Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site utastro.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!bellcore!decvax!genrad!mit-eddie!godot!harvard!seismo!ut-sally!utastro!mjs From: mjs@utastro.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: getting hurt (for Jeff S.) Message-ID: <959@utastro.UUCP> Date: Mon, 24-Dec-84 19:16:17 EST Article-I.D.: utastro.959 Posted: Mon Dec 24 19:16:17 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 5-Jan-85 02:02:01 EST Distribution: net Organization: UTexas Astronomy Dept., Austin, Texas Lines: 33 Jeff, I haven't read about a lot of your problems that I can even offer advice on, but here's one thing I do know: A relationship really IS kind of like riding a bicycle. When you first start, you spend all your time being so terrified that you're going to fall down that you eventually DO. It hurts and you wonder why you ever decided to ride a bike in the first place. But after that, the falling down gets easier. It still hurts some, but at least it becomes familiar, something you can deal with. The point is, the hardest part is starting, and that's what you're facing now. It will get easier if you get more practice. Ask yourself this: Are you more concerned with riding that bicycle, or are you more concerned with not falling down? I think you're putting so much emphasis on the details-- getting hurt, dealing with physical desires, wanting both of you to be perfect--that you're totally missing the real reason you're striving: to get close with someone and have a relationship with her. Just worry about riding the bicycle, Jeff. Plenty of time to worry about the rest later. Pooh "L, I, V, E, LIVE! . . .Otherwise, you've got nothing to talk about in the locker room."