Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site eisx.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!whuxlm!spuxll!eisx!mac From: mac@eisx.UUCP (James McParland) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Book on catching men Message-ID: <800@eisx.UUCP> Date: Thu, 11-Oct-84 16:49:03 EDT Article-I.D.: eisx.800 Posted: Thu Oct 11 16:49:03 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 13-Oct-84 05:16:35 EDT References: <296@umcp-cs.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Info. Sys. Labs, South Plainfield NJ Lines: 49> The worst impression you can give a man is that there is nobody else in your > life..... Am I old-fashioned? I never ask a woman out if I know that she's already dating someone. > Men are competitive by nature. If he can't compete for you, he's likely to > find a more challenging women, one he'll have to fight for..... Sure, only if you're interested in finding the immature type of guy that considers women "challenges" to his manhood. > Appear busy and not too eager. That's what will perk his interest..... If a woman doesn't seem interested the first time I ask her out, I usually don't bother asking her again. I usually equate a "busy but not too eager" attitude to be a polite turn-down. > See more than one man if you're interested in keeping Mr. Right's attention.. > Have you ever noticed how a man you've treated with indifference keeps coming > back again and again..... Ask yourself, would I want to be involved with a man that sees a lot of women and says he does it to keep your relationship interesting? Sounds pretty dumb to me. *************** OK, I'll bet that most men on the net are going to disagree with these "how to get a man" tactics. Let's turn this around - what would we single guys suggest to women as ways to attract us? How to attract my attention: - show an interest in something that I am interested in. You don't have to be an expert at it - don't pretend to be. Just show an interest. - when a man asks you out, make a clear distinction between "no" and "you've suggested a bad day". If you really are going to be doing something else, suggest an alternate time. Or, if I suggest an activity you don't like, suggest an alternate. - SMILE! - Ask me out, rather than waiting for me to ask you. I'm sure you guys on the net can add to this list... Jim McParland ATT-IS South Plainfield