Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 exptools 1/6/84; site ihuxu.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxl!ihnp4!ihuxu!hoff From: hoff@ihuxu.UUCP (GYPSY) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Topic of Anger Message-ID: <321@ihuxu.UUCP> Date: Sat, 2-Jun-84 21:21:36 EDT Article-I.D.: ihuxu.321 Posted: Sat Jun 2 21:21:36 1984 Date-Received: Tue, 5-Jun-84 08:23:33 EDT References: <206@hercules.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Bell Labs, Naperville, IL Lines: 13 The way anger is handled in a relationship is very important! I just broke up with my SO last night because of the way anger was being handled. When I am angry, I usually either cry very hard, get very quiet, or engage in verbal abuse. Thank God I don't get into the third choice very often anymore. However, what broke us up (I believe) is that every time we had an argument or a "riff," he could NOT forgive or forget. Sometimes days went past before I could finally feel at ease again. And I'd beg him to talk about it,..... nothing doing! After these episodes, the closeness would drift farther and farther away. I always felt I was on probation .... and ONE slip was all it would take. Well, we finally weren't happy in the total situation anymore. It's going to be awfully hard to let 4 years of my life go away from me. Julie Hoff ihnp4!ihuxu!hoff