Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.PCS 1/10/84; site hocsf.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxj!houxm!hogpc!pegasus!hocsf!docs From: docs@hocsf.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: teases Message-ID: <155@hocsf.UUCP> Date: Wed, 3-Oct-84 08:52:33 EDT Article-I.D.: hocsf.155 Posted: Wed Oct 3 08:52:33 1984 Date-Received: Thu, 4-Oct-84 02:44:40 EDT References: <496@rocksvax.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Information Systems Labs, Holmdel NJ Lines: 33 REFERENCE: <496@rocksvax.UUCP> I think you may have hit upon something here. And I can speak from experience. I was called a tease by some men when I was in college. You have to understand that discovering your sexuality is a very confusing and often scary experience. You're continually re-evaluting the choices and you try to make decisions in an area where you have no experience to help you. It certainly made me think a lot. How well does this hold with men that are 25 years old or more? (And you thought I forget the original question.) I think in applies in quite a few cases, especially today because the decision is clouded by all sorts of outside issues. A person is attracted to another person. They go out on a date, passions run pretty hot. All of a sudden, nothing happens. Why? Millions of crazy things are running through these people's heads. "If we do it, we'll never be able to be friends again."(If you believe that fooling around doesn't interfere with friendship, I want to show you a bridge in Brooklyn that's for sale.)"But I'm horny, and it's been 9 months!" "She'll/He'll think I'm lousy in bed." (Performance anxiety hits women and men these days.) "Maybe I'll get herpes!!" That's only a few of the things that race through your head.(But I don't have to tell you folks that.) I don't think the sexual revolution has made these decisions any less difficult. The motivations and hang-ups have changed, but they didn't go away. I can't offer a solution to these problems, aside from making sure both parties are drunk(but you may still have to face that person again, possibly with a hangover). Gee, isn't sex an incredibly complicated subject? Sure keeps life interesting though. Sharon Badian