From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!cmcl2!philabs!sdcsvax!sdccsu3!iy47ab Newsgroups: net.singles Title: trying too hard Article-I.D.: sdccsu3.286 Posted: Thu Feb 10 09:43:09 1983 Received: Sat Feb 12 06:23:31 1983 This is interesting. On the one hand, you can never really 'try too hard'. I tend to make a general fool out of myself chasing violently after whoever I fall for but have been recently informed that not only does it work, but it is subtler than I thought. Interesting. But on the other hand, you must look a the situation realistically. For example, if it is obvious if you stop and think that this is someone who really will never care for you or someone who merely isn't really your type, or if you realize that they perhaps don't even want a relationship right now at all, then it is advisable to stop trying. Obviously, if the person is disturbed by your pursuit and says so, you should stop; it's not really caring if you are purposely hurting the person you supposedly care about. I don't know if that helped or makes sense but that's what I go on. I never give up, however; that's how I found my beloved Carl, who I've hung onto for nearly a year now and don't intend to lose. I kept trying for several months, until *bingo* everything worked out. Lady Arwen