Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: Notesfiles $Revision: 1.6.2.17 $; site convex.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!cbosgd!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!uiucdcs!convex!holt From: holt@convex.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Interpersonal relations,Entrepenuria Message-ID: <42200023@convex.UUCP> Date: Wed, 28-Nov-84 09:33:00 EST Article-I.D.: convex.42200023 Posted: Wed Nov 28 09:33:00 1984 Date-Received: Fri, 30-Nov-84 05:40:59 EST References: <2591@dartvax.UUCP> Lines: 29 Nf-ID: #R:dartvax:-259100:convex:42200023:000:1665 Nf-From: convex!holt Nov 28 08:33:00 1984 An interesting concept; that relationships and start-up companies don't mix. From my experience there is some validity to this concept. I started work at Convex (a start-up) two years ago. I met my current SO two months after starting work here. During the initial stages of the relationship, there was another man in the competition. This was good from a work standpoint, but bad from a morale (mine) standpoint. The act of balancing the need to work 70-80 hours a week with the desire to spend time with her was very difficult indeed. It is true that one of the major sources of friction (other than the existance of the other man), was my working hours. Much effort was expended on my part trying to express my feelings for her, while explaining the need to be at work all of the time. In the final analysis, much, much credit goes to her for her acceptance of my work situation, and the special time requirements it entails. I think it is difficult for a relationship to thrive when there is another "entity" which draws so much resources from one of the people in the relationship. Usually, a partner expects to be the #1 priority in their SO's life. To have to share that spot with a start-up company is very difficult indeed. Many thanks to mine for her perserverance (are you reading this cc??). At any rate, our relationship has somehow survived. The other man left the picture about a year ago, and my SO and I are closer now than ever before. So, although it is difficult, there is hope that romance and a start-up can coexist in your life. Dave Holt Convex Computer Corp. {allegra,ihnp4,uiucdcs,ctvax}!convex!holt