From: utzoo!watmath!jamcmullan Newsgroups: net.singles Title: Re: Telepathy II Article-I.D.: watmath.4560 Posted: Thu Feb 17 12:46:21 1983 Received: Thu Feb 17 23:54:20 1983 References: mitccc.304 If I don't have the guts to tell someone I don't want to go out with them (as I often do, since I don't like to hurt their feelings -- my feminine training I suppose) I am often "busy" four times in a row. If I am REALLY busy four times in a row but would like to see the man, I say something like "This isn't working out very well. I would like to go out with you sometime. I am free this Thursday & Saturday. How about then?" I agree that asking isn't always a way to find out. This is ESPECIALLY true when your date ISN'T having a good time. I hate saying that I find the date boring and the company worse. I will say something like "fine" or "I've never cleaned a carburator before. It's really unique", etc. If I like the man, but hate the activity I am more inclined to tell the truth ("This music isn't really my taste but I enjoyed the dinner we had"). Mind reading is a tough problem. I am convinced that even if one could read the other person's mind, you still wouldn't understand (motivations being so different, etc.).