Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site ttidcc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!whuxlm!harpo!decvax!mcnc!philabs!ttidca!ttidcc!regard From: regard@ttidcc.UUCP (Adrienne Regard) Newsgroups: net.women,net.social Subject: Re: marriage Message-ID: <548@ttidcc.UUCP> Date: Fri, 12-Jul-85 16:34:51 EDT Article-I.D.: ttidcc.548 Posted: Fri Jul 12 16:34:51 1985 Date-Received: Wed, 17-Jul-85 04:02:57 EDT Organization: TTI, Santa Monica, CA. Lines: 33 Xref: watmath net.women:6404 net.social:826 >So my question is, `Where do the more serious women >usually go to meet men?' >David Bordeau David (hey, I love your wordprocessor!) When I was a more serious single woman, I didn't go much of anywhere to meet men, since I didn't meet serious ones when I went. There just aren't that many serious ones who go places where one meets scads of people and not talk about much. Better to let your friends know you are interested in meeting new people, and let them invite you and the prospect to dinner (you get to eat well this way) or to a show (and see lots of movies). This has the disadvantage of limiting your scope to friends (which means the pool varies with the "quality" of the people you know) but the dis- tinct advantage of allowing you to (a) give a pretty good run down of what you are looking for (b) talk with your friend all evening if the prospect is a dud (c) get to be better friends with your friends (d) and expand your circle of non-romantic acquaintences as well. Other than that, I'd take classes or undertake to learn a new activity. Enthusiasm for a second focus can help getting to know someone without the dangers of unwarranted expectations. River-rafting or camping weekends organized by a group at work (that's a big favorite around here) -- a class from college extension that takes you to the various musical or theatrical productions about town -- a specific era of literature you may be interested in. I used to meet scads of people working in theatre (not necessarily just on stage, but in the office and the shop as well). But that doesn't mean that the people you meet are "serious", and you are stuck wading through all the . . . uh, frivolous (?).