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From: pickens@sdcsla.UUCP (Karen Pickens)
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: Re: Rights and Rosen
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Date: Wed, 19-Sep-84 02:03:54 EDT
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I can't believe this discussion is still going on, especially if people 
aren't interested, as T.C. Wheeler implies, but...

I'm 24 years old, and *someday* (hopefully) my S.O. and I are going to have
kids. We do discuss how we will raise them, as interesting hypothetical 
situations come up. I assume we will continue to discuss it after we have 
kids. Ear aches and diaper rash *are* important, but that's not all there
is to having kids.

I do think, however, that R.R. is being misinterpreted (as has been said so
often.) I personally *think* I agree with him a lot -- sure, your kids tend
to have your values, but you can't force them to; by not letting them see what
the rest of the world believes, for example, or telling them "I (or God) say
so, therefore it's true."  After a certain age, they will see that other
authority figures say differently, and may (like I did for awhile) swing from
believing blindly in one figure to another, or give up on "authority" 
completely.

*Sometimes* saying "I believe this is true, here's why" is more easily 
digested than "I say so." On the other hand, if your kid runs in the street,
grab her first and *then* explain why...

I think the best way to instill values in children is to live them yourself,
know why you have them, and be able to explain them clearly and calmly.

		Back to work,
		Karen Pickens - UCSD