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Subject: Re: Yet Another New Topic
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Date: Fri, 1-Mar-85 16:58:29 EST
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	My experience and the experience of my friends tends to back
up what Judy said: that women take the responsibility for birth
control. I think it is a problem of communication more than any-
thing else. A man sleeps with a woman. He assumes, possibly 
incorrectly, that if the woman wasn't practicing some kind of
birth control, she wouldn't be sleeping with him. It is an awkward
question, so he never asks it. Maybe he and she will be sorry.
	I don't know how to solve this problem. Women can take
the initiative and say "Hey, aren't you going to bother to ask
about birth control?" but where does that get you? The woman
is still responsible. But it might get a few guys to ask in
the future. I think women will always be more adamant about
getting an answer to the birth control question. It is in their
own best interests to be careful on this point. Making men
more careful is more difficult since they don't get pregnant.
And they assume that since the woman has more to lose, she will
careful enough for the two of them. Unfair, but I don't see
any solution.

Sharon Badian