Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 (Fortune 01.1b1); site rhino.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!ihnp4!zehntel!hplabs!hpda!fortune!rhino!marcum From: marcum@rhino.UUCP (Alan M. Marcum) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: What now? (Depressed ramblings) Message-ID: <276@rhino.UUCP> Date: Mon, 14-Jan-85 18:30:03 EST Article-I.D.: rhino.276 Posted: Mon Jan 14 18:30:03 1985 Date-Received: Thu, 17-Jan-85 04:34:18 EST References:Reply-To: marcum@rhino.UUCP (Alan M. Marcum) Organization: Fortune Customer Support Lines: 32 Posted, rather than mailed because, as Greg said, this discussion is likely to be valuable and interesting to many. Jon, while reading your note, I thought back to my last traumatic breakup. I remember being unable to think for a while, crying, being in general pretty miserable. I'm still here. You will be, too -- please. You really are the most important part of your world. Yes, Becky was pretty important. Give it a little time, sure, but get yourself out and around people. I made a marvelous friend once helping an acquaintance through a divorce, by just listening, and being there. You've made the first step -- you've though enough, felt enough, hurt enough to scream help to the net. Contrary to many beliefs, though it's a cold, cruel world out there, there are lots of warm, kind people to help us all through it. Yes, the thoughts of "starting over" are terrifying. Start over anyway. Yes, the thoughts of "facing the world 'alone'" are depressing. Face the world anyway. Yes, the thoughts of worthlessness are overwhelming. You're worth something -- a lot -- regardless. Look forward. It can get even better. It has for many before you, it will for many after you, why not for you, too? And, by the way, thanks. -- Alan M. Marcum Fortune Systems, Redwood City, California ...!{ihnp4, ucbvax!amd, hpda, sri-unix, harpo}!fortune!rhino!marcum