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From: aeq@pucc-h (Jeff Sargent)
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Subject: Thoughts inspired by "Happy as a homosexual"
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Date: Tue, 19-Jun-84 11:04:24 EDT
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Posted: Tue Jun 19 11:04:24 1984
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From Trish Millines:

> I don't look at every woman and drool (like most men do!!)....

I will plead guilty to this one; but it remains to be seen if I would do this
were I involved with an SO.  When one is starving, to have in one's view, but
out of reach, that which would satisfy one's appetite (and I mean emotional
more so than physical), is exquisite torture; I suspect that men in that
condition may deliberately prolong their examination of a woman so as to
heighten the pain (wanting some sort of emotional high and having pleasure
unavailable, thus taking pain instead) -- I know I've done this.  Note that
I am beginning to find a few MOTOS's not out of reach; but as I've discussed
in other articles, I still am unsure of my attractiveness to some really
nice and desirable women.

>    I personally chose to be gay because I think most straight men are your
> egotistical, chauvanist, insensitive, macho assholes, who treat women like
> they're here on this earth to serve them.  Of course there is that 1 in
> 1000 who is just perfect, but why should I bother to go through the jerks
> just to get that one!!!!!  Plus a woman knows what a woman wants, and your
> basic straight man could care less, just so long as he gets what he wants.

Blanket condemnation, yet.  Not entirely untrue, but a little sweeping.
I could comment that in this foolish culture, even nowadays, men spend their
workdays being torn apart by other men (and nowadays women), so when they
get home, they need someone to patch their egos.  Some will admit this (I
confess it's still very difficult for me to go to a woman and tell her I need
some warmth/love/cuddling); those who can't bring themselves to do this, but
who do feel weakened/threatened by the world, may well want to enslave their
women just so they can feel that there's SOMEONE they are stronger than.

Anyway, I once heard a country song (done by a male singer) which made quite
an impact on me, because it contained a simple but profound line:  "She's
close enough to perfect for me."  Similarly, a friend of mine tells me of a
friend of his, a woman now in her early 30's, who has passed up THREE
"Mr. Right"s looking for a "Mr. Perfect".

I will forestall comments by admitting that I will have to be careful to
avoid the same sort of mistake.

> But remember, If you choose homosexuality, you have to take back every
> deragatory remark you said, cause you will now be one of us!!!

There seems to be a curious difference of opinion (or of experience) in this
exchange.  Some (including homosexuals) say that gay is just the way they
are.  But here is a case of someone who actually CHOSE to be gay; and had I
gone that route, I would have been another such case.  (You will have noted
by now that I'm not going that route, that I've always been heterosexual at
the core, and that that is now being freed to be expressed.)  This second
class contains (apparently) those who consciously chose homosexuality when
they were old enough to know what they were doing.  I still wonder whether
the first class similarly chose gaydom, but at such a young age that they
don't remember it.

-- 
-- Jeff Sargent
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