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From: lmf@drutx.UUCP (FullerL)
Newsgroups: net.motss
Subject: Re: Holidays for gays
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Date: Wed, 12-Dec-84 14:57:18 EST
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Posted: Wed Dec 12 14:57:18 1984
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My approach to this has been to take my lover home for Thanksgiving and stay
here for Christmas. Fortunately, I am able to be out to my parents so there are
no pretenses necessary and no hassles about sleeping arrangements.  

When I first came out to my parents they changed the subject every time I
mentioned my lover's name. After a year and a few minor confrontations about
their avoidance they started asking about her when we talked on the phone.
At first I was frustrated that they weren't more accepting sooner (they were
convinced that it was a phase).  Now I realize that they came around in record
time and I feel very lucky.  Like a friend of mine pointed out "How long did
it take you to accept your own lesbianism?" Thinking about that helped me be
more patient. 

This year without any prompting, they bought Christmas presents for my lover 
and her daughter. Also after Thanksgiving dinner my
sister pointed out to my Mother that she has 3 grandkids now.
I couldn't be more pleased.

This is our first Christmas together and my lovers other daughter is coming
to visit, so it will be a family celebration with the 4 of us.

		Peace and Happiness,
				Lori Fuller
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