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From: simpson@lll-crg.ARPA (Rea Simpson)
Newsgroups: net.philosophy,net.religion,net.singles
Subject: Re: marriage = commitment
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Date: Sun, 7-Jul-85 14:24:44 EDT
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Posted: Sun Jul  7 14:24:44 1985
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In article <485@oliveb.UUCP> rap@oliveb.UUCP (Robert A. Pease) writes:
>> 
>> Marriage is also a legal contract with rights and priviledges that are
>> defined state by state. Marriage also carries a certain amount of social
>> debris that a couple may not welcome.  It may bear religious connotations
>> to which the couple does not subscribe.
>> 
>> Adrienne Regard
>
>Good point.  I know of a couple who decided not to get married, but to
>just  live together.  They had children who kept getting hassled about
>their last name. ... they   finally   got  married.   That  was  the  
>end  of  a  beautiful relationship.  The fights started and they 
>basicly fell apart.
>
>The story has a happy ending, though.  They got  divorced.  Then  they
>began  living  together.  And  they  got  along.  
>
>Ok, the whole point to this story (and its a true one)  is  that  some
>people  can  be  committed to each other without having to get married
>and they know when they are  better  off.  DON'T  FORCE  SOMETHING  ON
>SOMEONE THAT THEY FEEL IS NOT RIGHT.
>-- 
>					Robert A. Pease
>    {hplabs|zehntel|fortune|ios|tolerant|allegra|tymix}!oliveb!oliven!rap

I've heard a lot of talk about how getting married can ruin things.  I'm not 
sure I understand this (I have never been married).  What's the big difference
between being married and living together.  I lived with a guy for 1.5 years
and at some points I think it would have been easier if we had been married,
although neither of us was ready for that.


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