Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site rti-sel.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!ihnp4!houxm!mhuxr!ulysses!allegra!bellcore!decvax!mcnc!rti-sel!rcb From: rcb@rti-sel.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: The end of it Message-ID: <52@rti-sel.UUCP> Date: Wed, 26-Dec-84 13:21:25 EST Article-I.D.: rti-sel.52 Posted: Wed Dec 26 13:21:25 1984 Date-Received: Fri, 28-Dec-84 05:09:54 EST References: <127@decwrl.UUCP>, <1839@sun.uucp> <1554@pucc-h>, <1881@sun.uucp> <1590@pucc-h> Organization: Research Triangle Institute, NC Lines: 19 > ... The reason I sighed so wistfully for that is my assumption (which > I know will be widely challenged, but which I have yet to see disproved) > that I must get all my problems and struggles taken care of, cleaned up, put > utterly behind me, before I'll be tolerable (let alone desirable) to a woman > whom I would find desirable. The essence of the emotion known as "love" as I see it is a caring for and a desire to help another person. It is not impossible for someone to love you even though you have problems. It is more probable that someone will love you for other reasons and will have a desire to help with those problems you do have. But this implies that there are desireable aspects of you personality as well as the undesireable (i.e. the problems). Of course, if all you do is whine about your problems, I can understand that no one finds you desireable. Oh well, I've got my own problems to deal with (and people who care enough to help me). That's all. Randy Buckland Research Triangle Institute ...!mcnc!rti-sel!rcb