Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 SMI; site sun.uucp Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!bellcore!decvax!decwrl!sun!sunny From: sunny@sun.uucp (Sunny Kirsten) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: What now? (Depressed ramblings) Message-ID: <1932@sun.uucp> Date: Sat, 12-Jan-85 18:00:24 EST Article-I.D.: sun.1932 Posted: Sat Jan 12 18:00:24 1985 Date-Received: Tue, 15-Jan-85 01:01:25 EST References: <263@boulder.UUCP> Organization: Sun Microsystems, Inc. Lines: 17 > Our social lives contracted to include very little except each other. > We came to the conclusion that we need new experiences, with somebody else. I edited your story down to be as condensed as I could and still contain the essence of your experiences with Becky, and this is what I came up with. I've lived through a very similar situation, made the same mistakes, and with similar results. Having learned from my mistakes, I'm being *very* careful to not expect all my needs to be met by my current SO. You must maintain a social life outside your signifigant relationship, for expecting one person to meet ALL your needs is VERY demanding and selfish. It can also be indicative of insecurity. So go out and meet as many people as you can, make as many new friends as you can, and maybe one of them will turn into an "SO". But, having found a new SO, don't then cut back to being only with her. KEEP your circle of friends too. Sunny -- {ucbvax,decvax,ihnp4}!sun!sunny