Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.PCS 1/10/84; site ahutb.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!cbdkc1!desoto!cord!ihnp1!ihnp4!houxm!ahuta!ahutb!seb From: seb@ahutb.UUCP (s.badian) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Yet Another New Topic Message-ID: <503@ahutb.UUCP> Date: Fri, 1-Mar-85 16:58:29 EST Article-I.D.: ahutb.503 Posted: Fri Mar 1 16:58:29 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 3-Mar-85 03:11:18 EST References: <3850001@csd2.UUCP> <8283@watarts.UUCP>, <1372@watcgl.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Information Systems Labs, Holmdel NJ Lines: 23 REFERENCES: <3850001@csd2.UUCP> <8283@watarts.UUCP>, <1372@watcgl.UUCP> My experience and the experience of my friends tends to back up what Judy said: that women take the responsibility for birth control. I think it is a problem of communication more than any- thing else. A man sleeps with a woman. He assumes, possibly incorrectly, that if the woman wasn't practicing some kind of birth control, she wouldn't be sleeping with him. It is an awkward question, so he never asks it. Maybe he and she will be sorry. I don't know how to solve this problem. Women can take the initiative and say "Hey, aren't you going to bother to ask about birth control?" but where does that get you? The woman is still responsible. But it might get a few guys to ask in the future. I think women will always be more adamant about getting an answer to the birth control question. It is in their own best interests to be careful on this point. Making men more careful is more difficult since they don't get pregnant. And they assume that since the woman has more to lose, she will careful enough for the two of them. Unfair, but I don't see any solution. Sharon Badian