Jun 29 22:46:47 1985
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Summary: 

In article <1862@amdcad.UUCP> phil@amdcad.UUCP (Phil Ngai) writes:
>In article <405@h-sc1.UUCP> desjardins@h-sc1.UUCP (marie desjardins) writes:
>>Mobility matters because your husband (working,
>>naturally, in a high-paying job) may have to relocate and you need
>>to follow him.  So why shouldn't the man follow his wife?  Well,
>>because he has a higher-paying job, naturally.
>
>Does this mean you're willing to marry a man who makes less money than you?
>That you're willing to "marry below your class"? I would suspect many women
>are not. I'd be happy to hear if I'm wrong.

What I want is a man of equal or higher class (preferably one who's parents are
loaded and are willing to pay for the wedding, the down-payment on the house,
the honeymoon, etc.) -- a man who is well-educated, thoughtful, witty ---
someone who will know instinctively *just* where to find that unique antique
umbrella-stand to spruce up the foyer, someone who will be conscientious 
about corresponding with my relatives and his at holiday time, someone who 
knows how to be firm but tactful with the servants, who can organize a 
reasonable social calendar for our family.  Of course, he won't want to
work, because I'll be the heir apparent to take over his mother's multi-
million dollar investment firm when she decides to retire.  It will be so
nice.  It's a shame his father failed to produce any daughters to take over
the family business.  Oh, well.  It's a big responsibility, but *someone*
has to take care of their business and their son for them.  

Have you heard of a rhetorical question?  Well, the above was a rhetorical
paragraph.  Look, if you want to find rich, lazy guys  just go to like
St. Tropez or Southampton or .
Pick him young, impressionable.  Your best bet is to get him to drop out
of college to follow you.  That way, he'll never have had a taste of what
it's like to earn his own money, and never having done it, he won't have the
confidence to start (after dropping out of school and being techically 
unemployed for a few years--what is he going to do, flip burgers while you
trade commodities?).  Make him FEEL his dependence on you while subtly
ridiculing any effort he makes to be less dependent.  That way you can
justify your RIGHT to expect that dinner be waiting for you when you
get home from work, that your shirts be ironed, that your children be
well-behaved.  

But first, you have to find the right one.  Of course all of your relatives
and his relatives will aid you in convincing him that his *real* calling in
life is to serve *you* (that is, assuming you can support him in the manner
to which he was born--better not go after them TOO rich!).  What you want
is someone *appropriate*, someone who will not clash with your colleagues'
husbands, socially that is.  Good luck!

                                           Cheryl Stewart

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