From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!vax135!ariel!orion!lime!we13!otuxa!lsk Newsgroups: net.singles Title: Re: More relationships ending hard Article-I.D.: otuxa.207 Posted: Fri Mar 11 07:42:15 1983 Received: Sat Mar 12 05:51:41 1983 References: unc.4747 I don't understand your comment, "Someone said that nasty breakups are inevitable because invariably someone is more involved than the other. This s makes me think that they were no (sic) so much interested in that person as in just having a relationship . . . . I don't believe the conclusion is warranted. You can bve as willing to accept a person for what they are as you care to be, be sensitive to their needs, try to improve it, and various other things. But if the other person is not reciprocating then it won't do you any good. I still maintain that in any relationship at any given time from time 0 to time x, where x could be defined as the time the relationship stabilizes, that one person WILL BE more interested in the other. It is the SPREAD between the two feeling that can cause problems. Even as people change after a relationship has started, so can a so called stable relationship become unstable (your other inquiry). Larry S. Kaufman, WECO, NSC