From: utzoo!decvax!ucbvax!CAD:tektronix!zehntel!sytek!menlo70!hao!seismo!rlgvax!thekid Newsgroups: net.singles Title: breaking down for L. Kaufman Article-I.D.: rlgvax.1156 Posted: Tue Mar 8 16:39:47 1983 Received: Thu Mar 10 05:42:03 1983 point Larry, point. As my father told me once, whoever "needs" the other person more, runs the relationship. I still feel, however, that if someone comes to me and says, "I feel we should only be friends", that hurts me ONLY if my self-image is based on how that person feels about me. If I know I am a good person, well, I'm regretful and somewhat unhappy because I wanted to be closer than that to the person, but my feelings about myself haven't changed. Maybe our definitions of a "rough breakup" are different. Maybe a better statement would have been, "I can't KEEP the break up from being rough if someone has been dishonest or real nasty." thekid ...![ seismo, mcnc, lime ]!rlgvax!thekid