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From: agz@pucc-k (Andrew Banta)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: teases
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Date: Wed, 3-Oct-84 04:10:55 EDT
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Posted: Wed Oct  3 04:10:55 1984
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> This prompts me to wonder why a person (male or female) acts like a tease.
> One reason might be that they enjoy it.  Another reason might be that
> they are still trying to figure out how they should deal with intimate
> activities (such as sex).

I honestly don't think all teases know how cruel they are being. I've 
run into my fair share of teases, and didn't really enjoy any of the
experiences. In spit of this, I don't think that all of them realized
they were being teases. I think some of the girls (I feel that I'm using
this correctly here) felt it was perfectly natural to talk and joke
about sex, make body contact, etc., without feeling that they were
actually exciting/leading on (for lack of better words) the guy.

Another comment as to why they tease may be that, in their own minds,
they are proving that they have "what it takes" to get someone else
interested in them. They can sit there (male or female) and continually
lead someone on. When the other person finally asks if the tease is
interested in something more serious, the tease can act hurt that such a
thing would even come up, or simply prolong the charade long enough for
that date/meeting/whatever to end, and then quickly lose the other
person. It seems to me that this is the cruelest of teases, because the
tease doesn't really get any pleasure out of it, simply the fact that
they are attractive to that person. These are sometimes hard to read,
sometimes not. If you think this is what you're getting yourself into
some time, a real effective way to get back at the tease is to act gay.
Another keen method I've heard of but never been able to figure out how
to employ is to be totally disinterested. I find this kind of hard, but
you had to show some interest to get to the point that you've figured it
out. Acting gay does tend to put a damper on their "fun", though.
Unfortunately, they will most likely improve their record elsewhere, in
spite of this.


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