Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.PCS 1/10/84; site ahuta.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxj!houxm!ahuta!ecl From: ecl@ahuta.UUCP (e.leeper) Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social Subject: Re: having an SO as a co-worker Message-ID: <317@ahuta.UUCP> Date: Fri, 4-Jan-85 10:41:49 EST Article-I.D.: ahuta.317 Posted: Fri Jan 4 10:41:49 1985 Date-Received: Sat, 5-Jan-85 02:48:18 EST References: <1058@houxm.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Information Systems Labs, Holmdel NJ Lines: 40 Xref: watmath net.singles:5189 net.social:391 REFERENCES: <1058@houxm.UUCP> Having gone to undergraduate and graduate school with my spouse, as well as working for the same company as him for 10.5 years (3.5 years with Burroughs, 7 years with AT&T), I have a few comments: It is *generally* more convenient for car-pooling et al. This is true as long as you're in the same building and working the same hours. Mark and I have only one car, but when one or the other of us has to work over-time, it's a hassle. (Luckily, our company is one of the more enlightened ones and will let you "tele-commute" for your over-time if possible.) Lunch is an iffy thing; we each prefer to eat with our immediate co-workers (matching schedules, work discussions), so how often we eat lunch together is a function of how close together we are in the organizational structure. We have never worked *very* closely to each other--we were in the same department at one time, but in different groups. The structure of large companies seems to be such that people transfer around a lot. Currently, we are in separate buildings, 4 miles apart. Anyway, we never fight. :-) There were people who couldn't see how Mark and I could attend graduate school together (competition with each other, etc.). It never was a problem to us, and it made studying a lot easier to have someone to discuss problems with. Starting a relationship with a co-worker is different. With a going relationship, you've worked out most of the major questions (does he like me? do I like him? will we end up going to bed together?); with a new relationship, it's easy to commit a faux pas (at least in the other person's eyes) which will make close contact at work difficult. Also, some companies have anti-nepotism policies--if you end up marrying a co-worker, you may be in for some hassles in that regard. Frankly, I think working with a spouse is great, but, then, I've got a great spouse! Evelyn C. Leeper ...{ihnp4, houxm, hocsj}!ahuta!ecl