Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site mit-eddie.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!floyd!harpo!decvax!genrad!mit-eddie!rh From: rh@mit-eddie.UUCP (Randy Haskins) Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Re: Sex and violence Message-ID: <1370@mit-eddie.UUCP> Date: Tue, 28-Feb-84 05:03:39 EST Article-I.D.: mit-eddi.1370 Posted: Tue Feb 28 05:03:39 1984 Date-Received: Wed, 29-Feb-84 12:24:01 EST References: <2511@azure.UUCP> Organization: MIT, Cambridge, MA Lines: 46 yes, this is old stuff... I just started catching up **************************************************************** begin quote The following is a quote from Randwulf's latest submission about how he uses metaphysical forces to protect himself from violence by surrounding himself with an aura of "crazy" violence. > says she doesn't > worry about it because she can't imagine us in a situation where she > would make me mad enough to want to hit her. (We know that we will > probably never be lovers for this and other similar reasons.) She has to make him mad enough to hit her before his sexual affections can be engaged? One seldom sees so bald a statement of the connection between sex and violence, or so blatant an assignment of the responsibility for male sexual violence to the female against whom it is directed. No wonder Randwulf has no sympathy for victims. Did this statement make sense to other male subscribers to net.women? Is Randwulf's "crazy act" closer to reality than he may think, or is he just more honest? Roberta Taussig Tektronix ..!decvax!tektronix!tekmdp!roberta ..!ucbvax!tektronix!tekmdp!roberta **************************************************************** Where does it say that I need the aspect of violence for the sexual attraction to be there? The reason we will (almost assuredly) never be lovers has to do with our basic approaches to life, the fact that I basically very aggressive and she is not. I don't think that it's a matter of "I might hit her if we're lovers." It's more a matter of "She'll never completely trust me if we're lovers, because she knows I tend toward violence." Also, in our current relationship (we disagree on quite a number of issues), we can abort the interaction if we feel ourselves getting excited. As usual, I find myself wanting to justify my acceptance of violence. Life is violence, especially today. I don't plan on being a prophet, I plan on surviving. I don't believe I could survive if I didn't "arm" myself with a tendancy toward violence. -- Randwulf (Randy Haskins); Path= genrad!mit-eddie!rh