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From: rcb@rti-sel.UUCP
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Subject: Re: The end of it
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Date: Wed, 26-Dec-84 13:21:25 EST
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Posted: Wed Dec 26 13:21:25 1984
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> ... The reason I sighed so wistfully for that is my assumption (which
> I know will be widely challenged, but which I have yet to see disproved)
> that I must get all my problems and struggles taken care of, cleaned up, put
> utterly behind me, before I'll be tolerable (let alone desirable) to a woman
> whom I would find desirable.

The essence of the emotion known as "love" as I see it is a caring for
and a desire to help another person. It is not impossible for someone to
love you even though you have problems. It is more probable that someone
will love you for other reasons and will have a desire to help with those
problems you do have. But this implies that there are desireable aspects
of you personality as well as the undesireable (i.e. the problems).
Of course, if all you do is whine about your problems, I can understand
that no one finds you desireable. Oh well, I've got my own problems to 
deal with (and people who care enough to help me). That's all.

					Randy Buckland
					Research Triangle Institute
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