Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site rabbit.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!allegra!alice!rabbit!jj From: jj@rabbit.UUCP Newsgroups: net.women Subject: Re: Rape by Women?!?!? - Prejudice?? Message-ID: <2552@rabbit.UUCP> Date: Tue, 28-Feb-84 15:48:34 EST Article-I.D.: rabbit.2552 Posted: Tue Feb 28 15:48:34 1984 Date-Received: Wed, 29-Feb-84 14:14:12 EST References: <5888@uiucdcs.UUCP> Organization: AT&T Bell Laboratories, Murray Hill Lines: 64 While I don't quite agree with John Quarterman (which will be clear soon, I think), I really can't agree with the comments that rape affects only females.As a man, I find that other people (women in particular) treat me differently than they would if they had no fear of being attacked physically. I'm not a particularly threatening person, even given my size and weight, and I tend to act as non-threatening as is reasonable. What does this have to do with men raping women? Well, I can't see why any individual should fear another individual, unless the lesson that they've learned from life is that "All strangers are bad", or "All men are bad" or some combination of the above. This is the foremost thing that a woman learns from hearing about rape and rape victims. The effects of this fear extend far beyond the victim and the criminal, in that they are reflected (unjustly, damnit) on to all males of the appropriate age by a great majority of the female population. I am male. Therefore, I am affected by the problem of males raping females. The effect is to create a form of fear and prejudice not unlike the effects of a greatly unbalanced racial population, where the weaker population feels that it is constantly threatened, leading to both fearful and agressive behavior on the part of both groups. I am offended by anyone who feels that men are not affected by, or are somehow aided/empowered/advantaged by, rape. I regard such an attitude as seperatist, divisive, and likely to enhance the ?rage?anger?whatever? that motivates a rapist in the first place as well. (What DOES motivate a rapist, anyhow? I'm sure that someone knows, and that the subject has been discussed, but I haven't been in this newsgroup for a while. Maybe a short mail answer from a qualified person or so would be useful on that point.) I do NOT object to measures taken to avoid rape. I think that such actions are sometimes necessary, and that it is impossible to tell if such actions are/were necessary at the time. I do object, VERY MUCH, to the attitude of "us vs. them" or "get them first" or "They're all rapists". (I won't discuss my opinions of Brownmiller, et. al.) These attitudes are nothing but a form of prejudice that is bound to degrade an unhappy situation further, and to enhance the fears and emotional damage of those who are attacted or vulnerable to attack. I'm not trying to start a fire here, but I do think that extreme statements on either side (I'm not referring to either of the authors that are referred to in the ref's field of this note, necessarily.) don't help anything, and don't make anyone better. We're in this TOGETHER, damnit, let's act that way! -- TEDDY BEARS ARE NICER THAN PEOPLE-- HUG YOUR OWN TODAY ! (allegra,harpo,ulysses)!rabbit!jj