Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/17/84 chuqui version 1.7 9/23/84; site nsc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!ihnp4!nsc!chuqui From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui Q. Koala) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: What is love? (my comments) Message-ID: <2192@nsc.UUCP> Date: Fri, 11-Jan-85 02:26:47 EST Article-I.D.: nsc.2192 Posted: Fri Jan 11 02:26:47 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 12-Jan-85 02:52:46 EST Distribution: net Organization: The Warlocks Cave Lines: 56 I've been purposefully holding off on making comments on my recently posted question because I was fascinated by the replies. Since I am going out of town for a few days to say a final goodbye to someone I never said hello to often enough, I wanted to get my $.015 worth in before the topic goes too far onto a tangent to make it useful. Actually, I think the question of 'What is love' is really two questions. The unspoken side of it is what I will deal with first. What isn't Love Love isn't living happily ever after. Love isn't a solution, a way of life, or an end of problems. Love isn't never having to say you're sorry (the man that said that should be shot, he obviously has never loved). Love isn't a do all, a cure all, a see all, a know all, or a remedy for baldness, hay fever, or hormonal imbalances. Love isn't music whenever she enters the room, marriage ceremonies, sex, children, rings, orgasms, or vows. Love isn't well understood, well defined, or (it seems, unfortunately) properly identified. What is Love Love is trust. Love is letting someone inside that wall, where all the deep dark secrets of your life are. Love is allowing yourself to be weak when you can't be strong, to be vulernable when you can't be untouchable, to allow someone the opportunity to really dig deep into your psyche and hurt you because you know they won't. Love is caring, and sharing, and wanting your hopes and fears to be known by others. Love is laughing at the good, crying with the bad, commiserating with the sad. Love is being there, in body, mind, spirit, thought, or being. Love is hard work-- it doesn't solve problems, it creates new problems; problems that you want to solve, but solve together instead of alone. Love doesn't happen, love is nurtured, like a fine rose. If not properly fed and watered, love dies, just as a vine will die of neglect. Love doesn't cling, but love is the glue that binds two very different people into a single being that is nothing like either, but a lot like both. Love is stroking the hard, grabbing the fingers, smiling, laughing, crying. Love is looking into each others eyes, and knowing, without speaking. Love is all the joys and pains and hope and fears and successes and failures and pasts and futures of two people congealed into a single energy that allows them to share with each other in ways others can't understand. Love is knowing that you have something that can be freely given, but never have less of; shared, and multiplied; but never, never taken, stolen, or destroyed. I think, though, that the most important definition is this: love is. chuq (with love to all my friends) -- From the ministry of silly talks: Chuq Von Rospach {allegra,cbosgd,decwrl,hplabs,ihnp4,seismo}!nsc!chuqui nsc!chuqui@decwrl.ARPA Do not wait until tomorrow to tell someone you care. Tomorrow doesn't always come.