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From: chabot@amber.DEC (Lisa S. Chabot)
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Subject: Te: teases
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Date: Thu, 4-Oct-84 12:14:41 EDT
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/Don  ==  >

> This prompts me to wonder why a person (male or female) acts like a tease.
> One reason might be that they enjoy it.  Another reason might be that
> they are still trying to figure out how they should deal with intimate
> activities (such as sex).

I'll admit I may have missed some of this discussion about teases in which
the agreed upon definition of a tease, but, well, let me try something:  
teasing is (partially) in the eye of the beholder?  [And as a side-point, I've
seen some people unjustifiably labelled as a tease because the "teaser" was
personable and outgoing, yet had not responded or had rejected the advances
of the complainer.  But that's more like gossip than anything else.]  But
isn't there something in the tendency to believe that a person's mere
attractiveness can be considered part of a come-on?

Well, if you disagree with me there, then here's another issue.  Young women
are indoctrinated to want to be attractive (included in this are looks,
clothing, and charm), and yet are discouraged from facing their sexuality.
We're all supposed to be pretty and get the attention of men, but sex is a 
Bad Thing, and sometimes the unmentionability of S** is so much that one 
doesn't know what do when It looms (causing a panic reaction).

I imagine something similar could happen to men--the stress on being attractive
and charming, combined with the spookiness created about Sex.

L S Chabot
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