Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site rocksvax.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!princeton!rocksvax!dw From: dw@rocksvax.UUCP (Don Wegeng) Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social Subject: Re: Meeting the Parents Message-ID: <633@rocksvax.UUCP> Date: Fri, 30-Nov-84 18:34:28 EST Article-I.D.: rocksvax.633 Posted: Fri Nov 30 18:34:28 1984 Date-Received: Sun, 2-Dec-84 03:47:05 EST References: <614@pucc-k> <519@cbosgd.UUCP> <3303@rabbit.UUCP> Reply-To: dw@rocksvax.UUCP (Don Wegeng) Organization: Xerox Lines: 37 Xref: princeton net.singles:1214 net.social:69 Summary: In article <3303@rabbit.UUCP> hania@rabbit.UUCP (Hania Gajewska) writes: >...I think that to give in to >your parents on the issue of whether you sleep with >your SO at home (assuming you live with your SO), >is to insult your SO ("I love you very much, but >mommy knows best"). It's not a question of insulting your SO. I respect the beliefs of others, and when I am in someone elses home I try to behave in a manor which is acceptable to them (assuming that it is not offensive to me, etc.). Consider a simplier example. I do not smoke, and do not want people to smoke in my car. This is not due to possible health hazzards, but rather that I simply do not want my car to smell like smoke. My friends who smoke respect my wishes and do not smoke in my car. Is it an insult to my friends to make this request? If a rider in my car expected other people in the car to obey my *rule* would it be an insult ("I love you very much, but Donny knows best")? I don't think so. I do not think that it is right for me to go into another person's home and insist that it is my *right* (or whatever) to sleep with whomever I want while there. It is a privilege for me to be in that person's home, not a right, and therefore I must respect that privilege and obey the rules that go along with being granted that privilege. I personally have no objection to unmarried people sleeping together. However I do not pretend that I can force everyone to agree with me, nor do I want to. Trying to force your beliefs on others only leads to problems. -- /Don "Everyone has to believe in something; I believe I'll have another beer" arpa: Wegeng.Henr@Xerox.ARPA uucp: {allegra,princeton,decvax!rochester,amd,sunybcs}!rocksvax!dw || ihnp4!tropix!ritcv!rocksvax!dw