Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site pucc-h Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxj!houxm!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!CS-Mordred!Pucc-H:aeq From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: what is love? Message-ID: <1646@pucc-h> Date: Wed, 9-Jan-85 09:07:41 EST Article-I.D.: pucc-h.1646 Posted: Wed Jan 9 09:07:41 1985 Date-Received: Fri, 11-Jan-85 23:53:36 EST References: <1919@sun.uucp> Organization: the PIRATE ship Lines: 24 From Sunny Kirsten (sun!sunny): > To have a relationship, and yet still have each of the involved > individuals *remain* individuals, and to have the relationship continue to be > fulfilling despite the potential growth of the individuals in different > directions, is the most difficult of all.... > Thus you must put the other person's needs of individuality above your > interests in maintaining the relationship, in order for both to have the > freedom to be individuals. This reminds me of one of the neatest weddings I ever attended, which was worth the 800-mile round trip and the speeding ticket (don't speed in Wisconsin if you value your money). One of the things the couple said to each other in their vows was approximately as follows: "I will work for your best interests through all the changes of your life." A very realistic recognition of the same point Sunny made. (I suspect that perhaps the fact that the relationship of that couple almost broke up after they had dated for years, and then came back together, helped them toward this realism.) -- -- Jeff Sargent {decvax|harpo|ihnp4|inuxc|ucbvax}!pur-ee!pucc-h:aeq Proud owner of two Control Data doorstops.