Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site umcp-cs.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!ihnp4!zehntel!hplabs!hao!seismo!umcp-cs!beth From: beth@umcp-cs.UUCP (Beth Katz) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: What now? (Depressed ramblings) Message-ID: <2447@umcp-cs.UUCP> Date: Sat, 12-Jan-85 13:55:46 EST Article-I.D.: umcp-cs.2447 Posted: Sat Jan 12 13:55:46 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 14-Jan-85 04:25:26 EST References: <263@boulder.UUCP> <1328@hao.UUCP> Reply-To: beth@maryland.UUCP (Beth Katz) Organization: U of Maryland, Computer Science Dept., College Park, MD Lines: 48 Summary: Jon writes: >> So here I am. My best friend is gone, and I have nobody to talk to. My >> self esteem is crushed; I can't see any woman being interested in me now, >> if Becky isn't after all the love and good times we shared. I'd like to second Greg's comments that just because one seemingly fantastic relationship did not work, no others will work. However, I wouldn't just drop Becky altogether. At least stay friends. Maybe she has a lot of growing to do. Maybe she will come back, but don't dwell on it. Don't write her off altogether. If you were great friends before, you can still be somewhat great friends. Don't burn your bridges. But don't give up on women altogether waiting for her to come back. Get out there and meet some people. She's the one with the problem. You sound like a caring person who shouldn't sit around moping about what was. Get up, dust yourself off, and meet some people. You'll see that you're not as uninter- esting as you may think at the moment. >> So here I am babbling out my situation to hundreds of strangers, . . . Well, we're listening and will try to give as much support as we can from far away. The world does not end when a relationship does, even though it may feel like it at the time. There are a lot of other people out there in the world. You may not see a lot of women on the net because we are in the minority in computer-related fields, but there are some loving, caring MOTAS out there. But you have to try to meet them. Find something you like to do and do it with some friends. (Sex probably shouldn't be the chosen activity. :-) ) I like to play bridge. I've met a lot of people while playing bridge. Some church groups are good places to meet people. Maybe a group ski trip would be fun. Expand your group of friends, but don't be in a rush to find someone new for a long-term relationship. Becky might come back, maybe she won't. I feel like some of the details were missing from Jon's posting, and there may be reasons why she will or will not return. But you can certainly try to get on with your life. Enjoy being a person by yourself. I know it can get lonely being alone, but sometimes it is fun to just do your own thing when you want to do it. Go out with the guys/girls. Make some new friends. Good luck with getting on with your life. Note to net.singles readers: Sometimes these sentiments must be repeated. Every so often, people want to know how to get on with their lives or how to meet MOTASs. Does anybody have some other ideas of how they have met people in the past? My current SO was a co-worker, so that topic has already been discussed. People are people too. Beth Katz {seismo,allegra,rlgvax}!umcp-cs!beth