From: utzoo!decvax!duke!harpo!ihnp4!ihldt!ll1!otuxa!lsk
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: when are you trying too hard?
Article-I.D.: otuxa.193
Posted: Tue Feb  8 08:39:50 1983
Received: Fri Feb 11 04:54:07 1983

Time to bring up the time honored neurotic query of the week:
Trying to hard.

As you dedicated net.singularan's know when we last left  Xaphod, Phil, and
Gillian -- oops wrong story. . . . I have been trying to see someone who
has broken up an engagement.

Well, as extremely bad luck would have it we haven't seen each other for
about 4 weeks, and I don't THINK I am getting a brush off, but that raises
today's topic.

What signs have you noticed that someone is trying to tell you that you
are trying to hard to make things work?

Has pulling back helped when you noticed this?

More generally, how much time do you invest before deciding to give
up? (I know of cases of up to 4 years, but these have been discussed
before).

In  my case, I decided since we weren't seeing each other I would
call. The first two times I did this all went well, but the last time,
I got the impression she was wondering what was going on with the
phone calls all the time.  On the other hand she just might have been
tired. Oh the joys of neuroticism.
.a

As usual, any comments are appreciated and I will reply to any
that are interested.



Larry S. Kaufman
 Western Electric
 Network Software Center
 Lisle
 Illinois