Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/3/84; site mhuxt.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!mhuxt!js2j From: js2j@mhuxt.UUCP (sonntag) Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social Subject: Re: friendships with SO's Message-ID: <426@mhuxt.UUCP> Date: Fri, 21-Dec-84 10:29:01 EST Article-I.D.: mhuxt.426 Posted: Fri Dec 21 10:29:01 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 22-Dec-84 02:08:26 EST References: <344@hercules.UUCP> <608@rayssd.UUCP> <2551@sdcc3.UUCP> <133@sdcc12.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories, Murray Hill Lines: 24 Xref: watmath net.singles:5038 net.social:375 > > Now for the sad part. In the past two or three months I have witnessed > > several breakups. In about 90% of them there is no more contact between > > the two people who were once so close. Is it really possible to break > > off a relationship like that without remebering all the wonderful things > > that happened between two people? Or is it that I'm expecting people to > > develop something deeper than a mere physical attraction when they start > > "going out"? > Look around at what's happening in the world today! A lot of people just > get together so they won't be alone, or so that they will have a warm body to > show off to everyone else, or for someone to help them on their homework, or > so that they can relieve their physical urges, etc. Not everyone CARES about > the "relationship" part of a relationship. Sad, but true. And it's these > type of people who don't continue friendships once the romance is over. Don't forget the type of people who were so badly hurt when their relationship ended that they felt great pain whenever they saw their ex-SO again for months after the breakup. It's hard to be friends with someone when you still end up crying on your pillow whenever you think of them. I've found that it's only those relationships which were NOT very deep which still allowed us to be friends afterward. Jeff Sonntag ihnp4!mhuxt!js2j