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From: regard@ttidcc.UUCP (Adrienne Regard)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: marrying up
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Date: Thu, 11-Jul-85 17:30:36 EDT
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Posted: Thu Jul 11 17:30:36 1985
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>It bothers me that women complain about the lack of "available men" when,
>in fact, part of the problem is their own desire to "marry up".  Though
>I can't really blame women for marrying up if they have the opportunity
>(everyone is a bit of an opportunist at least) I find it difficult to
>stomach men being blamed when a woman can't find someone to "marry up" to.

Well, hey, with the 63 cent statistic, it shouldn't be that hard for any
woman to find a man who makes the $1, if she is so inclined.  I think it's
pretty stupid myself, but then, nobody asked me.

>I think a lot of the problem is the attitude of the women.  If a woman
>can find a man to "marry up" to, fine - that is her priviledge.  If she
>can't find a man who is her equal, she has my sympathy.  But if she
>rejects men who are her equals because she is looking for someone "better",
>she has my anger.
>        Dave Martindale, watmath!dmmartindale

This is interesting, because in my casual poll of my male friends, they have
all indicated that _if_ a woman was going to break up with them, they felt
more comfortable if she were leaving them "for someone else" rather than
"because it isn't working between us",  i.e., they had more understanding
for opportunism than for simple choice.  Dave, you're an original.  I was
surprised by the results of my casual poll, but then, I am often surprised
by the professed beliefs of other people.