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From: abc@brl-tgr.ARPA (Brint Cooper )
Newsgroups: net.social,net.singles
Subject: Meeting the Parents - A Parent's View
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Date: Fri, 7-Dec-84 23:36:00 EST
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Posted: Fri Dec  7 23:36:00 1984
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I don't think this made it out the first time around.

References: <614@pucc-k> <1514@pucc-h> <536@voder.UUCP>

I've just plowed thru several dozen pieces of mail on this subject.
Would anyone like a parent's view?

(Unless you've hit "n" you're going to get it anyway!)

As parents, when confronted with our daughter's plan to live with her SO
(she was 20, he, 24) the following facts were true:

	1. Our daughter and her SO already were sexually active.  Many
parents already realize this.

	2. Her SO was (and is) the finest fellow she has ever known.
This is OUR opinion, and I believe it to be hers as well.

	3. I had no problem with the arrangement.  My wifedid but is
wise enough to realize that they would go thru with this plan with our
without our "approval."  That the SO is a caring, sensitive, intelligent
young man helped my wife get over her initial difficulty with the
situation.

And maybe that's why I accepted it so readily.  Our daughter brought
home a vast assortment of boys when in high school.  Her tastes improved
dramatically in college.  We'd prefer that she NOT marry until life is a
little more stable for her than it is during a 19 credit-hour senior
year in college.

Sleeping at our home?  We've respected her lifestyle, and she respects
ours.  They don't.  

I can't help but think that the issues discussed on this net aren't the
real ones.  It may not be "sex, vrginity, and children" at all.  Maybe
your parents just don't care for your SO.  Should they?

Brint