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From: ronb@hercules.UUCP (Ron Blair)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Topic of Anger followup
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Date: Mon, 4-Jun-84 13:54:29 EDT
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Posted: Mon Jun  4 13:54:29 1984
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My thanks for the response both public & private about how to handle anger.
Here are my thoughts after soaking up the feedback.

Emotions such as loneliness, sorrow, grief, hurt, some stress responses, etc,
can be worked on with a good chance of making these rather negative feelings
produce a positive result.  Anger seems to fall into a separate category.
Working through the anger with your SO is a positive experience but it seems
necessary to dissipate the anger at least partially before the communication
is loving.  I am looking for alternative ways to dissipate anger.  So far we
have listed talking, exercise, and patience.  Violence seems to be a dead
end; sulking and withdrawal don't seem to be very popular.  Aggression as
a mix of exercise and violence (against, say, a tennis ball) is an
interesting approach if your SO can participate.  I am suspicious of patience
because it seems too close to withdrawal (internalizing or suppressing).
Communication seems to be the key in resolving the issue once anger is
dissipated.

Talking and/or exercise seem to comprise a very small list of alternatives.
Has anyone else found something that works for them or should I just resign
myself to talking to my bicycle until a cooler head prevales?


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