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Subject: RE: what is love
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Date: Fri, 4-Jan-85 23:43:42 EST
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Newsgroups: net.singles   Subject: Re: what is love?

> Love is doing what's best for the other person even if doing so
> hurts you, or isn't the best thing for you.
>	Being "in love" is looking out for your own best interests, only.
>Love is caring, nurturing, hugging, encouraging, as you would a
>flower, love is accepting someone despite their faults, and doing your
>best to help them be the best they can be.
>	Being "in love" is being dependent, getting your needs met by
>	another person, or only accepting the things in them you like.
>
>Anyone can "be in love with" a movie star or other idol, but 
>that's just want, need, desire, possessiveness under the guise of love.
>Love is giving your life force to others, helping them how you may.
>
>				Sunny

Your definitions of love are moving to say the least.
However, being "in love" is a state where one is experiencing
what you described as love. Note that it may be one sided if the
love is not returned. 
	Being "in love" is looking out for the others best interest, only.
	Being "in love" is being confident, secure, and taking the initiative.
	Being "in love" is fulfilling the other persons every need.
	Being "in love" is accepting the good and bad in the other person.
Not vice versa as you suggested. The problem is incorrect usage of the English
language. When someone says they're "in love" with some idol, thats slang
for infatuation. Infatuation is what you described above. The true meaning
of "in love" remains as it should and always was. When you experience it
yourself, or even see others experiencing it, you'll know what it means.
The difference between this and a dose of infatuation is more than obvious.

Robert