From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!cmcl2!philabs!sdcsvax!sdccsu3!iy47ab Newsgroups: net.singles Title: Re: looking for *love* and other calamities Article-I.D.: sdccsu3.219 Posted: Mon Jan 3 09:29:50 1983 Received: Tue Jan 4 03:27:14 1983 I am female, and so first of all I would like to reply to Brad Templeton (I think it was him) and say that actually, I would say that admission of loneliness and revelation of emotionality is really a turn-ON. But then, I am not your standard female. I may be warped. Basically, I have been the instigator of all the relationships (3) that I have had. The first was a healthy one...the second was an outgrowth of the first. I had a gap in my life for all of 2 weeks...then I met someone neat, and that was that. Except...and this is SO awful...he was really heavy on me and I only thought that I was. I was just recently out of a special relationship and so I needed someone. Well, it ended quickly and with a lot of pain. I don't know any way it could have been avoided. In the long run, though, it was good, because we both grew from it. It was his first relationship ever, and he thought no woman could possibly love him, because he is overweight. Well, if nothing else, his ego was boosted to the point where he has more friends now, if nothing on the romantic front. No relationship is a total loss! But what I meant to say is this: go ahead, show that you're lonely, even that you're "desperately" lonely. If the other person wants to care about you, things might work out. Don't hide your intentions. That can only be cruel. There will always be someone for you, and it's better to have someone that cares about you for YOU than someone who later becomes disillusioned. Lady Arwen of U.C.S.D.