Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site leopard.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!gamma!epsilon!zeta!sabre!leopard!lat From: lat@leopard.UUCP (Laurie Topor) Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social Subject: Re: having an SO as a co-worker Message-ID: <104@leopard.UUCP> Date: Fri, 4-Jan-85 13:06:38 EST Article-I.D.: leopard.104 Posted: Fri Jan 4 13:06:38 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 5-Jan-85 03:15:41 EST References: <1058@houxm.UUCP> Organization: Bell Communications Research, NVC, 331 Newman Springs Road, Red Bank, NJ 07701 Lines: 35 Xref: watmath net.singles:5194 net.social:392 > How do people feel about having their SO/spouse as a co-worker? I imagine in > some ways it is convenient, and in others it's awkward. As far as convenience > goes, you can share rides to work, and you always have someone to eat lunch > with. On the awkward side, it can get pretty uncomfortable, I suppose, if you > and your SO/spouse have a fight and have to come in contact with each other > (how do you keep up appearances, etc.) and things could get really bad if you > break up, and the other person get another SO/spouse. My SO and I worked together for about a year before he actually became my SO. During that time, we overcame our first impressions of each other (which were not bad, just strange), and became good friends. We enjoyed lunching together, going out for drinks after work, dinner a few times, and flirted with each other outrageously (never realizing that we were both serious and trying to get each other's attention). I had had a crush on him for the past nine months or so, so when he told me he was leaving the company, I was heartbroken because I thought I would never see him again. Well, we started seeing each other during his last two weeks at work, and it was not easy. It was hard for both of us to concentrate, difficult for us to make it to work on time, and just as difficult for us not to leave early. I think that if we had been seeing each other for a longer period of time and the "newness" had worn off :-) it might have been easier to deal with, but I can't say for sure. I know I would probably pester him to death; god forbid if we had an argument and then had to go to work; it would really be awful if we had to work closely together and we had a disagreement on how to implement something (we can both be very stubborn at times). Even though the lunches would be fun, and the ride-sharing to work would be nice, for me, at least, I would prefer to work somewhere different (unless we had virtually no professional contact during working hours). How about you people that work for the same company as your SO/spouse? Did you have probelms adjusting? Do you work together? I'd be interested to hear some other comments. Laurie