From: utzoo!andy
Newsgroups: net.women
Title: Fed and healthy 
Article-I.D.: utzoo.2783
Posted: Thu Jan 27 10:05:12 1983
Received: Thu Jan 27 10:05:12 1983

I sincerely hope parents do more than provide basic material needs for their
children. And to those who think that is what parenting is all about, I
suggest you get goldfish instead--don't fool yourself, careers and raising
children just don't mix; either one or the other will suffer. You need at
least one parent at home full-time if you expect your children to be brought
up the "right way".

I have a dog. She is cute and lovable--it really makes me feel good to
come home and receive her warm welcome. If all I did for her was to keep
her fed and healthy, I would hope the humane society would get wind of
it and take her away from me. And that is "just a dog".

I also have two daughters (2 and 5 yrs. old). They are both cute and
lovable--it really makes me feel good... Not only would it be sad, it
would also be criminal if all I did for them was kept them fed and healthy,
leaving the remaining 95%+ of the responsibility to others.
But my children are lucky--my wife and I decided that if we were going
to have children one of us will stay home with them since we realized
our children are more important than careers or two paychecks.

Sure we have had hard times making ends meet. But we have never regretted
it even for a moment. That's probably because we don't have the time--
parenting is NOT easy and it is comparable to working 3 full-time jobs;
you don't have too much time left for yourself. Some people may say
this is a great sacrifice and maybe it is, but these are MY children
and I want to instill in them MY ideals, not those of the daycare worker
or television script writers or grandma or the lady next door. If you
want to pursue a career, do yourself and society a favour: don't
have children.