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From: jla@usl.UUCP (Joseph L Arceneaux)
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Subject: Re: Recommendations on asking a person out on a date
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Date: Fri, 1-Mar-85 16:19:27 EST
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Wait!  Forgive me for throwing out this naive and idealistic question, but
why play all these games?  I.e., there's all this discussion about the
best methods of approaching someone (trying to be unisex here, but I think
that's really naive, as the methods--in my experience, anyway--vary highly
between sexes) for a date, and when they are likely to say "yes" and "no"...

What's the reason for all this?  If the person likes you, they (will XOR should)
respond affirmatively when you approach them.  If not, then negatively.  Why
is it so frequent to encounter responses such as "Well, not this week, but..."
and the like?

Of course, I suppose this is also context dependent--different criteria to
use depending on how well you already know the person (never seen before,
seen around, work with occaisionally, office mate, etc.).

But what I really suspect is that we are (mostly/all) brought up to believe
that playing these little games is the right thing to do.  I have attempted
to develop reasons to justify this behavior (as I do it too, sometimes...) but
mostly I think it's mouse excrement...

Comments?

-- 

				    Joseph Arceneaux

                                    USL Computer Science Department
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	"I'm sorry, but my kharma just ran over your dogma."