Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 3/23/84; site cbosgd.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!mgnetp!ihnp4!cbosgd!rbg From: rbg@cbosgd.UUCP (Richard Goldschmidt) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Intelligent and single women Message-ID: <26@cbosgd.UUCP> Date: Mon, 18-Jun-84 09:33:59 EDT Article-I.D.: cbosgd.26 Posted: Mon Jun 18 09:33:59 1984 Date-Received: Fri, 22-Jun-84 09:17:10 EDT References: <802@shark.UUCP> <1045@nsc.UUCP> <21@cbosgd.UUCP> <1072@nsc.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories, Columbus Lines: 30 >This may sound like a dumb question, but could the problem have been that >you simply weren't interested in her work as much as she was in yours? I >happen to find medicine a fascinating subject personally, but it could have >been that the things she contributed were not in your interest, not that >she wasn't interesting. > >chuq It turns out that for most of the time we were together we were both doing moderately similar work: I was working in a neurosurgery research lab and she was working on the neurosurgery ward at the hospital. So it's not that I wasn't interested, or that she wasn't interesting (as I tried to point out). The content of our jobs differed in an important way. My work then emphasized learning and integrating new facts about the brain, she was primarily caring for patients and knew (comparatively) little about the brain. There may be another factor here: my background. My parents worked in the same field (microbiology) and always talked shop over dinner, etc. I have a lot of interests besides brains and computers, but the two way flow of ideas and technical information is one of the things I value in an intimate relationship. My current SO is finishing her Ph.D. in microbiology (a coincidence!) and contributes a lot to our discussions even though she also knows (comparatively) little about brains or computers. From a personality perspective these two women (nurse and microbiologist) are very much alike. The main difference is their intelligence. Anyway, the two of them will be meeting each other in a few weeks, and it should be really fun (one of the joys of staying friends with former SO's). --Rich Goldschmidt (cbosgd!rbg) a former brain hacker (now reformed?)