Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site pucc-h Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!CS-Mordred!Pucc-H:aeq From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Signals Message-ID: <1624@pucc-h> Date: Fri, 28-Dec-84 08:49:27 EST Article-I.D.: pucc-h.1624 Posted: Fri Dec 28 08:49:27 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 29-Dec-84 05:48:30 EST References: <283@sftri.UUCP> Organization: my terminal Lines: 44 From Mark Modig (sftri!mom -- poor guy, what a login for a man!): >>> When in doubt, ASK! There is NO substitute for openness and honesty. If >>> you give these, and presume the same, you won't be wrong. [Sunny Kirsten] >> Just hurt. [Jeff Sargent] > .... If you're expecting the woman of your dreams to knock on your door > one day, good luck. You have to ask, and be prepared to get turned down, > becuase chances are you will some time. If you don't ask you may have > missed a great opportunity. I suppose I am beginning to reconcile myself to the conclusion that the woman I should marry will not be instantaneously obvious when I first meet her. Odd that people should think that one's mate is instantly obvious; it is not instantly obvious who would make a good friend or SO, let alone life-mate. > Yeah, it hurts, but you've got no corner on the market. I've been > hurt, too, but after a time of pain and (sometimes) anger, I realised > that it was time to get on with things. Being hurt over being > turned down is natural, but you can't let it grow out of proportion, > and you've got to try to remain optimistic. What does one do if one has been hurt out of proportion? It's not easy to get on with things when you have nearly 3 decades of almost uniform hurt -- with a very few shining, but short-lived (often due to my own klutziness), exceptions. I've had more than my share already of pain and anger; that's why I'm sometimes amazed to look in the mirror and see that the lines on my face are nowhere near a centimeter deep, and the hair is still there and has all its color; I feel that I ought to be much more aged. Not mature, unfortunately; just aged. But anyway, one comes to the point when one is determined not to get hurt again; and how does one get away from that? > So don't sweat it. Be prepared for the worst and hope for the best; > sooner or later things will work out! Never give up! The trouble is that hoping for the best diminishes one's preparedness for the worst. If you assume the worst from the beginning, it won't hurt quite so much when it comes. -- -- Jeff Sargent {decvax|harpo|ihnp4|inuxc|ucbvax}!pur-ee!pucc-h:aeq Proud owner of two Control Data doorstops.