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From: chris@leadsv.UUCP (Christopher Salander)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Birth Control Responsibility
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Date: Thu, 7-Mar-85 14:02:50 EST
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Posted: Thu Mar  7 14:02:50 1985
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       There is an aspect of this birth control issue which I
   would like to bring up.  Consider the situation where the
   man does take some precaution.  I have made an effort to have
   condoms handy.  This has had two different results.

      Usually, the fact that I have been properly prepared has
   allowed things to proceed smoothly.  So much the better.
   Unfortunately, there are times when there are problems.
   The woman will become upset when she finds out that I had
   the condoms ready.  It was as if I was EXPECTING to sleep
   with her.  That is considered an outrage, and things fall
   apart.  Fear of this reaction in women could encourage men
   to not bring anything, particularly the first time.

     Finally, there is often a certain stigma attached to guys
   who are known to carry condoms around.  Remarks are made about
   how they expect to "score" anywhere, anytime, etc.  

     My point is that it is fairly easy for men to contribute
   to solving this birth control problem; but a whole set of
   attitudes (of both men and women) must be change.  Otherwise,
   there will always be social pressure against the man being
   prepared.