Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site brl-tgr.ARPA Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!mit-eddie!godot!harvard!seismo!brl-tgr!abc From: abc@brl-tgr.ARPA (Brint Cooper ) Newsgroups: net.social,net.singles Subject: Meeting the Parents - A Parent's View Message-ID: <6468@brl-tgr.ARPA> Date: Fri, 7-Dec-84 23:36:00 EST Article-I.D.: brl-tgr.6468 Posted: Fri Dec 7 23:36:00 1984 Date-Received: Sun, 9-Dec-84 03:18:06 EST Distribution: net Organization: Ballistic Research Lab Lines: 38 Xref: watmath net.social:342 net.singles:4778 I don't think this made it out the first time around. References: <614@pucc-k> <1514@pucc-h> <536@voder.UUCP> I've just plowed thru several dozen pieces of mail on this subject. Would anyone like a parent's view? (Unless you've hit "n" you're going to get it anyway!) As parents, when confronted with our daughter's plan to live with her SO (she was 20, he, 24) the following facts were true: 1. Our daughter and her SO already were sexually active. Many parents already realize this. 2. Her SO was (and is) the finest fellow she has ever known. This is OUR opinion, and I believe it to be hers as well. 3. I had no problem with the arrangement. My wifedid but is wise enough to realize that they would go thru with this plan with our without our "approval." That the SO is a caring, sensitive, intelligent young man helped my wife get over her initial difficulty with the situation. And maybe that's why I accepted it so readily. Our daughter brought home a vast assortment of boys when in high school. Her tastes improved dramatically in college. We'd prefer that she NOT marry until life is a little more stable for her than it is during a 19 credit-hour senior year in college. Sleeping at our home? We've respected her lifestyle, and she respects ours. They don't. I can't help but think that the issues discussed on this net aren't the real ones. It may not be "sex, vrginity, and children" at all. Maybe your parents just don't care for your SO. Should they? Brint