Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site zaphod.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxn!ihnp4!alberta!sask!zaphod!timm From: timm@zaphod.UUCP (Tim Melanchuk) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Aggressiveness Message-ID: <307@zaphod.UUCP> Date: Sun, 14-Jul-85 18:51:36 EDT Article-I.D.: zaphod.307 Posted: Sun Jul 14 18:51:36 1985 Date-Received: Wed, 17-Jul-85 05:18:29 EDT References: <5557@cbscc.UUCP> <816@ihlpg.UUCP> Reply-To: timm@zaphod.UUCP (Tim Melanchuk) Organization: Develcon Electronics, Saskatoon, SK Lines: 34 Summary: The actual ratio at any one time may be anything, but on tl%average I'd say 50-50 is about right. I don't like being the aggressor all the time (read: should we go out, when, where, with whom, etc) but I definately like to make my preferences known. One thing that really irritates me are the "I don't care - you decide" responses. A little is ok but sometimes I want to be the be the one using this line. I think everyone likes some feedback from time to time about your choices in things to do that is proportional to the number of choices made. If we both take the initiative at times I can be reasonably comfortable in assuming that she is doing what she wants to do at least 50% of the time. If I make more of the choices, I tend to feel more uncomfortable in not knowing whether she is really enjoying herself and doing what she wants to do. I guess what I'm saying is that I can be pretty good at doing what I want to do but I don't want all the responsibility of insuring that the other person maximizes their enjoyment of the times we are together. Both people should take the lead when its comfortable for them, but for me at least, I like an agressive women to match my own agressiveness. Of course this may be partly because I have a hidden streak of shyness or insecurity. I hope other people post responses to aggressivess or at least mail me their thoughts if this has been thoroughly hashed out before. -- One should always be in love. That is the reason one should never marry. - Oscar Wilde If you aren't going all the way, why go at all? - Joe Namath Tim Melanchuk {ihnp4|alberta}!sask!zaphod!timm