Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site gymble.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!mcnc!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!umcp-cs!gymble!mark From: mark@gymble.UUCP (Mark Weiser) Newsgroups: net.kids Subject: Re: kids and parents with different last names Message-ID: <96@gymble.UUCP> Date: Thu, 27-Sep-84 13:43:33 EDT Article-I.D.: gymble.96 Posted: Thu Sep 27 13:43:33 1984 Date-Received: Sun, 30-Sep-84 03:32:38 EDT References: <1100@ihuxi.UUCP> Organization: U of Maryland, Laboratory for Parallel Computation, C.P., MD Lines: 41 To each his own, but a family to me means everyone having the same name. I would have resented it vehemently had my wife refused to take on my last name. Oh, so you would NOT have resented it if she asked YOU to take on HER last name? ...(It seems un-common to me that a woman does not want to take her husbands name, obviously, you are the exception.) It is not uncommon at all. That is why this discussion is taking place. Take blinders off before typing 'f'. (a) Children tease other children for the dumbest things... I imagine kids view other kids with last names different then their parents as being odd. Especially the younger kids. They know somethings different, they just cant get a handle on it. (b) I know of one case in particular where there were 3 children from 1 father and 1 child from another. The later being the youngest child. My kids used to play with them and i can't say I recall any teasing going on. Paragraph (a) says a priori kids might be teased, but paragraph (b) says they aren't in at least one case of last name differences. My expererience with two children with different last names than their parents is that there is no teasing. This may be because their playmates have no reason to know that their parents last name is different, or don't care, I don't know. But really, it is not a problem. If you want to all have the same last name for personal reasons, ok, but don't pretend it is for the children's sake. Just admit its because you consider your wife your property and so want your name stamped on her. :-) -- Spoken: Mark Weiser ARPA: mark@maryland CSNet: mark@umcp-cs UUCP: {seismo,allegra}!umcp-cs!mark