Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site sdcrdcf.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!ihnp4!zehntel!hplabs!sdcrdcf!barryg From: barryg@sdcrdcf.UUCP (Barry Gold) Newsgroups: net.women,net.flame Subject: Re: MS/Miss/Mrs. Message-ID: <1680@sdcrdcf.UUCP> Date: Thu, 17-Jan-85 23:01:07 EST Article-I.D.: sdcrdcf.1680 Posted: Thu Jan 17 23:01:07 1985 Date-Received: Tue, 22-Jan-85 04:37:55 EST Reply-To: barryg@sdcrdcf.UUCP (Barry & Lee Gold) Organization: System Development Corp. R+D, Santa Monica Lines: 24 Xref: watmath net.women:4164 net.flame:7911 Summary: I've got no objection to women making their own choice of the various honorifics (Miss, Mrs., or Ms.). Usually I don't use any honorific at all: I just settle for being Lee Gold. (Or sometimes even Lee Ann Gold.) However, when I do use an honorific, I prefer to use Mrs. I've got an acquaintance who makes a decided point of addressing me face-to- face as "Ms. Gold." He loudly proclaims that he is a feminist and will never call any woman by her first name (that would be overly familiar) or by any hoorific other than "Ms." I've got another (expletive deleted) acquaintance (a member of the Society for Creative Anachronism) who insists on addressing all mail to me to "The Lady Lee Gold." No, I don't expect anyone to come up with an answer that'll change the behavior of either of these jerks. But it feels good just to mention the problem exists. (Of course, either of these things is still preferable to getting called "Mr. Lee Gold." And I was once in an amateur press association with one jerk who persisted in calling me *that* on the grounds that he found my writing style somehow intrinsically masculine and refused to believe I was female. It would be very nice if we just got an all-purpose honorific, and could dispense with this whole nonsense. --Lee Gold