From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!npoiv!hou5f!ariel!orion!lime!we13!otuxa!lsk Newsgroups: net.singles Title: Re: breaking down for L. Kaufman Article-I.D.: otuxa.208 Posted: Fri Mar 11 07:49:13 1983 Received: Sat Mar 12 06:25:54 1983 References: rlgvax.1156 First of all, I'm honored to see my name in the title of an article. I just don't want anyone starting to call me an artificial intelligence project; I have enough problems with what they call me already. I definitely agree with you that 'self-image' should NOT be based on how other people feel about you but on how you feel about yourself. I also suspect, however, that attaining such a positive self-image, i.e. one that is "immune" to how other people feel, is EXTREMELY difficult for SOME people. I have known people who virtually exude self-confidence no matter what and have always admired them for it. I went through a long struggle before I realized I was 'ok' no matter what happened, but even so (as you point out) one can get regretful and unhappy if things don't work out. I also agree that if you feel the OTHER person has been dishonest, nasty, etc. then there may be little point in trying to reciprocate and be nice (if I understand your point correctly). -- Not afraid to sign my name at the bottom of the article even if it is already at the top: Larry S. Kaufman, WECO, NSC