Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site masscomp.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!masscomp!carlton From: carlton@masscomp.UUCP (Carlton Hommel) Newsgroups: net.kids Subject: Re: Putting small children to sleep Message-ID: <209@masscomp.UUCP> Date: Sun, 20-Jan-85 12:14:34 EST Article-I.D.: masscomp.209 Posted: Sun Jan 20 12:14:34 1985 Date-Received: Tue, 22-Jan-85 05:16:50 EST References: <109@spp3.UUCP> Reply-To: carlton@masscomp.UUCP (Carlton Hommel) Distribution: net Organization: Masscomp - Westford, MA Lines: 38 Summary: Let sleeping babys lie in your arms In article <109@spp3.UUCP> Robbin Brahms writes: >We have an 8 1/2 month old. Until about two weeks ago we were holding his >bottle and rocking him to sleep in our arms. We were told that it is a very >bad habit to get you child into and that he should be going to sleep in his >crib by himself. Who told you that? A maiden aunt? Someone who hates children? Granted, you're a little to big to get into the crib, but your child will always want to snuggle with you before he goes to bed. As they get older, you will be reading stories, and shooing away the monster under the bed. >We were then given the advise (sic) of putting him in his crib >with the bottle propped to wean him from having to hold him. This must have come from you dentist. No one else would wish this on your child's gums and teeth. You don't wean your child from your arms, you do it from the _bottle_. The bottle should never become an object of affection or security. (That's what teddy bears are for :-) >The problem has been that he seems to cry more and does not go to sleep as >easily as he use to when we held him. Obviously, its not working too well, then. Your child is crying because he needs you. Who else does he have? >Our intention is eventually to get him to go to sleep by himself but it >there any easy transition, or at what age does it seem best to start? Um, well, never. She may start falling asleep by herself (without being held) around 12 months. You should still spend some time reading stories, tucking them in, saying prayers, etc. (This can take from 4 minutes to 40, depending on the child...) Parents and children need to spend time together to further their mutual development, especially when both parents work. Sleepy-bye time is when he gets a quiet, secure feeling from mommie or daddy. Alana Hommel (for) Carl Hommel Wife: We go sleepy-bye now? Husband: In a second; I'm reading a great flame in net.wombat.