Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84 SMI; site sun.uucp Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!bellcore!decvax!decwrl!sun!sunny From: sunny@sun.uucp Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: extra spur Message-ID: <1890@sun.uucp> Date: Wed, 19-Dec-84 19:24:14 EST Article-I.D.: sun.1890 Posted: Wed Dec 19 19:24:14 1984 Date-Received: Fri, 21-Dec-84 01:01:03 EST References: <1570@pucc-h> Organization: Sun Microsystems, Inc. Lines: 19 >I have discovered one reason why I, and probably a good many other people, have >felt such a pressing need for an SO. The reason is that we need to feel that >we belong. This gets mixed up with the natural desire for a special one and >adds a lot of pain to it that doesn't really belong with it at all. I suspect >that if painfully desirous people had a group of friends where they really felt >that they belonged, that they were thoroughly accepted, that they didn't have >to put up nice fronts for all the time, that they could contact any time they >needed to talk, that they could safely share their struggles with, then the >cutting edge would be taken off the desire for an SO -- since an SO is the >quintessence of all those characteristics. (Unfortunately many of us work not >with an SO, but with an OS, which is entirely the opposite! [not really :-)]) > If you want to be accepted, be yourself rather than putting on a "pretty face". That way, the people you meet will get to know and like YOU, so that you don't have to keep putting up an unnatural face which leads you to resent having to "put up nice fronts [] all the time". Sunny -- {ucbvax,decvax,ihnp4}!sun!sunny