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From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent)
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Subject: Re: a new group???
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Date: Thu, 24-Jan-85 00:37:50 EST
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From Beth Mazur (inmet!mazur):

> If I were you, I'd increase the frequency of my therapy sessions.

As I (I think) mentioned in an earlier article, a lot of the barrage with which
I hit the net arose when not only some of the net, but also my therapist was on
vacation.  (While he is a licensed therapist, he is also a campus minister, so
when the students are gone, so's he.)

(Totally off the subject, the use of the word "students" reminded me of a bit
out of an old Li'l Abner comic strip, where the Syndicate has just taken over
Harvard University [through a long and bizarre chain of circumstances]:

Gangster #1:	"How da ya make a joint like dis pay off?"
Gangster #2:	"Outta what da STOONTS pay, stupid!"
#1:		"Oh, sorta like a cover charge in a strip joint!"
#2:		"Yeah!  Only here dey call it TUITION!")

> ... once you are out of your twenties
> it gets much harder to deal with (and come to terms with) your past.

That's why I'm working on it now; I have just over 5 months left.

> You may blame your parents or your siblings [I didn't have any, which makes
> things even worse -- JJS] or your first female friend or your 3rd grade
> history teacher for screwing up your life, but you are an adult now Jeff.
> Act like one.  You alone are responsible for your behavior.  

<< FLAME ON >>  Would all you people who are (or think you are) so
well-adjusted (I am coming to the conclusion that "adjustment" is a synonym
for complacency or even insensitivity) mind waking up to the fact that this
is a lot easier said than done??  << Flame Diminishing >>  Sorry, Beth; your
article isn't really insensitive like the one you were following up; but
neither is it as realistic as it seems on first reading.  << flame off >>

Sure I can *act* like an adult, but the fact remains that I still have a lot
of pains and a lot of needs, some of which I fear will never be met (where
does a man my age go to get the parenting he missed, when he still trusts
his own mother essentially not at all, and his father very little, with his
emotions?).  I sense a huge desolate emptiness inside myself, and I'm not
sure how I'm supposed to go about getting it filled.

Obviously there will be those who will point out my Christianity to me and
state that God can fill that emptiness.  But what I'm really missing is the
feeling of warmth and safety that I should have had, and didn't much, when
I was a kid; and everything I read about God suggests that He will lead me
into less and less safety, rather than more.  Any comments on this from the
Christian community (by mail or in net.religion.christian, if you don't want
to risk flames for bringing a religious discussion into this newsgroup)?

-- 
-- Jeff Sargent
{decvax|harpo|ihnp4|inuxc|ucbvax}!pur-ee!pucc-h:aeq
"Grate on the Lord, get on His nerves, and you shall get what you want...." :-)