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From: pooh@ut-sally.UUCP (Wendy P. Nather)
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Subject: Re: Topic of Anger
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Date: Wed, 6-Jun-84 17:05:18 EDT
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Posted: Wed Jun  6 17:05:18 1984
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Followup to Anita's discussion:

I have had problems with anger primarily because my parents
taught me that only they were allowed to express it in our
family, and when they did, it was a terrifying and traumatic
experience for me.

But I also had at one time a boyfriend who was emotionally
disturbed (I didn't know it at the time).  When he got angry,
he got violent.  He once tried to kill me.

As you can see, this creates a lot of fear of anger, especially
from loved ones.  Sometimes it takes more than an explanation
from your SO to get past that and reassure you; so a lot of
patience and understanding (and willingness to hold back a bit)
is called for.


Wendy                   ["It's never easy and it's never clear
                          Who's to navigate and who's to steer. . ."]