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From: rh@mit-eddie.UUCP (Randy Haskins)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Sex and violence
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Date: Tue, 28-Feb-84 05:03:39 EST
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Posted: Tue Feb 28 05:03:39 1984
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yes, this is old stuff... I just started catching up

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The following is a quote from Randwulf's latest submission about how he
uses metaphysical forces to protect himself from violence by surrounding
himself with an aura of "crazy" violence.

>	 says she doesn't
>	worry about it because she can't imagine us in a situation where she
>	would make me mad enough to want to hit her.  (We know that we will
>	probably never be lovers for this and other similar reasons.)

She has to make him mad enough to hit her before his sexual affections can be
engaged? One seldom sees so bald a statement of the connection between sex
and violence, or so blatant an assignment of the responsibility for male sexual
violence to the female against whom it is directed. No wonder Randwulf has
no sympathy for victims. Did this statement make sense to other male subscribers
to net.women? Is Randwulf's "crazy act" closer to reality than he may think,
or is he just more honest?

Roberta Taussig
Tektronix
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Where does it say that I need the aspect of violence for the sexual
attraction to be there?  The reason we will (almost assuredly) never
be lovers has to do with our basic approaches to life, the fact that
I basically very aggressive and she is not.  I don't think that it's
a matter of "I might hit her if we're lovers."  It's more a matter
of "She'll never completely trust me if we're lovers, because she
knows I tend toward violence."  Also, in our current relationship
(we disagree on quite a number of issues), we can abort the interaction
if we feel ourselves getting excited.  As usual, I find myself wanting
to justify my acceptance of violence.  Life is violence, especially
today.  I don't plan on being a prophet, I plan on surviving.
I don't believe I could survive if I didn't "arm" myself with
a tendancy toward violence.

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Randwulf  (Randy Haskins);  Path= genrad!mit-eddie!rh