Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/17/84 chuqui version 1.7 9/23/84; site nsc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!ihnp4!nsc!chuqui From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui Q. Koala) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Jeff Sargent Message-ID: <2228@nsc.UUCP> Date: Fri, 18-Jan-85 12:51:04 EST Article-I.D.: nsc.2228 Posted: Fri Jan 18 12:51:04 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 19-Jan-85 01:28:31 EST References: <4156@ucbvax.ARPA> <1673@pucc-h> Reply-To: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui Q. Koala) Organization: The Warlocks Cave Lines: 46 Summary: >Actually, there are some perfectly good reasons, namely, that I don't know >the answers to some questions: Well, lets see. As someone who has been accused of having an answer to any question (no guarantees about correctness) let me see if I can shed some light... >1. There are numerous women whom I find attractive in various ways, > distributed over half the continent and a 15-year age range. How on > earth do I pick? Why pick? Believe it or not, Jeff, it is possible to be attracted to numerous women at any point in time. Just ask Laurie, and any random redhead that has popped through my life. There are levels of attraction, though. Your best bet is to not try to pick, but to enjoy all of those attractive women at all of their attractive ages (the only truly attractive women is one that thinks she is-- that, fortunately, is age dependent) in the ways that you and she enjoy. It could be as friends, lovers, wombats, or you could even carry on a highly romantic relationship in uucp mail. You don't even need to meet a woman to know she's attractive. You can tell. Don't pick, don't worry, just enjoy. >2. How do I achieve a proper balance of love and desire to be loved? Well, the easy answer is 'whatever balance works, use'. The not so easy answer is that love tends to be self balancing in a relationship, and that once you get over the hurdle and let yourself get into a real relationship the first time, it won't worry you as much. >3. How do I deal with sexual desire, given the Christian guidelines which > I still consider it wise (though not especially easy) to follow? Hmm... You either handle it two ways-- first, make sure that the partner(s) you are involved with understand your feelings, so that you don't get into situations you have to deal with later, and channel the sexual desires into other areas of your life (amazing how much work you can get done doing this... *grin*). If that doesn't work, lay back, enjoy, and confess the sins the next morning. I'm sure He'll understand. After all, He created the desires in the first place. chuq -- From the ministry of silly talks: Chuq Von Rospach {allegra,cbosgd,decwrl,hplabs,ihnp4,seismo}!nsc!chuqui nsc!chuqui@decwrl.ARPA Vote for the fascist of your choice, but vote!