From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!npoiv!npois!houxm!houxa!houxi!houxz!ihnp4!ihuxn!stoltz Newsgroups: net.social Title: Re: Harassment? - (nf) Article-I.D.: ihuxn.221 Posted: Sun Feb 20 16:20:46 1983 Received: Mon Feb 21 03:07:17 1983 Reply-To: stoltz@ihuxn.UUCP (Ben Stoltz) References: zehntel.759 The problem with your defintion (harassment is known to be such by the harasser) is that there are patterns of harrassment ingrained in our society. It is possible to harrass someone without even knowing it. It it very easy to play the roles outlined for us in television, radio, music, by our parents and friends. You don't know what some one else has experienced in their life and what they will interpret as harressment. It may be quite painful for a women if they havebeen repeatedly been attacked by men for you to even to say hello to them. I don't remember who it was who said it, but in a high school sociology class I remember hearing that reality is what one preceives it to be or somthing like that. I thinl that harrassment is much the same way. It causes the harrasser no pain to harrass, but the pain and humilation in the harrasser can vary quite a but. the world is so cold and unfeeling. If the woman down the hall from you feels offended please understand. You have to realize that women have been discriminated against for a few thousand years as have men. Just as women have been protrayed as weak and mindless sex objects, men have been pprtrayed as rough, cruel, and unfeeling brutes. We are all humans (as much as you may doubt it). Please act like it. If a picture in some ones office offends you ask youself why and tell the person who put it there why. If you do nothing to inform that person how you feel you are as responsible as they are. If they do nothing about it then they are a two dimensional cut out playing a role as old as the hills (or you are unjustified). e