From: utzoo!decvax!harpo!ihnp4!ihldt!ll1!otuxa!lsk Newsgroups: net.singles Title: Re: Telepathy problem - (nf) Article-I.D.: otuxa.196 Posted: Fri Feb 11 07:34:27 1983 Received: Sat Feb 12 02:41:13 1983 References: ucbcad.499 I don't believe you can say you are "indulging" in "what does the other person think of me". I certainly don't think you should stop doing it. THAT would imply you DON'T care what the other person thinks, but a relationshiup is a two way street, and you had better care what she thinks. I agree you shouldn't go bananas over the problem to the point that it becomes all consuming; but it would be stupid not to try to get feedback from the other person. If you are getting negative feedback, you always have the option to ask and find out if they do want to continue seeing you (yeah) or not (boo). THAT is the time to not indulge and not worry, after you've once more been thrown to the bottom of the heap, rejected outright despite your all encompassing bold, valiant campaign; stomped upon and left for ashes . . . . Larry S. Kaufman WECo, NSC, Lisle, Il.