Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 beta 3/9/83; site grkermit.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!decvax!genrad!grkermit!larry From: larry@grkermit.UUCP (Larry Kolodney) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: "Hi, I'm shy..." Message-ID: <509@grkermit.UUCP> Date: Thu, 21-Jul-83 09:39:18 EDT Article-I.D.: grkermit.509 Posted: Thu Jul 21 09:39:18 1983 Date-Received: Thu, 21-Jul-83 20:54:32 EDT References: <308@gatech.UUCP> <670@hou5e.UUCP> Organization: GenRad Inc., Concord, MA Lines: 35 Yeah, I know what you mean about shyness. Among my friends, I'm considered a load brash outgoing guy. But when I meet someone new I give the impression of being a cold fish. I think thats because I'm trying to make a good impression. I feel I have to measure my every word and filter all my thoughts. Since this tends to put a damper on spontaneous speech, I come off as quiet. All my friends know what I'm like and so there's no need for that with them. This all leads to one of the great paradoxes of meeting people: Reasons that people meet initially are not the same that they stay together. People meet initially because of some superficial attraction. People stay together because they like whats "inside." Unfortunately, the superficial does not usually give a good indication of what going on inside. Using the thesis, I find myself rationalizing "not being myself" for pragmatic reasons. That is, I put on an act, but only untill the initial "superficial stage" is over. What do all you think of this? -- Larry Kolodney #13 (I try harder) (USENET) decvax!genrad!grkermit!larry allegra!linus!genrad!grkermit!larry harpo!eagle!mit-vax!grkermit!larry (ARPA) rms.g.lkk@mit-ai