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From: agz@pucc-k (banta)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Male teases
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Date: Fri, 28-Sep-84 18:49:59 EDT
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Posted: Fri Sep 28 18:49:59 1984
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I hope this doesn't come as too much of a shock to people, but I (I think
in association with many other guys) enjoy having women as friends.  I
think that yes, there is a large trend to have girls (or women for you
hard-nosed people) as friends, without neccesarily having any serious
(read sexual) relationship with them. I think people are starting to
realize that there is no big difference in the way men and women think,
and therefore see no reason not to have friend of the opposite sex. I
personally have a few friends of the opposite sex (henceforth refered to
as FOTOS), and without really saying anything, I think that it is
understood that sex plays no role in our relationship. I'm happy with it
and as far as I can tell, they are also.

Where did this idea come from that everyone you meet in classes, at
parties, etc who happens to be of the opposite sex is neccesarily
looking for a relationship that includes sex, and not just a friendship?
(I can feel the heat already, so I better comment now the I realize that
friendship DOES play a major role in relationships that include sex.)
FOTOS are nice in the aspect that sex can be discussed without putting
either/any of the parties on edge. Neither I nor the young ladies in
question feel that such comments are a come on or need put their guard
up.

I think I'm beginning to ramble, so I'll wrap this up. Sure, there are
some real teases out there, of both sexes, but don't automatically
assume that someone is a tease just because he/she says they are
interested in a friendship without sex. That could be the real reason.
Think about it!

Andy Banta
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