Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site leadsv.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!ihnp4!houxm!whuxl!whuxlm!akgua!sdcsvax!sdcrdcf!hplabs!hpda!fortune!amdcad!cae780!leadsv!chris From: chris@leadsv.UUCP (Christopher Salander) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Birth Control Responsibility Message-ID: <391@leadsv.UUCP> Date: Thu, 7-Mar-85 14:02:50 EST Article-I.D.: leadsv.391 Posted: Thu Mar 7 14:02:50 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 10-Mar-85 07:44:58 EST Organization: LMSC-LEADS, Sunnyvale, Ca. Lines: 24 There is an aspect of this birth control issue which I would like to bring up. Consider the situation where the man does take some precaution. I have made an effort to have condoms handy. This has had two different results. Usually, the fact that I have been properly prepared has allowed things to proceed smoothly. So much the better. Unfortunately, there are times when there are problems. The woman will become upset when she finds out that I had the condoms ready. It was as if I was EXPECTING to sleep with her. That is considered an outrage, and things fall apart. Fear of this reaction in women could encourage men to not bring anything, particularly the first time. Finally, there is often a certain stigma attached to guys who are known to carry condoms around. Remarks are made about how they expect to "score" anywhere, anytime, etc. My point is that it is fairly easy for men to contribute to solving this birth control problem; but a whole set of attitudes (of both men and women) must be change. Otherwise, there will always be social pressure against the man being prepared.