From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!cmcl2!philabs!sdcsvax!sdcattb!sdcarl!lin
Newsgroups: net.women
Title: Children
Article-I.D.: sdcarl.4258
Posted: Sat Jan 29 19:47:41 1983
Received: Tue Feb  1 02:42:20 1983

For years black women have had to work, and you can't say that
their children were dirty, sick, or poorly adjusted.  I agree with
the person who said that it's the parents' love and attitude that
matters, not what profession they are in. Child abuse can result from
a mother being around the kids too often.  Another very important
factor in handling a career and job, though, is the physical health
and stamina of the parents. I personally have chosen not to have children
just becase the stress and energy demands of a job are as much as I can
handle. However, I know people who can do with less sleep and who have
lots of energy. For professional people, hiring someone to clean the
house is very helpful.  If both parents have good jobs the advantages
of financial well being, sending the children to schools in a good
neighborhood, etc., may be better than in a one-worker family with
less money. The discussion should not focus on whether a mother
should work, but on how to be a supportive, honest and loving
parent, regardless of the employment situation.