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From: lipp@mariah.DEC (Nicki Lipp CX01-1/N14 594-2320)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Women after marriage
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Date: Thu, 22-Mar-84 11:12:06 EST
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Posted: Thu Mar 22 11:12:06 1984
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I don't believe it is the woman's view of sex that changes when she 
marries, but rather the expectations of the man towards the woman. 
Being married for 2 years, I have not lost any 'love' nor attraction 
towards my husband. The 'lust' we experience before marriage can be 
attributed to 2 factors:

    1) the newness of the relationship
    	o this makes it all the more exciting to explore new people.

    2) knowing there are constraints and it won't go too far
    	o women brought up in a restrictive environment will refrain
    	  from intercourse until married (in general, not all!)

It is rather difficult for me to adjust to a casual attitude towards 
sex. The reason? I was brought up in a VERY strict environment and it 
is very hard to change an attitude which has been ingrained for 21 
years. It is like saying:
    	"It was wrong yesterday (to have intercourse), but I got 
married today, so it's okay now"

There is not the same type of relationship between partners once they 
are married. I read an interesting article in a local newspaper which 
did a survey on this very same topic. A woman would rather be cuddled 
and kissed more often than have sex. Premarrital sex for most of the 
women consisted of just that--cuddling and kissing. A men (in general 
now!) would rather have sex. It is much more pleasing to them.  To 
avoid the conflict in expectations, the women is less likely to 
provoke lovemaking.  It is a difference in expectations.  I am not 
saying this is right or wrong. These are the fact from a survey and
*personal experience*!

One the second question of shorter hair.  I don't think that has 
anything to do with the marriage!  I know more people who have grown 
their hair out once they were married (take myself for an example). 
The only reason I can think of that a women would cut her hair after 
marriage is that she has less time to take care of it and style it. 
Her lifestyle has changed!

What about men who start dressing sloppily and let their weight and 
figure go after they are married????  Come on now!

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I'll sign-----Nicki