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From: gregbo@houxm.UUCP (Greg Skinner)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Women's preferences
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Date: Sat, 15-Dec-84 10:53:02 EST
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Posted: Sat Dec 15 10:53:02 1984
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> From: dmmartindale@watcgl.UUCP (Dave Martindale)

>> There is an important distinction that should be made here:
>>   There are very few (if any) women that want to be mistreated.
>> However,
>>   a significant percentage of women are attracted to men
>>   who end up mistreating them.
>> 
>> The problem is that among the population of men there is a positive
>> correlation between some of the properties that make men
>> attractive to women and other properties that result in
>> these men mistreating their SO's.
>> 
>> 			       Yuval Tamir

> Aha.  Maybe we're onto something here.  Perhaps women are attracted to such
> men for their "good" qualities (excitement or whatever) and hope that, this
> time, the "bad" qualities will not be present.  At the same time, another
> man who understands that a certain set of "good" and "bad" qualities almost
> always occur together, sees the woman going with this man and can't understand
> why she seems to prefer this "jerk".

I have heard it said from various friends of mine that women who have SO's with
so-called "bad" qualities try to see the good in their SO, and hope that they
can work with them to root out the "bad".  Judging from some of the relation-
ships I've seen, this makes sense, because it was clear that the guy was treat-
ing the woman like a dog, but he might have been handsome or athletic or good
in bed and the woman put up with his abuse hoping that in time the "bad" would
go away.
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Greg Skinner (gregbo)
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