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From: dw@rocksvax.UUCP (Don Wegeng)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social
Subject: Re: Meeting the Parents
Message-ID: <633@rocksvax.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 30-Nov-84 18:34:28 EST
Article-I.D.: rocksvax.633
Posted: Fri Nov 30 18:34:28 1984
Date-Received: Sun, 2-Dec-84 03:47:05 EST
References: <614@pucc-k> <519@cbosgd.UUCP> <3303@rabbit.UUCP>
Reply-To: dw@rocksvax.UUCP (Don Wegeng)
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Summary: 

In article <3303@rabbit.UUCP> hania@rabbit.UUCP (Hania Gajewska) writes:
>...I think that to give in to
>your parents on the issue of whether you sleep with
>your SO at home (assuming you live with your SO),
>is to insult your SO ("I love you very much, but
>mommy knows best").  

It's not a question of insulting your SO.  I respect the beliefs of others,
and when I am in someone elses home I try to behave in a manor which is
acceptable to them (assuming that it is not offensive to me, etc.).

Consider a simplier example.  I do not smoke, and do not want people to smoke
in my car.  This is not due to possible health hazzards, but rather that
I simply do not want my car to smell like smoke.  My friends who smoke
respect my wishes and do not smoke in my car.  Is it an insult to my friends
to make this request?  If a rider in my car expected other people in the
car to obey my *rule* would it be an insult ("I love you very much, but Donny
knows best")?  I don't think so.

I do not think that it is right for me to go into another person's 
home and insist that it is my *right* (or whatever) to sleep with whomever
I want while there.  It is a privilege for me to be in that person's home, not
a right, and therefore I must respect that privilege and obey the rules
that go along with being granted that privilege.

I personally have no objection to unmarried people sleeping together.  However
I do not pretend that I can force everyone to agree with me, nor do I want
to.  Trying to force your beliefs on others only leads to problems.

-- 
/Don

"Everyone has to believe in something; I believe I'll have another beer"

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