From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!npoiv!hou5f!ariel!houti!hogpc!houxz!ihnp4!ihuxl!ellenb Newsgroups: net.singles Title: Re: Singles Housing Areas Article-I.D.: ihuxl.318 Posted: Wed Mar 16 13:52:00 1983 Received: Wed Mar 23 02:28:15 1983 Reply-To: ellenb@ihuxl.UUCP () References: ihldt.1404 I wanted to share a song with the net.singles folks that might help some of you who are going through a rough breakup. A friend of mine wrote it in a card for me several months ago when I was having a very difficult time dealing with the demise of a very long relationship. It wasn't a marriage, but I feel it was probably as painful, if not moreso, than many divorces. We had gone out six years, from 19 - 25. We started out as friends and it grew quickly from there. It was incredibly good in the begin- ning, and we were very close. But things DO change a lot for people in that age bracket, and in the end it was as bad as it had been good in the beginning. The breakup would probably have come much sooner, but we were both afraid I think to give up the security for the unknown. But finally I decided that was not a valid reason to keep a relationship going, and we both deserved better so I talked to him about it and that was that. And it was on fairly friendly terms. The problem came when in a matter of just a few months he was engaged to someone new. I felt shattered inside - like he could get over me in such a short time after such a long relationship. But I came to realize that maybe he was rebounding, ending up with someone else not because he forgot me so fast, but because he might be having trouble getting over me and was trying to deal with it by finding and getting serious with someone else right away, even if he had to manufacture feelings. I still care for him a great deal, even though I can safely say I am "over him" now, and so I don't want to see him make a mistake, but deep down inside I guess I think he is. I only know I couldn't realistically be over all the bitterness and hangups from a previous relationship that soon - and that getting serious again right away, let alone getting married, would cause serious problems in the future. Because you have to deal with the pain sooner or later - and it's best not to have to do it when you have something else at stake. have something else at stake. Enough of this already - I was just going to print the song and got carried away SO SORRY! Anyway this song was able to really help me regain my perspective during a particularly painful time, and believe me that was no small task at the time. So I hope even one of you out there can get something out of it: I CAN LET GO NOW - Michael McDonald It was so wrong, it was so right, Almost at the same time. The pains and aches a heart can take, No one really knows. When the memories cling, And keep you there Till you no longer care, And you can let go now. It's wrong for me To cling to you I guess I just needed time >From what was to be It's not like me to hold somebody down, But I was tossed high by love, I almost never came down, Only to land here Where love's no longer found and I',m no longer bound, And I can let go now