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From: lat@leopard.UUCP (Laurie Topor)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Living Together w/o Sex (or: cuddling for fun)
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Date: Thu, 20-Dec-84 11:01:22 EST
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Posted: Thu Dec 20 11:01:22 1984
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>> Here's an experiment for you (and yes, I'll try it myself next week when he
>> is here but I've done it before).  Stay home one night or afternoon with your
>> SO and have nothing planned except talking and cuddling and BEING with each
>> other.  

(just had to stick my $0.02 in...)

My SO moved to the sticks of Virginia (Catawba, actually, out near Roanoke)
at the end of June.  Since he's moved, I have seen him 4 times:
	once for 36 hours while he was on his way to Philly to catch a plane
		to London (vacation for a month...must be nice)
	11 days in September (my vacation...I visited him)
	4 days in October (he came here)
	5 days in November (I went there for Thanksgiving)
(I realize that some people don't see their SO even this much, if it's long
distance, but that's not the point).

Even though we both enjoy making love, we enjoy cuddling even more.  What I
am missing the most right now is not sex itself, but the hugging and touching
and caring and just being together.  The sex part of our relationship is nice;
it helps to bring two caring people closer, but I think that before the sex
can bring you closer, you have to be close to begin with.

Laurie