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From: kgdykes@watbun.UUCP
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Subject: re re Gays masquerading as heterosexuals (cont)
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Date: Thu, 3-Jan-85 02:53:38 EST
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 Even if a person DOES know you quite well, years of conditioning by
 *SOCIETY* has made it very difficult for many (i would tend to say most)
 gays to bring up the topic unless really forced to.
 
 Many many other factors come into it, for instance *you* may be tolerant
 but *you* cannot be told because when you get drunk or something you
 run-off at the mouth to other people (nothing personal meant here).
 Or how about *you* just falling head-over-heals in love in such a
 steam-locomotive way the other person really isnt allowed the "opening"
 to tell you the truth???
 Each situation is a complex and unique to the persons and places involved.

 This problem equally applies to "best friends" of the same sex.  If
 your best same-sex friend one day told you he was Gay, would your mind
 suddenly conjure up the following thought:
   "They want *more* than just friendship, they were after my body..."
 
 I have yet to see the day when the majority of straights do not have
 an insecurity based knee-jerk reaction (Many can "say" they are not
 homophobic, but the conditioning is buried deep within the mind.)
 
              - Ken Dykes
                Software Development Group, U. of Waterloo
                Waterloo, Ontario, Canada.  N2L 3G1
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