From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!vax135!ariel!hou5f!hou5b!hou5c!hou5e!hou5a!hou5d!houxz!ihnp4!ihldt!luchs
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: re: Women Only
Article-I.D.: ihldt.1348
Posted: Thu Feb 24 15:32:02 1983
Received: Fri Feb 25 05:39:24 1983
Reply-To: luchs@ihldt.UUCP (S. Luchs)


In response to Hennessy's questionaire (dated Feb 19th):

Q: If you were at a social gathering with your girlfriends and you noticed that
   a guy, by himself, looked interested in you what would YOU do?

A: First of all, how can you tell that someone is interested in you?  I'm pretty
   slow to catch on to that sort of thing.  At a New Year's party, I talked to
   someone I found interesting (JG).  JG had to leave early to go to another
   party.  I had no idea he was interested in ME (EVERYONE at the party talked
   to me--not just him).  I left the party early, too (to go dancing with some
   friends).  After I left, he called the host of the party to see if I was
   still around, but did not leave his name.  When I talked to the host the next
   day, he told me somebody called looking for me.  I assumed it was my
   ex(?)boyfriend trying to check up on me!  I had no idea that JG was calling
   calling for me!  But suppose that I DID realize (by whatever magical means)
   that a man was interested in me?  I would simply walk up to him, start a
   conversation, and ask him out (if he didn't get to it first).

Q: Do you feel that a relationship has to be started by the guy?

A: I have often asked men out.  I haven't had any refusals yet, but I go through
   the old "fear of rejection syndrome" EVERYTIME.  On the other hand, it takes
   them by surprise and they are often flattered that a woman would ask them
   out.

Q: Are you the type of person that goes out looking for a man or one that hopes
   he'll come to you?

A: I used to be the type that went out looking for a man, but lately I have been
   a little "gun-shy" (with good reason, but that's another story).  At this
   point I am not at all "desperate" to find someone, so I've just been checking
   out whatever passes by.  (Unless reading net.singles counts as looking.)  At
   this point I would rather just be getting to know a lot of men as FRIENDS and
   take my time to pick and choose who I get INVOLVED with.  Once I start "going
   out" with someone, I feel that my freedom to meet other men becomes a bit
   more limited.  Anyway, I'm getting off the subject here.  If I go any further
   this is going to become a discussion of multiple relationships.

Q: What type of signals do you use if you want to tell a guy that you are
   interested in him?

A: I just talk to him.  Smile.  Perhaps touch him (nothing TOO overt).

Q: If a man looks interested in you but you aren't attracted to him, what would
   you do?

A: Body language is automatic.  Before I even realize what I am doing, I have
   flashed that "I'm not interested" glance and turned away.

Q: What does a man have to do to be noticed by you in a large social gathering
   (such as a bar or party)?

A: Again, it all comes back to starting up a conversation.  What else can you do
   when you first meet someone?  Well, actually I did have a man I had never
   met before come up to me and say "I saw you standing there and I just had to
   give you a hug!"  I thought that was a pretty good opening line (and hug).
   It worked.

Q: What about in a place that is usually quiet i.e. classroom or office?

A: The office is a great place to meet people.  We don't work every second of
   the day, you know!  One MOTOS who had never seen me before yelled "Hey, why
   don't you come back here and say Hi!"  I have been going out with him off and
   on ever since (about 2.5 years).

                         But that's another story...
                         Sarah