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From: williams@kirk.DEC (John Williams 223-3402)
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Subject: Coming together
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Date: Thu, 18-Oct-84 21:04:24 EDT
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	2.5 mins.? I didn't know so many were on the edge of 
premature ejaculation. This chakra or whatever you call it is 
quite easy to explain. Hindulini? In ZEN it's called wun slo fuk.

	OK, kidding aside. It's actually a phase relationship.
The upper bodies brush together 90 degrees out of phase. This 
allows either partner to have equal control of how fast you go by 
introducing a phase error into the upper body movement. They can 
reach orgasm simultaneously as long as neither one takes 
dominance. You don't have to be a contortionist, but it helps.
Something that does help is to concentrate on feeling your chest 
and abdomen. Something that also helps is to yield to the slower 
partner. Something like `` Slow down '' is OK to say when your 
partner is bouncing like a stiff. It takes some persistence, 
especially if you or your partner are self conscious about 
performance. But most of all, SPEAK UP! The longer you wait, the 
harder it becomes. It leads to resentment. Say something, 
anything. You and your partner can work out the details later.

	Remember, there is not only the real component, but the 
imaginary component in goooooooooood sex. I know this sounds 
mathematical, but it is something to be aware of. The clues as to 
what your partner is feeling are there, and you must be careful 
not to over power them with your own clues. Only when you are in 
tune can you reach mutual climax. ( I wonder what the odds are 
for pure coincidence ) Rubbing the upper bodies together out of 
phase is one of the best methods for doing this. ALSO, you don't 
have to concentrate so much on going IN and OUT. Subtle movements 
are best initially rather than trying to force orgasm. Don't 
concentrate on technique, concentrate on feeling. Both you and 
your partner should be feeling the same frequency. Loosen up!
Relax! Take some deep breaths. Yield to the sensation. 
Goooooooooood sex is something that you LET happen.

					----{ john williams }----

It ain't the meat, it's the motion
that makes your mamma wanna rock	- maria muldaur

	PS. I still hate SCABs ( y'know, red dick syndrome )

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