From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!npoiv!hou5f!ariel!orion!lime!we13!otuxa!lsk
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Re: breaking down for L. Kaufman
Article-I.D.: otuxa.208
Posted: Fri Mar 11 07:49:13 1983
Received: Sat Mar 12 06:25:54 1983
References: rlgvax.1156

First of all, I'm honored to see my name in the title of an article.
I just don't want anyone starting to call me an artificial intelligence
project; I have enough problems with what they call me already.

I definitely agree with you that 'self-image' should NOT be based on how
other people feel about you but on how you feel about yourself.
I also suspect, however, that attaining such a positive self-image,
i.e. one that is "immune" to how other people feel, is EXTREMELY difficult
for SOME people. I have known people who virtually exude self-confidence
no matter what and have always admired them for it.  I went through a long
struggle before I realized I was 'ok' no matter what happened, but even so
(as you point out) one can get regretful and unhappy if things don't work out.

I also agree that if you feel the OTHER person has been dishonest, nasty, 
etc. then there may be little point in trying to reciprocate and be nice
(if I understand your point correctly). --

   Not afraid to sign my name at the bottom of the article even if it
     is already at the top:  Larry S. Kaufman, WECO, NSC