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From: keith@rlgvax.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: being shy
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Date: Fri, 22-Jul-83 10:45:24 EDT
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Posted: Fri Jul 22 10:45:24 1983
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						22 July 83
RE:
	You know, I'm getting tired of seeing advice that suggests
	that you should just walk up to someone you are attracted
	to and say "Hi, I'm rather shy but I thought that we might
	have something in common...."


	Well, you know, I'm getting tired of people that b&m about
	how being shy is so terrible, and how they just *don't* know
	what to do about it.  I spent a large portion of my life
	being **very** shy.  So don't tell me I don't know whereof
	I speak.

	Of course that's the advice that's given.  Being shy isn't
	like having VD.  There's no pill that just makes it go away.
	To become less shy, you are going to have to work at it...
	and that means deliberately placing yourself in situations
	that make you feel shy and learning to deal with them.

	I have a close friend who is a feminist.  However, she has a
	real problem making a decision for herself if men are around.
	I'm only a friend and she'll defer to me on *everything*.
	It is almost impossible to get her to say what she really
	thinks.  AND, if you point this out to her, she replies that
	she was brought up this way and that she can't change.
	(Extremely offensive/rude/uncouth exclamation deleted.)  She
	may have been brought up that way, but if you want to change
	*badly* enough, you will. If you want most *anything* badly
	enough, you'll get it.  An ability to deal with people fits
	into this category.  I personally hate to be jerked around...
	especially if it's by myself.

	Sure, there are things in my life that I probably can't change.
	Being shy isn't one of them.

		Keith
		...![ allegra, seismo, mcnc ]!rlgvax!keith

p.s.	Also, if being shy *is* one of them, complaining about it isn't...