Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site ut-ngp.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!mcnc!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!ut-sally!ut-ngp!judy From: judy@ut-ngp.UUCP (Judy Ashworth) Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social Subject: Re: Meeting the Parents Message-ID: <1100@ut-ngp.UUCP> Date: Fri, 30-Nov-84 11:18:11 EST Article-I.D.: ut-ngp.1100 Posted: Fri Nov 30 11:18:11 1984 Date-Received: Tue, 4-Dec-84 06:06:03 EST References: <614@pucc-k>, <519@cbosgd.UUCP> <3303@rabbit.UUCP> Organization: U.Texas Computation Center, Austin, Texas Lines: 22 The thought of "bringing your parents up right" is an interesting notion, but hardly realistic. The fact of the matter is THEY BROUGHT YOU UP, and so deserve a measure of respect from you. If you ever hope to have YOUR views respected, you must show your parents that even though you are an adult, with your own and perhaps different values, you still respect their values. How can you possibly justify more concern over insulting your SO than you show towards insulting your parents? After all your SO could leave you tomorrow, but parents (if they are good ones) will always be there for you. If your SO is at all interested in earning the acceptance of your parents he/she will understand that when you stay at your parent's home you abide by their rules. If you are determined to live by your rules alone, be prepared to pay for a hotel room. The same rules apply when your parents visit you. If you live with your SO make sure your parents understand that you have no intentions of rearranging your life to suit them. If they cannot accept this, they too, have the option of staying elsewhere. Judy