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From: seifert@mako.UUCP (Snoopy)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: The end of it
Message-ID: <473@mako.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 23-Dec-84 15:56:59 EST
Article-I.D.: mako.473
Posted: Sun Dec 23 15:56:59 1984
Date-Received: Thu, 27-Dec-84 02:13:45 EST
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Reply-To: seifert@mako.UUCP (Snoopy)
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Summary: 

In article <1590@pucc-h> aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent) writes:
>       The reason I sighed so wistfully for that is my assumption
> (which I know will be widely challenged, but which I have yet to see
> disproved) that I must get all my problems and struggles taken care of,
> cleaned up, put utterly behind me, before I'll be tolerable (let alone
> desirable) to a woman whom I would find desirable.  

	OK, go back and read that bit about the "fruit of knowledge"
and then come back and tell me how you are planning on taking care
of all your problems and struggles.  It is our lot in life as humans
to have problems and struggles, each and every one of us is going to
have problems until we die.  And we all have out own unique set.
(kind of like snowflakes  :-)  )  Haven't you ever met anyone who
doesn't seem to get their share of problems?  Wasn't it hard to relate
to them?  Didn't it seem like there was something wrong?
	
	Quit looking for "Miss Perfect".  She doesn't exist.  None
of us are perfect.  But there might just be a "Miss Right" out there
looking for someone like you.  What's the difference between Miss
Perfect and Miss Right?  Well, Miss Perfect is perfect in every detail,
you could find no fault with her in any way.  Miss Right is not perfect,
but her faults are in areas you can tolerate. (maybe she sleeps late
on Saturdays, and she squeezes the toothpaste from the middle of the tube.)

	You'd be surprised at what love will put up with.

> Mind you, I "know",
> rationally, that this is not necessarily true; but that doesn't mean
> I know it at gut level -- i.e. I don't believe it strongly enough to want
> to act on it.

Perhaps, or perhaps you're not really sure you *want* an SO.  There
are some disadvantages that go along with the advantages.  Less
freedom seems to be a biggie.  Most of us think that the advantages
greatly outweigh the disadvantages.  Some people are quite content
being (truely) single.  Paul (1Cor7) must have been speaking to
*someone*.  Methinks you need to decide exactly what it is that you
want.  (No, it's not an easy decision.)  You claim to be unhappy being
alone.  So try it the other way.  Drive down and visit the photo-lady.
So she's *not* Miss Perfect.  Probably not even Miss Right.  But
maybe she's Miss Almost-right, and you could see how nice SO-ship
can be.  Or discover that it's not for you.  Or maybe, just maybe,
she *is* Miss Right.

>	  Thus I assume that
> even now, when I actually seem to be in fairly good shape emotionally, that
> any desire for a woman actually arises out of some deep, as yet undiagnosed
> problem.

huh?

> I would much prefer that God show me the problem directly, in the
> privacy and safety of my own home, than require that I go out and get zapped
> in order to get the problem fixed.  I'm tired of having my suffering 
> increased any time I try to ameliorate it.

Would you rather the problem not get fixed?  I'm not always too
crazy about God's methods and timing either, but we just have
to trust him to know what's best for us.

>I appreciate your constructive comments.

I hope these have been constructive.

        _____		
	|___|		also looking for Miss Right, (*)
       _|___|_			Snoopy
       \_____/		tektronix!tekecs!seifert <- NEW ADDRESS !!!
        \___/

(*) hmmm, maybe she's in the phone book, under 'R'   :-)