Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!torcsl From: torcsl@utzoo.UUCP (Jason P. Venner) Newsgroups: net.kids Subject: children and discipline Message-ID: <4900@utzoo.UUCP> Date: Fri, 11-Jan-85 02:09:14 EST Article-I.D.: utzoo.4900 Posted: Fri Jan 11 02:09:14 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 11-Jan-85 02:09:14 EST Organization: U of Toronto Zoology Lines: 22 I think that the most important task that a parent faces it to ensure that the children are not insecure. It is my feeling that many of the problems with people/children behaving at the lowest common denominator is just a striving to gain acceptance [because they are not secure within themselves]. I think that this often leeds to the impulse to 'better' the others at some act so as to gain more 'respect'. I think that a cause [perhaps major] is that the method of applying disciplin is to isolate the children when 'bad', and allow them to be present when good or to only pay attention to them [via punishment] when bad (ignoring them when 'good'). What would seem to be a more reasonable approach would be to [for young infants] keep them with you until they wanted to be put down. This needs much more thought, and I am hoping that many usful points will come up if it is discussed. -- Jason P. Venner @ U of Toronto Zoology {allegra,ihnp4,linus,decvax,watmath}!utzoo!torcsl