Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site decwrl.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!decvax!decwrl!dec-rhea!dec-kirk!williams From: williams@kirk.DEC (John Williams 223-3402) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Coming together Message-ID: <3957@decwrl.UUCP> Date: Thu, 18-Oct-84 21:04:24 EDT Article-I.D.: decwrl.3957 Posted: Thu Oct 18 21:04:24 1984 Date-Received: Fri, 19-Oct-84 06:48:39 EDT Sender: daemon@decwrl.UUCP Organization: DEC Engineering Network Lines: 48 2.5 mins.? I didn't know so many were on the edge of premature ejaculation. This chakra or whatever you call it is quite easy to explain. Hindulini? In ZEN it's called wun slo fuk. OK, kidding aside. It's actually a phase relationship. The upper bodies brush together 90 degrees out of phase. This allows either partner to have equal control of how fast you go by introducing a phase error into the upper body movement. They can reach orgasm simultaneously as long as neither one takes dominance. You don't have to be a contortionist, but it helps. Something that does help is to concentrate on feeling your chest and abdomen. Something that also helps is to yield to the slower partner. Something like `` Slow down '' is OK to say when your partner is bouncing like a stiff. It takes some persistence, especially if you or your partner are self conscious about performance. But most of all, SPEAK UP! The longer you wait, the harder it becomes. It leads to resentment. Say something, anything. You and your partner can work out the details later. Remember, there is not only the real component, but the imaginary component in goooooooooood sex. I know this sounds mathematical, but it is something to be aware of. The clues as to what your partner is feeling are there, and you must be careful not to over power them with your own clues. Only when you are in tune can you reach mutual climax. ( I wonder what the odds are for pure coincidence ) Rubbing the upper bodies together out of phase is one of the best methods for doing this. ALSO, you don't have to concentrate so much on going IN and OUT. Subtle movements are best initially rather than trying to force orgasm. Don't concentrate on technique, concentrate on feeling. Both you and your partner should be feeling the same frequency. Loosen up! Relax! Take some deep breaths. Yield to the sensation. Goooooooooood sex is something that you LET happen. ----{ john williams }---- It ain't the meat, it's the motion that makes your mamma wanna rock - maria muldaur PS. I still hate SCABs ( y'know, red dick syndrome ) (DEC E-NET) KIRK::WILLIAMS (UUCP) {decvax, ucbvax, allegra}!decwrl!dec-rhea!dec-kirk!williams (ARPA) williams%kirk.DEC@decwrl.ARPA williams%kirk.DEC@Purdue-Merlin.ARPA