Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site reed.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!ucbvax!decvax!tektronix!reed!purtell From: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Just how far can friendship go? Message-ID: <1690@reed.UUCP> Date: Mon, 15-Jul-85 16:54:23 EDT Article-I.D.: reed.1690 Posted: Mon Jul 15 16:54:23 1985 Date-Received: Wed, 17-Jul-85 20:24:22 EDT References: <317@azure.UUCP> <800@vax2.fluke.UUCP> <1371@hammer.UUCP> <1671@reed.UUCP> <979@sdcsvax.UUCP> Reply-To: purtell@reed.UUCP (Lady Godiva) Distribution: net Organization: Reed College, Portland, Oregon Lines: 37 In article <979@sdcsvax.UUCP> dbw@sdcsvax.UUCP (David Wollner) writes: >Why is it that most people on this net seem to discuss only >physical relations (NOT sexual relations) with the opposite sex. >So far I have only noticed one person who will dare to hug both >men and women. Thanks Snoopy, I knew there were reasonable people >in this world. It's true that a physical relation with someone >who you can never be sexually interested in will not lead to >SOship, but it can be rewarding, and fulfill some of those RDA's. Ok - this makes two. Of course I hug both men and women. All the time. Of course socially it doesn't raise as many eyebrows when I hug my friend Dorothy (or any of my other female friends) as when I hug one of my male friends. I don't get any more fulfillment from hugging my male friends because there is some possibility that I could be sexually interested in them just because I am heterosexual. Hugging different people is more or less fulfilling depending on how close I am to that person. My best friend happens to be male and since I am emotionally very close to him, I like it a lot when we hug. As far as being sexually interested in the people that you are hugging, I've hugged some of my friends, both men and women, who I knew were sexually interested in me, but whom I wasn't interested in. Does this bother me? - No, although I prefer it if they don't make a pass at me. That can make things uneasy. >I have sent hugs over the net to people, >so if you need it, consider yourself hugged. Thanks. Same to you. Enjoy -- elizabeth g. purtell (Lady Godiva)