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From: clark@sdcsla.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: thoughts on desperation
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Date: Wed, 6-Jun-84 21:28:48 EDT
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Posted: Wed Jun  6 21:28:48 1984
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Wendy (ut-sally!wendy) brings up the issue of homosexual relations as a case 
of:
> that you shouldn't cut yourself off from the possibility of
> loving and being loved by someone of your own sex.  

(*NOT* implying that Wendy practices the above, as she clearly states)

I have talked to two heterosexual (decidedly, ... ahem) ladies of my 
acquaintance who have had homosexual experiences and had the same attitude-

> "why not?"  
> Rationale
> for this includes believing that someone of the same sex can
> share more of your feelings, since you have more in common.

I have a similar reaction to Wendy's.  It seems like, logically, a person 
has been given all these nerve endings designed to feel good with proper
treatment.  I don't believe in the 'Pursuit of stimulation as the end
all and be all' but if you have someone of either sex who you care about
in very deeply, and feel very special toward, their gender shouldn't matter 
if you want to share that caring in a special way.  And, as the above states,
they may be able to share even more, do to the gender similarities.

Note that I, too, still remain purely heterosexual, and can't imagine
changing, or even switching occasionally despite the above logic.  I
may just be a product of our society (witness the ancient Greeks),
but I cannot overcome it with the realization.  The stigma may be too 
much.  I do not condemn or condone others who choose otherwise. 

Judging from my two informants above, and others, I wonder if women are 
more able to share such feeling in such a way?  Maybe society allows women 
to be more expressive of their feelings, and this is one way to share.  

Sorry if this rambles.  Comments?

-- Clark