Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxj!houxm!hogpc!hogpd!keduh From: keduh@hogpd.UUCP (D.HUDEK) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: book:catching men Message-ID: <403@hogpd.UUCP> Date: Tue, 9-Oct-84 13:10:37 EDT Article-I.D.: hogpd.403 Posted: Tue Oct 9 13:10:37 1984 Date-Received: Wed, 10-Oct-84 04:27:26 EDT Lines: 73 <<||>> OK, here are my comments.... [well, someone asked ! :-) ] > >I came across the following excerpt about a book on catching men: > > >Men are competitive by nature. If he can't compete for you, he's likely >to find a more challenging women, one he'll have to fight for..... > >Appear busy and not too eager. That's what will perk his interest..... > >See more than one man if you're interested in keeping Mr. Right's attention.. > This advice seems to be directed at someone trying to "catch" a "guido". [my insincere :-) apologies for the use of the term "guido", but it's used a lot around here in NJ and seems to concisely express the idea ----> that of a macho, not-too-bright, insensitive, Ken-doll... y'know, the 70's disco kind of guy... shirt open to navel, tons of gold chain, industrial strength hair... ;-) anyway, if you were offended, then I'm sorry.....but it seems to me that you've got that ol' offensensitivity turned up too high !!! :-) ] Anyway, I certainly wouldn't want anything to do with a woman that followed this advice [but then, she wouldn't want anything to do with me either I'm sure]. Assuming that this book sells, and there are people out there ready to take its advice to heart, it sure seems a shame that there are so many [adult?] people still playing those old "High School games".... such is life :-( >Have you ever noticed how a man you've treated with indifference >keeps coming back again and again..... I was at a party the other day talking with a friend of mine who had recently broken up with his girlfriend [lady-friend, woman-friend, etc.]. Evidently, she [and he] had been following the advice implied by the quote above. She would treat him rather poorly and ignore him until he started to get fed up and ignore her, whereupon she did a 180 degree flip. After a bit, he became re-interested and re-involved, so she would go back to being rather distant and at times most unpleasant. [Hey, I'm doing a good job with my language so far... :-) no slang or cussing... hot damn ! whoops! :-) ] I know that I've only heard his side, so there's a good possibility that he wasn't totally inoccent either [of being "unpleasant" above and beyond indifference], but that's irrelevant at this point. The point is that in at least this one case [can someone do an inductive proof to show this for all cases ;-)] following the quoted advice results in a lot of unpleasantness and the eventual death of a relationship. And what kind of relationship would it be anyway... one party callously controlling the other... master and faithful dog.... not too satisfying to my mind. Why doesn't someone write a book advising people to treat each other like humans ?!? No, no... to radical I guess. ~1/2 :-) * * \ / _____ / \ | ` ' | {ihnp4! or pegasus!} hogpd!keduh | > | | \_/ | \___/