From: utzoo!decvax!microsof!uw-beave!cornell!vax135!ariel!hou5f!npoiv!npois!cbosgd!cly Newsgroups: net.singles,net.women Title: unfriendly women Article-I.D.: cbosgd.3237 Posted: Tue Mar 8 10:18:41 1983 Received: Fri Mar 11 20:02:30 1983 Well, here goes. This has been on my mind for a long time. I would like to find a woman to share love, romance, fun, etc., etc. To do this, I need to meet as many women as possible in order to maximize the odds of finding a good match. Ideally, I could meet and get to know hundreds of women if I could take advantage of every situation where women are present. One of these is the work environment. Unfortunately, I have found work to be one of the WORST places to meet women. It seems that unless I am working directly with a woman, or have some other "legitimate" reason for talking to her, there is no way to get beyond some sort of barrier I perceive. If I happen to pass a woman in a corridor, for instance, her eyes are usually downcast or shifted to the side so that no contact is possible. If I say, "hi", I usually get no response or very little response. I know it's not me, since I have no trouble at singles groups, church, parties, and some other places. Also, I have heard this from many other men. What is going on here? Women friends tell me that they WANT to meet guys, the same women that seem to avoid me are very friendly once I have met them some "legitimate" way (there's that term again!), and there is very little chance of being attacked by merely smiling and saying "hi". So, what's the reason for this behavior? Fear? Fear of what? Unconcern? Preoccupation? I want to emphasize here that I'm NOT expecting to fall in love (or even in like) with most of these women. I would just like to increase my odds. I have met many people who weren't that compatible with me, but because I knew them I met OTHERs that WERE! I have also been instrumental in getting others together by inviting them to parties. The point is that it is often advantageous to meet a lot of people. So, after all this long-winded rattling on, what do I want? I would dearly like to hear from the women out there regarding what I have said. If you fit this description (seemingly unfriendly in some situations) I would like to know what's behind your behavior. I think this would help me a lot, and maybe you too! Carl Yaffey cbosgd!cly BTL CB x3399