Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site pucc-h Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxj!houxm!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!CS-Mordred!Pucc-H:aeq From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: a new group??? Message-ID: <1684@pucc-h> Date: Thu, 24-Jan-85 00:37:50 EST Article-I.D.: pucc-h.1684 Posted: Thu Jan 24 00:37:50 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 18-Jan-85 02:34:42 EST References: <1885@inmet.UUCP> Organization: the PIRATE ship Lines: 54 From Beth Mazur (inmet!mazur): > If I were you, I'd increase the frequency of my therapy sessions. As I (I think) mentioned in an earlier article, a lot of the barrage with which I hit the net arose when not only some of the net, but also my therapist was on vacation. (While he is a licensed therapist, he is also a campus minister, so when the students are gone, so's he.) (Totally off the subject, the use of the word "students" reminded me of a bit out of an old Li'l Abner comic strip, where the Syndicate has just taken over Harvard University [through a long and bizarre chain of circumstances]: Gangster #1: "How da ya make a joint like dis pay off?" Gangster #2: "Outta what da STOONTS pay, stupid!" #1: "Oh, sorta like a cover charge in a strip joint!" #2: "Yeah! Only here dey call it TUITION!") > ... once you are out of your twenties > it gets much harder to deal with (and come to terms with) your past. That's why I'm working on it now; I have just over 5 months left. > You may blame your parents or your siblings [I didn't have any, which makes > things even worse -- JJS] or your first female friend or your 3rd grade > history teacher for screwing up your life, but you are an adult now Jeff. > Act like one. You alone are responsible for your behavior. << FLAME ON >> Would all you people who are (or think you are) so well-adjusted (I am coming to the conclusion that "adjustment" is a synonym for complacency or even insensitivity) mind waking up to the fact that this is a lot easier said than done?? << Flame Diminishing >> Sorry, Beth; your article isn't really insensitive like the one you were following up; but neither is it as realistic as it seems on first reading. << flame off >> Sure I can *act* like an adult, but the fact remains that I still have a lot of pains and a lot of needs, some of which I fear will never be met (where does a man my age go to get the parenting he missed, when he still trusts his own mother essentially not at all, and his father very little, with his emotions?). I sense a huge desolate emptiness inside myself, and I'm not sure how I'm supposed to go about getting it filled. Obviously there will be those who will point out my Christianity to me and state that God can fill that emptiness. But what I'm really missing is the feeling of warmth and safety that I should have had, and didn't much, when I was a kid; and everything I read about God suggests that He will lead me into less and less safety, rather than more. Any comments on this from the Christian community (by mail or in net.religion.christian, if you don't want to risk flames for bringing a religious discussion into this newsgroup)? -- -- Jeff Sargent {decvax|harpo|ihnp4|inuxc|ucbvax}!pur-ee!pucc-h:aeq "Grate on the Lord, get on His nerves, and you shall get what you want...." :-)