From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!cmcl2!philabs!sdcsvax!sdccsu3!iy47ab
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Re: looking for *love* and other calamities
Article-I.D.: sdccsu3.219
Posted: Mon Jan  3 09:29:50 1983
Received: Tue Jan  4 03:27:14 1983


I am female, and so first of all I would like to reply to Brad Templeton
(I think it was him) and say that actually, I would say that admission of
loneliness and revelation of emotionality is really a turn-ON.  But then,
I am not your standard female. I may be warped.
    Basically, I have been the instigator of all the relationships (3) that
I have had.  The first was a healthy one...the second was an outgrowth of the
first.  I had a gap in my life for all of 2 weeks...then I met someone neat,
and that was that.  Except...and this is SO awful...he was really heavy on me
and I only thought that I was.  I was just recently out of a special 
relationship and so I needed someone.  Well, it ended quickly and with a lot
of pain.  I don't know any way it could have been avoided.  In the long run,
though, it was good, because we both grew from it.  It was his first 
relationship ever, and he thought no woman could possibly love him, because he
is overweight.  Well, if nothing else, his ego was boosted to the point where
he has more friends now, if nothing on the romantic front.  No relationship is
a total loss!
    But what I meant to say is this: go ahead, show that you're lonely, even
that you're "desperately" lonely.  If the other person wants to care about you,
things might work out.  Don't hide your intentions.  That can only be cruel.
There will always be someone for you, and it's better to have someone that cares
about you for YOU than someone who later becomes disillusioned.  

Lady Arwen of U.C.S.D.