Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 exptools; site ihlpl.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxn!ihnp4!ihlpl!paveleck From: paveleck@ihlpl.UUCP (Bob Paveleck) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Aggressiveness Message-ID: <212@ihlpl.UUCP> Date: Fri, 12-Jul-85 14:08:08 EDT Article-I.D.: ihlpl.212 Posted: Fri Jul 12 14:08:08 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 13-Jul-85 16:38:14 EDT Distribution: net Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories Lines: 23 Here's my 2 cents on the question of how men feel about women who are "aggressive" (depending on how you choose to define that term). If you take initiating activities, making calls, etc. as "aggressive" behavior in women, then I'm 100% for it. I know that many women already feel comfortable doing these things, but there are still a significant number of women (at least in my experiences) who don't (because of shyness, fear of being thought of as "easy" or just blind adherence to the old social norms they were raised with). I happen to think that this kind of "aggressive" behavior would be beneficial for men as well as women, as it just makes for better communication among people. Although I can accept the fact that a woman might be uncomfortable "making the first move", I'm saddened that such a woman would still be afraid to be "aggressive" even after she had known the man for a while (i. e., either dated him a few times or was otherwise friendly with him). I figure that since I consider women to be equal in every way to men, their fear of initiating activities or otherwise contributing to the planning of a date (their fear of behaving "aggressively") is both irrational and unnecessary. Bob Paveleck ihlpl!paveleck