From: utzoo!decvax!microsof!uw-beave!cornell!vax135!ariel!hou5f!npoiv!npois!cbosgd!cly
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.women
Title: unfriendly women
Article-I.D.: cbosgd.3237
Posted: Tue Mar  8 10:18:41 1983
Received: Fri Mar 11 20:02:30 1983

Well, here goes. This has been on my mind for a long time.
I would like to find a woman to share love, romance, fun,
etc., etc. To do this, I need to meet as many women as possible
in order to maximize the odds of finding a good match. Ideally,
I could meet and get to know hundreds of women if I could
take advantage of every situation where women are present.
One of these is the work environment. Unfortunately, I have
found work to be one of the WORST places to meet women.
It seems that unless I am working directly with a woman, or
have some other "legitimate" reason for talking to her,
there is no way to get beyond some sort of barrier I perceive.
If I happen to pass a woman in a corridor, for instance, her eyes
are usually downcast or shifted to the side so that no contact is
possible. If I say, "hi", I usually get no response or very little
response. I know it's not me, since I have no trouble at singles groups,
church, parties, and some other places. Also, I have heard this from 
many other men. What is going on here? Women friends tell me that
they WANT to meet guys, the same women that seem to avoid me
are very friendly once I have met them some "legitimate" way
(there's that term again!), and there is very little chance of
being attacked by merely smiling and saying "hi".
So, what's the reason for this behavior? Fear? Fear of what?
Unconcern? Preoccupation?
I want to emphasize here that I'm NOT expecting to fall in love
(or even in like) with most of these women. I would just
like to increase my odds. I have met many people who weren't
that compatible with me, but because I knew them I met OTHERs
that WERE! I have also been instrumental in getting others
together by inviting them to parties. The point is that it
is often advantageous to meet a lot of people.
So, after all this long-winded rattling on, what do I want?
I would dearly like to hear from the women out there regarding
what I have said. If you fit this description (seemingly unfriendly
in some situations) I would like to know what's behind your
behavior. I think this would help me a lot, and maybe you too!

Carl Yaffey   cbosgd!cly
BTL CB  x3399