Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!bellcore!decvax!cca!ima!ISM780!darryl From: darryl@ISM780.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Ann Landers' Sex Survey Message-ID: <35@ISM780.UUCP> Date: Wed, 16-Jan-85 01:14:59 EST Article-I.D.: ISM780.35 Posted: Wed Jan 16 01:14:59 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 19-Jan-85 10:33:55 EST Lines: 73 Nf-ID: #N:ISM780:13000060:000:3480 Nf-From: ISM780!darryl Jan 15 08:03:00 1985 For those of you who don't get your daily dose of Ann Landers, today's is something else... The following is the Ann Landers column for January 15, and is reproduced from the Los Angeles Daily News, without permission: ------------- "For Most Women, Cuddling Is Enough" "90,000 respond to sex survey" Dear Readers: Monday I promised to print the results of the poll in which I asked my women readers to respond by postcard or letter to the question, "Would you be content to be held close and treated tenderly, and forget about 'the act'? Answer YES or NO and please add one sentence: I am over (or under) 40 years of age." More than 90,000 women cast their ballots. Seventy two percent said YES, they would be content to be held close and treated tenderly and forget about the act. Of the 72 percent who said yes, 40 percent were under 40 years old. That was the most surprising aspect of the survey. Many women who voted NO said they needed the sexual climax to relieve physical tension. Almost as many said they wanted the ultimate in grati- fication -- that anything less would make them feel exploited and used. A 32 year old from Atlanta put it this way: "He insists on getting his satisfaction, so why shouldn't I have mine?" Columbus, Ohio: "I am under 40 and would be delighted to settle for tender words and warm caresses. The rest of it is a bore and can be exhausting. I am sure the sex act was designed strictly for the pleasure of males." Anchorage, Alaska: "I am under 40 (26 to be exact). I want three children, so obviously I need more than conversation. After I have my family I would happily settle for separate rooms. Sex doesn't do a thing for me." Westport, Conn.: "I vote YES. My husband is a diabetic and hasn't been able to perform for 10 years. I would have voted YES 20 years ago. He never bothered to satisfy me when he had his health. His illness was a blessing." Kansas City: "I'm 55 and vote YES. The best part is the cuddling and caressing and the tender words that come with caring. My first husband used to rape me about five times a week. If a stranger had treated me like that, I would have had him arrested." Chicago: "I don't want either his tender words or the act. My husband became impotent from alcoholism 10 years ago. The only word I'd like from him is 'goodbye', but the bum won't leave." Helena, Mont.: "NO. I am 32. To say that touching and tender words are sufficient is like settling for the smell of fresh baked bread and ignoring the nourishment it provides. Such people must be crazy." Texarkana: "YES. Without the tender embrace, the act is animalistic. For years I hated sex and felt used. I was relieved when my husband died. My present mate is on heart pills that have made him impotent. It's like heaven to be held and cuddled." Washington, D.C.: "YES, yes, a million times yes! I would love to be spoken to tenderly. It would be enough. My boyfriend never says a word. If I say anything he says, 'Be quiet. You're spoiling things.'" Eureka, Calif.: "I'm 62 and voting NO. If my old man was over the hill, I would settle for high-school necking, but as long as he's able to shake the walls and wake up the neighbors downstairs, I want to get in on the action. And I'll take an encore anytime I can get it." -------------------- --Darryl Richman, INTERACTIVE Systems Inc. ...!cca!ima!ism780!darryl The views expressed above are my opinions only.