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From: moiram@tektronix.UUCP (Moira Mallison )
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: what does single really mean?
Message-ID: <4487@tektronix.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 11-Dec-84 14:28:42 EST
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Posted: Tue Dec 11 14:28:42 1984
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In the book, *Fathers & Daughters*, (full review in net.women) William
Appleton, MD draws various correlations between the distance in the
a woman's relationship with her father, and the distance in her relation-
ship with her husband.  

In discussing that people are satisfied with less closeness than in the
past, he says the following:

	   An attempt was made to rate the eighty-one women care-
	fully as happy or unhappy.  Admittedly this is an inexact
	measure and the decision was made on the basis of their pre-
	dominant mood over many days and weeks rather than that of a 
	single day....Table V shows the degree of closeness to their
	lovers and husbands...


		Happiness as a Function of Distance from Lover

	DISTANCE		UNHAPPY		HAPPY		TOTAL
				#     % 	#     %
        Symbiotic		6    33%	12   66%	  18
	Right Distance		3    20%	12   80%	  15
	Distant			6    20%	24   80%	  30
	No Relationship        18   100%  (!!!)			  18
	TOTAL		       33		48		  81	

	...What is...striking is that all eighteen women with no 
	intimate relationship were unhappy.  It seems that it is not
	how close or far but that the partner exists that is important
	to a woman's well-being.

This amazes me!  I know I have always been one of the "different drummer"
people,  but are "intimate relationships" so pervasively important to
women, that their entire sense of well-being rests on it?  I would like
responses from women (particularly) about this conclusion, to include
in a letter to the author.

Moira Mallison
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