Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/17/84 chuqui version 1.9 3/12/85; site unisoft.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!mtuxo!mtunh!mtung!mtunf!ariel!vax135!timeinc!phri!pesnta!amd!vecpyr!lll-crg!dual!unisoft!thb From: thb@unisoft.UUCP (Tim Bessie) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Opening lines and being ignored Message-ID: <487@unisoft.UUCP> Date: Sat, 29-Jun-85 22:55:16 EDT Article-I.D.: unisoft.487 Posted: Sat Jun 29 22:55:16 1985 Date-Received: Wed, 3-Jul-85 08:24:26 EDT References: <2129@ut-sally.UUCP> <1131@peora.UUCP> <698@ihlpg.UUCP> Reply-To: thb@unisoft.UUCP (Tim Bessie) Organization: UniSoft Systems, Berkeley Lines: 31 I was walking down the street today, and passed by two quite lovely women playing folk-music on the sidewalk. Now, I have a passion for folk music, and play several instruments, and I thought it might be nice to play along with them (I carry a pennywhistle around with me). Also, of course, since I would like to meet new people, foster possible relationships of ALL kinds, I thought I would talk to them, find out more about them. So I said "hello" to them, asked some questions about their music, talked about another musician who played there sometimes, and said I'd like to listen to them, which I did. This all sounds perfectly fine. But I wanted more out of the situation... here were two beautiful women my age, interested in the kinds of music I enjoy (folk and classical), seemingly friendly, and I thought, well, wouldn't it be nice to get to know them better. My attempts at this were simply to try to get a conversation started... "How did you get into folk music? ... You play very well... Do you perform anywhere in the area..." etc. Questions I WAS interested in the answers to. Yet, I got the feeling I was being ignored. Certainly, they were being friendly enough, but, if ever I stopped saying anything, they did not carry the conversation any further. I think, at times like these, that a firm "Uh, we'd like to just play, please." or "I'd like to talk with my friend here" are much easier (at least on ME) than being friendly, and ignoring someone. Much of the time, it's not concious. Still, it does something, sometimes makes me sad. I'm not sending out a sob story here, but just want some feedback on what other people out there see in these kind of unsatisfying specks of social intercourse, those BLAH happenings that seem to hold so much promise, and then leave you with that 'Oh, ok... oh well..." feeling. - Tim Bessie