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From: dan@fluke.UUCP (Dan Everhart)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: self defeating people
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Date: Fri, 8-Jun-84 16:15:56 EDT
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Posted: Fri Jun  8 16:15:56 1984
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Sophie's article about people with self-defeating attitudes was RIGHT ON.  I
went out with a woman like that for about a month and, like Sophie, my motto
now is "NEVER AGAIN".

Boy was I tired of hearing "I'm so fat" or "I'm so dumb", etc.  For a while I
tried responding "No, you're not" (In many more words.)  Then when that made
no difference, I tried "Well why don't you...."  All that did was elicit a
long list of excuses.  Finally my response became, "Yeah, I guess you are, but
I like you anyway."  She never heard the last half of those sentences; she'd
just turn on a big moo cow stare and a plaintive "You *really* think so?"

If you're involved with one of these people, don't expect to change him or
her; you're wasting your time.

Dan Everhart
John Fluke Mfg. Co.
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