Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: Notesfiles $Revision: 1.7.0.5 $; site uiucdcs Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!uiucdcs!seefromline From: jha@uiucdcs.Uiuc.ARPA Newsgroups: net.nlang.india Subject: Re: reply to william loftus Message-ID: <101800002@uiucdcs> Date: Fri, 5-Jul-85 14:41:00 EDT Article-I.D.: uiucdcs.101800002 Posted: Fri Jul 5 14:41:00 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 7-Jul-85 06:06:56 EDT References: <645@homxb.UUCP> Lines: 45 Nf-ID: #R:homxb.UUCP:-64500:uiucdcs:101800002:000:1653 Nf-From: uiucdcs.Uiuc.ARPA!jha Jul 5 13:41:00 1985 > >At an young >age a person cannot be expected to make rational decisions, particularly >when the person is in a lust. So who can make rational decisions, senile grandparents? When a young person makes a decision, s/he accepts the risks and pays for wrong decisions. When old people make the decision, they don't even live long enough to see how it turned out. The young person has to pay for their mistakes. > >In Indian families, decisions are made jointly as a family >Children are taught to respect their elders >and to take advantage of their knowledge. This is how they are trained >to face difficult times in life. It is due to this training that they >survive their marital problems which are bound to happen in every one's >life. >Dependence on experience of this kind is far better than independence >of inexperience that my experienced collegue is preaching for. You just proved the point that Indian parents raise their children to be dependent. > >Is this independence the reason why divorce rate is high in U.S. and >is it the dependence that is keeping people married for their life? You bet. It is the dependence that is keeping unhappily married people from standing up and saying, "I want a divorce". They are incapable of making a decision individually, and an old-fashioned family would never approve of a divorce. So they are stuck, kidding themselves with the idea that marriages are made in heaven. >I would prefer the dependence if that helps me keep my sanity....... Be my guest, as long as you don't try to take my independence away to help me keep my sanity. Manoj K. Jha University of Illinois