Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site wateng.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!wateng!jamcmullan From: jamcmullan@wateng.UUCP (Judy McMullan) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: beauty and the jrek Message-ID: <1114@wateng.UUCP> Date: Thu, 21-Jun-84 17:35:12 EDT Article-I.D.: wateng.1114 Posted: Thu Jun 21 17:35:12 1984 Date-Received: Fri, 22-Jun-84 05:45:32 EDT Organization: U of Waterloo, Ontario Lines: 28 >Over a year ago I asked the same question: "Why do attractive women go >out with"JERKS?" ... Jim Collymore I REMEMBER when someone (I guess it was Jim Collymore, as he said) asked why do beautiful women date jerks?. I found the question silly then and I STILL find it silly. There are so many types of people and so many combinations of couples! Maybe the beautiful woman can't date anyone else because SHE is a jerk!! I guess the part that really gets my goat is the assumption that if a woman is beautiful she can get whatever she wants. I know several "beautiful" women whom I can't stand. They have different defects. I know several beautiful women who bowl me over because they seem to have it all -- the beauty that initially attracts (all) people and then warm, interesting personalities that keep on attracting people. What I am saying is, being beautiful doesn't preclude someone from being a jerk, too. Actually, the question seems to imply a bit of envy. "Why does this jerk have a lover but I don't?" kind of thing. I haven't really noticed this at all. However, I will concede that there may be cultural differences in other areas of the continent (or in social circles other than my own!) where this actually happens. I can't explain it but I can say that if one has low self-esteem, it is harder to break out of such a situation. One needs self-confidence to act for oneself. --from the sssstickkky keyboard of JAM ...!{ihnp4|clyde|decvax}!watmath!wateng!jamcmullan