Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site rocksvax.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!hou3c!hocda!houxm!houxz!vax135!floyd!cmcl2!seismo!rochester!ritcv!rocksvax!dw From: dw@rocksvax.UUCP (Don Wegeng) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: desperation - a bad way to put it Message-ID: <509@rocksvax.UUCP> Date: Fri, 8-Jun-84 19:35:44 EDT Article-I.D.: rocksvax.509 Posted: Fri Jun 8 19:35:44 1984 Date-Received: Sun, 10-Jun-84 00:30:50 EDT Organization: Xerox Lines: 31 Ok, my turn to speak my two cents worth. I don't think that the word *desperation* is quite the right way to describe what we've been talking about. It's not desperation which shows, it's the lack of confidence which is sending signals to the MOTOS or MOTSS that interests you. Maybe these seem to be the same thing, but I think not. Even though I'm currently not dating anyone I don't feel *desperate* to find someone. That's not to say that I wouldn't like to, tho. The problem is that some of us get nervous when we meet someone that we are attracted to. The fact that I'm nervous doesn't mean that I'm desperate, it just means that I'm shy. Desperation and shyness seem to bring out a similar behavior pattern in some people, which is a problem since this behavior seems to be generally interpreted as the former. As an aside, I recently read a very good book on how to change both of these types of behaviors. It's titled "The Art of Hanging Loose in an Uptight World". I forget the author's name, but will look it up if anyone is interested. BTW, I first heard of it here on net.singles over a year ago. I recommend it highly. /Don Wegeng [hi RSK!, say hi for me] "Please send more Henry's" {seismo!rochester} {ihnp4!tropix!ritcv} !rocksvax!dw