Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/17/84; site hao.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!bellcore!decvax!genrad!teddy!panda!talcott!harvard!seismo!hao!woods From: woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: extra spur Message-ID: <1325@hao.UUCP> Date: Mon, 7-Jan-85 20:35:04 EST Article-I.D.: hao.1325 Posted: Mon Jan 7 20:35:04 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 11-Jan-85 04:56:21 EST References: <28@azure.UUCP> <1619@pucc-h> Organization: High Altitude Obs./NCAR, Boulder CO Lines: 37 Well, Jeff, this one is important enough for the whole net to read. > When I decide to be myself, I find that myself is > just about nothing. I lack most of the qualities that ought to be displayed > by a Christian. And what qualities are those, Jeff? As far as I knew, the only requirement to be a Christian is to believe that Jesus is the son of God, and to have faith that He will save you from your sins. You have demonstrated this faith on the net many times. I'm not a Christian, but I thought God sent his only begotten son (or whatever the exact words are) precisely because human beings are inherently sinful. Clearly, you have formed a set of beliefs about how you *should* act. Why not just be good old imperfect, sometimes sinful you? Doesn't it occur to you that being a Christian doesn't mean being Jesus? You have set standards for yourself that no human being could possibly live up to. Reality is sinful. Wake up and smell the coffee. > If I am myself, I'm likely to mess up relationships. I did, > royally, this fall; though that was partially because I was not fully honest > in the earlier stages Perhaps so, but as your last sentence here demonstrates, you will *certainly* mess them up if you are *not* yourself. The only thing that stands a chance of working is to be yourself, and particularly to be honest about what you are looking for in the relationship. Lies are always found out sooner or later, and the later they are found out, the more it hurts. Failure to say something is a "lie" by this definition. --Greg -- {ucbvax!hplabs | allegra!nbires | decvax!stcvax | harpo!seismo | ihnp4!stcvax} !hao!woods "...once in a while you can get shown the light in the strangest of places if you look at it right..."