Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 (Denver Mods 4/2/84) 6/24/83; site drutx.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxj!houxm!ihnp4!drutx!lmf From: lmf@drutx.UUCP (FullerL) Newsgroups: net.motss Subject: Re: Holidays for gays Message-ID: <1606@drutx.UUCP> Date: Wed, 12-Dec-84 14:57:18 EST Article-I.D.: drutx.1606 Posted: Wed Dec 12 14:57:18 1984 Date-Received: Thu, 13-Dec-84 02:33:00 EST References: <1209@bbncca.ARPA> Organization: AT&T Information Systems Laboratories, Denver Lines: 24 My approach to this has been to take my lover home for Thanksgiving and stay here for Christmas. Fortunately, I am able to be out to my parents so there are no pretenses necessary and no hassles about sleeping arrangements. When I first came out to my parents they changed the subject every time I mentioned my lover's name. After a year and a few minor confrontations about their avoidance they started asking about her when we talked on the phone. At first I was frustrated that they weren't more accepting sooner (they were convinced that it was a phase). Now I realize that they came around in record time and I feel very lucky. Like a friend of mine pointed out "How long did it take you to accept your own lesbianism?" Thinking about that helped me be more patient. This year without any prompting, they bought Christmas presents for my lover and her daughter. Also after Thanksgiving dinner my sister pointed out to my Mother that she has 3 grandkids now. I couldn't be more pleased. This is our first Christmas together and my lovers other daughter is coming to visit, so it will be a family celebration with the 4 of us. Peace and Happiness, Lori Fuller ihnp4!drutx!lmf