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From: dana@gatech.UUCP (Dana Eckart)
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Subject: Re: Kate Hepburn on sex life of today's college students
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Date: Thu, 18-Oct-84 12:04:31 EDT
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> 	Related to this, when is someone emotionally and mentally
> mature enough to have sex? Have some of you out there ever wished
> you had waited a little longer? Started a little earlier?(Don't
> all raise your hands at once! :-)) 
> 
> Sharon Badian

[If this doesn't turn out quite right please overlook it
 as this is my first posting ever.]
 
Throughout High School I never dated much, in fact the few dates
I had were when the woman asked me.  When I first came to college
I went out on a few dates (where I was the initiator), and I started
dating one woman exclusively towards the end of my first year.
We then broke up for a summer and when we started seeing each
other again she seemed interested in having sex (e.g. she asked
me to spend the night) but at the time I wasn't really ready
(READ terrified, afraid, scared, etc.) so I politely told her
no (I know, I must have been crazy :-)), but some months later
after we had dated some more we did have sex (about 1 year after
we had first met).  It was the start of a terrific relationship
in which we ended up getting engaged about 18 months later (although
this didn't work out, but that's another story).  I am very glad
that I waited until I felt more sure of myself and that it was
something that I wanted to do.  It was a wonderful expierence
and one I shall always remember fondly.  The things which seemed
to really make a difference were our trust in and love for one
another.  For myself, I knew what I was and wasn't ready for
and things seemed to have worked out fine.  Peer pressure was
not a concern, and rightly so!

Dana Eckart

ps.  For my first posting, I hope I didn't botch it too bad!?