Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 exptools; site ihlpg.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!ihnp4!ihlpg!jeand From: jeand@ihlpg.UUCP (AMBAR) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Aggressiveness Message-ID: <816@ihlpg.UUCP> Date: Thu, 11-Jul-85 15:09:45 EDT Article-I.D.: ihlpg.816 Posted: Thu Jul 11 15:09:45 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 13-Jul-85 08:16:55 EDT References: <5557@cbscc.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories Lines: 31 > Fortunately, > things ARE still changing: role playing is going down the tubes, eq- > uality in situation/opportunities is on the increase. I was very fortunate > as to have a nice young lady ask me out to a movie recently. I would > have gotten around to it (or was it a matter of mustering the courage?), > but she took the initiative. > Scott Perhaps this has been hashed to death before, but I'm going to ask anyway: What reactions do the netters here have to aggressiveness/lack of same in women? I tend to be rather aggressive and straightforward in everything I do. Reactions I have gotten range from total fascination (my current SO, who is perfectly happy to have me initiate EVERYTHING) to polite distaste (these are generally the guys I know who make a religion of holding doors, to reference another current discussion). I would guess that they look on female aggressiveness as impinging on their masculinity. Or something. Why am I asking? Because I have a hunch that my SO's attitude is a bit of an anomaly. What ratios of initiation are y'all out there comfortable with? 50-50? more? less? Let me hear from you. -- AMBAR {the known universe}!ihnp4!ihlpg!jeand "To those who love it is given to hear Music too high for the human ear." --Bruce Cockburn