Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site utastro.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!mit-eddie!godot!harvard!seismo!ut-sally!utastro!mjs From: mjs@utastro.UUCP (Pooh @ Another Place) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Meeting Parental Units Message-ID: <882@utastro.UUCP> Date: Thu, 6-Dec-84 22:06:01 EST Article-I.D.: utastro.882 Posted: Thu Dec 6 22:06:01 1984 Date-Received: Sun, 9-Dec-84 03:09:24 EST Distribution: net Organization: UTexas Astronomy Dept., Austin, Texas Lines: 40 I had an interesting discussion with my father the other night. Interesting in that it was he who was giving me this advice: there comes a time when you simply have to break away from your parents and assert yourself as a person. If need be, the break has to be so clean that you end up not speaking to your parents for a while--ANYTHING to make them realize that you are now your own person. My own father didn't speak to his mother for two years after he left to get married (to someone she didn't approve of). While he hoped that wouldn't ever be necessary for ME to do, he knew that I had to go out and make my own decisions not influenced by my parents' opinion. I guess what all this boils down to is that we may all wind up with an SO our parents don't like. But that needn't be the end of the world--we simply have to say, "I'm sorry you feel that way, but this is my decision and I'm going to keep it. It's up to you if you feel this will prevent us from talking to each other." This goes for living together (with or without sex, Jeff) or anything else. I would respect my parents' wishes in their own house and sleep separately, though. I would do that for anyone. (However, that does remind me of when my SO and I visited his mother. She asked us to sleep separately, but practically INVITED us to go skinny-dipping together in their pool! I guess there are some things I'll never understand.) Anyway, it's nice to be back on the airwaves. . . Pooh "Wie es ist, ist das Mist."