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From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: An Open Letter To Jeff... - (nf)
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Date: Tue, 18-Sep-84 22:50:39 EDT
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Posted: Tue Sep 18 22:50:39 1984
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From Ken Perlow (ihuxq!ken):

> Having faults is not only normal, it's downright attractive.
> Do you think potential SO's *WANT* to go out with St. Francis?...
> Here you get all this (free) counseling, and everybody tells you,
> "Relax, you're OK" and you say "No I'm not".  OK, you win, you're
> not.  So, you can tear at the deepest, foulest cravasses of your
> soul for a month of Tuesdays, or you can start reaching out and risk
> getting your hand (or face, or wherever) slapped a bit, which will
> most certainly happen, *AND* it *WILL* hurt.

I can see that having *some* NEEDS or WANTS would be attractive, since one can
do nothing for someone who is entirely self-sufficient.  But faults?  They only
try patience.  SO's would prefer St. Francis to Attila the Hun, I think.

The problem is that I am aware, from experience, that I am unable to sustain
the amount of loving that would be necessary to live with someone.  I can be
very nice, loving, and attractive -- for one evening.  But if someone saw me
for a considerable period several times a week, or especially if someone lived
with me, that person would not find me that way at all.  Even in one evening I
get very impatient with the amount of work and other-centeredness required to
be a loving and human person.  Perhaps mere faults might be acceptable, but my
overweening self-centeredness cannot be, since I can't cover it forever.

-- 
-- Jeff Sargent
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