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From: neal@denelcor.UUCP
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Subject: Re: Topic of Anger
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Date: Sat, 9-Jun-84 19:11:39 EDT
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>Anyway, I've had the same problem of having people get initimidated by my
>showing anger about something.  Some people have also been offended.
>
>                                             Anita

	I tend to be this way (I'm an only child, by the way) but over
the years, I've learned a little more about myself.

	For me, the crucial factor in both my SO's anger and her response
to my anger is her continued acceptance of me, my feelings, and the
relationship and my being able to perceive that acceptance.  In the
better relationships I've had, as long as we both felt and were able to
show that acceptance, no amount of anger ever seemed to do any harm.

	I don't know if this will apply to anyone else but try being
sufficiently in charge of your anger to keep it from turning into
rejection and see if that helps.

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