Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 (Tek) 9/28/84 based on 9/17/84; site mako.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!cbdkc1!desoto!packard!hoxna!houxm!ihnp4!mhuxn!mhuxj!mhuxr!ulysses!allegra!bellcore!decvax!tektronix!orca!mako!seifert From: seifert@mako.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: The end of it Message-ID: <483@mako.UUCP> Date: Tue, 1-Jan-85 12:37:39 EST Article-I.D.: mako.483 Posted: Tue Jan 1 12:37:39 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 3-Jan-85 04:20:09 EST References: <127@decwrl.UUCP> <1839@sun.uucp> <1554@pucc-h> <1881@sun.uucp> <1590@pucc-h> <473@mako.UUCP> <1623@pucc-h> Reply-To: seifert@mako.UUCP (Snoopy) Organization: The Daisy Hill Puppy Farm Lines: 56 Keywords: Jeff problems perfection life Summary: Jeff: >>> ... I must get all my problems and struggles taken care of, >>> cleaned up, put utterly behind me, before I'll be tolerable (let alone >>> desirable) to a woman whom I would find desirable. Snoopy: >> OK, go back and read that bit about the "fruit of knowledge" >> and then come back and tell me how you are planning on taking care >> of all your problems and struggles. It is our lot in life as humans >> to have problems and struggles, each and every one of us is going to >> have problems until we die. Jeff: > But I still feel that I ought not to, and indeed cannot, burden >someone else with my problems (even if I do manage to get the acceptance bit >down pat) and expect them to still like me. On this net, where most of the >people are many miles away, it doesn't make so much difference if I am >universally disliked. Snoopy: (finally the new stuff!) Answer the question, Jeff. Just how are you planning on getting rid of all your problems? Do you think it's possible for a person to solve all of his/her problems? Yes, most certainly work on solving the current set, but don't think that you won't ever get any new ones. And don't let life pass you by while you wait for all your problems to disappear. We ALL have problems. If you want an SO, you are going to HAVE to accept that she will have some problems. And she will have to accept that you have some problems. And who says that you are universally disliked? You're not. So there! > So many times in the past I have become >interested in a woman not because I was really interested in her unique >combination of qualities, but because I wanted forgiveness or some sort of >healing from her -- a fact which I did not realize until too late. Thus >now I assume that even though I don't see it now, there's probably some >such thing lurking under the surface of any desire I might feel now. Perhaps, but is it really necessary to always assume the worst? Maybe you like her qualities *and* want forgiveness or healing. And maybe you really do just like her. And some of us feel that just having an SO would do a lot of healing. (whether you're looking for healing or not.) _____ |___| the Bavarian Beagle _|___|_ Snoopy \_____/ tektronix!tekecs!seifert \___/ today's quote: "I.B.M. SUCKS SILICON" - the Banana Junior 9000 Series