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From: abv@pucc-h (David Stevens)
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Subject: Re: Meeting the Parents (sex and living together)
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Date: Tue, 27-Nov-84 14:04:56 EST
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Posted: Tue Nov 27 14:04:56 1984
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	I think you've missed the boat here. Most people talk about
living together *long* after a sexual relationship has been established.
I agree that platonic co-habitation could be rewarding, and lead to
a long lasting friendship on which to base other things, but I don't
think this case comes up very often between people and their SOs.
	You seem to believe that the purpose of co-habitation is to make
sex more convenient. My experience has been that the reason for living
together is a deeper commitment to the relationship emotionally, though
not yet a lifetime commitment. It has the effect of *reducing* the importance
of sex, by increasing everyday non-sexual contact, and allowing the people
to see more aspects of each other's lives other than the dating/love/sex
portions which dominate early in a relationship. I cannot believe that anyone
would go to the trouble of adjusting their home life to a MOTOS simply for
"ease of access" in a physical relationship. Finding the time and place
for sex is not such a problem, if sex is all you are looking for.
	The important thing about living together is *NOT* sexual contact,
but the commitment to share more of your life with your SO. This does not
require sex, but it certainly does not mean you should stop an existing
sexual relationship. Sex and living together are independent issues, and
are far too often associated with each other without regard to the
underlying feelings which generate them.

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						David L Stevens
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The opinions expressed above are not necessarily my own, or anyone else's.