From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!seismo!hao!menlo70!sytek!blk Newsgroups: net.singles Title: Please, no more pleas Article-I.D.: sytek.271 Posted: Tue Jan 4 15:14:48 1983 Received: Wed Jan 5 06:35:03 1983 This is in response to a plea for help from a person about to give up. I think i felt just as you do a few years back. The *problem* is desperation. If you are as close to my situation as i think, the desperation comes from months and years going by without any 'success', either glorious or tragic. My beast was slain by having a beautiful, interesting woman fall in love with me. Two months later she was suddenly out of love, and i hurt worse than i thought i could; the spell was broken, tho, and i have had no trouble of this sort since. What can you do? Well, you could just wait for time and luck. Doesn't sound like you are interested in that, tho. I can't blame you. Okay, here's my 'wisdom'. Forget that drivel about loving yourself first; this is for the small of heart and dim of mind. Obviously things are amiss, and it is unavoidable for any thinker to wonder what the cause might be. If you can consider the problem without the dramatics that we inherit from our culture, the source of the trouble is obvious: the interaction between you and the rest of the world is just not 'normal'! However: do you consider yourself a typical american? Even close? Bingo! The sad truth is that being sensitive and clever is comparable to having blue skin (some people do, actually!). I think the only thing to do is grab your devil by the tail: do some careful studying of tired people, jaded people, womanizers, manipulators, and other emotionally blind sorts. Eventually you will like things that drive you nuts now. Even one second of enjoyment can rob all the power from wild emotions that blind you with pain or grief. Analyzing the situation to death eventually helped me, because i got bored with all the weeping and wailing i was doing. I don't recommend this. I have one prescription, but similar things are possible. Join a community theatre, and put your powerful emotions to good use! Not only does this release pent up feelings, but you will see how much control we normally exercise over what we feel. Very enlightening. The bitch of it all is that you have to stop floundering before you can swim. Your troubles will go away shortly after they aren't troubles any more. Read the net! Internal turbulence and burning need are first rate turnoffs. But don't worry. Anyone willing to ask for help in a public forum like this isn't about to give up. You'll be well loved soon.