From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!vax135!ariel!houti!lime!we13!otuxa!lsk Newsgroups: net.singles Title: clarifying a point or two re: dependency Article-I.D.: otuxa.181 Posted: Mon Jan 3 09:50:01 1983 Received: Tue Jan 4 02:07:41 1983 To clarify a point or two re: Dave's response to my article. 1) I certainly do not mind if a person indicates they are lonely to me, or any other feeling, for that matter. Honesty in feelings is important, and, in my opinion, to often covered up. 2) I basically agree with what Dave says, the DEGREE of feeling expressed may well influence my reaction. I think the problem may come from the extreme example that was presented. If someone is truly 100% dependent, and refuses to change, that person is probably going to turn off even the most dedicated "do-gooder" sooner or later. Although there are relationships where one person is totally dependent, and the other person doesn't mind; I suspect most of us would like things to be more in balance. Larry S. Kaufman Western Electric Network Software Center Lisle Illinois