From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!vax135!ariel!orion!lime!we13!otuxa!lsk
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Re: More relationships ending hard
Article-I.D.: otuxa.207
Posted: Fri Mar 11 07:42:15 1983
Received: Sat Mar 12 05:51:41 1983
References: unc.4747

I don't understand your comment, "Someone said that nasty breakups are
inevitable because invariably someone is more involved than the other. This s
makes me think that they were no (sic) so much interested in that person
as in just having a relationship . . . .
I don't believe the conclusion is warranted. You can bve as willing to accept
a person for what they are as you care to be, be sensitive to their needs,
try to improve it, and various other things. But if the other person is
not reciprocating then it won't do you any good. I still maintain that in
any relationship at any given time from time 0 to time x, where x could
be defined as the time the relationship stabilizes, that one person WILL
BE more interested in the other. It is the SPREAD between the two feeling
that can cause problems.  Even as people change after a relationship
has started, so can a so called stable relationship become unstable (your
other inquiry).
Larry S. Kaufman, WECO, NSC