Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site pucc-h Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!CS-Mordred!Pucc-H:aeq From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: extra spur Message-ID: <1622@pucc-h> Date: Fri, 28-Dec-84 05:04:27 EST Article-I.D.: pucc-h.1622 Posted: Fri Dec 28 05:04:27 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 29-Dec-84 02:47:19 EST References: <754@pucc-k> Organization: my terminal Lines: 42 From Henry Mensch (ag5@pucc-*): > if you don't put up a 'pretty face' then it will be easier for the woman > who can accept someone who is human and has problems (like we *all* do). > The pretty face is a deception; the person 'receiving' this pretty face is > deceived into buying a package which she may have no use for. My point exactly.... Without the pretty face she will not buy the package at all. I am well aware of how difficult it is to like those who don't like themselves; they have too great a need for approval and affirmation. (Clearly I am the net's most vocal example of this.) The point is that I don't just *have* problems; I *am* the problem. Big difference. >> I have a very difficult time taking the initiative in being warm, loving, >> and accepting. [myself] > what *exactly* do you mean by this? Example: I feel sure that Jesus could walk into the PUCC console room, where the operations staff sits smoking (many of them), talking vacuously about sports or about their plans to drink that evening or that weekend, listening to Drug Radio Z-96 (a local top 40 station several of whose people were busted for cocaine not long ago), and be genuinely warm and accepting to them. Inasmuch as I detest cigarettes, detest the wastage of time on vacuous conversation, have a sour-grapes attitude about sports since I was such a terrible athlete when I was in school, and loathe top 40 "music", it is extremely difficult for me to be anything more than civil with these people (with the exception of sharing occasional cynical humor at the expense of our computer systems or our operations supervisors). Until I can be truly warm and loving and accepting to such people, with whom by nature I have no desire to associate, I am not being the loving person I am supposed to be, and thus I am a first-class failure at being a Christian, which is the central thing in my life. If I fail at the most important thing in my life, I'm not much good, am I? Anyone would say that. Defiantly yours (I'm going to stay in the safe zone of self-rejection as long as I possibly can!), -- -- Jeff Sargent {decvax|harpo|ihnp4|inuxc|ucbvax}!pur-ee!pucc-h:aeq Proud owner of two Control Data doorstops.