Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/17/84 chuqui version 1.7 9/23/84; site nsc.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!nsc!chuqui From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui Q. Koala) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Signals Message-ID: <2135@nsc.UUCP> Date: Mon, 31-Dec-84 15:15:51 EST Article-I.D.: nsc.2135 Posted: Mon Dec 31 15:15:51 1984 Date-Received: Tue, 1-Jan-85 06:07:26 EST References: <283@sftri.UUCP> <1624@pucc-h> Reply-To: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Chuqui Q. Koala) Organization: The Warlocks Cave Lines: 26 Summary: >I suppose I am beginning to reconcile myself to the conclusion that the woman >I should marry will not be instantaneously obvious when I first meet her. >Odd that people should think that one's mate is instantly obvious; it is not >instantly obvious who would make a good friend or SO, let alone life-mate. I tried that once, Jeff-- trust me, it doesn't work. For a relationship as complex as a working marriage, you really need time to find the quirks. If you look at why marriages fail, it isn't major issues-- it is because he squeezes the toothpaste in the middle, it is because she hogs the covers, it is because neither really communicated on the 'little' issues that kill most relationships. What IS instantaneously obvious is the physical chemistries-- those ugly little hormones that raise their little heads at inconvenient times. Important? yes (definitely, yes!) but also a minor part of a real relationship. Find someone you can be a friend with, first, and let tomorrow worry about itself later... chuq -- From the ministry of silly talks: Chuq Von Rospach {allegra,cbosgd,decwrl,hplabs,ihnp4,seismo}!nsc!chuqui nsc!chuqui@decwrl.ARPA Deadbone erotica is the prickly panic of forgotten milleniums, it is the moldy billion year madness that creeps deep along the spinal behind of my mind.