Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 exptools; site whuxlm.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!whuxlm!jug From: jug@whuxlm.UUCP (Grauman Joseph) Newsgroups: net.kids Subject: Re: How to discipline short of spanking Message-ID: <639@whuxlm.UUCP> Date: Wed, 9-Jan-85 14:53:51 EST Article-I.D.: whuxlm.639 Posted: Wed Jan 9 14:53:51 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 11-Jan-85 08:09:21 EST References: <286@ho95b.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories, Whippany Lines: 26 Many of the responses had proposals on disciplining a child who didn't want to go to sleep at bedtime. It is important, however, to try to identify the cause or source of such behavior which appears to be quite common. In reading your posting I found two possible causes. First, you mentioned that when you send your child to her room as punishment. This makes her room an undesirable or bad place to be - to take it to an extreme example, like jail. Secondly, you mentioned that in order to get her to stay in her room at bedtime you allow her to engage in play as long as she remained in bed. This defeats the purpose of being in the room in the first place - to go to sleep. It might also be wise to consider keeping a child in the crib (with the sides raised) until they are older. I am happy to say that we never had such problems with our 2 children since we followed what I said in this paragraph. When you examine young children's behavior problems closely you will find that in most cases they can be traced to the way their parents dealt with them initially. Not everyone knows what to do in every possible situation, but consistency, purpose, and firmness can go a long way toward correcting bevior problems early. Joe Grauman AT&T-Bell Labs whuxg!jug or whuxlm!jug