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From: dw@rocksvax.UUCP (Don Wegeng)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: desperation - a bad way to put it
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Date: Fri, 8-Jun-84 19:35:44 EDT
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Posted: Fri Jun  8 19:35:44 1984
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Ok, my turn to speak my two cents worth.

I don't think that the word *desperation* is quite the right way
to describe what we've been talking about.  It's not desperation which
shows, it's the lack of confidence which is sending signals to the
MOTOS or MOTSS that interests you.  Maybe these seem to be the same 
thing, but I think not.

Even though I'm currently not dating anyone I don't feel *desperate*
to find someone.  That's not to say that I wouldn't like to, tho.
The problem is that some of us get nervous when we meet someone that
we are attracted to.  The fact that I'm nervous doesn't mean that I'm
desperate, it just means that I'm shy.

Desperation and shyness seem to bring out a similar behavior pattern
in some people, which is a problem since this behavior seems to be
generally interpreted as the former.

As an aside, I recently read a very good book on how to change both
of these types of behaviors.  It's titled "The Art of Hanging Loose in
an Uptight World".  I forget the author's name, but will look it up
if anyone is interested.  BTW, I first heard of it here on net.singles
over a year ago.  I recommend it highly.

/Don Wegeng	[hi RSK!, say hi for me]

"Please send more Henry's"

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