From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!npoiv!hou5f!ariel!houti!hogpc!houxz!ihnp4!ihuxl!ellenb
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: Re: Singles Housing Areas
Article-I.D.: ihuxl.318
Posted: Wed Mar 16 13:52:00 1983
Received: Wed Mar 23 02:28:15 1983
Reply-To: ellenb@ihuxl.UUCP ()
References: ihldt.1404

I wanted to share a song with the net.singles folks that might 
help some of you who are going through a rough breakup.  A friend
of mine wrote it in a card for me several months ago when I was
having a very difficult time dealing with the demise of a very
long relationship.  It wasn't a marriage, but I feel it was
probably as painful, if not moreso, than many divorces.  We had
gone out six years, from 19 - 25.  We started out as friends and
it grew quickly from there.  It was incredibly good in the begin-
ning, and we were very close.  But things DO change a lot for

people in that age bracket, and in the end it was as bad as it had
been good in the beginning.  The breakup would probably have come
much sooner, but we were both afraid I think to give up the security
for the unknown.  But finally I decided that was not a valid reason
to keep  a relationship going, and we both deserved better so I talked
to him about it and that was that.  And it was on fairly friendly terms.
The problem came when in a matter of just a few months he was engaged
to someone new.  I felt shattered inside - like he could get over me
in such a short time after such a long relationship.  But I came to
realize that maybe he was rebounding, ending up with someone else
not because he forgot me so fast, but because he might be having 
trouble getting over me and was trying to deal with it by finding
and getting serious with someone else right away, even if he had
to manufacture feelings.  I still care for him a great deal, even
though I can safely say I am "over him" now, and so I don't want
to see him make a mistake, but deep down inside I guess I think he
is.  I only know I couldn't realistically be over all the bitterness
and hangups from a previous relationship that soon - and that getting
serious again right away, let alone getting married, would cause
serious problems in the future.  Because you have to deal with the 
pain sooner or later - and it's best not to have to do it when you
have something else at stake.  have something else at stake.
Enough of this already - I was just going to print the song and got
carried away SO SORRY!  Anyway this song was able to really help
me regain my perspective during a particularly painful time, and
believe me that was no small task at the time.  So I hope even
one of you out there can get something out of it:
      		I CAN LET GO NOW

			- Michael McDonald

It was so wrong, it was so right,
Almost at the same time.
The pains and aches a heart can take,
No one really knows.
When the memories cling,
And keep you there
Till you no longer care,
And you can let go now.


It's wrong for me
To cling to you
I guess I just needed time
>From what was to be
It's not like me to hold somebody down,
But I was tossed high by love,
I almost never came down,
Only to land here 
Where love's no longer found
and I',m no longer bound,
And I can let go now