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From: mark@gymble.UUCP (Mark Weiser)
Newsgroups: net.kids
Subject: Re: kids and parents with different last names
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Date: Thu, 27-Sep-84 13:43:33 EDT
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Posted: Thu Sep 27 13:43:33 1984
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	To each his own, but a family to me means everyone
	having the same name. I would have resented it
	vehemently had my wife refused to take on my last
	name.

Oh, so you would NOT have resented it if she asked YOU to take on 
HER last name?

	...(It seems un-common to me that a woman does
	not want to take her husbands name, obviously, you are 
	the exception.)

It is not uncommon at all.  That is why this discussion is taking
place.  Take blinders off before typing 'f'.

	(a) Children tease other children for the dumbest things...
	I imagine kids view other kids with last names different
	then their parents as being odd. Especially the younger
	kids. They know somethings different, they just cant
	get a handle on it.

	(b) I know of one case in particular where there were 3
	children from 1 father and 1 child from another.
	The later being the youngest child. 
	My kids used to play with them and i can't say 	
	I recall any teasing going on.

Paragraph (a) says a priori kids might be teased, but paragraph
(b) says they aren't in at least one case of last name differences.
My expererience with two children with different last names than
their parents is that there is no teasing.  This may be because
their playmates have no reason to know that their parents last
name is  different, or don't care, I don't know.  But really,
it is not a problem.  If you want to all have the same last name
for personal reasons, ok, but don't pretend it is for the children's sake.
Just admit its because you consider your wife your property and so 
want your name stamped on her. :-)
-- 
Spoken: Mark Weiser 	ARPA:	mark@maryland
CSNet:	mark@umcp-cs 	UUCP:	{seismo,allegra}!umcp-cs!mark