Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!floyd!harpo!decvax!decwrl!amd70!fortune!wdl1!tlm From: tlm@wdl1.UUCP (tlm ) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Words from an Osseous Edifice - (nf) Message-ID: <327@wdl1.UUCP> Date: Tue, 19-Jun-84 18:23:37 EDT Article-I.D.: wdl1.327 Posted: Tue Jun 19 18:23:37 1984 Date-Received: Thu, 21-Jun-84 08:39:44 EDT Lines: 46 #R:tekigm:-10700:wdl1:4200002:000:2139 wdl1!tlm Jun 19 11:55:00 1984 >Actually, I firmly believe in making this a general rule-- never date >anyone you work with. I have almost never seen a relationship survive the >hassles of both work and personal pressure, and one is sure to give way. No >matter how good the working relationship is, if/when something goes wrong >elsewhere it is usually crippled. It is also a good way to screw up the >rest of the people you work with by unbalancing the work environment. Bad >news. I'm a female engineer and have been dating someone with whom I work for over 10 months. My beau and I have worked together on several projects, although we currently have different assignments. Working together has *some* advantages: 1. good communication 2. mutual respect and regard 3. we both enjoy our work - so we sometimes discuss work after hours while we are being social with one another (i.e. convenience) 4. it's nice to see him everyday, even in a strictly business situation 5. it is sometimes easier to be frank with one another concerning business matters 6. we share many of the same interests, including work-related endeavors This is not to say that we do not have our problems. My beau is 4 years older than I and has worked for the company for 2 years longer. When we get into technical disagreements, this makes it harder for me to prove that I am right ( i.e. it gets very tiring being challenged all the time and always feeling like I am less knowledgeable). Occasionally work spills over into our social life, but the reverse ( social life brought into work) is *fairly* rare. And although we can be more frank with one another, this makes it easier to stomp on and hurt each other's feelings without realizing it. We must tread lightly at times. All things considered, I'm not sure I would reccomend dating someone that you work with. But for me, it has been worthwhile. {ARPA: tlm@ford-wdl1} tina -----* you just gotta believe *-----