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From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui Q. Koala)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: 4020 club
Message-ID: <2177@nsc.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 9-Jan-85 00:30:43 EST
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Posted: Wed Jan  9 00:30:43 1985
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Reply-To: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui Q. Koala)
Organization: The Warlocks Cave
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Summary: 

>Hi, My name Doug Comstock

>I donot know if I invented the club, but I am fourty years old,
>and have been married 20 years. On December 3, 1984, My wife told
>me she wanted a divorce, she had a affair and fell in love with
>him.  After I picked myself up off the floor, and all my dreams 
>at that time went down the tubes, I am finally, thanks to some 
>friends am tring very hard to get my mind and spirit back into
>some form of context.

>I read my first book in years, it was called Passages, and boy did
>it help me this weekend. 
>To start all over again scares the hell out of me.

Doug, as unofficial paternal grandmother of this group (and official
busybody, nose sticker into, and general pain in certain various bodily
sections (depending upon who you talk to, of course) I want to welcome you
into our little family. Here you will find a fascinating bunch of people
who are more than happy to sit down and chat with you, laugh with you, cry
with you, and generally learn how to be your friend. It sounds as though
you've been through a lot of hassle recently-- I can appreciate the pain--
I spent most of last year in the middle of a divorce myself, and while I am
finally through most of the pain (it seems) and moving forward again (I
hope) I know what it feels like to sit wallowing in the ruins of a life.
Feel free to drop me a line any time you wish, or ask questions of the
group in general. We can't fix up your life for you, but we're all more
than happy to work with you while you get your life back in shape. I know
these people did a helluva job on me over the last year (whether they
wanted to or not!) and I'm sure they can help you put things back into
perspective as well. A great bunch of people read this group, from almost
every possible background imaginable. The only prerequisite seems to be
that they care, both about themselves and about others. Welcome aboard.

I have to agree that Passages is a good book. If you are looking for other
places to get a perspective on things, I might suggest looking for the book
'Living, Loving, and Learning' by Dr. Leo Buscaglia, or his more recent
book 'Loving Each Other.' Both put the realities of life, love,
relationships and people well into perspective, and they brought out a
number of things that should have been obvious but weren't (at least for
me). They may not help, but they certainly won't hurt.

chuq von rospach
nsc!chuqui
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