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From: spaf@gatech.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Who makes the phone call
Message-ID: <335@gatech.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 30-Jul-83 13:36:39 EDT
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Posted: Sat Jul 30 13:36:39 1983
Date-Received: Wed, 3-Aug-83 02:53:08 EDT
Organization: Georgia Tech, School of ICS
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There have been a few ocassions recently where I have run into
an interesting lady and gotten into conversation.  I've been
interested in seeing them again, but the thought really
didn't sink in until later on. (Okay, I admit it -- most of the
time when I'm meeting someone and talking to them, I'm not
planning too far ahead.  I'm usually too busy trying to listen
and get to know them so I don't think about much else.)

The individuals I have been interested in are students here
and so it is not too difficult to find their phone numbers if
I have their names.  But I don't call.  Instead, I also get
their PO box number and send them a note with my phone number.
I usually express how interested I was in talking with them,
and I'd like to get together with them again.  Then I wait
for a response.

I think this provides a couple of benefits.  For instance,
if the young lady is not interested, she doesn't need to call.
Second of all, if she is interested but too timid to call, she
is probably going to find repeated encounters with me
somewhat threatening.
I happen to prefer women with self-confidence and determination.
Another thing that helps out here is that I'm more likely to
be able to hold an extended phone conversation with the young
lady if she calls me; if I call, it is usually at a bad time
and I never get a chance to say much.

Comments from people on this?  I've gotten some very promising
results from this in the last few months.  What do you women
out there think about this?  Is it a good idea, or is it
a cop-out on my part to put the burden of the first call on
the woman?

-- 
The soapbox of Gene Spafford

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