Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!laura From: laura@utzoo.UUCP (Laura Creighton) Newsgroups: net.women,net.singles Subject: Re: Pornography Message-ID: <4953@utzoo.UUCP> Date: Fri, 18-Jan-85 15:04:22 EST Article-I.D.: utzoo.4953 Posted: Fri Jan 18 15:04:22 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 18-Jan-85 15:04:22 EST References: <601@pyuxc.UUCP>, <677@utcsrgv.UUCP> Organization: U of Toronto Zoology Lines: 40 The one that bus me is the attempt to make a box and say ``all women fit here'' and then another box and say ``all men fit here''. It is real tough on the people who don't fit. What do you do when you wake up in the morning and say ``look, I know a lot of women! They are silly, clinging, embittered wimps who manipulate everybody by guilt and faked emotions which nobody could ever be feeling! I'm *not* *like* *you*!!! *I* *DON'T* *EVER* *WANT* *TO *BE* *LIKE* *YOU*!!'' If you are in grade school it is real tough. If you don't want to be a woman then -- you're Gay. Hmm. Now we get to do the agonising soul searching ``but do they REALLY all go to Hell? If I'm Gay, how would I know it?'' And even ``if I'm Gay, how come I'm attracted to men and not women...'' Maybe you get this all figured out by the time you leave school. Maybe you figure this out later. Maybe you never figure this one out....but it doesn't do *anybody* any good to try to come up with rules ``all women are like X'' and ``all men are like Y'' -- and it is hell on those who *aren't*... There are people who didn't like my posting on some of the reasons why girls date jerks. (actually, it is why people date jerks...) I got several responses of ``no, nobody ever dates a jerk over a nice guy because they are angry at the world and want a focus for their anger...it is always because they have a lousy self-image and don't feel that they could deserve...'' Would you folks *stop* *it* with your ``everybody has to be like this'' box-building? I was not saying that it is never because some people have a lousy self-image. There are some people who wrote me and said ``boy, could I see myself there''. What happens if you end up going out with them and they tell you that they used to only go out with jerks. Are you going to force them to lie to you to fit your concept that this is always caused by a lousy self-image? How nice of you! furiously yours, Laura Creighton utzoo!laura