Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 exptools 1/6/84; site ihuxf.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!ihnp4!ihuxf!features From: features@ihuxf.UUCP (M.A. Zeszutko) Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Re: "Mr. Goodbar" and self-dislike Message-ID: <2516@ihuxf.UUCP> Date: Tue, 18-Dec-84 14:33:12 EST Article-I.D.: ihuxf.2516 Posted: Tue Dec 18 14:33:12 1984 Date-Received: Wed, 19-Dec-84 02:39:03 EST References: <983@phs.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Bell Labs, Naperville, IL Lines: 20 Sherry Marts brings up an interesting point here: that the women who attend self-defense classes have to first learn that they are worth defending! Chimera (a Chicago-based self-defense group) came to Bell Labs to give a one-evening presentation on self-defense. The instructor said something along those same lines. Too often we don't feel we're worthy enough to repel attack. The instructor went on to say that we *can* get angry if someone tries to attack someone close to us (mother, sister, daughter, close friend) and that if we can just imagine ourselves as one of those people, we can then use that energy to defend ourselves. I do find it easier to defend other people than to defend myself, as a rule. I think the Chimera instructor was correct. -- aMAZon @ AT&T Bell Labs, Naperville, IL; ihnp4!ihuxf!features "Merry Christmas to all and to all a Good Night."