Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site aesat.UUCP Path: utzoo!aesat!rwh From: rwh@aesat.UUCP (Russ Herman) Newsgroups: net.kids Subject: Re: How to discipline short of spanking Message-ID: <316@aesat.UUCP> Date: Thu, 3-Jan-85 08:41:54 EST Article-I.D.: aesat.316 Posted: Thu Jan 3 08:41:54 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 3-Jan-85 10:56:40 EST References: <286@ho95b.UUCP> Organization: AES Data Inc., Mississauga, Ont., CANADA L5N 3C9 Lines: 29 First of all, are you sure she really needs as much sleep as you think? Like adults, children's sleep requirements vary. It's pretty easy to tell when they're tired at that age: they start getting crabby, rubbing their eyes, etc. Don't pay any attention to her verbal statements: my 3 year old has been known to deny that he's tired, then, two minutes later, be asleep sitting up on the sofa! I don't think that not sleeping is a "spanking offense". While I'm not ideologically opposed to spanking, I've never had to resort to it either. Isolation has always been a sufficient deterrent for my son. You are doing the right thing, basically. Instead of telling her that it's "nap time", tell her that it's "quiet time", and that she has to go up to her room, and stay there. Get a digital clock for her to watch, and tell her that she's going to have to stay until(sorry all you flamers about kids' not learning to tell time). Then do your best to ignore her until the designated time. Be persistent, and don't respond to her anger with more anger, or with placation. Don't be reluctant to confine her to the room - if she wants to scream, that's her privilege. Remember that unrewarded behavior is eventually extinguished. Kids need to learn that there are some things in life that they just have to put up with, like sitting at the table during meals, going to sleep at night, etc. A few things that comprise normal civilised human behavior. -- ______ Russ Herman / \ {allegra,ihnp4,linus,decvax}!utzoo!aesat!rwh @( ? ? )@ ( || ) The opinions above are strictly personal, and ( \__/ ) do not reflect those of my employer (or even \____/ possibly myself an hour from now.)