Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site watmath.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!saquigley From: saquigley@watmath.UUCP (Sophie Quigley) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Intelligent and single women Message-ID: <8115@watmath.UUCP> Date: Sat, 23-Jun-84 13:50:28 EDT Article-I.D.: watmath.8115 Posted: Sat Jun 23 13:50:28 1984 Date-Received: Sun, 24-Jun-84 00:39:04 EDT References: <802@shark.UUCP> <1045@nsc.UUCP> <21@cbosgd.UUCP> <1072@nsc.UUCP>, <26@cbosgd.UUCP> Organization: U of Waterloo, Ontario Lines: 41 >>This may sound like a dumb question, but could the problem have been that >>you simply weren't interested in her work as much as she was in yours? I >>happen to find medicine a fascinating subject personally, but it could have >>been that the things she contributed were not in your interest, not that >>she wasn't interesting. >> >>chuq > >It turns out that for most of the time we were together we were both doing >moderately similar work: I was working in a neurosurgery research lab and >she was working on the neurosurgery ward at the hospital. So it's not that >I wasn't interested, or that she wasn't interesting (as I tried to point >out). The content of our jobs differed in an important way. My work then >emphasized learning and integrating new facts about the brain, she was >primarily caring for patients and knew (comparatively) little about the >brain. > >There may be another factor here: my background. My parents worked in the >same field (microbiology) and always talked shop over dinner, etc. I have >a lot of interests besides brains and computers, but the two way flow of >ideas and technical information is one of the things I value in an intimate >relationship. My current SO is finishing her Ph.D. in microbiology (a >coincidence!) and contributes a lot to our discussions even though she >also knows (comparatively) little about brains or computers. From a >personality perspective these two women (nurse and microbiologist) are >very much alike. The main difference is their intelligence. While I think it is very good that you have find someone who shares your interests, I don't really think you are being fair by saying that the main difference is "intelligence". From what you have said the main difference is interests. I consider myself quite intelligent, but given a choice between eating with a nurse who will talk shop and a neurosurgeon who will talk shop, I'd choose the nurse anytime!!!! I find that talking about people is much more interesting than talking about brains or computers. I am not saying that one is better than the other, just that they are different and which one you enjoy more is a matter of taste, not intelligence. After what you have just said, I agree with Chuq even more so, it seems that you were not interested in her work. Sophie Quigley ...!{clyde,ihnp4,decvax}!watmath!saquigley