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From: annab@azure.UUCP (Anna Beaver)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social
Subject: Re: having an SO as a co-worker
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Date: Sun, 6-Jan-85 22:42:02 EST
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> How do people feel about having their SO/spouse as a co-worker?  I imagine in
> some ways it is convenient, and in others it's awkward.  As far as convenience
> goes, you can share rides to work, and you always have someone to eat lunch 
> with.  On the awkward side, it can get pretty uncomfortable, I suppose, if you
> and your SO/spouse have a fight and have to come in contact with each other
> (how do you keep up appearances, etc.) and things could get really bad if you
> break up, and the other person get another SO/spouse.
> 
> Greg Skinner (gregbo)

	For a long time I made a practice of not dating co-workers, for the
reason that it IS very difficult to have to be and work around a person who
you had tried to get close to and it doesn't work out. The time I let friend-
ship over weigh this rule, I regretted it. My co-worker and I are not the good
friends we used to be. (This was a person who I worked very closely with)

	On the other hand, If it is someone who works for the same company, but
in a different department, you don't end up spending TOO MUCH time together. 
I almost didn't go out with my SO when he first asked me, because he worked in 
our support group. Then I found out he was moving to a job in a different
building, so I said to myself "Self", I said, "This is a nice person who you
have liked for a while. Remember how your heart sank when he had told you about
his being involved, last year? So what if you still have a bad taste in your
mouth from YOUR last relationship. He has been a friend for a while, he would
understand not wanting to get INVOLVED. Didn't he get hurt over that last
relationship of his?  What are you concerned about? we are just going to a nice
restraunt for dinner. After all we eat Breakfast together at work from time to
time."

	That was almost a year ago. For a while we would eat lunch together
then he moved to a different section of the company so I'm back to reading at
lunch time. However, I get to eat breakfast and dinner with him. I look for-
ward to hearing what other areas of my company are doing and it's not the same
as talking about work with someone who has no idea what you are talking about.

	One more thing. I haven't been happier.
	Besides, don't people who love each other 'work together' to build a
good environment for themselves?

					 Annadiana Beaver
					A Beaver@Tektronix