Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!ihnp4!zehntel!dual!amd!pesnta!hplabs!hao!seismo!cmcl2!nybcb!drennan From: drennan@nybcb.UUCP (drennan) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Women's preferences Message-ID: <153@nybcb.UUCP> Date: Wed, 5-Dec-84 14:27:35 EST Article-I.D.: nybcb.153 Posted: Wed Dec 5 14:27:35 1984 Date-Received: Fri, 7-Dec-84 05:47:58 EST Lines: 42 >Just a query... a while back i was dumped by an SO for a guy that she admitted >was an abusive asshole... now i appear to be in a similar situation with my >current SO... she seems to have a thing for people who abuse her... she told >me last night that a friend of hers also said that she found nice guys too dull >and went for assholes herself.... > >now i was wondering.... i consider myself to be a nice person... i try to be >considerate... to help out... to listen to problems... etc... but it never >seems to get me anywhere.... is this abuse fetish peculiar to the females i >happen to see, or is it a general infection??? (females please answer this too, >i'd like your opinions) > >mwm >Mark Modrall >Dartmouth College > >p.s. holly hippodays.... > >"We have met the enemy and they is us" -pogo I can sympathize with Mark on this one. When I was an undergrad at Columbia,(a REAL ivy league school :-), I had similar problems. Many women thought I was a nice guy, but they just didn't seem to want nice guys. Some would say they would, but they didn't know what to do when they found him. Generally, they dump him. Now I don't think most women are like this. From my experience, they appreciate those qualities that Mark attributes to himself (being considerate, listening, attentive, etc.), as they get older. I have much better romantic relations with women who are a number of years older than my 22. I guess they just get tired of the assholes they went with when they were younger. My advice to Mark would be to try older women. Ben Franklin was a great advocate of this course of action, and ole Ben knew a good thing when he saw it. Jim Drennan New York Blood Center ..seismo!cmcl2!nybcb!drennan