Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site ttidcc.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!ttidca!ttidcc!hollombe From: hollombe@ttidcc.UUCP (Jerry Hollombe) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: re: gays masquerading as heterosexuals Message-ID: <169@ttidcc.UUCP> Date: Thu, 27-Dec-84 00:02:36 EST Article-I.D.: ttidcc.169 Posted: Thu Dec 27 00:02:36 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 29-Dec-84 05:28:24 EST Organization: TTI, Santa Monica, CA. Lines: 40 From: phil@amdcad.UUCP (Phil Ngai) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: gays masquerading as hetrosexuals >using her as "cover". In my case, I dated a woman and ended up losing >her to another woman. >I don't have any complaints to raise here (although I think my friend >I would like to emphasize that I'm not upset with the woman I dated. >I just wasn't her type. I don't expect her to say "I can't go out with >you because I'm gay" because that's not the kind of thing you want to >say to a stranger. She could have said "I don't think you're my type" >but she probably thought I might make a good friend and didn't want >to cut things off so quickly. And I think that's pretty neat. >(it was still frustrating, but, no pain no gain) I would like to applaud Phil Ngai's enlightened attitude here. I've known cases where men have taken less rational and far more angry attitudes in similar situations. If you will forgive the cliche, I count quite a few lesbians among my closest friends. I've had a number of women leave me for another woman. This was always done with understanding and good feelings on both sides and most of them remain close friends to this day. Whether his experience is more common in California or not I can't really say, since I've lived here nearly all my life. I did have similar experiences during the two years I lived in London, for what that may be worth. -- The Polymath (Jerry Hollombe) Opinions expressed here are my own Transaction Technology, Inc. and unrelated to anyone else's. 3100 Ocean Park Blvd. Santa Monica, CA 90405 United States (213) 450-9111, ext. 2483 ...{garfield,lasspvax,linus,cmcl2,seismo}!philabs!ttidca!ttidcc!hollombe