Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site rhino.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxl!houxm!houxz!vax135!floyd!cmcl2!seismo!hao!hplabs!hpda!fortune!foros1!rhino!marcum From: marcum@rhino.UUCP (Alan M. Marcum) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Staying friends with an ex Message-ID: <132@rhino.UUCP> Date: Fri, 1-Jun-84 17:57:33 EDT Article-I.D.: rhino.132 Posted: Fri Jun 1 17:57:33 1984 Date-Received: Tue, 5-Jun-84 08:35:52 EDT References: <685@ihuxn.UUCP> Organization: Fortune Systems, Redwood City, California Lines: 27 My ex-sweetie and I are still very, very close friends. We see each other frequently, are symphony-buddies, confide in each other, call upon each other for support. We decided, mutually, to call it quits when we both recognized that we wanted different things out of the relationship. Some details: Elaine is 10 years older than I am, with two teenaged kids (one of each gender). We went together for about three years, about half of that living together -- with her kids. She was looking for a relationship that would lead toward marriage; I was not looking for that at the time. Yes, I got along well with her kids -- indeed, still do. Why are we still friends? Probably for three reasons: - the relationship initially started as a friendship, growing into a love affair from that; - we enjoyed each others' company, still do, and share many common interests; - we reached the decision to move on together, well before we started getting on each others' nerves. Yes, we are now seeing other people at various times. It's a relationship I value highly. -- Alan M. Marcum Fortune Systems, Redwood City, California ...!{ihnp4, ucbvax!amd70, hpda, sri-unix, harpo}!fortune!rhino!marcum