Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site utah-gr.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!ihnp4!mhuxn!mhuxj!mhuxr!ulysses!allegra!bellcore!decvax!linus!philabs!pwa-b!utah-gr!haas From: haas@utah-gr.UUCP (Walt Haas) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Getting that first date Message-ID: <1363@utah-gr.UUCP> Date: Fri, 1-Mar-85 18:10:25 EST Article-I.D.: utah-gr.1363 Posted: Fri Mar 1 18:10:25 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 9-Mar-85 09:47:23 EST Organization: Univ of Utah CS Dept Lines: 31 My preferred method of getting something started with an attractive MOTOS is to: first, talk enough to get some idea on whether she has compatible interests and values, then say something like "Would you be interested in getting together for lunch sometime soon?". This has a couple of advantages: if she really wants to dodge, she can - by saying something like "I never take a lunch break". That type of answer to that vague a question can usually be assumed to mean "no" unless it's followed up with a counter-suggestion. Lunch together is a good way to get to know somebody, because it's usually done in a public place where nobody feels threatened, doesn't take more than an hour unless you get really fascinated with each other, and if worst comes to worst, you at least get lunch out of your investment of an hour! Of course if you find a mutual attraction you can plan to do dinner together a few days later, etc. If you ask her out for an elaborate evening to start with she's kind of on the spot, since she's expected to spend a lot of time with somebody she doesn't know yet. While you're eating lunch, try to be open about yourself- what your interests, values and goals are. Assuming you do this properly, she'll probably reciprocate to some extent, and you'll be able to figure out whether the two of you will get along. Good luck -- Walt Haas uucp: ...decvax!utah-cs!haas ARPA: Haas@Utah-20