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From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui Q. Koala)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Signals (Actually, Jeff)
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Date: Mon, 31-Dec-84 15:00:42 EST
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Posted: Mon Dec 31 15:00:42 1984
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Reply-To: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui Q. Koala)
Organization: The Warlocks Cave
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Summary: 

>I have a very hard time accepting myself given that I do not by a long shot
>measure up to Christ and His commandment, "Love one another as I have loved
>you" -- and He put up with a lot from those disciples of His, some of whom
>were real bozos by nature.  A funny thing I just thought of is that if I
>could accept myself, that then I could much more easily obey this commandment
>(certainly Christ loved from a base of supreme self-acceptance); the most
>loving people I know have obviously been able to accept themselves.  And my
>therapist has said more than once that self-acceptance is a decision one has
>to make for oneself.  Hmm....  Wish me luck, I've got 29.5 years of habits
>and security built around self-rejection; self-acceptance means dynamiting
>my whole life.

Jeff, until you decide to accept yourself for what you are, and love yourself
as you are you will never find someone else to love you. Your therapist is
right-- self-acceptance IS a decision you need to make for yourself. Until
you do, you will simply continue to wallow in self-pity. There are quite a
number of people out here on the net that care about you-- if it sometime
looks as though we are jumping on you it is because 1) we seem to see a LOT
more potential in you than you do, and 2) because we sometimes get tired of
caring more for a person than they seem to care for themselves. You are a
good person, Jeff, and you deserve much more than the hair shirt you
continually flog yourself with. I wish you could see in the mirror what
some of us see-- until you do dont' be suprised that most people don't see
the good things in you-- if you don't show them to yourself it is very hard
for others to see them.

(side thought-- It is ridiculous to try to emulate Christ in your life--
that isn't the point. Don't feel bad because you aren't as good as He was--
feel good because He is showing you how to be the best you. You can only be
the second best Christ, but you can be the best Jeff Sargent there ever
was-- that is the goal you should be working towards, and Christ can be
your key towards getting there-- but only if you use Him to become a better
you, not a second rate Him. There can only be one Christ, you know...)

>Purdue (and its containing county, and its containing state) are such
>backward places that I'm amazed there's even a department of psychology
>at this university.  But in all the stuff I have heard of in terms of
>mental-health services available, never have I heard of any therapy groups.

I have it on good authority (she just put her claws into my back when she
read this, Jeff-- *ouch!*) that there is quite a good psych department out
there somewhere, and a number of good therapy groups. She can give any
number of references...

chuq (and laurie...)
-- 
From the ministry of silly talks:		Chuq Von Rospach
{allegra,cbosgd,decwrl,hplabs,ihnp4,seismo}!nsc!chuqui  nsc!chuqui@decwrl.ARPA

Deadbone erotica is the prickly panic of forgotten milleniums, it is the moldy 
billion year madness that creeps deep along the spinal behind of my mind.