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From: rbg@cbosgd.UUCP (Richard Goldschmidt)
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Subject: Re: any LDR's out there? (advice needed)
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Date: Mon, 21-Jan-85 14:24:58 EST
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Posted: Mon Jan 21 14:24:58 1985
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I have been involved in "LDR's" several times, and I'm currently in that 
situation.  I think the general comment that Woody Allen made is appropriate 
here too:  "Relationships are like sharks, they have to keep moving forward 
or they die."  Being separated creates lots of strains on a relationship 
above and beyond the normal wear and tear.  It requires a lot of extra effort 
to keep it "moving forward", including lots of long-distance phone calls, 
letters and visits.  All of my previous attempts to maintain long-distance 
relationships lasted as long as it took for both of us to realize that we 
were drifting apart, although I have maintained as much of a friendship as I 
could in each of these situations.  

Undaunted by previous failures (or perhaps oblivious), I am trying again.
My current SO lives in Pittsburgh, 3.5 hrs drive away.  We talk on the phone 
roughly every other night, and we get together about every other weekend and 
for special occasions.  We went out together for a little more than a year 
before I moved, and its been almost a year since then.  And most importantly, 
we are still growing closer.  The sacrafices we make for each other enhance 
the trust we need that we won't fail.  Hopefully, she will be finished with 
her Ph.D. by the end of the summer and will move in with me here.  So I
haven't given up hope that it is possible to keep a relationship alive across
distance and time.  Right now things are looking good for us.


Rich Goldschmidt     {ucbvax,ihnp4,decvax,allegra} !cbosgd!rbg
		     ARPA:  cbosgd!rbg@ucbvax

"I've never ever been a blue calm sea, I've always been a storm"