Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site loral.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxj!houxm!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!hplabs!oliveb!ios!qubix!sun!decwrl!decvax!ittvax!dcdwest!sdcsvax!sdcc6!loral!hlb From: hlb@loral.UUCP () Newsgroups: net.kids Subject: Re: Raising kids out of wedlock Message-ID: <490@loral.UUCP> Date: Wed, 19-Sep-84 11:38:42 EDT Article-I.D.: loral.490 Posted: Wed Sep 19 11:38:42 1984 Date-Received: Tue, 25-Sep-84 21:02:19 EDT References: <1185@hcrvax.UUCP>, <8935@watmath.UUCP> Lines: 36 There is one important point to consider when raising children out of wedlock. What type of example does it set for a child. Perhaps that child is a daughter and at age seventeen wishes to have a child without benefit of husband or bread-winner. I think when the shoe is on the other foot attitudes will change. How does one explain to a teenager that what is ok for the parent is not ok for them.( This seems to be their prevailing argument). If your son or daughter did have a child out of wedlock are you quite prepared to be legally responsible for the child and quite possibly raise the child to adulthood. Yes, it is very difficult to get a divorce and it can be messy at times. But, you don't enter into it with this in mind. And, if this is the reason behind not getting married then the relationship is doomed. Simply because it is built on a shakey foundation. As far as divorce affecting children, a child or even a teenager for that matter, has no real understanding of the word. To them it is a simple matter of their parents no longer being together. This can be devastating regardless of the marital status. One last point, the female in one of these relationships may not consider marriage important now but, wait. It will come up. It is important to male and female alike to know and feel the security of knowing that you are willing to commit yourself. Just some thoughts.