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From: js2j@mhuxt.UUCP (sonntag)
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Subject: Re: friendships with SO's
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Date: Fri, 21-Dec-84 10:29:01 EST
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> > Now for the sad part. In the past two or three months I have witnessed
> > several breakups. In about 90% of them there is no more contact between
> > the two people who were once so close. Is it really possible to break
> > off a relationship like that without remebering all the wonderful things
> > that happened between two people? Or is it that I'm expecting people to
> > develop something deeper than a mere physical attraction when they start
> > "going out"?
> Look around at what's happening in the world today!  A lot of people just
> get together so they won't be alone, or so that they will have a warm body to
> show off to everyone else, or for someone to help them on their homework, or
> so that they can relieve their physical urges, etc.  Not everyone CARES about
> the "relationship" part of a relationship.  Sad, but true.  And it's these
> type of people who don't continue friendships once the romance is over.  

Don't forget the type of people who were so badly hurt when their relationship
ended that they felt great pain whenever they saw their ex-SO again for months
after the breakup.
   It's hard to be friends with someone when you still end up crying on your
pillow whenever you think of them.
   I've found that it's only those relationships which were NOT very deep
which still allowed us to be friends afterward.

Jeff Sonntag
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