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From: mjs@utastro.UUCP (Pooh @ Another Place)
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Subject: Meeting Parental Units
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Date: Thu, 6-Dec-84 22:06:01 EST
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Posted: Thu Dec  6 22:06:01 1984
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I had an interesting discussion with my father the
other night.  Interesting in that it was he who
was giving me this advice:  there comes a time
when you simply have to break away from your parents
and assert yourself as a person.  If need be,
the break has to be so clean that you end up not
speaking to your parents for a while--ANYTHING
to make them realize that you are now your own
person.   My own father didn't speak to his mother
for two years after he left to get married (to
someone she didn't approve of).  While he hoped
that wouldn't ever be necessary for ME to do,
he knew that I had to go out and make my own
decisions not influenced by my parents' opinion.

I guess what all this boils down to is that
we may all wind up with an SO our parents
don't like.  But that needn't be the end of
the world--we simply have to say, "I'm sorry
you feel that way, but this is my decision
and I'm going to keep it.  It's up to you
if you feel this will prevent us from talking to
each other."

This goes for living together (with or without
sex, Jeff)  or anything else.  I would respect my
parents' wishes in their own house and sleep separately,
though.  I would do that for anyone.

(However, that does remind me of when my SO and
I visited his mother.  She asked us to sleep separately,
but practically INVITED us to go skinny-dipping
together in their pool!  I guess there are some things
I'll never understand.)

Anyway, it's nice to be back on the airwaves. . .

Pooh

"Wie es ist, ist das Mist."