Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1+some 2/3/84; site dual.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!ihnp4!dual!hav From: hav@dual.UUCP (Helen Anne Vigneau) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: wearing rings Message-ID: <902@dual.UUCP> Date: Tue, 8-Jan-85 16:27:42 EST Article-I.D.: dual.902 Posted: Tue Jan 8 16:27:42 1985 Date-Received: Wed, 9-Jan-85 05:28:17 EST References: <954@utastro.UUCP> Distribution: net Organization: Dual Systems, Berkeley, CA Lines: 26 <*munch*> I go through cycles of wearing/not wearing rings. When I do wear them, it's mainly for fun (exceptions below); when I don't, it's usually at a time when I'm at the keyboard a lot, and the rings tend to slide around on my fingers (due to minor fluctuations in the size of my fingers because of swelling, etc.) which is very distracting when I'm typing all day. I have a star sapphire with four tiny diamonds which I wear on my left ring finger when I wear rings at all. It was a birthday present from my grandfather when I turned 20, but most people don't know that, and it looks like it may well have been put there by an SO. Which brings me to the real answer to your question. Sometimes I just want to protect myself from pestering morons who feel the need to obnoxiously "hit" on any available female (e.g., going out for a drink at a bar with a girlfriend). For these people to see a ring on someone's finger leads them to think something along the lines of "she's already taken; why bother?" and thus eliminates for me the potential for harassment (or at least reduces it). Second, any man who *won't* talk to me because he thinks I'm married, engaged, or whatever isn't worth my time: if he cannot see me as a friend, but only as a potential person with whom he can go farther (I decline to specify a degree of "going farther"), I don't need him as a friend, either. A real friend won't be put off by the probability that the relationship will not go farther than "just" a friendship. Helen Anne