Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10 6/7/83; site hao.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!seismo!hao!hoyt From: hoyt@hao.UUCP Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Nice guys and others again Message-ID: <574@hao.UUCP> Date: Wed, 13-Jul-83 12:53:39 EDT Article-I.D.: hao.574 Posted: Wed Jul 13 12:53:39 1983 Date-Received: Thu, 14-Jul-83 20:09:50 EDT Organization: High Altitude Obs./NCAR, Boulder CO Lines: 22 The computer here went down as this message was being transmitted so here is a repeat. One thing I've noticed over the years is that when guys get together by themselves, some will make derogatory comments about women in general. Invariably it seems that these guys are the very ones women find most attractive. My feeling is that since these guys don't really care too much about women as people, they approach them freely, which women generally interpret as concern and affection. Nice guys tend to be less aggressive and hang back more, which is probably interpreted as lack of interest or even as being hostile. As examples of two extreme cases consider: 1) A guy who invariably made disparaging comments about women when they weren't around yet who was an EEO officer. 2) A fellow who was extremely honest (so much so I wouldn't hesitate to trust my life in his hands) and was quite enjoyable to be with yet women ignored him because he wasn't aggressive like the first guy. These are merely observations. I don't see that much can be done about it.