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From: seifert@mako.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: extra spur
Message-ID: <482@mako.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 1-Jan-85 12:01:22 EST
Article-I.D.: mako.482
Posted: Tue Jan  1 12:01:22 1985
Date-Received: Thu, 3-Jan-85 04:19:51 EST
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Reply-To: seifert@mako.UUCP (Snoopy)
Organization: The Daisy Hill Puppy Farm
Lines: 28
Keywords: Jeff SO honesty
Summary: 

>	  If I am myself, I'm likely to mess up relationships.  I did,
>royally, this fall; though that was partially because I was not fully honest
>in the earlier stages, because I did not at all want the woman to have to
>experience rejection -- since she would hurt, and also since she would proceed
>to reject me; so when I finally was honest and indicated that I really did not
>want to be involved, I hurt her a lot worse than I should have.  I probably
>could not have done a better job of hurting her if I'd deliberately set out
>to do so.  How can I accept a self that does things like that?
>
>-- Jeff Sargent

Step one is to not make it worse than it is.  From your description,
it sounds like you broke her heart and sent her off crying on her pillow
for a month.  

However from what she tells me, it's not that way at all.  In fact,
she would still like to be friends.

So don't be so hard on yourself. Okay?
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