Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site denelcor.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!mgnetp!ihnp4!drutx!houxe!hogpc!houti!ariel!vax135!floyd!cmcl2!seismo!hao!denelcor!neal From: neal@denelcor.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Topic of Anger Message-ID: <473@denelcor.UUCP> Date: Sat, 9-Jun-84 19:11:39 EDT Article-I.D.: denelcor.473 Posted: Sat Jun 9 19:11:39 1984 Date-Received: Mon, 11-Jun-84 00:35:16 EDT References: <1178@drux3.UUCP> Organization: Denelcor, Aurora, CO Lines: 24 ************************************************************************** >Anyway, I've had the same problem of having people get initimidated by my >showing anger about something. Some people have also been offended. > > Anita I tend to be this way (I'm an only child, by the way) but over the years, I've learned a little more about myself. For me, the crucial factor in both my SO's anger and her response to my anger is her continued acceptance of me, my feelings, and the relationship and my being able to perceive that acceptance. In the better relationships I've had, as long as we both felt and were able to show that acceptance, no amount of anger ever seemed to do any harm. I don't know if this will apply to anyone else but try being sufficiently in charge of your anger to keep it from turning into rejection and see if that helps. "She's not ashamed Regards, to be a woman Neal Weidenhofer Nor afraid Denelcor, Inc. to be a friend."!denelcor!neal