Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site ttidcc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!bellcore!decvax!genrad!teddy!panda!talcott!harvard!seismo!cmcl2!philabs!ttidca!ttidcc!hollombe From: hollombe@ttidcc.UUCP (Jerry Hollombe) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Spreading the load Message-ID: <185@ttidcc.UUCP> Date: Tue, 15-Jan-85 14:16:15 EST Article-I.D.: ttidcc.185 Posted: Tue Jan 15 14:16:15 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 20-Jan-85 00:43:13 EST Organization: TTI, Santa Monica, CA. Lines: 36 >From: sunny@sun.uucp (Sunny Kirsten) >Subject: Re: What now? (Depressed ramblings) >Message-ID: <1932@sun.uucp> > >... Having learned from my mistakes, I'm being *very* >careful to not expect all my needs to be met by my current SO. You must >maintain a social life outside your signifigant relationship, for expecting >one person to meet ALL your needs is VERY demanding and selfish ... > Sunny This is a very important point and I couldn't agree more. An acquaintance of mine put it another way: Once when she was in the hospital, and being a very bitchy patient, a nurse said to her "You're so needy it would take twenty tits to take care of you.". She was very shocked by this remark. When she got out of the hospital she went to see her shrink and said "What should I do? A nurse told me I need twenty tits!". Without hesitation her shrink replied "Get ten friends.". (Most intelligent line I've ever heard from a shrink. (-: ) I might add that even after you've got your ten (twenty, fifty, whatever) friends, it's not enough just to spread your troubles around. If all you ever do is tell people your troubles, even if it's only 1/10th of your troubles, they're going to burn out and go away. Don't forget to share the good times, too, and meet some of their needs. -- ============================================================================== ... sitting in a pile of junk on the runway, wondering what happened ... The Polymath (Jerry Hollombe) Citicorp TTI If thy CRT offend thee, pluck 3100 Ocean Park Blvd. it out and cast it from thee. Santa Monica, California 90405 (213) 450-9111, ext. 2483 {vortex,philabs}!ttidca!ttidcc!hollombe