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From: barry@ames.UUCP (Kenn Barry)
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Subject: Re: More on crossing streets
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Date: Wed, 26-Dec-84 15:16:46 EST
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	From sun!sunny (Sunny Kirsten):
> Might I suggest something which seems to have been overlooked?  There's a
> lot more subtlety to body language than crossing the street.  For those men
> who wish not to appear threatening, yet consider it too much effort to cross
> (and re-re-cross) the street to give a lone woman some secure space, try using
> eye contact (or, specifically, the lack thereof) to show distance.

	This gets my vote as a good suggestion for both parties in "lonely
dark street" encounters. I normally use avoidance of eye contact in such
circumstances to say "I'm harmless". I also do the same thing to avoid
contact with anyone who makes *me* apprehensive on a dark street, the
message here being, "don't bother me". My SO, who has lived back East
and walked the fearsome streets of NY and other Babylons, also uses this
technique to avoid potentially unpleasant encounters, and has had 100%
success.
	I think the "crossing streets" discussion should be put to rest.
It was meant constructively, and so were some of the responses, but the
current raised hackles on both sides suggests to me that the effect,
now, is just to further misunderstanding.

-  From the Crow's Nest  -                      Kenn Barry
                                                NASA-Ames Research Center
                                                Moffett Field, CA
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