Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site pucc-h Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxn!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!CS-Mordred!Pucc-H:abv From: abv@pucc-h (David L. Stevens) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: This is really poor... Message-ID: <2129@pucc-h> Date: Sat, 13-Jul-85 18:33:34 EDT Article-I.D.: pucc-h.2129 Posted: Sat Jul 13 18:33:34 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 14-Jul-85 09:05:45 EDT References: <309@faron.UUCP> Reply-To: abv@pucc-h.UUCP (David L. Stevens) Distribution: na Organization: PUCC Unix Group Lines: 19 Your situation is, unfortunately, not so uncommon, and certainly your feelings are natural. My last SOship ended last October, after 5 years-- ~25% of my life. Since then, I've re-evaluated my life, and made quite a few changes, so in many ways I have actually benefitted (as you may) from the loss. The cliched advice about finding new friends, and increasing your social life all applies, but I've come to realize that there really isn't a quick fix for the pain involved. Even now, 8 months later, I enjoy a life vastly different from what I had known, but now and then I find myself alone and depressed, and I feel full force the pain, anger, frustration and Love that my loss has shown me. In a sense, that time is wasted, and I won't have her around to remember it with me. That is a tragedy. Time (and another woman) will ease your pain, and it may help you next time. I certainly hope I've learned from past mistakes. Good Luck to you. +-DLS