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From: keith@rlgvax.UUCP (keith)
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Subject: What your Date Looks Like...
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Date: Sun, 31-Jul-83 08:48:04 EDT
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Posted: Sun Jul 31 08:48:04 1983
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							31 July 83
Michael-- I followed the first 3 paras; no problem.  But then:

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YOU>>	My point is that remaining open-minded, even if partially against
	one's will -- that is, consciously suspending judgement -- has gotta
	be healthy even if the close-minded drip you end up awakening the
	next morning stupidly feels shame and other invalid emotions.

	If you say such flights into expansive mind-set destruction are
	'feigning interest', then I suspect you may attribute too much
	importance to your daily emotional & intellectual state.

	If you use `suspension of judgement' as a technique for cynically
	maintaining status quo in your head, subsequently reverting to the
	egotistic `I picked her up' mentality, then you deserve the self-
	destructive guilt trips that typically assault hypocritical fools.
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ME>>	Now hold on; let me restate here.  If I don't judge that's healthy.
	Fine.  I'll buy that.  Shame isn't an invalid emotion, though.
	How can an emotion be invalid?  If your MOTOS feels badly, doesn't
	that make you feel badly too?  When I date/pick-up/whatever someone,
	I form an emotional bond with them.  Even if it's fairly tenuous.
	But okay, if that's how you feel, fine.

	Then... what?!?!?  What flights?  Let me try for a restate.
	You feel that attribution etc. etc. is responsible, no, that isn't
	it either.  What are the flights?  You, or the MOTOS feeling the
	invalid emotions?  If it's you, well, you... damn, Mike, I haven't
	the faintest idea what you just said...  Maybe if I knew what
	"expansive mind-set destruction" was.  Maybe it's been too long
	since I was in California?

	Could you do that part again?

		Gently yours,
		Keith
		...![ allegra, seismo, mcnc, we13 ]!rlgvax!keith

p.s.	Why don't we use MOTO instead of MOTOS?  It's a much better
	construction.  Everytime I see "a MOTOS" it sets my teeth on
	edge.  And what would the plural be?  MOTOSs?  Or maybe MOTOSes...
	I know, I know, only someone with a real bad psychological problem
	would worry about this.  To redeem myself, a little grammatical
	entertainment:

	A fitter fits;				Though sinners sin
	A cutter cuts;				And thinners thin
	And an aircraft spotter spots;		And paper-blotters blot
	A baby-sitter				I've never yet
	Baby-sits --				Had letters let
	But an otter never ots.			Or seen an otter ot.

	A batter bats
	(Or scatters scats);
	A potting shed's for potting;
	But no one's found
	A bounder bound
	Or caught an otter otting.
			--Ralph Lewin