Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site CS-Arthur Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!CS-Mordred!CS-Arthur!cak From: cak@CS-Arthur (Christopher A Kent) Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social Subject: Re: friendships with SO's Message-ID: <785@CS-Arthur> Date: Thu, 20-Dec-84 14:39:44 EST Article-I.D.: CS-Arthu.785 Posted: Thu Dec 20 14:39:44 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 22-Dec-84 02:37:30 EST References: <2551@sdcc3.UUCP> Organization: Department of Computer Science, Purdue University Lines: 19 Xref: watmath net.singles:5043 net.social:377 Boy are you lucky to have managed to retain your best friend status with your ex-SO. It usually just doesn't work that way -- it certainly never has for me, much as I've tried. A good friend of mine has tried to explain it as follows: during/after the breakup, your ex has a hard time dealing with you in any capacity because s/he still sees what was there and what s/he still wants to have. This seems to mainly be caused because most breakups are one-sided; not amenable dissolutions as you seem to have had. Lord knows, I've always wanted to remain friendly and supporting, and I still care very deeply for the people that I've had as SOs and broken up with (or been tossed by). But I don't get to express it very often. Lucky you. Cheers, chris