From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!vax135!ariel!houti!lime!we13!otuxa!lsk
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: clarifying a point or two re: dependency
Article-I.D.: otuxa.181
Posted: Mon Jan  3 09:50:01 1983
Received: Tue Jan  4 02:07:41 1983


To clarify a point or two re: Dave's response to my article.

1) I certainly do not mind if a person indicates they are lonely to me,
   or any other feeling, for that matter.  Honesty in feelings is important,
   and, in my opinion, to often covered up.

2) I basically agree with what Dave says, the DEGREE of feeling expressed
   may well influence my reaction.

I think the problem may come from the extreme example that was presented.
If someone is truly 100% dependent, and refuses to change, that person
is probably going to turn off even the most dedicated "do-gooder" sooner or
later.

Although there are relationships where one person is totally dependent, and
the other person doesn't mind; I suspect most of us would like things
to be more in balance.

Larry S. Kaufman
 Western Electric
 Network Software Center
 Lisle
 Illinois