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From: sunny@sun.uucp (Sunny Kirsten)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social
Subject: Re: having an SO as a co-worker
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Date: Fri, 4-Jan-85 00:09:59 EST
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Posted: Fri Jan  4 00:09:59 1985
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> How do people feel about having their SO/spouse as a co-worker?  I >
imagine in some ways it is convenient, and in others it's awkward.  >
So [] you see how weird things are when a relationship isn't even >
started yet -- I can't even imagine what it's like when one ends!  --
As someone who has survived such a situation, I thought I'd
contribute...  There was this company I used to work at, where I
happened, as a result of an accident (honest, an airplane crashed
through the local high voltage power lines feeding our industrial park
after it lost its wings in a collision with another plane) which killed
the power so we couldn't work, to meet another programmer I really
hadn't been acquainted with who had a steady mate, and I was married at
the time (unhappily), and the whole software department wound up all
having an early lunch together celebrating the birthday of our VP of
Software.  By the time lunch was over (we sat next to each other) we'd
found each other intersting.  Before a month had passed we were each
looking for our own apartments and leaving our previous mates behind.
For half a year we tried to keep our relationship undercover, but that
began to break down as people noticed us spending time together on
breaks, at lunch, etc., and before long people realilzed we weren't
attached to our previous partners anymore, and started to hit on us as
if we were single, when we were pretty attached to each other.  Well we
got tired of living in different apartments, and trying not to be
obviously gaga over each other at work, which was fortunately helped by
working in different groups, and finally we said to each other, let's
get the heck out of L.A. and head for the mountains between silicon
valley and Santa Cruz.  It wasn't that unworkable, we just really
wanted to make a geographical move, and finally had the right incentive
(each other) to do so.  It had been difficult to make the transition to
being lovers while still working at the same company we met at, and we
only stuck it out there for a half a year, but our relationship lasted
a total of 3 years before we parted ways.  Since then my ex got married,
and I'm on the verge of same with someone I've been serious about for over
2 years.
				Sunny
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