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From: sunny@sun.uucp (Sunny Kirsten)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: What now?  (Depressed ramblings)
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Date: Sat, 12-Jan-85 18:00:24 EST
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Posted: Sat Jan 12 18:00:24 1985
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> Our social lives contracted to include very little except each other.
> We came to the conclusion that we need new experiences, with somebody else.

I edited your story down to be as condensed as I could and still contain
the essence of your experiences with Becky, and this is what I came up
with.  I've lived through a very similar situation, made the same mistakes,
and with similar results.  Having learned from my mistakes, I'm being *very*
careful to not expect all my needs to be met by my current SO.  You must
maintain a social life outside your signifigant relationship, for expecting
one person to meet ALL your needs is VERY demanding and selfish.  It can
also be indicative of insecurity.  So go out and meet as many people as you
can, make as many new friends as you can, and maybe one of them will turn
into an "SO".  But, having found a new SO, don't then cut back to being only
with her.  KEEP your circle of friends too.
					Sunny
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