Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site usl.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!akgub!usl!jla From: jla@usl.UUCP (Joseph L Arceneaux) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Recommendations on asking a person out on a date Message-ID: <343@usl.UUCP> Date: Fri, 1-Mar-85 16:19:27 EST Article-I.D.: usl.343 Posted: Fri Mar 1 16:19:27 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 3-Mar-85 04:59:33 EST References: <>, <218@lasspvax.UUCP> Organization: USL, Lafayette, LA Lines: 31 Wait! Forgive me for throwing out this naive and idealistic question, but why play all these games? I.e., there's all this discussion about the best methods of approaching someone (trying to be unisex here, but I think that's really naive, as the methods--in my experience, anyway--vary highly between sexes) for a date, and when they are likely to say "yes" and "no"... What's the reason for all this? If the person likes you, they (will XOR should) respond affirmatively when you approach them. If not, then negatively. Why is it so frequent to encounter responses such as "Well, not this week, but..." and the like? Of course, I suppose this is also context dependent--different criteria to use depending on how well you already know the person (never seen before, seen around, work with occaisionally, office mate, etc.). But what I really suspect is that we are (mostly/all) brought up to believe that playing these little games is the right thing to do. I have attempted to develop reasons to justify this behavior (as I do it too, sometimes...) but mostly I think it's mouse excrement... Comments? -- Joseph Arceneaux USL Computer Science Department {akgua, ut-sally}!usl!jla "I'm sorry, but my kharma just ran over your dogma."