Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 exptools 1/6/84; site ihuxe.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!ihnp4!ihuxe!rainbow From: rainbow@ihuxe.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: RE:wedding rings Message-ID: <1025@ihuxe.UUCP> Date: Wed, 9-Jan-85 11:23:39 EST Article-I.D.: ihuxe.1025 Posted: Wed Jan 9 11:23:39 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 11-Jan-85 07:56:43 EST Sender: rainbow@ihuxe.UUCP Organization: AT&T Bell Labs, Naperville, IL Lines: 20 Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: wearing rings >I have a star sapphire with four tiny diamonds which I wear on my left ring >finger when I wear rings at all. It was a birthday present from my >grandfather when I turned 20, but most people don't know that, and it looks >like it may well have been put there by an SO. Which brings me to the real >answer to your question. Sometimes I just want to protect myself from >pestering morons who feel the need to obnoxiously "hit" on any available >female (e.g., going out for a drink at a bar with a girlfriend). For these >people to see a ring on someone's finger leads them to think something along >the lines of "she's already taken; why bother?" and thus eliminates for me >the potential for harassment (or at least reduces it). Second, any man who >*won't* talk to me because he thinks I'm married, engaged, or whatever isn't >worth my time: if he cannot see me as a friend, but only as a potential >person with whom he can go farther (I decline to specify a degree of "going >farther"), I don't need him as a friend, either. A real friend won't be put >off by the probability that the relationship will not go farther than "just" >a friendship. Well Spoken!