Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83 based; site homxa.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxj!houxm!homxa!carson From: carson@homxa.UUCP (P.CARSTENSEN) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: What now? (Depressed ramblings) Message-ID: <620@homxa.UUCP> Date: Mon, 14-Jan-85 17:59:54 EST Article-I.D.: homxa.620 Posted: Mon Jan 14 17:59:54 1985 Date-Received: Tue, 15-Jan-85 02:27:43 EST References: <263@boulder.UUCP>, <1328@hao.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Bell Labs, Holmdel NJ Lines: 15 Umm, it's ok to talk about just picking oneself up from a long-term relationship and starting over, giving someone who is currently feeling rejected and unloveable a tough talk on quitting feeling sorry about the past (Note the deft avoidance of he/she *grin*) But I for one think that jumping over a period of mourning-- ramrodding yourself through that step, whatever--is a mistake that you pay for in the end....I guess I think of being in love (or love, I dunno which, for the record I have a VERY hard time saying "I love you" because I internally equate it with a demanding sort of "I need you" which I don't much like) is like the pictures they show in third grade science books of magnetism--with all the little magnetic particles lined up one way by the being-ness of the beloved....and if and when the beloved goes away, you should allow yourself time for all those little particles to return to random order, before you get them lined up for someone else,