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From: oaf@mit-vax.UUCP (Oded Feingold)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Inviting someone to ski, climb, whatever...
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Date: Fri, 1-Mar-85 14:48:45 EST
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Summary: It doesn't have to be a date 


	"... Asking someone to go skiing or rockclimbing or
	sailing or jogging does not connotate a "date" but
	allows you to get to know that person in a less
	pressurized atmosphere.
                                    Clare (Chu)

Touche!  It also lets you have fun without worrying about how you're
doing, when and whether you're going to score, what the wedding's going to
cost, whether you can deal with the inlaws.  That kind of shared activity
has worked very well for me, not so much in the regard of finding lovers
as finding people who are fun to be with.  The _right_ sublimation for all
those folks who are otherwise so damned inttense and overeager that they
pop the question after two minutes, then wonder why they got left.  (In 
addition, what a person is like on a rock climb tells me a LOT about that
person in general.  That kind of intensity we could use more of.)

	"p.s.  I wish my fiance had asked me to go skiing, but
	 when I met him I had a broken leg and he doesn't ski..."
No sympathy - teach him to ski. :-)

Cheers,

-- 
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