Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 SMI; site sun.uucp Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!mcnc!decvax!decwrl!sun!sunny From: sunny@sun.uucp (Sunny Kirsten) Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Re: More on crossing streets Message-ID: <1895@sun.uucp> Date: Mon, 24-Dec-84 12:49:46 EST Article-I.D.: sun.1895 Posted: Mon Dec 24 12:49:46 1984 Date-Received: Thu, 27-Dec-84 03:01:35 EST References: <611@utcsrgv.UUCP> Distribution: net Organization: Sun Microsystems, Inc. Lines: 18 There's more than one way to not skin a cat. Might I suggest something which seems to have been overlooked? There's a lot more subtlety to body language than crossing the street. For those men who wish not to appear threatening, yet consider it too much effort to cross (and re-re-cross) the street to give a lone woman some secure space, try using eye contact (or, specifically, the lack thereof) to show distance. In other words, if a man walks down the street with eyes straight ahead on his path, and does not look at the women he passes, then they will see the distance (mental rather than physical) and not be so afraid. Other postings have made it clear that being friendly is not conducive to feeling secure against overfriendliness. Being distant by virtue of totally ignoring the presence of others can be more effective than walking across the street and still ogling passersby. There's a lot to be said for, and learned from body language, the most signifigant part of which is eye contact. Sunny1 -- {ucbvax,decvax,ihnp4}!sun!sunny