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From: keith@rlgvax.UUCP
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Subject: The Heritage Hunt
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Date: Wed, 27-Jul-83 11:31:21 EDT
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Posted: Wed Jul 27 11:31:21 1983
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							27 July 83
	I don't advocate "feigning interest" in anyone.  However,
there is always *something* about someone that interests me.  I think
the heritage ploy is pretty unnecessary.  If you want to be subtle (?),
well, why not:

	1. *After* five minutes of conversation, say, "Oh, by the way,
	   my name is John Doe, what's yours?  If she only gives you
	   the first name, simply look into her eyes and say "Mary?"
	   and she'll supply the last name.  (If she doesn't then,
	   forget it, buddy.)  Also, this'll give you a great chance
	   to shake (hold) her hand and physical contact being what it is...
	2. After five *more* minutes, say, "I'm rather new in the area",
	   or "I'm currently living in someplace, where are you from?"
	   Now... with the ability to use a phone book and a little luck
	   you can find her phone number.  Advanced techniques include
	   asking her if she's shopped the area for apartments etc. etc.
	3. Of course, this is *far* from foolproof.  A much better way
	   is to figure out one or two mutual acquaintances (at least
	   one of them should have her phone number), find out what
	   company she works for ("Hi, this is John, I don't mean to bother
	   you at work, do you have a second?" (Yes...) Well, it was the
	   *only* way I could get in touch with you and..."), or what
	   class she goes to (Good afternoon, this is John Doe and I
	   need to get in touch with one of your students, could you give
	   her a message for me?).

		Goin' on a Wo-Man Hunt, (Anybody *not* seen Flashdance yet?)
		Keith
		...![ allegra, seismo, mcnc, we13 ]!rlgvax!keith

p.s.	More generic comment, I think there's a very thin line drawn
	between feigning interest and simply trying to make everyone
	comfortable.  It's nice to talk about what the other person
	wants to talk about.  Often, I'll wander around various topics
	just to find out what they are interested in.

p.p.s.	Back to the nice guy conversation, a *nice* guy CAN be aggressive.
	I don't think there is a single one of us (male or female) that
	don't like to know that someone else thinks us attractive.
	The border is where aggressive turns into obnoxious.