From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!eagle!mhuxt!mhuxj!mhuxi!cbosgd!cly
Newsgroups: net.women
Title: Re: a compliment (?)
Article-I.D.: cbosgd.3182
Posted: Fri Feb 25 08:36:08 1983
Received: Wed Mar  2 07:11:07 1983
References: <567@burdvax.UUCP>

Here's what I TRY to do with both men and women
(although I admit I'm more sensitive towards women's
feelings due to Affirmative Action, Women's Liberation, etc.):
Before I use potentially offensive language, I wait for clues
from the other person. If I get none, I don't use that language.
Clues might be the other person's use of the language first,
their reaction to someone else's use of language, or
direct statements about what they prefer. I have had a new
woman friend use a particular word and then say, "pardeon my
language". I replied with, "that's O.K., I use it myself".
This took care of the problem neatly.
I said I TRY to do this. Now and then I f**k up.
Carl Yaffey   cbosgd!cly