From: utzoo!decvax!ucbvax!CAD:tektronix!tekmdp!bronze!crimson!roberta
Newsgroups: net.women
Title: friends and lovers
Article-I.D.: crimson.1469
Posted: Mon Feb 28 08:51:08 1983
Received: Wed Mar  2 05:48:21 1983

Quote from a recent submission from anton aylward about "a group of girls I
spent a lot of time with when I was at college":

	I never dreamt of making any advances towards them - damnitall,
	they were, and still are although we are now scattered over the
	globe, friends.

Does anyone but me find that profoundly saddening? It says to me that sexual
advances are not something one does to friends, only to -- victims? targets?
prey? There can be a lot of comfort and warmth and pleasure in
sexual closeness between people who like each other. Is male sexuality such
a ravening hunger that men can only think in terms of sating it and not of
offering it as a gift? Of course there are a lot of hooks and traps baited
by women offering themselves, maybe he's right, and you can't maintain the
pleasures of friendship once sex is involved. Thoughts? Experiences?

			Roberta Taussig
			Tektronix