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From: jdh@hou5g.UUCP (Julia Harper)
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Subject: Re: Rape: The Unresolved Trauma
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Date: Mon, 10-Dec-84 10:45:25 EST
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Speaking of constructive actions in response to
problems addressed by feminists:

I remember having a discussion with a male friend about the fear 
I have walking alone at night.  (No, it really isn't out of control.  
I don't get hysterical, I don't shake with fear.)  I told him that 
he probably makes women nervous simply by being out on the street at 
night.  He got (typically) terribly upset and hurt that someone
like him should cause fear in someone like me, and asked me what he 
could possibly do about it.  Here was my suggestion:

If you (a man) are walking alone at night (or with other men)
and see a woman walking alone toward you, then cross the street
and let her walk in peace.  That way she won't be as apprehensive
about what you might do when she arrives.

Also, speaking of anger, here is a time when anger comes in handy.
If you look and feel angry as you pass people on the street, they
are less likely to annoy you (as observed by me walking in New York).
Anger should not be given up lightly by women.  It works for them
at least as often as it works against them.


jdh