Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/17/84 chuqui version 1.7 9/23/84; site nsc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!ihnp4!nsc!chuqui From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui Q. Koala) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Relationships: do ANY of them work? Message-ID: <2242@nsc.UUCP> Date: Sat, 19-Jan-85 20:23:22 EST Article-I.D.: nsc.2242 Posted: Sat Jan 19 20:23:22 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 21-Jan-85 00:46:59 EST References: <1869@wateng.UUCP> Reply-To: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui Q. Koala) Distribution: net Organization: The Warlocks Cave Lines: 41 Summary: >I've been sitting back and reading this newsgroup for some time now, >rarely posting anything because I've got little to say. Two things >strike me as frightening, though: the level of animosity and bitterness >displayed by contributors regarding the opposite sex; and the fact that >many of the correspondents to this newsgroup seem to be going through > a) divorce; > b) breakup in a close relationship; > c) being terminally lonely. Well, they don't ALWAYS work, but they work. My parents, for example, are working on #30. I haven't been that lucky-- in the last year+ I've gone through all three above. Now I consider myself to be much luckier-- despite the fact she's a significant distance away. There are people out on the net who have been in and are involved in stable, happy, long term relationships, it is just that sometimes the joys get swamped out by the day to day problems of coping with a less than perfect world. Remember, newpapers don't print good news, because it doesn't sell newspapers. So it is here-- success stories are a lot more rare, probably because you don't need advice on working out a success. The statistics show that most relationships fail in a ridiculously small period of time, something like 3-6 months. 1 out of two marriages will be dissolved someday. husbands and wives cheat on each other, shoot each other, yell at each other, and hurt each other. But also realize that a significant number of relationships DO work, and that 1 out of two marriages WON'T end up in divorce, and that many people DO end up staying together a lot longer than the norm. Nobody is 'normal', fortunately. If you are willing to put some work into it, you can be much better than normal. Remember that relationships require work and caring, and that 'lived happy ever after' doesn't, unless you reach for it. chuq -- From the ministry of silly talks: Chuq Von Rospach {allegra,cbosgd,hplabs,ihnp4,seismo}!nsc!chuqui nsc!chuqui@decwrl.ARPA National Semiconductor does not require useless disclaimers on posted material that is obviously not posted by company spokesmen...