Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site unc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!houxm!mtuxo!mtunh!mtung!mtunf!ariel!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!hplabs!pesnta!greipa!decwrl!decvax!mcnc!unc!fsks From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Opening lines and being ignored Message-ID: <549@unc.UUCP> Date: Sat, 6-Jul-85 17:18:30 EDT Article-I.D.: unc.549 Posted: Sat Jul 6 17:18:30 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 12-Jul-85 03:49:22 EDT Organization: CS Dept., U. of N. Carolina at Chapel Hill Lines: 37 Summary: Expires: References: <487@unisoft.UUCP>Sender: Reply-To: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Followup-To: Distribution: Organization: University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill Keywords: >>/* fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) / 9:04 pm Jun 30, 1985 */ >> If I'm not the woman's preferred physical type, then I must >> constantly entertain her with my wit and personality (difficult!). >> Any minor mistake or lull in the conversation will result in >> an immediate rejection. In article mms1646@acf4.UUCP (Michael M. Sykora) writes: > Doesn't that bother you? It bugs the hell out of me. > I don't see why I should be expected to ENTERTAIN a woman. > The worst thing she could say to me is get lost, and if all > she wants is ENTERTAINMENT then good riddance -- it wouldn't > last long anyway. My point is that for best results, I must appeal to the woman physically. Then it's much easier. I use two approaches here. First, I try to be as good-looking as I can (grooming, fitness, posture, voice). Second, I observe her reaction to me, so I can avoid wasting my time and ego with someone who just isn't interested to start with. This leads into my previous posting about the importance of reading body language. I find that it is only when a woman is physically attracted to me that she is willing to take the time to appreciate my inner qualities (such as they are). Otherwise, she is likely to refuse to go out with me, saying something like, "I'd rather just be friends", or "I have a boyfriend already". Frank Silbermann