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From: jamcmullan@wateng.UUCP (Judy McMullan)
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Subject: beauty and the jrek
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Date: Thu, 21-Jun-84 17:35:12 EDT
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Posted: Thu Jun 21 17:35:12 1984
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    >Over a year ago I asked the same question:  "Why do attractive women go 
    >out with"JERKS?" ...
					Jim Collymore

I REMEMBER when someone (I guess it was Jim Collymore, as he said) asked
why do beautiful women date jerks?. I found the question silly then and
I STILL find it silly. There are so many types of people and so many
combinations of couples! Maybe the beautiful woman can't date anyone else
because SHE is a jerk!! I guess the part that really gets my goat is the
assumption that if a woman is beautiful she can get whatever she wants.
I know several "beautiful" women whom I can't stand. They have different
defects. I know several beautiful women who bowl me over because they seem
to have it all -- the beauty that initially attracts (all) people and then
warm, interesting personalities that keep on attracting people.
What I am saying is, being beautiful doesn't preclude someone from being a
jerk, too.

Actually, the question seems to imply a bit of envy. "Why does this jerk
have a lover but I don't?" kind of thing.

I haven't really noticed this at all. However, I will concede that there may
be cultural differences in other areas of the continent (or in social circles
other than my own!) where this actually happens. I can't explain it but I can
say that if one has low self-esteem, it is harder to break out of such a
situation. One needs self-confidence to act for oneself.

   --from the sssstickkky keyboard of JAM
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