Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/17/84 chuqui version 1.7 9/23/84; site nsc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!ihnp4!nsc!chuqui From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui Q. Koala) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: what is love? Message-ID: <2162@nsc.UUCP> Date: Sat, 5-Jan-85 22:39:54 EST Article-I.D.: nsc.2162 Posted: Sat Jan 5 22:39:54 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 6-Jan-85 04:21:56 EST References: <383@hou2g.UUCP> <1063@houxm.UUCP> Reply-To: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui Q. Koala) Organization: The Warlocks Cave Lines: 25 Summary: >Didn't the Wizard of Oz once say that a heart is measured not by how much you >love, but by how much you are loved? > >I never understood that statement. It seems like it should be the other way >around. I think the implication is that others will not love you unless you are capable of love yourself-- both to your own person and to others. People don't love selfishly, and don't tolerate those who do. Loving others for the sake of loving can degenerate into a narcissistic state, which is not a positive thing. By basing your 'heart' on how you are loved, I think the wizard is basing your perceptions of how you are loving on the people around you, and how they view you, your actions, and your feelings. It doesn't matter a bit what you really feel if it doesn't show through to others... chuq -- From the ministry of silly talks: Chuq Von Rospach {allegra,cbosgd,decwrl,hplabs,ihnp4,seismo}!nsc!chuqui nsc!chuqui@decwrl.ARPA Now look here Mister "I'm not just a word processor"...