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From: jeand@ihlpg.UUCP (AMBAR)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Just how far can friendship go?
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Date: Wed, 3-Jul-85 15:51:05 EDT
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> 
> Mainly I'm concerned with the physical aspects of a relationship.  That is,
> just how physical can friends be before they can no longer be considered 
> just friends?  

I think this would have a lot to do with the cultures of the two people
in question, as well as just what the 'physicality' (ech, anyone have a
better term?) means to each.

I've lived in Miami for the past four years.  The heavy influx of Cuban
immigrants there has definitely transformed it into a more "Latin"
culture.  I share this culture (I am Puerto Rican.)  However, I spent
the majority of my "formative years" in Ohio.  Now for the point (aren't
you GLAD? ;-))

I see the Latin culture as being far more physical among (hug and kiss
greetings are normal among friends of either/both sexes).  The midwestern-
American culture is a lot more reserved.  Were I to hug a Miami friend
of mine in greeting, it would be perfectly normal behavior for our
friendship, and not at all a come-on.  Were I to do the same with an
equally close friend in Ohio, we would get, at best, strange looks.

So much for analysis of culture.  Now, if two individuals are both
particularly physical in their expressions of friendship, they may hug,
caress, hold, and so on, and not care what ANYONE else thinks (which is
nice.)
"Somehow I think I've confused the issue."


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					AMBAR
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"You shouldn't let people drive you crazy when you know it's within
	walking distance."