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From: mark@tove.UUCP (Mark Weiser)
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: Re: Househusband
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Date: Mon, 3-Dec-84 00:38:45 EST
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Posted: Mon Dec  3 00:38:45 1984
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For our first child Vicky continued to work fulltime after a 6 week
maternity leave.  I was a graduate student nearby (she was a librarian
at the same University) and our schedule was:  she: up at 8 to work.
Me: up with baby at 10 to Vicky for morning feed, then to my office and
playpen with baby.  Us: lunch.  she: back to work.   Me: back to office
and classes.  Sometimes my officemates, fellow grad students, helped
out with baby when I had a seminar.  I always tried to leave with baby
sleeping, but she was not always sleeping when I returned.  Luckily I
had no real classes to take by this time.

We went on this way for 2 years, during which Vicky advanced to head of
her own branch library and I finally completed a PhD.  Our schedule now
is (with two children, aged 3 and 7):

She: up at 5:30, to work by 6:30 at the Planning Office of the Library
of Congress.  Me: up at 7, dress and breakfast and drive children to
school.  (Both children attend the same Montessori school.) At work by
9:30.  She: home at 2, picks up children from school at 3:30.  Me: home
at 5:30 on good nights, 7:30 on bad nights.  Always home for bedtime,
which is my job since with Vicky's early rising (see above) she is
usually asleep before children.

Hardest parts: only seeing Vicky for normal conversation on weekends,
and learning what "keeping the house clean" means and trying to do
it while with the children.

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