Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site hou5g.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxj!houxm!ahuta!houti!ariel!hou5f!hou5g!jdh From: jdh@hou5g.UUCP (Julia Harper) Newsgroups: net.women,net.singles Subject: Re: Rape: The Unresolved Trauma Message-ID: <475@hou5g.UUCP> Date: Mon, 10-Dec-84 10:45:25 EST Article-I.D.: hou5g.475 Posted: Mon Dec 10 10:45:25 1984 Date-Received: Tue, 11-Dec-84 03:28:53 EST References: <1855@sun.uucp>, <2182@randvax.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Information Systems Laboratories, Holmdel, NJ Lines: 24 Xref: watmath net.women:3737 net.singles:4799 Speaking of constructive actions in response to problems addressed by feminists: I remember having a discussion with a male friend about the fear I have walking alone at night. (No, it really isn't out of control. I don't get hysterical, I don't shake with fear.) I told him that he probably makes women nervous simply by being out on the street at night. He got (typically) terribly upset and hurt that someone like him should cause fear in someone like me, and asked me what he could possibly do about it. Here was my suggestion: If you (a man) are walking alone at night (or with other men) and see a woman walking alone toward you, then cross the street and let her walk in peace. That way she won't be as apprehensive about what you might do when she arrives. Also, speaking of anger, here is a time when anger comes in handy. If you look and feel angry as you pass people on the street, they are less likely to annoy you (as observed by me walking in New York). Anger should not be given up lightly by women. It works for them at least as often as it works against them. jdh