Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site ut-ngp.UTEXAS Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!gamma!epsilon!zeta!sabre!bellcore!decvax!genrad!mit-eddie!think!harvard!seismo!ut-sally!ut-ngp!ganpaty From: ganpaty@ut-ngp.UTEXAS (S.Ganapathy) Newsgroups: net.women,net.nlang.india Subject: Re: Arranged Marriages Questions Message-ID: <1930@ut-ngp.UTEXAS> Date: Fri, 28-Jun-85 18:53:57 EDT Article-I.D.: ut-ngp.1930 Posted: Fri Jun 28 18:53:57 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 1-Jul-85 07:49:40 EDT References: <1795@ut-ngp.UUCP> <2987@hplabsb.UUCP> Organization: Petroleum Engineering, Univ. of Texas/Austin Lines: 30 Xref: watmath net.women:6177 net.nlang.india:483 From: pc@hplabsb.UUCP (Patricia Collins) Message-ID: <2987@hplabsb.UUCP> > If the people in the marriage are to be functional partners, > there is no need for closeness, mutual admiration, or affection-- just > a kind of tolerance and some agreed-upon guidelines for behavior. A functional marraige is unlike a business partnership hence the above statement does not seem to make much sense to me. I don't intend to offend you. > My mom used to tell me that it's easier to marry someone you > really like but don't love than to marry someone you love but don't > like. How can anyone marry someone that he/she likes but does not love ? If the above situation can arise in an arranged marriage then liking the person does not have any solid reason behind it. The feeling could be just impulsive. I also think that it is extremely difficult to love a person that you don't like. Liking a person I believe is a prerequisite to start loving him/her. > But then, that's because I have high expectations for my marriage. I hope your high expectations will be realized, but if they do not then, then maybe these expectations should be reevaluated to reflect the current trends and attitudes. S.Ganapathy ganpaty@ut-ngp.ARPA ...!ihnp4!ut-sally!ut-ngp!ganpaty ...!seismo!netword!ut-ngp!ganpaty