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Subject: RE: what is love
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Date: Fri, 4-Jan-85 23:43:27 EST
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Newsgroups: net.singles    Subject: Re: what is love?

>My position is along the lines of 'love is caring for another
>person's feelings as if they were your own.'
>In addition, though, I think there is some selfishness involved with
>love since two people and their feelings are involved.
>How can you love someone if you place their needs/wants above your own?
>That sounds like you are being overdependent and insecure.

How can you love someone if you don't place their needs/wants above your own?
For surely you will try to do everything to keep your beloved happy and vice
versa. Somewhere in the middle the two sides will meet to solve conflicts.
Where is the dependency? Where is the insecurity? All I see is the joy in
giving and receiving. Without one or the other, there is no love.

Also, caring for another's feelings as if they were your own should be
the motto you live by. You should treat everyone like that, not just
special people in your life.

Robert

PS. I don't recognize myself. This article is so unlike me. No flames
    at someone or something. No sarcasm. Nothing to incite anyone.
    Something must be seriously wrong with me. What could it be? Is it:

    a)didn't drink enough
    b)drank too much
    c)drugs
    d)lack of drugs
    e)combination of the above
    f)New Year's resolution
    g)everyone has a bad day now and then
    h)everyone has a good day now and then
    i)mellowing in my old age
    j)someone else is using this log-on
    k)near death incident
    l)born again(as in Christian)
    m)amnesia
    n)split personality
    o)hypnosis
    p)trying to impress someone
    q)evil plan for personal gain ultimately
    r)senility
    s)temporary insanity
    t)simply goofed