From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!cmcl2!philabs!sdcsvax!sdcattb!sdcarl!lin Newsgroups: net.women Title: Children Article-I.D.: sdcarl.4258 Posted: Sat Jan 29 19:47:41 1983 Received: Tue Feb 1 02:42:20 1983 For years black women have had to work, and you can't say that their children were dirty, sick, or poorly adjusted. I agree with the person who said that it's the parents' love and attitude that matters, not what profession they are in. Child abuse can result from a mother being around the kids too often. Another very important factor in handling a career and job, though, is the physical health and stamina of the parents. I personally have chosen not to have children just becase the stress and energy demands of a job are as much as I can handle. However, I know people who can do with less sleep and who have lots of energy. For professional people, hiring someone to clean the house is very helpful. If both parents have good jobs the advantages of financial well being, sending the children to schools in a good neighborhood, etc., may be better than in a one-worker family with less money. The discussion should not focus on whether a mother should work, but on how to be a supportive, honest and loving parent, regardless of the employment situation.