Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/17/84 chuqui version 1.7 9/23/84; site nsc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!gatech!nsc!chuqui From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui[The Time Traveller]) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: friendships with SO's Message-ID: <2080@nsc.UUCP> Date: Sat, 15-Dec-84 14:15:00 EST Article-I.D.: nsc.2080 Posted: Sat Dec 15 14:15:00 1984 Date-Received: Mon, 17-Dec-84 04:27:12 EST Reply-To: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui[The Time Traveller]) Organization: Callahans Lines: 37 Summary: References: >> Now for the sad part. In the past two or three months I have witnessed >> several breakups. In about 90% of them there is no more contact between >> the two people who were once so close. Is it really possible to break >> off a relationship like that without remebering all the wonderful things >> that happened between two people? Or is it that I'm expecting people to >> develop something deeper than a mere physical attraction when they start >> "going out"? Sometimes the breakup is so acrimonious that you honestly no longer want to associate with that person. It is always painful to lose a friend, but with what that SOB did to tou they weren't really a friend anyway so the hell with them. Actually, in the above case you were probably never friends anyway. Some people seem to forget that step on the way to becoming SO/lovers, and it is a good way to get kicked in the, uh, face. sigh. I've seen a lot of relationships that simply needed time to let the associated parties resolve their pains and problems. Case in point: me. A few years back I got involved with a wonderful young lady. Unfortunately, I was also married at the time, and it created a few problems. The upshot was that she and I split with multitudes of bad feelings and the marriage had some rather severe problems for a while. That young lady and I kept in rather distant contact until well after the divorce was going along and then decided to try to rebuild the relationship. Fortunately, we seem to have succeeded, and we're finally quite close friends. Circumstances and emotions prevented us from being friends for a while, but time can heal many hurts if you let it. chuq -- From behind the bar at Callahan's: Chuq Von Rospach {allegra,cbosgd,decwrl,hplabs,ihnp4,seismo}!nsc!chuqui nsc!chuqui@decwrl.ARPA The evil that men do lives after them; the good is oft interred with their bones. So let it be with Caesar. The noble Brutus hath told you Caesar was ambitious... And Brutus is an honorable man