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From: gadfly@ihu1m.UUCP (Gadfly)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: I tot I taw a puddy tat ( bull's eye )
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Date: Sat, 1-Dec-84 15:35:30 EST
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>> Now, for a few carefully chosen harsh words directed at chuq. I
>> could not let this article go unnoticed. I feel you have made
>> some pretty severe mistakes in judgment, and I would like to
>> personally point them out for you...

>> I get the distinct feeling that you are attempting to stifle
>> this person. If he is indeed having problems, you are succeeding
>> only at making them worse. He appears to me to be fairly
>> intelligent, and his postings make excellent food for thought. I
>> think he is trying to open up to us. I would personally like to
>> see more. The manner in which he expresses his opinions reveal a
>> fairly open mind. I hope you don't confuse him with the other
>> religious zealots that have been known to inhabit this newsgroup.
>> For Jeff, I would like to recommend that you read a good book on
>> psychology. And digest it. The longer you hold out, the stronger
>> your fear of noncommittal relationships will manifest itself, the
>> harder it will be to adjust to an experienced partner. You will
>> have alot of catching up to do. You may hold out for someone with
>> as little experience as yourself, but you will probably want to
>> consider that these people become increasingly rare as you get
>> older. The choice is up to you.

>> ----{ john williams }----

We're not saints, John.  Many of us have tried to respond to Jeff
with compassion, suggestions, reading lists, even an occasional "hey,
snap out of it".  But he not only doesn't even try any of the advice,
he refutes it with his personal theology.  He asks for help, but all
our Godless answers must be wrong.  Then to top it off, Jeff insists
on *giving* advice, and on a particular subject (sex) he has driven
us to wit's end from his own inability to deal with.  I think that
Chuq has been a paragon of tact in responding to Jeff.  When I saw
Jeff's posting about how to live together but not have sex get in the
way, I was tempted to repeat the joke about the Pope's stand on
abortion: "He no play-a da game, he no make-a da rules."  But I didn't.
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