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From: mac@eisx.UUCP (James McParland)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Book on catching men
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Date: Thu, 11-Oct-84 16:49:03 EDT
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Posted: Thu Oct 11 16:49:03 1984
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> The worst impression you can give a man is that there is nobody else in your
> life.....
	Am I old-fashioned?  I never ask a woman out if I know that she's
	already dating someone.

> Men are competitive by nature. If he can't compete for you, he's likely to   
> find a more challenging women, one he'll have to fight for.....
	Sure, only if you're interested in finding the immature type of
	guy that considers women "challenges" to his manhood.  

> Appear busy and not too eager. That's what will perk his interest.....
	If a woman doesn't seem interested the first time I ask her out,
	I usually don't bother asking her again.  I usually equate a 
	"busy but not too eager" attitude to be a polite turn-down.

> See more than one man if you're interested in keeping Mr. Right's attention..
> Have you ever noticed how a man you've treated with indifference keeps coming
> back again and again.....
	Ask yourself, would I want to be involved with a man that
	sees a lot of women and says he does it to keep your
	relationship interesting?  Sounds pretty dumb to me.

***************

OK, I'll bet that most men on the net are going to disagree with these
"how to get a man" tactics.  Let's turn this around - what would we
single guys suggest to women as ways to attract us?

How to attract my attention:
	- show an interest in something that I am interested in.  You don't
	  have to be an expert at it - don't pretend to be.  Just show an
	  interest.

	- when a man asks you out, make a clear distinction between "no"
	  and "you've suggested a bad day".  If you really are going to be
	  doing something else, suggest an alternate time.  Or, if I 
	  suggest an activity you don't like, suggest an alternate.

	- SMILE!

	- Ask me out, rather than waiting for me to ask you.

I'm sure you guys on the net can add to this list...

Jim McParland
ATT-IS
South Plainfield