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From: hlb@loral.UUCP ()
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: Re: Raising kids out of wedlock
Message-ID: <490@loral.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 19-Sep-84 11:38:42 EDT
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Posted: Wed Sep 19 11:38:42 1984
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There is one important point to consider when raising
children out of wedlock.  What type of example does it
set for a child.  Perhaps that child is a daughter and
at age seventeen wishes to have a child without benefit
of husband or bread-winner.

I think when the shoe is on the other foot attitudes will 
change.  How does one explain to a teenager that what is ok
for the parent is not ok for them.(  This seems to be their
prevailing argument).

If your son or daughter did have a child out of wedlock
are you quite prepared to be legally responsible for
the child and quite possibly raise the child to adulthood.

Yes, it is very difficult to get a divorce and it can be 
messy at times.  But, you don't enter into it with this
in mind.  And, if this is the reason behind not getting
married then the relationship is doomed.  Simply because
it is built on a shakey foundation.

As far as divorce affecting children, a child or even a teenager
for that matter, has no real understanding of the word.
To them it is a simple matter of their parents no longer being
together.  This can be devastating regardless of the marital
status.

One last point, the female in one of these relationships
may not consider marriage important now but, wait. It
will come up.  It is important to male and female alike
to know and feel the security of knowing that you are
willing to commit yourself.

Just some thoughts.