Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site ames.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!sdcsvax!sdcrdcf!hplabs!hao!ames!barry From: barry@ames.UUCP (Kenn Barry) Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Re: More on crossing streets Message-ID: <723@ames.UUCP> Date: Wed, 26-Dec-84 15:16:46 EST Article-I.D.: ames.723 Posted: Wed Dec 26 15:16:46 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 29-Dec-84 01:55:22 EST References: <611@utcsrgv.UUCP> <1895@sun.uucp> Distribution: net Organization: NASA-Ames Research Center, Mtn. View, CA Lines: 28 [] From sun!sunny (Sunny Kirsten): > Might I suggest something which seems to have been overlooked? There's a > lot more subtlety to body language than crossing the street. For those men > who wish not to appear threatening, yet consider it too much effort to cross > (and re-re-cross) the street to give a lone woman some secure space, try using > eye contact (or, specifically, the lack thereof) to show distance. This gets my vote as a good suggestion for both parties in "lonely dark street" encounters. I normally use avoidance of eye contact in such circumstances to say "I'm harmless". I also do the same thing to avoid contact with anyone who makes *me* apprehensive on a dark street, the message here being, "don't bother me". My SO, who has lived back East and walked the fearsome streets of NY and other Babylons, also uses this technique to avoid potentially unpleasant encounters, and has had 100% success. I think the "crossing streets" discussion should be put to rest. It was meant constructively, and so were some of the responses, but the current raised hackles on both sides suggests to me that the effect, now, is just to further misunderstanding. - From the Crow's Nest - Kenn Barry NASA-Ames Research Center Moffett Field, CA ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- USENET: {ihnp4,vortex,dual,hao,menlo70,hplabs}!ames!barry SOURCE: ST7891