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From: jps@stcvax.UUCP (Jeff Snover)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Help. Need advice on Bulimia.
Message-ID: <328@stcvax.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 27-Nov-84 10:56:47 EST
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Posted: Tue Nov 27 10:56:47 1984
Date-Received: Fri, 30-Nov-84 07:37:56 EST
Organization: Storage Technology Corp.  Louisville, CO
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Perhaps ya'll could give me some advice.

I have a friend that is really caught up in the quagmire of bulimia and I
really don't know what I can do to help her.  She started off as an 
anorexic a couple of years ago and quickly became bulimic and has been
so, on a daily basis, ever since.  I used to date her and I could see
that the bulimia affected almost everything that she did (eg: we would
have a date and she would be disfunctional because that afternoon she
had eaten a handfull of laxatives). It was incredibly horrible to see
someone that I cared for very much slowly killing herself in this manner.
I tried everything that I could possibly think of to help her but nothing
seemed to. I tried the soft approach (compassion/understanding/support),
I tried the hard approach ("Come on XXXX, alot of people care about you,
get your sh*t together"), and every other thing I could think of to do.
None of these met with much success.  I'm not saying that I did the best
that could be done but rather that I really did the best that I could.

That relationship ended and I have moved to other parts of the country
but I still keep in touch and would like to do something to help her.
Is there anyone out there that could give me some advice?  It would
be *GREATLY* appreciated!

Note: She is already in a support group and has been seeing a psychologist
(psychiatrist?) for a couple of years. In my humble opinion, neither of these
are doing any good.


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Jeffrey P. Snover  -  STC StorageTek (Disk Division)
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