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From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: extra spur
Message-ID: <1622@pucc-h>
Date: Fri, 28-Dec-84 05:04:27 EST
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Posted: Fri Dec 28 05:04:27 1984
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From Henry Mensch (ag5@pucc-*):

> if you don't put up a 'pretty face' then it will be easier for the woman 
> who can accept someone who is human and has problems (like we *all* do).
> The pretty face is a deception; the person 'receiving' this pretty face is
> deceived into buying a package which she may have no use for.  

My point exactly....  Without the pretty face she will not buy the package
at all.  I am well aware of how difficult it is to like those who don't like
themselves; they have too great a need for approval and affirmation.  (Clearly
I am the net's most vocal example of this.)  The point is that I don't just
*have* problems; I *am* the problem.  Big difference.

>> I have a very difficult time taking the initiative in being warm, loving,
>> and accepting.  [myself]

> what *exactly* do you mean by this?  

Example:  I feel sure that Jesus could walk into the PUCC console room, where
the operations staff sits smoking (many of them), talking vacuously about
sports or about their plans to drink that evening or that weekend, listening
to Drug Radio Z-96 (a local top 40 station several of whose people were busted
for cocaine not long ago), and be genuinely warm and accepting to them.
Inasmuch as I detest cigarettes, detest the wastage of time on vacuous
conversation, have a sour-grapes attitude about sports since I was such a
terrible athlete when I was in school, and loathe top 40 "music", it is
extremely difficult for me to be anything more than civil with these people
(with the exception of sharing occasional cynical humor at the expense of
our computer systems or our operations supervisors).  Until I can be truly
warm and loving and accepting to such people, with whom by nature I have no
desire to associate, I am not being the loving person I am supposed to be,
and thus I am a first-class failure at being a Christian, which is the
central thing in my life.  If I fail at the most important thing in my life,
I'm not much good, am I?  Anyone would say that.

Defiantly yours (I'm going to stay in the safe zone of self-rejection as
long as I possibly can!),

-- 
-- Jeff Sargent
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Proud owner of two Control Data doorstops.