Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 SMI; site sun.uucp Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!bellcore!decvax!decwrl!sun!sunny From: sunny@sun.uucp (Sunny Kirsten) Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social Subject: Re: having an SO as a co-worker Message-ID: <1916@sun.uucp> Date: Fri, 4-Jan-85 00:09:59 EST Article-I.D.: sun.1916 Posted: Fri Jan 4 00:09:59 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 5-Jan-85 23:42:19 EST References: <1058@houxm.UUCP> Organization: Sun Microsystems, Inc. Lines: 36 Xref: watmath net.singles:5205 net.social:393 > How do people feel about having their SO/spouse as a co-worker? I > imagine in some ways it is convenient, and in others it's awkward. > So [] you see how weird things are when a relationship isn't even > started yet -- I can't even imagine what it's like when one ends! -- As someone who has survived such a situation, I thought I'd contribute... There was this company I used to work at, where I happened, as a result of an accident (honest, an airplane crashed through the local high voltage power lines feeding our industrial park after it lost its wings in a collision with another plane) which killed the power so we couldn't work, to meet another programmer I really hadn't been acquainted with who had a steady mate, and I was married at the time (unhappily), and the whole software department wound up all having an early lunch together celebrating the birthday of our VP of Software. By the time lunch was over (we sat next to each other) we'd found each other intersting. Before a month had passed we were each looking for our own apartments and leaving our previous mates behind. For half a year we tried to keep our relationship undercover, but that began to break down as people noticed us spending time together on breaks, at lunch, etc., and before long people realilzed we weren't attached to our previous partners anymore, and started to hit on us as if we were single, when we were pretty attached to each other. Well we got tired of living in different apartments, and trying not to be obviously gaga over each other at work, which was fortunately helped by working in different groups, and finally we said to each other, let's get the heck out of L.A. and head for the mountains between silicon valley and Santa Cruz. It wasn't that unworkable, we just really wanted to make a geographical move, and finally had the right incentive (each other) to do so. It had been difficult to make the transition to being lovers while still working at the same company we met at, and we only stuck it out there for a half a year, but our relationship lasted a total of 3 years before we parted ways. Since then my ex got married, and I'm on the verge of same with someone I've been serious about for over 2 years. Sunny -- {ucbvax,decvax,ihnp4}!sun!sunny