Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83 based; site houxm.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!whuxlm!whuxl!houxm!gregbo From: gregbo@houxm.UUCP (Greg Skinner) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: The end of it Message-ID: <1049@houxm.UUCP> Date: Sat, 29-Dec-84 13:22:45 EST Article-I.D.: houxm.1049 Posted: Sat Dec 29 13:22:45 1984 Date-Received: Sun, 30-Dec-84 01:42:59 EST References: <127@decwrl.UUCP>, <1839@sun.uucp> <1554@pucc-h>, <1881@sun.uucp>, <1590@pucc-h> Organization: AT&T Bell Labs, Holmdel NJ Lines: 48 > From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent) > In the second case, "human" was used as a synonym for "having it > all together". The reason I sighed so wistfully for that is my assumption > (which I know will be widely challenged, but which I have yet to see dis- > proved) that I must get all my problems and struggles taken care of, cleaned > up, put utterly behind me, before I'll be tolerable (let alone desirable) to > a woman whom I would find desirable. Mind you, I "know", rationally, that > this is not necessarily true; but that doesn't mean I know it at gut level -- > i.e. I don't believe it strongly enough to want to act on it. Jeff, please. *NOBODY* gets *all* their problems taken care of. That's a part of life. I'm sorry I have to come down on you like this, 'cause you're my friend, but you have got to stop feeling so imperfect. What makes you think everyone who has an SO has "The Perfect SO"? I'll bet if you asked anyone you knew who had an SO, they would have at least 5 things they thought was imperfect about their SO. That doesn't make them any less their SO though. It's the imperfections that make life interesting. >> From: sunny@sun.UUCP (Sunny Kirsten) >> If you feel attracted to a particular woman, perhaps that IS a sign from God, >> for is not God's will incarnate in your spirit? As long as you are listening >> to your spirit rather than your body, you *are* on the correct path, no? > I would much prefer that God show me the problem directly, in the > privacy and safety of my own home, than require that I go out and get zapped > in order to get the problem fixed. I'm tired of having my suffering increased > any time I try to ameliorate it. (This does tie in with your point in a later > article about not holding forth needs on the initial approach to a MOTOS.) Don't take getting "zapped" so seriously. It happens to everybody. From what I've been reading, someone is already interested in you -- why not take some time to find out if you're interested in them? If it doesn't work out, maybe there's someone else in store for you. At any rate, I don't think you can expect a quick "fix" to your problems (whatever they may be) but rather you should take it one step at a time. -- Baby tie your hair back in a long white bow ... Meet me in the field, behind the dynamo ... Greg Skinner (gregbo) {allegra,cbosgd,ihnp4}!houxm!gregbo