Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site pucc-h Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxj!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!CS-Mordred!Pucc-H:aeq From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: An Open Letter To Jeff... - (nf) Message-ID: <1210@pucc-h> Date: Tue, 18-Sep-84 22:50:39 EDT Article-I.D.: pucc-h.1210 Posted: Tue Sep 18 22:50:39 1984 Date-Received: Tue, 25-Sep-84 08:35:04 EDT References: <1586@zehntel.UUCP>, <1191@pucc-h>, <1211@ihuxq.UUCP> Organization: Tucumcari Divinity School Lines: 28 From Ken Perlow (ihuxq!ken): > Having faults is not only normal, it's downright attractive. > Do you think potential SO's *WANT* to go out with St. Francis?... > Here you get all this (free) counseling, and everybody tells you, > "Relax, you're OK" and you say "No I'm not". OK, you win, you're > not. So, you can tear at the deepest, foulest cravasses of your > soul for a month of Tuesdays, or you can start reaching out and risk > getting your hand (or face, or wherever) slapped a bit, which will > most certainly happen, *AND* it *WILL* hurt. I can see that having *some* NEEDS or WANTS would be attractive, since one can do nothing for someone who is entirely self-sufficient. But faults? They only try patience. SO's would prefer St. Francis to Attila the Hun, I think. The problem is that I am aware, from experience, that I am unable to sustain the amount of loving that would be necessary to live with someone. I can be very nice, loving, and attractive -- for one evening. But if someone saw me for a considerable period several times a week, or especially if someone lived with me, that person would not find me that way at all. Even in one evening I get very impatient with the amount of work and other-centeredness required to be a loving and human person. Perhaps mere faults might be acceptable, but my overweening self-centeredness cannot be, since I can't cover it forever. -- -- Jeff Sargent {decvax|harpo|ihnp4|inuxc|seismo|ucbvax}!pur-ee!pucc-h:aeq THIS SPACE INTENTIONALLY LEFT BLANK (it couldn't stand it there any longer).