From: utzoo!watmath!jamcmullan
Newsgroups: net.women
Title: Re: "one of the guys" compliment
Article-I.D.: watmath.4603
Posted: Tue Feb 22 15:40:25 1983
Received: Wed Feb 23 00:58:26 1983

      "Well, Barb is about as much like one of the guys as you can get
      without being one of the guys."
      ...how would you react to such a statement? Do you think it
      would be a compliment to you?

I wouldn't consider it a COMPLIMENT exactly. I would say it just showed that
they knew you well enough to feel you wouldn't be offended by the joke they
had made & they weren't so sure of the other woman. If it had happended to me
I would have felt it was more of an insult to the other woman, rather than a
compliment to me. I would probably challenge their assumption that the other
woman would be shocked by the joke, by repeating it to her, if I thought it
she would react well. If I knew her well enough to know she wouldn't like it,
I would confirm "I don't think you want to hear it". 
I guess the point is, I wouldn't like to feel I was assuming the role of "one
of the guys" to the extent that I would shut other women out from "our world".
  --Judy McMullan