From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!floyd!cmcl2!philabs!sdcsvax!sdccsu3!iy47ab
Newsgroups: net.singles
Title: trying too hard
Article-I.D.: sdccsu3.286
Posted: Thu Feb 10 09:43:09 1983
Received: Sat Feb 12 06:23:31 1983


This is interesting.  On the one hand, you can never really 'try too hard'.
I tend to make a general fool out of myself chasing violently after whoever
I fall for but have been recently informed that not only does it work,
but it is subtler than I thought.  Interesting.  But on the other hand,
you must look a the situation realistically.  For example, if it is obvious
if you stop and think that this is someone who really will never care
for you 
       or someone who merely isn't really your type, or if you realize that
they perhaps don't even want a relationship right now at all, then it is
advisable to stop trying.  Obviously, if the person is disturbed by your
pursuit and says so, you should stop; it's not really caring if you are
purposely hurting the person you supposedly care about.

I don't know if that helped or makes sense but that's what I go on.
I never give up, however; that's how I found my beloved Carl, who I've
hung onto for nearly a year now and don't intend to lose.
I kept trying for several months, until *bingo* everything worked out.

Lady Arwen