Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site ut-sally.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxl!houxm!houxz!vax135!floyd!cmcl2!seismo!ut-sally!pooh From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Wendy P. Nather) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Topic of Anger Message-ID: <2216@ut-sally.UUCP> Date: Wed, 6-Jun-84 17:05:18 EDT Article-I.D.: ut-sally.2216 Posted: Wed Jun 6 17:05:18 1984 Date-Received: Thu, 7-Jun-84 19:44:22 EDT References: <1178@drux3.UUCP> Organization: U. Texas CS Dept., Austin, Texas Lines: 20 Followup to Anita's discussion: I have had problems with anger primarily because my parents taught me that only they were allowed to express it in our family, and when they did, it was a terrifying and traumatic experience for me. But I also had at one time a boyfriend who was emotionally disturbed (I didn't know it at the time). When he got angry, he got violent. He once tried to kill me. As you can see, this creates a lot of fear of anger, especially from loved ones. Sometimes it takes more than an explanation from your SO to get past that and reassure you; so a lot of patience and understanding (and willingness to hold back a bit) is called for. Wendy ["It's never easy and it's never clear Who's to navigate and who's to steer. . ."]