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From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Cheshire Chuqui)
Newsgroups: net.news.group,net.singles
Subject: The realities of mod.personal
Message-ID: <1946@nsc.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 2-Dec-84 15:32:13 EST
Article-I.D.: nsc.1946
Posted: Sun Dec  2 15:32:13 1984
Date-Received: Tue, 4-Dec-84 06:24:02 EST
Reply-To: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Cheshire Chuqui)
Organization: Plaid Heaven
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Summary: 

In case you haven't noticed, Usenet is spread over a rather wide geographic
area. Like, for example, the earth. There are sites in Asia, in Australia,
in Europe and in the United States and Canada.

The thought of running a personal advertisement over that area and have any
chance of having something positive happen is ludicrous. 

I keep a rather close eye on the net. I talk to a lot of people out there
(you should see my mailbox...) As one of the more visible users of
net.singles, I hear a lot about the things happening to those people. The
reality is that using the net as a communication link for romantic
relationships is silly. Relationships are hard enough to sustain as it is--
chances are any person you DO start corresponding with is across the
country, perhaps across the world. This is a handicap that very few
relationships can survive. 

This is not so say that net-based romances don't exist. They do, and some
of them flourish. Many of them die out, though, because of the distance.
The few that don't seem to be the exceptions that prove the rule. And
invariably the couple came together not because they were looking for
someone else, but because they found they had things in common that they
could talk about, and did. The best relationships aren't those that people
went looking for, they are ones that happened despite all of the obstacles
this silly network can put up between you. That isn't something you can
help by setting up a place for people to go searching. 

If you really want to place ads, put them in your local paper where you
have some chance of getting them answered by someone that won't cost you a
small mint in phone bills. If you are interested in meeting people on the
net, find the ones that you enjoy reading and write to them. Private mail
is a wonderful thing-- you can talk to someone without having thousands of
voyeurs peeking over your shoulder. 

Who know? You might just meet the right person out there. It DOES happen,
occasionally. But don't count on it.

chuq
-- 
From the center of a Plaid pentagram:		Chuq Von Rospach
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  ~But you know, monsieur, that as long as she wears the claw of the dragon
  upon her breast you can do nothing-- her soul belongs to me!~