Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!nonh From: nonh@utzoo.UUCP (Chris Robertson) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: friends and intimacy Message-ID: <4435@utzoo.UUCP> Date: Tue, 9-Oct-84 21:46:44 EDT Article-I.D.: utzoo.4435 Posted: Tue Oct 9 21:46:44 1984 Date-Received: Tue, 9-Oct-84 21:46:44 EDT References: <584@pucc-i> Organization: U of Toronto Zoology Lines: 20 > Why is it that people can't be intimate and still be friends?? >I have heard this from female friends of mine who I have had an interest >in being 'more than friends' with. I think *I* could still be friends with >someone and be intimate. Any comments? I don't think the problem arises so much while the relationship still involves intimacy, it's what happens if you try to go back to being just friends again. If both agree, it will probably work out. If one doesn't, chances are good the disagreement will sink the friendship -- sexual relationships tend to haul in unexpectedly strong feelings. If the couple isn't "in love", but simply add sex onto friendship, it can work very well indeed (I speak from experience here). Of course, the sex part may not produce the heights of ecstasy that love gives, but it can still be a very warm and caring relationship, without some of the tensions involved in a more passionate situation. --Chris "If you step on my stomach one more time, cat, I'll get right up and, and, ... and sleep on the couch ...?"