From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!eagle!mhuxt!mhuxj!mhuxi!cbosgd!cly Newsgroups: net.women Title: Re: a compliment (?) Article-I.D.: cbosgd.3182 Posted: Fri Feb 25 08:36:08 1983 Received: Wed Mar 2 07:11:07 1983 References: <567@burdvax.UUCP> Here's what I TRY to do with both men and women (although I admit I'm more sensitive towards women's feelings due to Affirmative Action, Women's Liberation, etc.): Before I use potentially offensive language, I wait for clues from the other person. If I get none, I don't use that language. Clues might be the other person's use of the language first, their reaction to someone else's use of language, or direct statements about what they prefer. I have had a new woman friend use a particular word and then say, "pardeon my language". I replied with, "that's O.K., I use it myself". This took care of the problem neatly. I said I TRY to do this. Now and then I f**k up. Carl Yaffey cbosgd!cly