Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/17/84 chuqui version 1.7 9/23/84; site nsc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!whuxlm!whuxl!houxm!ihnp4!nsc!chuqui From: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Cheshire Chuqui) Newsgroups: net.news.group,net.singles Subject: The realities of mod.personal Message-ID: <1946@nsc.UUCP> Date: Sun, 2-Dec-84 15:32:13 EST Article-I.D.: nsc.1946 Posted: Sun Dec 2 15:32:13 1984 Date-Received: Tue, 4-Dec-84 06:24:02 EST Reply-To: chuqui@nsc.UUCP (Cheshire Chuqui) Organization: Plaid Heaven Lines: 43 Summary: In case you haven't noticed, Usenet is spread over a rather wide geographic area. Like, for example, the earth. There are sites in Asia, in Australia, in Europe and in the United States and Canada. The thought of running a personal advertisement over that area and have any chance of having something positive happen is ludicrous. I keep a rather close eye on the net. I talk to a lot of people out there (you should see my mailbox...) As one of the more visible users of net.singles, I hear a lot about the things happening to those people. The reality is that using the net as a communication link for romantic relationships is silly. Relationships are hard enough to sustain as it is-- chances are any person you DO start corresponding with is across the country, perhaps across the world. This is a handicap that very few relationships can survive. This is not so say that net-based romances don't exist. They do, and some of them flourish. Many of them die out, though, because of the distance. The few that don't seem to be the exceptions that prove the rule. And invariably the couple came together not because they were looking for someone else, but because they found they had things in common that they could talk about, and did. The best relationships aren't those that people went looking for, they are ones that happened despite all of the obstacles this silly network can put up between you. That isn't something you can help by setting up a place for people to go searching. If you really want to place ads, put them in your local paper where you have some chance of getting them answered by someone that won't cost you a small mint in phone bills. If you are interested in meeting people on the net, find the ones that you enjoy reading and write to them. Private mail is a wonderful thing-- you can talk to someone without having thousands of voyeurs peeking over your shoulder. Who know? You might just meet the right person out there. It DOES happen, occasionally. But don't count on it. chuq -- From the center of a Plaid pentagram: Chuq Von Rospach {cbosgd,decwrl,fortune,hplabs,ihnp4,seismo}!nsc!chuqui nsc!chuqui@decwrl.ARPA ~But you know, monsieur, that as long as she wears the claw of the dragon upon her breast you can do nothing-- her soul belongs to me!~