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From: lab@qubix.UUCP (Q-Bick)
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Subject: Re: Kate Hepburn on sex life of today's college students
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Date: Fri, 26-Oct-84 00:21:45 EDT
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I see it as something a little more than the college "atmosphere."

1. Peer pressure. Especially for the guys, it's supposedly means you're
"more of a man" if you've made a "conquest." Also, even at the high
school level (and even among the gals), it's either "you're missing out"
or "you mean you *haven't* had sex yet?" It some cases, it gets to the
point where one who has not had sex (whether by choice or not) winds up
somewhat lower on the pecking order (or completely outcast).

2. Pressure of competition. A gal may feel that she won't be able to
keep her guy if she doesn't have sex with him. In some (many?) cases,
she right - but if the lover would break up because you won't have sex,
(s)he's clearly after a body, not the person inside. Such a person OUGHT
to be gotten rid of - you'll be a lot better off without him/her.

3. Media pressure. Magazines, movies, radio, TV - sex, sex, and more
sex. The young person is all but directly told that s/he should be
having sex. Whether it's seeing a favorite screen idol doing it, or
seeing the Hollywood fake, the message is continually pounded in. The
young person feels as though it's *expected* of him/her.

The dormitory atmosphere intensifies it some. The fraternity/sorority
atmosphere can make the pressure irresistible. A lot of people go off to
school before they are mature enough to handle the pressure, and there
are a lot of people ready to take advantage of this and shape them as
they wish.

Then there's always the case of the rookie cop in San Francisco... At
the cadets' graduation party, some *veteran cops* brought in a
prostitute who performed oral sex on a bound & blindfolded rookie! Which
of you would have had the guts to interfere???
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