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From: larry@grkermit.UUCP (Larry Kolodney)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: "Hi, I'm shy..."
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Date: Thu, 21-Jul-83 09:39:18 EDT
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Yeah, I know what you mean about shyness.  Among my friends, I'm considered
a load brash outgoing guy.  But when I meet someone new I give the impression
of being a cold fish.

	I think thats because I'm trying to make a good impression.  I feel
I have to measure my every word and filter all my thoughts.  Since this
tends to put a damper on spontaneous speech, I come off as quiet.  All my
friends know what I'm like and so there's no need for that with them.

This all leads to one of the great paradoxes of meeting people:

Reasons that people meet initially are not the same that they stay together.

People meet initially because of some superficial attraction.

People stay together because they like whats "inside."  

Unfortunately, the superficial does not usually give a good indication
of what going on inside.

Using the thesis, I find myself rationalizing "not being myself" for
pragmatic reasons.  That is, I put on an act, but only untill the 
initial "superficial stage" is over.

What do all you think of this?
-- 
Larry Kolodney #13 (I try harder)
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