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From: ecl@ahuta.UUCP (e.leeper)
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Subject: Re: having an SO as a co-worker
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Date: Fri, 4-Jan-85 10:41:49 EST
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Having gone to undergraduate and graduate school with my spouse, as well as
working for the same company as him for 10.5 years (3.5 years with Burroughs,
7 years with AT&T), I have a few comments:

It is *generally* more convenient for car-pooling et al.  This is true as long
as you're in the same building and working the same hours.  Mark and I have
only one car, but when one or the other of us has to work over-time, it's a
hassle.  (Luckily, our company is one of the more enlightened ones and will let
you "tele-commute" for your over-time if possible.)

Lunch is an iffy thing; we each prefer to eat with our immediate co-workers
(matching schedules, work discussions), so how often we eat lunch together is a
function of how close together we are in the organizational structure.

We have never worked *very* closely to each other--we were in the same
department at one time, but in different groups.  The structure of large
companies seems to be such that people transfer around a lot.  Currently, we
are in separate buildings, 4 miles apart.  Anyway, we never fight.  :-)

There were people who couldn't see how Mark and I could attend graduate school
together (competition with each other, etc.).  It never was a problem to us,
and it made studying a lot easier to have someone to discuss problems with.

Starting a relationship with a co-worker is different.  With a going
relationship, you've worked out most of the major questions (does he like me?
do I like him?  will we end up going to bed together?); with a new
relationship, it's easy to commit a faux pas (at least in the other person's
eyes) which will make close contact at work difficult.

Also, some companies have anti-nepotism policies--if you end up
marrying a co-worker, you may be in for some hassles in that regard.

Frankly, I think working with a spouse is great, but, then, I've got a great
spouse!

					Evelyn C. Leeper
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