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From: hav@dual.UUCP (Helen Anne Vigneau)
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Subject: Re: wearing rings
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Date: Tue, 8-Jan-85 16:27:42 EST
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Posted: Tue Jan  8 16:27:42 1985
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<*munch*>

I go through cycles of wearing/not wearing rings.  When I do wear them, it's
mainly for fun (exceptions below); when I don't, it's usually at a time when
I'm at the keyboard a lot, and the rings tend to slide around on my fingers
(due to minor fluctuations in the size of my fingers because of swelling,
etc.) which is very distracting when I'm typing all day.

I have a star sapphire with four tiny diamonds which I wear on my left ring
finger when I wear rings at all.  It was a birthday present from my
grandfather when I turned 20, but most people don't know that, and it looks
like it may well have been put there by an SO.  Which brings me to the real
answer to your question.  Sometimes I just want to protect myself from
pestering morons who feel the need to obnoxiously "hit" on any available
female (e.g., going out for a drink at a bar with a girlfriend).  For these
people to see a ring on someone's finger leads them to think something along
the lines of "she's already taken; why bother?" and thus eliminates for me
the potential for harassment (or at least reduces it).  Second, any man who
*won't* talk to me because he thinks I'm married, engaged, or whatever isn't
worth my time:  if he cannot see me as a friend, but only as a potential
person with whom he can go farther (I decline to specify a degree of "going
farther"), I don't need him as a friend, either.  A real friend won't be put
off by the probability that the relationship will not go farther than "just"
a friendship.

Helen Anne