Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site pucc-h Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxj!houxm!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!CS-Mordred!Pucc-H:aeq From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: 2 Chuq articles Message-ID: <1648@pucc-h> Date: Wed, 9-Jan-85 10:03:10 EST Article-I.D.: pucc-h.1648 Posted: Wed Jan 9 10:03:10 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 11-Jan-85 23:55:29 EST References: <2133@nsc.UUCP> Organization: the PIRATE ship Lines: 58 From Chuq Von Rospach (nsc!chuqui): >> Without the pretty face she will not buy the package at all. > If you aren't careful, your Manufacturer could get sued for > deceptive packaging that way. No, I'm the one who makes the package; it's not His fault. > If you leave yourself open to view, you'll find someone who likes you, > and will never be disappointed again. But will I like them? Or, more to the point, will I be attracted to them? I'm sorry, but I'm getting tired of ending up just friends with the women I'm really attracted to; on the other hand, being more than that involves such a level of trust and self-giving that it is a frightening prospect too. (It is frightening to put yourself in the power of someone who is superior to you in some way; I realize that this works the other way, too, that no woman worth her salt would want to put up with my desire to be superior & in control in every way, but it's still scary to me to think of being SO-close to someone who has any superiority over me at all.) There doesn't seem to be any way at all in this life to be safe and happy. > self-acceptance IS a decision you need to make for yourself. But one of the things that I can't accept about myself is the fact that I want others to like/accept me -- and saying the above implies that indeed I should *not* want others to like me, that I ought to be able to find everything I need within myself (and/or from God). But I cannot stop wanting human friends, warmth, love; and the idea of self-acceptance being something you have to give yourself suggests that wanting any of this good stuff from anyone else is utterly illegal. > There are quite a number of people out here on the net that care about you-- > if it sometimes looks as though we are jumping on you it is because 1) we seem > to see a LOT more potential in you than you do, and 2) because we sometimes > get tired of caring more for a person than they seem to care for themselves. > You are a good person, Jeff, and you deserve much more than the hair shirt you > continually flog yourself with. I wish you could see in the mirror what some > of us see--until you do don't be surprised that most people don't see the good > things in you--if you don't show them to yourself it is very hard > for others to see them. I know perfectly well that I have lots of good POTENTIAL. The thing I feel so guilty about is that I don't use it. I think this is because it is still mostly potential, and thus I'll have a very hard time doing things perfectly -- and failure and imperfection are anathema to me. I don't know what will have to happen to change this. (Some of my Christian friends will say "Trust God", "Leave the results up to Him", etc. What does that mean, PRACTICALLY? How does one do this? Remember, this goes back to my earlier paragraph -- how can I trust One who is superior to me, not in some way, but in every way?) -- -- Jeff Sargent {decvax|harpo|ihnp4|inuxc|ucbvax}!pur-ee!pucc-h:aeq Proud owner of two Control Data doorstops.