From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!npoiv!npois!houxm!houxa!houxb!houxq!houxo!mts Newsgroups: net.women Title: re: children Article-I.D.: houxo.137 Posted: Fri Jan 21 14:33:10 1983 Received: Sat Jan 22 05:03:00 1983 If you're single, it would really be tough. But, if married and your husband has a favorable attitude toward raising a family and sharing the load, then no problem is insurmountable. I have found that the key to having children and a career depends very heavily upon my husband's total support and understanding. In addition, I have found that one of the greatest hurtles a new mother must overcome is the "overwhelming urge" to put her child's and her husband's interests and needs first.(That's what causes most burn-out.) I'm a Systems Engineer, working full-time, with two small children (one 8mo. and the other 4.5 yrs) at home. My priorities are myself first then my children. My husband can take care of his own vital needs. So long as the kids are fed and healthy, I worry about nothing else. Of course, you must understand I'm trying to be brief here. The house doesn't get cleaned unless it really needs it and then we do it together. I make sure I have my personal outlets, such as involvement in community affairs (I'm a member of my town's Planning Board, etc.). I also make sure I don't interfere with what my husband may feel important to him. Finally, the bottom line is working out your priorities, and always keeping your needs in the big picture.