From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!npoiv!npois!houxm!houxa!houxb!houxq!houxo!mts
Newsgroups: net.women
Title: re: children
Article-I.D.: houxo.137
Posted: Fri Jan 21 14:33:10 1983
Received: Sat Jan 22 05:03:00 1983


If you're single, it would really be tough.  But, if married
and your husband has a favorable attitude toward raising a family
and sharing the load, then no problem is insurmountable.

I have found that the key to having children and a career depends
very heavily upon my husband's total support and understanding.
In addition, I have found that one of the greatest hurtles a new
mother must overcome is the "overwhelming urge" to put her child's
and her husband's interests and needs first.(That's what causes most
burn-out.)

I'm a Systems Engineer, working full-time, with two small children
(one 8mo. and the other 4.5 yrs) at home.  My priorities are myself
first then my children.  My husband can take care of his own vital
needs.  So long as the kids are fed and healthy, I worry about
nothing else.  Of course, you must understand I'm trying to be brief
here.  The house doesn't get cleaned unless it really needs it and
then we do it together.  I make sure I have my personal outlets, such
as involvement in community affairs (I'm a member of my town's
Planning Board, etc.).  I also make sure I don't interfere with what
my husband may feel important to him.

Finally, the bottom line is working out your priorities, and always
keeping your needs in the big picture.