From: utzoo!watmath!watarts!geo Newsgroups: net.singles Title: Re: breaking up Article-I.D.: watarts.1742 Posted: Mon Mar 14 00:03:35 1983 Received: Mon Mar 14 02:59:07 1983 Reply-To: geo@watarts.uucp (Geo Swan) References: megatest.190 Dave Emberson, in article-id megatest.190, discusses marraige and divorce and how a person can stop caring for the person they are married to. I thought it was a good article Dave, and I particularly liked your mother's advice, that before you married a woman, you should meet her mother, and try to imagine what it would be like being married to \her/. Dave your experience, ignoring your mother's advice reminds me of an experience I had with a woman I was involved with. When I first got to know her, I did not like the way she treated her cats. (She was constantly either scolding them, or smothering them.) However, I ignored it, [1] because it wasn't any of my business, [2] I didn't see what it had to do with \our/ relationship. Well, I had made a big mistake. Once I was really involved with her, and fairly commited to her, I realized that I \really/ felt alternately scolded and smothered. I am now angry at myself for not being tipped off by the way she treated her pets. I think that now, before I make a large commitment to a woman, like moving in with them, or marrying them, I would give them a pet. I think that you can see the kind of emotional interactions a person will have with you, or their children, by observing the way they treat their pets. A person's interaction with a pet is much simpler than their relationship with other people, the pattern of their emotional life is revealed because there are no words to distract the observer, and cloud their vision. Cordially, Geo Swan, Integrated Studies, University of Waterloo {decvax|allegra}!watmath!watarts!geo