Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site stat-l Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!floyd!vax135!houxz!houxm!ihnp4!inuxc!pur-ee!CS-Mordred!Pucc-H:Pucc-I:Stat-L:ab3 From: ab3@stat-l (Rsk the Wombat) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: Friends and lovers - before and after Message-ID: <92@stat-l> Date: Fri, 8-Jun-84 04:36:32 EDT Article-I.D.: stat-l.92 Posted: Fri Jun 8 04:36:32 1984 Date-Received: Sat, 9-Jun-84 07:43:51 EDT References: <709@ihuxn.UUCP> <7402@umcp-cs.UUCP> Organization: Pucc Unix Systems Group Lines: 27 News Flash: It *can* be done. Having spent last weekend in Lake Geneva, Wisconsin (okay, maestro, fire up the "Land of Sky Blue Waters" music...thank you) with my ex-{posslq,fiancee,lover,confidant} of a few years back, and having had a wonderful time, I think I may have figured out a couple reasons this can work: 1. You already *know* that an intimate, male-female, one-on-one, (enough adjectives, you know what I mean) relationship between the two of you didn't work. You're not under pressure to re-establish this, and so you can relax. 2. You know each other very well...perhaps better than anyone else. 3. As the young lady discussed above put it: "There's no need, and no reason, for us to hurt each other any more." 4. It's a great feeling to be able to talk to, and be with, one another after a period of separation. One difficulty that does arise, though: if you have a current SO, he/she can feel jealous/nervous/insecure over this; it seems to be important to reassure them that you're not trying to restart your previous relationship. -- Rsk the Wombat UUCP: { allegra, decvax, ihnp4, harpo, teklabs, ucbvax } !pur-ee!rsk { allegra, cornell, decvax, hplabs, ihnp4, ucbvax} !purdue!rsk