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From: fbr@utastro.UUCP (Frank Ray)
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Subject: Re: asking people out
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Date: Wed, 6-Mar-85 17:47:42 EST
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Posted: Wed Mar  6 17:47:42 1985
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	Nobody likes to be out of control of their emotional situation.
If your body, your eyes, your tone, your demeanor, don't fit what you are
saying, then a prospective date will pick up on that and refuse.  You will
not be attractive.
	There is no sense in emotional involvement with anyone, man or woman,
unless the two involved can figuratively dance together and both
contribute to a joyful couple.  You can be asking someone to dance, but
if your eyes betray you, don't count on an acceptance.  There are many forms,
a stimulating philosophical discussion, playing music, moving physically
together, even arguing sometimes, a thousand different ways to dance
with your partner.  But without that flow, that interchange, you'll never
make a really satisfactory couple.
	The dance starts slowly, gently, with a lot of trust.  Be easy with
your partner, he or she is worth it.  Even if you don't wind up as "lovers",
think of what you can gain.  There are a million facets of human love,
most of which don't involve sexual intercourse, all of which are enriching.
Be willing to spin, pivot, respond, take your part in the steps.
	If you can learn to express that feeling in your invitations, show it
in your eyes, you will have few refusals, because it shows your intended
that you are willing to be a part of a couple of some sort, an entity
larger than the two of you separately, one of the nicest aspects of being
a human on this good earth.
	How could she (or he) refuse that sort of an offer?

fbr