Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!security!genrad!decvax!microsof!uw-beaver!cornell!vax135!ariel!houti!hogpc!houxm!mhuxa!mhuxi!cbosgd!ihnp4!ixn5c!inuxc!pur-ee!mj From: mj@pur-ee.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: platonic inertia - (nf) Message-ID: <961@pur-ee.UUCP> Date: Fri, 8-Jul-83 23:28:00 EDT Article-I.D.: pur-ee.961 Posted: Fri Jul 8 23:28:00 1983 Date-Received: Tue, 12-Jul-83 17:15:44 EDT Lines: 25 #N:ecn-ec:14600030:000:1084 ecn-ec!mj Jul 7 16:48:00 1983 Has anyone here ever (when they were younger, or NOW) been so shy with the opposite (I mean appropriate) sex that it seems to be a real problem? I would appreciate hearing from people who have experienced this and how they got out of it. I already saw the 'Dear shy' letter a couple of weeks ago... It was well intended, but it sounds like something your mother would tell you. I'm looking for 'How I got out of that rut' letters. I have no trouble at all making female friends, in fact I enjoy their company and women like me a lot, generally; however, when the idea of 'dating' comes into my head I fall apart. Making friends first and dating later is the best, I think, but that can really be disastrous. Friendships have 'platonic inertia', if you will, that is hard to overcome. Still, I would like to hear from wise old souls about these feelings (UN*X mail, please, unless it's general discussion). ________ Mark A. Johnson Purdue University decvax!pur-ee!mj (317) 743-2548